Hairloss in brothers

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I think that makes it even harder, although its not nice to wish baldness on someone it must make it even more depressing when a brother gets away with hairloss but you get screwed over. We all think 'why me' when it comes to balding but that is emphasised when a brother is singled out.

If my brother got away with no hairloss it would have probably added more agony to the whole situation, I would think everything is against me.

My brother has lost his hair too and he started at the same age as me which I think may be unusual as the brothers that I know...one has balded the other hasn't at all.

I think with a grade 0 head and a beefing up of my shoulders I could look ok bald. But hopefully I can get something done via FUE to make it look a bit better.

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Hi stressedtothebald, Just thought I'd catch up, how are things going in your life?

I think its shave my head to grade 0 or FUT for me.

I will be shaving to a grade 0 soon and will see how I feel with that.

I am quite happy to look at myself in the mirror now that I forced myself to do it, my hair is bad but I feel although its bad I think I still look ok with it.

If I was self employed I probably would just go straight for FUT. But work causes problems, worrying about what people will think, my main concern is people at work knowing and then the HT not working, that would be totally embarrassing. If it works I'd have no problem. The people I work with are mainly young guys in their 20's I think I just need a bald conversation to start or a Rooney HT conversation to start and mention that I am thinking of getting something done, I think it could go down ok and people will just have some banter over it and have a laugh in a friendly way and that could make it easier for me.

I am only a temporary worker but I want to work there permanently but someone else will need to leave so in a few months I may not be working there if no1 leaves so will be a good time to go off to get a HT done as no1 will know about it.

We will see.

[StressedToTheBald]

I'm still sticking with my beta sitosterol and saw palmetto regimen. I can report seeing new hairs under my receding hairline, more noticable on left side where I can count several hairs which are more visible. Although its still just a very few and tiny hairs, fingers crossed - its been barely a month and if they keep coming out - I'm on the right road, in 6 or 12 months.. I could actually have a better frontal hairline for the first time in my life ! I was receding I think since early teen.. and having more hairs in the front for the first time in my life would be a miracle.

I'm considering to make a photo at the end of each month. I didn't exactly count days since I started, but I could mark the end of the first month when my current bottle of saw palmetto & beta ends.. In that sense I should follow Your example - shave to 1 or 0 soon. I need to shave(trim) anyway, long hair on a bald guy simply does not look good...

Some days ago, I had to submit a photo for a document but I didn't know for sure if I could submit my own photo or if I would be asked to take my hat off and have my picture taken there at the spot.. there was a line and many people waiting behind me.. I felt like shit ! .. cause if asked to take off my hat - my hair was longer than usual and with so much balding in front and back - its not that so many people would see how pathetic I look - but I also would hate beeing seen in that state. Luck in it all, I was able to give in one of my old photos.. Saved from embarrassment !!!! Life is tough for bald men.

Everyone has a right to make themselves better - physical, educational, emotional, spiritual.. improvement is improvement ! Transplant too ! Hey, if those guys were bald, they'd do it themselves ! I'd worry about the transplant and that the results are ok.. if its ok, looks good, no FUT scars etc. then people would could only be astonished with the results !!!

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I'm still sticking with my beta sitosterol and saw palmetto regimen. I can report seeing new hairs under my receding hairline, more noticable on left side where I can count several hairs which are more visible. Although its still just a very few and tiny hairs, fingers crossed - its been barely a month and if they keep coming out - I'm on the right road, in 6 or 12 months.. I could actually have a better frontal hairline for the first time in my life ! I was receding I think since early teen.. and having more hairs in the front for the first time in my life would be a miracle.

I'm considering to make a photo at the end of each month. I didn't exactly count days since I started, but I could mark the end of the first month when my current bottle of saw palmetto & beta ends.. In that sense I should follow Your example - shave to 1 or 0 soon. I need to shave(trim) anyway, long hair on a bald guy simply does not look good...

Some days ago, I had to submit a photo for a document but I didn't know for sure if I could submit my own photo or if I would be asked to take my hat off and have my picture taken there at the spot.. there was a line and many people waiting behind me.. I felt like shit ! .. cause if asked to take off my hat - my hair was longer than usual and with so much balding in front and back - its not that so many people would see how pathetic I look - but I also would hate beeing seen in that state. Luck in it all, I was able to give in one of my old photos.. Saved from embarrassment !!!! Life is tough for bald men.

Everyone has a right to make themselves better - physical, educational, emotional, spiritual.. improvement is improvement ! Transplant too ! Hey, if those guys were bald, they'd do it themselves ! I'd worry about the transplant and that the results are ok.. if its ok, looks good, no FUT scars etc. then people would could only be astonished with the results !!!

Good luck with your medication routine, stick with it, at least if it does not get results you still have that hope for now.

I understand the whole photo issue. Since I started balding I have hated it whenever someone whips out a camera. Usually on nights out, Xmas do's etc then the photos get passed round at work.

I had to have my photo taken for a work security pass and hated that, I looked awful in the photo but I had to carry this card to work with me everyday to scan it on the door to get in. I stuck some tape over my face so I could not see my awful hair.

I recently had to renew my passport and as the photo in it was from when I was 16 (with hair) I felt that I had to update it because I now have little hair and have therefore changed a lot. I hated going to a photo booth and everything, absolutely hated it!

Hairloss really screws up your life on so many levels.

I think the guys at work would be cool with me getting a HT, we are like mates and I could happily laugh along with them aslong as I was happy with the result, if not I will be devastated and humiliated.

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I'm sticking with it all right. I can't afford the transplant and I don't want to end up impotent because of propecia.. so this is the best alternative. Even for propecia.. those success photos are 1+ or 2+ years..

The only solution for a bald guy to look anything decent on a photo is with trimmed or shaved hair. Everything else.. I hate my own balding photos. I find it surprising that some people simply don't care.. some even grow long hair and wear it in the back although in the front they're bald as eagle..

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I'm sticking with it all right. I can't afford the transplant and I don't want to end up impotent because of propecia.. so this is the best alternative. Even for propecia.. those success photos are 1+ or 2+ years..

The only solution for a bald guy to look anything decent on a photo is with trimmed or shaved hair. Everything else.. I hate my own balding photos. I find it surprising that some people simply don't care.. some even grow long hair and wear it in the back although in the front they're bald as eagle..

Haha, this guy is a bit crazy looking. Do you know who he is? He does some work for the BBC in the UK reporting on The Arts/Culture (I think) thats probably why he goes for the crazy look.

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Yeah, I saw he's with the BBC. He doesn't seem to be at all bothered with it.. I'd feel really really stupid with so much baldness yet with long 'haircut' style.. maybe this guy is one in a billion on whom it doesn't look completely ridiculous, maybe thats why he is keeping it.

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Yeah, I saw he's with the BBC. He doesn't seem to be at all bothered with it.. I'd feel really really stupid with so much baldness yet with long 'haircut' style.. maybe this guy is one in a billion on whom it doesn't look completely ridiculous, maybe thats why he is keeping it.

It does look ridiculous.

I just think he gets away with it because he is an Arts reporter.

I googled him and came across a website called c**ts corner and he gets lots of abuse, made me laugh though.

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Just seen a guy on TV with no arms or legs and thought to myself I just need to grow some balls and get on with thing. Things could be worse.

But then again the minority that go through that kind of hell and I feel I should be like the masses and have hair so I am still bitter.

I am moving forward if only slightly, like I said I can look in the mirror now.

I think it gets a bit easier in away when you just shave your head, the hairs on the pillow aren't as noticeable, you don't have to gel your hair and end up with hair in your hands. You don't have that awful receded look anymore and most of all you don't have to go through the whole stress trying to hide it under carefully gelled hair as it is no longer possible to cover up, your bald everyone knows it, you know it, you just get on with it.

I hink I might get on my weights and bulk up a bit.

[StressedToTheBald]

Theres always worse, people are sick, going through wars, poverty..
If it serves as any example, I'm poor and can't afford transplant, yet what can I do, have to live on or whatever.. and there are people doing much worse than me.

Yeah, those would be advantages, still I can still see my baldness even with trimmed hair, so it doesn't make me feel much better to be honest.. but neither does long bald hair.. both ways I feel miserable, feels like one sword with two blades.

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Its just a huge dilemma whether to go for a Hair Transplant or not.

Such a massive decision.

Its still taking a lot of time to get the information I need to know exactly what I am getting into and what can be done for me.

I just want to know as quick as possible so I can start making a decision.

I think if I was working alone ie. Self Employed, I could quite easily take 2 weeks off and get it done without anyone knowing. As I work with 20+ people it is going to be a little awkward at work. Yet I suppose I go around with a hideous bald head everyday which everyone surely has a negative opinion on and everyone is bound to think feck me he's only in his 20's and he is bald as a egg. So getting a HT and turning up at work with possible signs of that with scaring and new hair to start with is probably just as bad as being bald anyway.

Can't you move to a more prosperous country and get paid better?

I am currently on a ridiculously low wage here in the UK but I am just lucky to have lived with parents and save money. I did run a very successful business for a year and I also won a decent amount of money too which has helped. These savings were supposed to be for a deposit on a house but half of it may have to go on a HT, that's how crap life is. If I had hair I would have a house, as I don't have hair I have to spend it on something else.

Maybe if I don't get a hair transplant I will buy myself a nice new VW Golf.

VW Golf or hair? hmmmmm?

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Its just a huge dilemma whether to go for a Hair Transplant or not.

Such a massive decision.

Its still taking a lot of time to get the information I need to know exactly what I am getting into and what can be done for me.

It is a massive decision. No doubt. For me its money issue. If I were rich and had more on the side, I'd do it, no questions asked. But then again, I guess even if one has money, its not a small amount to say good bye to..

So getting a HT and turning up at work with possible signs of that with scaring and new hair to start with is probably just as bad as being bald anyway.

I agree. I mean its bad enough going around bald and feel bad about it. How much worse can it be going around scarred with a HT but knowing that the better day and hair day is just around the corner. Besides if You want to avoid beeing around people with very visible scarring.. if I were You, I'd take one week off, maybe also around holidays and with weekends added.. the worst of swelling and scarring won't be as visible.

Can't you move to a more prosperous country and get paid better?

I'm pretty much screwed in that sense.. You have no idea how hard and impossible it is to emigrate from a non-EU country. Its not about moving, its about no one wants to give a non-EU citizen a work permit. Simple as that. If it were any different, You'd see me in UK, Ireland or USA right now and I'd be choosing a HT surgeon too.

I am currently on a ridiculously low wage here in the UK but I am just lucky to have lived with parents and save money. I did run a very successful business for a year and I also won a decent amount of money too which has helped. These savings were supposed to be for a deposit on a house but half of it may have to go on a HT, that's how crap life is. If I had hair I would have a house, as I don't have hair I have to spend it on something else.

I still fail to understand why we are asked to pay a fortune for HT. I mean theres plenty of other cosmetic surgery procedures which fade in price comparing to HT. Plenty of those other procedures might be much more complicated, require full sedation, or materials - like with breast implants that women do.. Yet, we are required to deliver a fortune for something that shouldn't cost that much. Transplants should cost a few thousand max. For God's sake, the price of a small apartment in this country nearly matches the price of a good and full hair transplant in the West. So, I get Your point, You saved for a house.. and now You're supposed to give half of the house for a hair transplant.

Maybe if I don't get a hair transplant I will buy myself a nice new VW Golf.

VW Golf or hair? hmmmmm?

All depends on what Your future prospects are. You are blessed to live in a free and rich country.. If You can anticipate that You'll keep Your job or have other money aside or coming in the future.. then why not do it. If You can live with Your hair loss.. thats another issue, a car would be something to enjoy as well. Its hard for me to say really, I've never had the option of choosing between 2 goods, I usually only have the option of choosing between 2 evils, 2 have nots instead between 2 haves.

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Btw, both You and me - we were right about propecia all along.
Here is the latest article about the 'proven' drug. Turns out propecia does much better in causing permanent sexual impotence, cancer and depression than it does treat the hairloss.. and look at the website propecia.com - they've disabled their own website, saying damaged people to complain to FDA..

http://www.examiner.com/courts-in-baltimore/doctors-link-hair-growth-drug-to-sexual-dysfunction-depression-and-cancer#ixzz1mLgDjzw3

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So, I get Your point, You saved for a house.. and now You're supposed to give half of the house for a hair transplant.

My money would not even get me half a house, it would just act as a deposit to get me on the property ladder. With that deposit and the low wage I earn I could only get a pretty small, crappy 1 bedroom flat which cost around £130,000 here in the south of England. And of course I'd have to borrow £100,000+ but thats all a bank.

If I had a girlfriend to move in with and she had a little bit of money too then we could get a decent house together, thats what I hope for in the next few years.

So although It may be easier for me to save money in this country it is still ridiculously expensive to buy things.

But I guess I should be happy about living in a 'prosperous' country. Although at the moment our economy is not looking too great.

This is a random question but do you get much English TV where you are from?

[StressedToTheBald]

Yes, I understood that, I know property prices in UK are sky high. I was saying it in a sense - that the money which was supposed to go as initial foundation for the house now might end up for hair transplant.

I only watch English channels to be honest; have cable tv, same stuff You have there, I probably have here as well..