The Shaved Head

[nassau]

Mr. Fixed by 35,

Well buddy first let me say that I do enjoy some of your post. But, you genarally just have a crap attitude. I understand going bald is not a fun experience that neither I nor anyone esle probably has enjoyed. But what I have come to conclude. Is that anyone with your bad attitude towards life or balding has not been laid in a long, long, long, long, long time. When it all comes down to it balding would not bother guys if we didn't think it would hurt our chances to getting laid. Especially for the single guys. I am 23 and started noticing my balding at 22 and 5 months. So I just shave it all down now. I was a bit sad for a day or so, but the first time I pulled a number and hooked up with a girl bald. I knew that it was going to be all good. Yes I am on propecia because I would like to keep what I have when it comes to my stuble. But when it comes down to it, we all just need a confidence boost to reasure us that its not as bad as we think. So just for the record. How long has it been fixed by 35???

[Fixed by 35]

I'm in a long term relationship and have been for three years. If you think that's the only thing worth worrying about when you lose your hair, it would be irresponsible of me to pull the veil from your eyes and trigger a depression!

But, as a taster, I for one don't particularly look forward to spending the rest of my life looking like a bouncer. Men shorter than 6'5" might not understand that stigma.

[NateDog]

I agree with that

If you are diffuse and I am also I have the Y pattern thinning happening with the frontal tuft still there but thinning in the vertex up and also with the recession of the temples

If you still have hair there you can get away with it if you use concealor though I am not sure you should go that route as it can become a reliance and after some time you get into a bit of denial and then it hits you like a tonne of bricks as you do not pay much attention then a couple years down the track you suddenly realise you are twice as bad without the toppik

And also if you have family history on your side to being bald and are young in your thirties I am not convinced Surgery is the best option as how would 6000 grafts look when you are bald on top and 40 years old

I often wonder if you look really bad shaved head whether alot of people are happy enough to wear a hair system... I know everyone says the cost of it is extremely more over time then Surgery but if you are not blessed with true donor characteristics that allow you to achieve your desired results then you either go naturally and just clip it short and neat as best you can or you wear hair. But obviously the latter may come with the neurotic tendancies over time that you could be found out or the upkeep is pretty high I hear though in all honestly sounds like having hair with Surgery is just as much upkeep when you are popping pills rubbing on rogaine and hair spray thickeners (even after transplants to disguise a little bit of thinning)

Everyone also talks research when and before a transplant but really its more about researching what you can achieve with worse case scenario over the rest of your life. Decisions over being cut (FUE and FUT) takes away the head shave option... If you do not get the desired results what then... How much money have you really got to invest in the life time upkeep of hair...

I myself am in a tug of war over what to do next... I know the good Doctors who do top work are constantly showing great results but I still remain scepticle and it is important to have this inside you you got to be absolutely certain you know what you are doing and a hundred million percent behind it if you go the Surgery route. Photos are great and videos are also but facing reality images can still distort reality plus I notice alot of guys who dye their hair lighter or the photos are definitely in a different light because the hair is a different shade lighter which in term gives a better impression of cover

If only we could see patients in real life but then its all individual expectations because what looks good to them might not look at all good to you... I have read many times people going into the open days from a well known LA clinic and see the norwood six cases present themselves and they just walk out because the guys pay thirty grand for a few sprigs and a power comb over

So... Lots to think over and lots of research but its also alot of counselling to do on yourself mainly so you are mentally prepared for the good and what could be the worse decision of your life

[christinedwrds]

How do you know if its time to get an HT? my husband shaved his head, and its possible this exacerbated his depression. I just want to get him to accept that his hairline is receding and that we need to get on with life. His depression is taking a toll on our marriage. i just want to find a solutoion for baldness so we can start being normal again.

[dgman21]

I'm going crazy every morning after i take a shower and see how thin my hair got. I just dont think the shaved head looks good on a caucasian.
Fixed are u lookin to get the HT? I agree with the working at home thing but this is sooo depressing. How to meet people on the outside world or how to start a business isolated......

[Fixed by 35]

Don't worry about meeting people. Society judges you on your appearance rather than the content of your character; they are inferior to you; they are worthless to you now. Their only remaining purpose is to be used for your advantage.

You could be intelligent and charming, but even those who society believes are successful role models will judge you more by your hair than your abilities. Do you really want to spend your life mingling with these idiots as though they were your equals?

I am more than happy seldom meeting people. The majority of the world's population is so devastatingly ignorant and stupid that my life now, without mixing with people, is far less stressful. I haven't had to leave my house for three weeks now and it's great (I love that everything from electronics to food can be delivered to your door now!)

I have everything I need. Books to read, food to eat, wine to drink, TV to watch, gadgets to amuse, plenty of money rolling in and a nice house to live in. I earn far more than I did when I was employed, for the plain and simple fact that I now get paid based on what I do rather than on my hair line.

Would I consider a hair transplant? No, the results always look rubbish. I'm holding out for a definite cure, I'm not squandering my wealth on temporary fixes.

[jooder]

If you look at this and other topics,anybody with a sane mind will realise 'Fixed by 35' needs help.

He says shaving your head makes you ugly.
He says he would never consider a hair transplant because they look rubbish.
He says being bald means you will never get promoted in your job.
He says that women dislike bald men.

In the meantime, he very rarely goes out, works from home and gets groceries delivered to his home to avoid social contact.
I hope that any newcomer to this site disregards his advice and has the sense to know that every one of his statements above is false - just look at the world around you and draw your own conclusions.
I also hope that 'fixed by 35' contacts somebody who can help him with his obvious depression.

[geminidb8]

Having worked in the Hair Replacement field for years and having friends still in the industry I will state that Baldness screws a person up. There is no way any sane individual can say it is no big deal. It is a multi billion dollar industry and the treatments available are only treatments. I must state that I had customers who also had the same feelings as " Fixed by 35". The key is to somehow go on with life. Truthfully stating- -for those who have early hair loss It will leave scars for a lifetime. I think some people on this site are hypocrites in stating they are ok with it. Some will lie to themselves and put on the macho- bravado. --BS! I have worked in the field and if you could have dealt with the depressed, angry and sometimes suicidal men that I dealt with and my friends deal with daily, you would see that there are many, many individuals who are never the same after hair loss. Every person is different. I feel that transplants are a good route for many and not for all. Meds are good if one cans sustain and maintain. Depression is something some men will never get over because of hair loss. I myself have had testicular cancer and baldness is 10000000000000000000000X Worse. Stop in some hair repacement center and spend a day there and you will see all types. Trust me there are many "Fixed by 35's in the world but not many on this site. The key though is to do something not just sit idly by. I also think that society should let the rug wearers alone. Many are not good candidates for surgery so what other options do they have?
Shaving ones head is not for everyone. I have seen some men who do look terrible, terrible like that. Everyone should do what is right for themself. But do something because just to moan and groan will get you nowhere.

[jooder]

Baldness is worse than testicular cancer??? I will never understand the logic behind that.
Of course baldness is a pain.....and in a ideal world most of us would like full heads of hair to style as we please. I also realise it can be very, very depressing for some people.
My point was that 'fixed by 35' hates the shaved head, he also thinks HT's are rubbish. He is a very negative man.

[geminidb8]

Oh yes Baldness is much much worse than testicular cancer. With that you get an orchiectomy and prosthetic testicle and move on. No one judges you from first meetings, I never got depressed because I felt and still feel that the prosthetic looks so normal that nobody has ever noticed a thing. But with baldness people judge you on your looks and of course there is the samson and delilah thing which I feel is true. I always hated baldness even when I was 6 years old. My father and all of his brothers were bald and I always said " Why don't you have hair?" One day my dad returned home from work with a hairpiece ( not a good one either) and wore hair from age 57 till he died at age 82. So it never bothered him? Again BS! He was a sucessful business man who made millions but stated he never accepted being bald. He was a mean person and our family always attributed his meaness to his baldness. He looked awful bald. I gave him credit for wearing hair. I agree not to moan and groan but I will always have the same feelings about baldness until I die. Some will say that is too bad but I feel it is pure honesty.

[jooder]

It sounds like your following in your fathers footsteps somewhat. I sympathise with people who struggle with baldness.....but to have it rule your life isnt worth it. Either shave your head or get a hair transplant, other than that its pointless fretting too much...
At least your post shows that a bald man can be successfull in business and be a millionaire ( this idea is impossible for 'fixed by 35 to accept).

[dgman21]

I would appreciate someone commenting on this. I went to a doctor that said he would only do a 600 graft surgery on my frontal thinning/he won't mess with the rest of my diffuse hair. Do you think I'd be happy with 600 grafts in the front?? Or wait ??Thanks!

[jooder]

I personally wouldnt bother.... ive seen your pics and they dont look bad. Start on proven medications and hold off a while.

[geminidb8]

Every person struggles with baldness. Some just won't admit it. It has been hated for centuries. Some more so than others. I am just glad I would never have a child because of this disease. To each his own I suppose. One must go on but the quality of life will change. Just look at the billions of dollars spent- That in itself should tell you how hated it truly is. As for my father he made millions of dollars with a wig. Not showing up at work bald. FYI. Image is very important. I doubt he would have done it without hair. Something like Elton John or Burt Reynolds if you get my drift.

[Jack21]

I got double that number and the coverage was way less than I had expected and the scar WAY bigger than I could have believed. You're marring the back of your head for a little bit more coverage on top. Ever tried toppik? I can't use it anymore. I'm too thin on top. The stuff works though. Its like 10,000 grafts in one quick sprinkle and a little hairspray. It has its drawbacks. Quite a few in fact. But if the look is the most important thing (and it was to me) its really great. The thing is you have to have enough hair to support it. It wont stick to scalp. I don't know how thin you are on top.

I would appreciate someone commenting on this. I went to a doctor that said he would only do a 600 graft surgery on my frontal thinning/he won't mess with the rest of my diffuse hair. Do you think I'd be happy with 600 grafts in the front?? Or wait ??Thanks!