life ruined by diffuse thinning

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  • PappinAce
    Member
    • Aug 2015
    • 54

    life ruined by diffuse thinning

    i had a life once. a desire to explore and experience things and meet people. now i'm just waiting around to die. the only thing that keeps me alive is residue from my past life, when i'm in nature and let my mind wander to the past, and feel the faintest hint of an emotion of contentedness or excitement that i used to feel. four years ago isn't that long but i can hardly remember who i was or what i felt like.

    i'm only 28 and i have at least sixty more shitty years. might as well fight through the bad and appreciate the good until i return to the dirt, naked as i came in. can't wait for that day to come, when this identity no longer exists. no more hideous monster disfigured by hair loss.

    hair loss history: thinned out very suddenly in late 2013 - early 2014, and just stopped there. no temple recession, just evenly spread diffuse thinning, which is always more noticeable on the crown as it's a naturally sparse spot even on full heads. i even look decent from the front, but one look at the back and it's game over. nobody wants to be with the guy with a bald, flat, dead crown. looks like i'm a ****ing grandpa. this life is done for me. i'll try again in the next existence.

    the hair loss got just bad enough to turn me into an ugly beast, and the rest of my filaments remain, as if to taunt me. "i can ruin you without making you bald. enjoy the rat's nest." now i have the privilege of being humiliated by barbers every two weeks when i get my pile of fried straw trimmed down.

    in terms of life quality there is no difference between nw1 with bald crown, and nw6. either way you're going to look like a piece of shit in 90% of the cases.
  • mattj
    Doctor Representative
    • Oct 2009
    • 1421

    #2
    I think you're placing far too much value on your hair. You are not any less of a person for having fewer active follicles on your head. I know that balding can take a toll on a man's appearance, but it doesn't have to be the end of the world. Have you tried shaving it all off?
    I am a patient and representative of Dr Rahal

    My FUE With Dr Rahal - Awesome Hairline Result

    I can be contacted for advice: matt@rahalhairline.com

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    • Dan26
      Senior Member
      • Jul 2012
      • 1270

      #3
      thanks for the laugh boss

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      • Elle3000
        Junior Member
        • May 2017
        • 4

        #4
        I hope it's ok if I give a woman's perspective. I'm very sorry you are losing your hair so young, I can only imagine it's extremely difficult. I just would like to mention that for many women, myself included, men with close cuts or shaved heads are very attractive. I am not saying that to minimize your sadness, but I would like you to know that others will see you in a positive light.

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        • Ahab
          Senior Member
          • Jul 2014
          • 142

          #5
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          • Ahab
            Senior Member
            • Jul 2014
            • 142

            #6
            Originally posted by mattj
            I think you're placing far too much value on your hair.
            No he's not.

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            • Ahab
              Senior Member
              • Jul 2014
              • 142

              #7
              [-Remember things can always be worse - as long as your healthy[/QUOTE]

              Not really. I went bald fifty years ago, and I still hate it with every fiber of my being.

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              • wannamyhairback
                Member
                • Aug 2016
                • 82

                #8
                I am diffuser too and i definetely get you.But there are solutions.if i understood correctly your front and mid scalp is decent. What about hair transplant on your crown and reconsidering propecia again

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                • Simar
                  Senior Member
                  • Jun 2017
                  • 121

                  #9
                  Don't give up your life. Its not the end of the life. I know its really bad to loose hairs but i think you should try to shave it all off. You will definitely look better.

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                  • Simar
                    Senior Member
                    • Jun 2017
                    • 121

                    #10
                    What the hell are you thinking about?
                    Come On....... Its not the end of the life. There are several people in this world who faces bigger problems that this one and they still smiles. Learn the art of living from them.
                    How could you give up your life. Be strong.

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                    • Stevets
                      Junior Member
                      • Jul 2017
                      • 3

                      #11
                      Whatever you do do not get a hair transplant! I'm in the same boat as you. Started at 21, now 26. Terribly diffuse and depressed. Can hardly look myself in the mirror without having breakdown.

                      And you know why? Because I cant shave my head. I'm baddly scarred from FUE, the "scarless" hair transplant. I didn't do my research and just let my self conscious anxiety take the wheel. Even worse, I had the artas robot do the surgery and now my scars are extremely patterned and geometric. Stands out like a sore thumb when buzzed.

                      Don't get me wrong, it works for some people, bit it's only temporary and you are just extending the period in which you're loosing your hair. The worst part.

                      As somebody with dark hair and skin that tans easily I'm pretty ****ed all around. Contrast through the roof, buzz cuts look bad on me because it highlights the horseshoe and these tiny dot scars are visible through a #2.

                      My only options at this point are to embrace my stupidity on my head for the world to see or get that scalp micropigmentation. I wouldn't dare do the complete SMP for the top, but maybe it can help me on the scars. So yes, my only real option is to tatoo my ****ing head. What the hell have I gotten myself into.

                      Like you, I also hardly leave and have a very depressed lens on life that keeps me from making new friends, dating or leaving the house. But you can still shave it and forget it, I wish I had so much. Good luck, I'm sure you'll make the right choice.

                      And to anybody else reading this, think very carefully before getting a hair transplant!!

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                      • BaldBearded
                        Senior Member
                        • Jan 2017
                        • 548

                        #12
                        Originally posted by Ahab
                        No he's not.
                        No, really?

                        It's a choice. It's not like losing a limb, your sight, or a loved one.

                        For the millions and millions of bald men all over the world, who live, laugh, and love... THIS type of attitude has only one major benefit, keeping the thieves who sell drugs, rugs and plugs billions, on the fabricated misery of others.

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