a girl's perspective

[khan]

I get no one chooses to be going bald. Always feeling like people are staring at your hairline. Not wanting to be in strong light. Taller guys looking at the top of your head. It isn't fun and just saying "own it" doesn't help, I can understand that it isn't a cakewalk.

Like I said before I wouldn't post under 'treatments' or 'daily struggles' or somthing like that because what do I know about mens hair loss treatments? I can only sympathise with you guys about your struggles on getting your hair back.

I wasn't try to blow sunshine up anyones ass or make concerns seem illegitimate because I like bald guys. I sure didn't intend at all to come across as god's gift to balding men everywhere lol. Just tried to show a different take on it that isn't voiced around all that much, especially in my age group. Some women just don't care about hair/even look to date men with hairloss, myself included. It was honest and well intended. If anyone felt support from it, that's great. If not then that's fine too.

Thanks for taking the time to write here, its nice of you to express your opinions on this matter.

What you're saying is probably true. But the point you are missing here is that hairloss can cripple a person's self esteem. Its not so much about getting women, but more importantly its about feeling unattractive. To be honest I don't really care about what people think, but looking in the mirror hurts so much.

I also think we are comparing two different things. Its like when your close friend is like "you're great marriage material", its very annoying to hear when you are twenty something. I am not saying we all want to be total badass, but its nice feel attractive, not in a he's a great guy to settle down with, kind of a way. And the worst is looking older with less hair on your head.

[NeedHairASAP]

We need a new section titled "Hair loss denial and false motivation: A place to tell each other hair loss isn't a problem and we live in a world where it doesn't matter".

Then you can leave the BALD TRUTH to people like Yeahyeahyeah and myself. You're all here because hair loss sucks and you want to avoid it. Look at the stages of grief - stage one is denial -- where you all are now.

I've made countless posts on this subject before, but the hairline and hair in general play a massive role in our appearance. Not only consciously in terms of styling options, but subconsciously in terms of age and perception of youthfulness.

If you want to deal with hair loss by pretending it's ok, then fine. Do that somewhere else. My point is proven when you can only demonstrate that "it's not the end of the world" by giving vague examples of ugly men striking it lucky, or a one-in-a-million girl who has a thing for old, bald men and despises "attractive pretty boys".

The only women that don't like a full head of hair are the same women who will tell you not to work out so much, or not to spend so much time at work. The kind of people that are afraid of being shown up. Afraid of you realising you're on track to achieve something better than them, and become "higher ranked" in society.

That, or they legitmately have a fetish - not a preference - for older and balding men. Women that are ok with baldness are on par with women that are into interracial - sick and twisted. Avoid them at all costs.


AESTHETIC OR PATHETIC, THAT'S LIFE!

GIVE ME NW1 OR GIVE ME DEATH AT NW3!

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this one goes down in history

[Tracy C]

Through all my ramblings, my main point that I wanted to come across was this:

Finding a guy with a full head of hair is a hell of a lot easier than finding a guy who treats you right. That's the honest truth. And you can substitute 'full head of hair' with other physical features and it would hold true.

This is 110% true.

[blowmeup]

How adorable. So misguided, misogynistic and racist. Even with a full head of hair and looks like a young Brad Pitt, you're still going to need that fleshlight I mentioned earlier.

Don’t pay any attention to Highlander, he’s obviously a very sick individual and we all just get a kick out of his lunacy here. It helps you realize that it can always be worse.. The truth is I was never that good looking and I lost my hair early but still managed to meet a hot woman who loves me. If she thinks she’s settling as highlander always likes to say, then I guess that’s her problem, but she tells me that she loves me everyday, I enjoy a great sex life and she’s wonderful company. Hair loss has cause me much pain, but Highlander’s Bald Truth is very much different than most of ours here. Thanks for being kind enough to post your thoughts Layla!

[Dan26]

That was hilarious highlander, hope you are half-joking though.

[Layla]

No problem FlightTL! Glad you enjoyed it.

[Layla]

How adorable. So misguided, misogynistic and racist. Even with a full head of hair and looks like a young Brad Pitt, you're still going to need that fleshlight I mentioned earlier.

[FlightTL]

Layla, thanks for your post. It was very kind.

Good luck on your future.

[Layla]

I get no one chooses to be going bald. Always feeling like people are staring at your hairline. Not wanting to be in strong light. Taller guys looking at the top of your head. It isn't fun and just saying "own it" doesn't help, I can understand that it isn't a cakewalk.

Like I said before I wouldn't post under 'treatments' or 'daily struggles' or somthing like that because what do I know about mens hair loss treatments? I can only sympathise with you guys about your struggles on getting your hair back.

I wasn't try to blow sunshine up anyones ass or make concerns seem illegitimate because I like bald guys. I sure didn't intend at all to come across as god's gift to balding men everywhere lol. Just tried to show a different take on it that isn't voiced around all that much, especially in my age group. Some women just don't care about hair/even look to date men with hairloss, myself included. It was honest and well intended. If anyone felt support from it, that's great. If not then that's fine too.

[dex89]

Again, you all dont seem to realise that it is not about women, but about personal reference.

Imagine being forced to wear a dress that you REALLY hate on big occasions?

I will never wear a dress but I got your point.

[yeahyeahyeah]

I think the old saying of beauty is in the eye of the beholder runs true To me honestly, I really think Jude looks better in the second picture. Granted his jaw line is more well defined in the first since he's younger but over all I like the second picture. He looks more rugged, the first picture he looks too feminine almost? Pretty boy? Maybe it was just the facial expression. I like the facial hair, and I think it would even be better if his hair was a bit shorter on top. Either way it's his eyes and lips that I noticed.

This is a place where everyone's concerned with one feature so I know it's a sensitive issue you each think about, and I hope it works out for you. But there really are women just genuinely don't care about a guy's hair, maybe many do, but not all. I'm not saying these women think looks aren't important, but there's features that I find way more appealing: Brown eyes, nice smile, nice bum, great legs, strong rough hands and by gods plenty of chest hair lol. I think women's taste vary more than some men realize anyway.

Dex89 that's great that you're going out! Dating is a pain and going up to women is daunting, but keep at it with a great attitude and it'll pay off.


beatinghairloss congratulations on the cancer win! Congratulations to your wife on the big dick win lol jk! I agree with you completely about what it takes to have a healthy relationship. You're a keeper!


Through all my ramblings, my main point that I wanted to come across was this:

Finding a guy with a full head of hair is a hell of a lot easier than finding a guy who treats you right. That's the honest truth. And you can substitute 'full head of hair' with other physical features and it would hold true.

Again, you all dont seem to realise that it is not about women, but about personal reference.

Imagine being forced to wear a dress that you REALLY hate on big occasions?

[Layla]

I think the old saying of beauty is in the eye of the beholder runs true To me honestly, I really think Jude looks better in the second picture. Granted his jaw line is more well defined in the first since he's younger but over all I like the second picture. He looks more rugged, the first picture he looks too feminine almost? Pretty boy? Maybe it was just the facial expression. I like the facial hair, and I think it would even be better if his hair was a bit shorter on top. Either way it's his eyes and lips that I noticed.

This is a place where everyone's concerned with one feature so I know it's a sensitive issue you each think about, and I hope it works out for you. But there really are women just genuinely don't care about a guy's hair, maybe many do, but not all. I'm not saying these women think looks aren't important, but there's features that I find way more appealing: Brown eyes, nice smile, nice bum, great legs, strong rough hands and by gods plenty of chest hair lol. I think women's taste vary more than some men realize anyway.

Dex89 that's great that you're going out! Dating is a pain and going up to women is daunting, but keep at it with a great attitude and it'll pay off.


beatinghairloss congratulations on the cancer win! Congratulations to your wife on the big dick win lol jk! I agree with you completely about what it takes to have a healthy relationship. You're a keeper!


Through all my ramblings, my main point that I wanted to come across was this:

Finding a guy with a full head of hair is a hell of a lot easier than finding a guy who treats you right. That's the honest truth. And you can substitute 'full head of hair' with other physical features and it would hold true.

[yeahyeahyeah]

I understand that but there were times when I knew I had to not talk about hair loss I obsessed at first and it pushed her away. Also I am not the type to let her get board I keep her interested so I deserve some credit for keeping her around something I don't think some of the really upset guys here could do even with Clooneys hair.

Hairloss is about personal preference if anything.

I personally like having hair, so that I can style it and change my look whenever I feel like it.
Sure you can do that with clothes, but you can do that to a much more greater extent with a good set of hair.

[yeahyeahyeah]

Again tell this to my uncle and aunt who lovingly raised there autistic child he is 18 and completely reliant on them. Or the paraplegic who lost his legs for your freedom. Or the starving African children who's only thought is walking five miles for dirty parasite infected water. Or helen Keller. Life's not a bitch the way you look at life is the real bitch

It's all relative.

I hate the idiots that use the african kid as an example.

Two different realities, whilst they have 3rd world problems, we have 1st world problems. It's like comparing apples and oranges. If the African kid was bought up here, he would be facing our problems. Because competition is rife in the western world, as opposed to just 'surviving'

And for the record, because my jaw is out of place, I am somewhat disfigured (or more to the point look uglier). You wouldn't be happy if it happened to you.

[beatinghairloss]

Not true.

I need surgery on my nose and jaw, because they are out of place. (not cosmetic).

So I have been hard-done. Now hairloss is hitting me. Luckily I am a very slow receeder.

Never got the chance to enjoy my looks in my early 20s.

Life is a bitch.

Again tell this to my uncle and aunt who lovingly raised there autistic child he is 18 and completely reliant on them. Or the paraplegic who lost his legs for your freedom. Or the starving African children who's only thought is walking five miles for dirty parasite infected water. Or helen Keller. Life's not a bitch the way you look at life is the real bitch