Hair loss: 3 Problems

[Weedwacker]

There are, in my opinion, 3 major problems that hair loss can create. The first of which is the fact that it can make someone look old for his age. There are very few problems that exist that make a person look 10 or 20 years older than s/he actually is. In this regard, it can change one's life significantly. How does a 20 year old go about life if he looks 40? I have asked this before, and I think it is problematic. Imagine an 18 year old girl developing the skin wrinkles of a 70 year old woman. Would people say to her, "Get over it?!" I think it takes a while to get over premature aging.

The second major problem is identity. When I began losing my hair, I had trouble recognizing myself in the mirror. I spent countless hours looking in the damn mirror. For most 18 year olds, having an adverse experience is having a bad 'hair day'. For those of us who were struck with baldness that young, it was similar to being disfigured in a car wreck - minus the physical pain. When one loses his hair so rapidly, he looks like a wholly different person.

The third problem is what it does to one's looks. Since the hair on the head, among other things, frames the face - it brings out the facial features - including eyes and cheek bones. You take away that frame, and a guy can look unattractive - which is natural. Take a look at before and after pics of guys who have worn a hairpiece or had 'good' transplant surgery; the difference is drastic. Indeed, for the most part, baldness does look like hell.

I sometimes hear people say that women are better looking than men; I mostly agree with this statement. Perhaps, like a Mercedes Benz, more time was spent designing them - whereas men were thrown together like cheap, economy cars (this would explain hairloss). This isn't always the case, however, because there are many men who are better looking than many women. Women have elaborate hair styles which make them look their best. Unlike women, men go bald, don't shave their face or shave their hair off - which make them look their worst. So, it is hard to compare the two genders.

[mothernature]

ok thanks for pointing out the truth. now im even more depressed

[Weedwacker]

One major thing that guys must realize is that men and women are very different. Men and women are equal - but they are not the same. Biology is what it is.

Women really don't care about a guy's looks. The only things they care about are his money and status. Guys become obsessive about their hairlines, however, they fail to realize that females are unconcerned with looks - unlike men. I think that men think women will reject them because they are bald, when in reality, they are more likely to reject them because of their lack of a stable career, wealth or attitude. How many times in your life have you seen a very attractive or very cute woman with an average looking, fat or ugly man? I have personally seen this thousands of times. Now, how many times have you seen an attractive, fit guy with an unattractive, obese or ugly woman? I have never seen this. Men and women are polar opposites. Women care more about a guy's attitude (faked or not) and his wealth/status than they do his looks.

Women are not as heterosexual as men are. Women are not very attracted to men, and that is why men need to be wealthy/funny/charismatic etc. for women to date them. Men, on the other hand, are attracted to beautiful women who are poor. Physically, men are not enough to attract women because they find them rather unappealing. I think the problem of hairloss, therefore, is mostly in mens' heads.

[Freelancer]

Thanks for pointing out the cold hard truth, but things are only going to get worse if we keep on thinking how bad it is or will be.

We can't get beat up by this. Remember that anxiety/depression leads to even more hair loss, so the best thing we can do is keep happy and try to look at it differently.

[Weedwacker]

Thanks for pointing out the cold hard truth, but things are only going to get worse if we keep on thinking how bad it is or will be.

We can't get beat up by this. Remember that anxiety/depression leads to even more hair loss, so the best thing we can do is keep happy and try to look at it differently.

I agree. Being miserable about hair loss forever will not help it. There is not as much value to life if one is unhappy all the time. One needs to buzz his head, use drug treatment or risk a transplant. Complaining day after day will get one nowhere.

I think guys do need to realize that there will be women who will find them attractive if they are bald. Sometimes, like many other things, one must be patient. There are women who find bald men attractive, even if that number is less than optimal. Having said that, women are not as concerned about appearance as men usually are.

I think hair loss affects us personally more than people realize. Like many other things, it is more in our heads than we think it is. It does change our appearance so much that it takes time to adjust to it. In reality I think it's more important to us than anyone else; though at a young age, it's another story altogether.

[VictimOfDHT]

Weedwacker, don't forget the worst problem that hair loss can create - the destructive psychological effect it can have on one's self-esteem, confidence, and even their whole life in general. This is too small a place to list all the effects but I'm sure most of you know what I'm talking about.

Also, I know this is not the topic here but sorry, I find your post/reply full of wrong statements. Saying women are better looking than men doesn't make any sense. You are comparing apples to oranges here. To a man, sure women are better looking than men although I don't think "better looking" is the right words. I think the word is "attracttion". I see UGLY women and BEAUTIFUL men all the time. So, I don't understand what you mean by "better looking". Men are naturally ATTRACTED to women and women ARE attracted to men. Simple.
Don't forget that Romans and Greeks made thousands of statues OF men as a man's muscular body was looked upon as an object of beauty and still is.

"Women really don't care about a guy's looks. Wow !! where can I begin ? I don't know what planet you're living on but this is just NOT true. Sure, tv and magazines would like us to believe this crap but the simple fact is that women DO care about men's looks almost as much as we do about theirs. To say otherwise shows a total disconnection from reality. Do you really wanna tell me women don't go crazy about "hot" guys ??? Do you really wanna tell me an ugly or even an average looking guy has the same chance scoring with beautiful women as a good looking guy ??? You've gone against all common sense, dude. The first thing a woman sees when in a guy's company is his FACE AND BODY and not a slip from a bank showing his account. Ever tried walking into a club and watching how women scan the place for hot guys and start gravitating towards them/approaching/initiaing conversations with them and even wanting to have sex with them all without knowing a thing about their -the men's- social/financial status ?

Simple fact of life : attractiveness (of man or woman) is a free ticket to many things in life especially when it comes to partners. A good looking guy will have way too many choices when it comes to women and the opposite is true of course. Don't tell me there's a fat chance an ugly, fat, balding guy would have any luck hitting on a barbie regardless of how much money he has. Sure, there are exceptions to the rule, but that's what they are -execptions. To every ugly man with money there are a bunch of good looking guys with money. Why would a beautiful woman choose the first ?? And yeah, money does buy just about everything including women but attractiveness will get you that -women- for free.

Another weird statement by you: "women aren't very attracted to men" !! I don't know where you get this stuff from, man. You followed the previous statement by another even more strange and more weird statement. Physically, men are not enough to attract women because they find them rather unappealing. Whoa whoa !!! Man !! Joking aside I think you do come from another planet. So basically you're saying all those women around us don't want to have nothing to do with men if it weren't for the moeny/material things we provide them ? So, no sexual or at least emotional attractions between the two sexes ? It's all pure material attraction ! So, you're saying EVERY woman out there who's had a sexual relationship with a man must have been in return for some financial favour, right ? So, a teenage girl having sex with her high school sweetheart is not based on mutual physical attraction/love at all. She must be doing it maybe because he paid her, right ? Dude, you've just made a prostitute of every women on the planet. So, how can you explain the fact that most women who have sex with men -who aren't their husbands- do it and they don't get anything in return...well, except the simple fact that they get sexual/emotional satisfaction from the male body?

I think you need to learn more about women and also about simple facts of life. Straight women ARE attracted to men's bodies and can be aroused by watching them. Strange ? Maybe to you but it's true. I don't know where you've been the past few years but it's out -women ARE visual too. Don't believe me ? Do a search and it won't take you long to find this fact. Maybe they're not as visual as we are but they are still visual. Hmmm, why do women -not necessarily old ones- go to male strip clubs ?? I think because the male strippers pay those women to come and watch them !!

"and that's why men need to be wealthy,funny,charismatic...." boy !! How did you manage to put so many wrong/false statements in such a short post ? lol. So, you're saying every single man out there that has had sex or a relationship with a woman must have been either rich, funny, ...? Damn, that means just about every man out there is either a millionaire or a stand-up commedy star. Of course, the simple FACT is the vast majority of men ARENT rich or funny or charismatic.... Hey, in fact for most younger women at least all you have to be is an a** whole for them to date you. They call that "bad boy" of course, and money and status ISN'T required.

So, in closing, I think you need to stop reading magazines and watching day time tv shows and instead start getting some real facts about life. Facts that you can get in real life on the streets.
And do this experiment, just for your own knowledge. If you're ever in a relationship with a woman, just tell her she shouldn't expect any sex in this relationship. Tell her what you believe -that you don't think women are attracted to our bodies and that you think they find us "unappealing".... and that's why you want to save her the burden of sex with men. Then let me know how long this woman will stay in this relationship, if she does at all. Try that with a couple of women and please tell us about the outcome.

"women aren't as heterosexual as men !!!! Look up the definition of "heterosexual" and tell me if that statement makes any sense.

[Weedwacker]

VictimOfDHT, I should have prefaced my post by saying that I am American, so I cannot speak of foreign women. Further, I was making a generalization about women which is based on my observations of society.

I knew you were lying when you said you see ugly women with beautiful men all the time. Really? I think affectation is your goal here. Hot men don't date ugly, fat women. If it's so common, why have I never seen this once? There is an old saying among men: there is no such thing as an ugly man, only a poor one.

The Greeks were, for the most part, gay. No surprise they worshipped the male body. There was a phenomenon of gay soldiers in Sparta. I have heard a number of 'heterosexual' women admit that they think nude men are rather repulsive looking, although they admit that the female nude looks great. Explain that!

When you talk about women picking up a guy at a club, that's different; however, status is still a major factor. I'm 34 years old, and couldn't care less about the bar-hopper, Justin Bieber crowd. I'm talking about adults. When you reach your late-twenties, women don't care about looks as much as status and wealth. I disagree with your opinion that a 'hot' guy would have a better chance than a fat, wealthy guy with a 'bimbo'. I am talking about 'normal', self-esteemed women - not porn stars, whores or strippers from some nightclub.

By the way, how old are you? I am guessing you are about 22. I read an article that had an anonymous poll of marriage-age women. They were asked to name the one thing that they find most appealing in a potential date. The answer: earning potential. Ask any woman who is 27 or older which man she would date: a surgeon, who is fat and average looking, or a 'hot' guy who is piss poor and working in a menial position.

You didn't read my post clearly. I said women are concerned about wealth, status and attitude. These things are more important to women than they are to men. There are men who are not wealthy who pick up women - but they have an 'image' that women like. Status is not just about wealth or fame. A guy could have a 'macho' or 'popular' status, for example. Women pick up on behavior, which is more important to them than looks.

Men are more heterosexual than women are. Men are more attracted to the female body than women are to the male body. Why do women like to be with men? They like the security of the 'macho' man, or financial security. There are millions of nude magazines with naked women. How many are there with men? More importantly, how many women actually look at them?

I think women want a connection with a man, and the pleasure that gives them. Most women will admit that looks is not on their list of priorities. Why do old, ugly men go to the Philippines, Thailand etc. and marry young, pretty women? The women don't care about looks. The men have no problem exploiting these desperate women. Now, how many old, fat women do you see going to third world countries to marry young, handsome men? It doesn't happen. Men want looks; women want money.

Sorry, but I almost never watch television. I read. I would prefer a book of Voltaire or Mill over the crap on television.

[VictimOfDHT]

Ok, I haven't gone through your reply but reading the first few lines it was obvious that you misunderstood what I meant when I said " I see ugly women and beautiful men all the time". Dude, how can it be put in a simpler English ? I did NOT say I see ugly women WITH beautiful men. What I meant to say was there are ugly women, AND there are beautiful (or handsome) men that I see out there and I once again did NOT mean couples -of ugly women and beautiful men- which is a reply to your absurd claim that women are more beautiful than men.

[Weedwacker]

Ok, I haven't gone through your reply but reading the first few lines it was obvious that you misunderstood what I meant when I said " I see ugly women and beautiful men all the time". Dude, how can it be put in a simpler English ? I did NOT say I see ugly women WITH beautiful men. What I meant to say was there are ugly women, AND there are beautiful (or handsome) men that I see out there and I once again did NOT mean couples -of ugly women and beautiful men- which is a reply to your absurd claim that women are more beautiful than men.

Victim, I understood the point you were making; no need to make it seem as though I didn't understand. We're not discussing physics. I don't know why you are so adamant in trying to convince me that there are many great looking (I've never heard of a heterosexual man refer to another man as beautiful) men. If you had read my first post, you would have noticed I said that there are plenty of men who are better looking than plenty of women.

The point I was making is that women care less about looks than they do money/status/attitude. Men will date a very attractive, indigent(poor) and shy woman - whereas women will not date/marry a poor, attractive and fit man. Women will date/marry an ugly, bald/fat man with a stable career over a 'hot' guy who makes 30K per year.

Men don't care about a woman's image. You stated that young women will date a guy who is an asshole 'bad boy'. That's the point! I have seen inumerable ugly/fat, macho 'bad boys' with very attractive, fit women. How often do you see an ugly, fat woman with a 'hot' guy? Never. Women don't care about looks. They care about image. You proved my point for me. Thanks.

[VictimOfDHT]

Dude, I don't wanna argue with you because it's gonna be a waste judging by what you've said.

It looks like you CANT understand your own words. I'm quoting you here : "I knew you were lying when you said you see ugly women with beautiful men all the time".
In my reply to you I was trying to explain to you that that's not what I said or meant. Can't you tell the difference between "with" and "and". I never said I see ugly women WITH beautiful -or handsome, or good looking.....- men.

Go read your own words.

[Weedwacker]

Dude, I don't wanna argue with you because it's gonna be a waste judging by what you've said.

It looks like you CANT understand your own words. I'm quoting you here : "I knew you were lying when you said you see ugly women with beautiful men all the time".
In my reply to you I was trying to explain to you that that's not what I said or meant. Can't you tell the difference between "with" and "and". I never said I see ugly women WITH beautiful -or handsome, or good looking.....- men.

Go read your own words.

I am going to say this one last time: I UNDERSTAND THAT YOU DID NOT SAY THAT. You phrased the sentence such that the insinuation was that hot men are with ugly women. I know you didn't mean that. Everyone knows there are good looking men and bad looking women. We know this.

You seem to get a kick out of trying to prove me wrong on one semantic misunderstanding. Why do you care about something so trivial?

You cannot refute my point that there are many unattractive/fat men with attractive women; however, no attractive men with unattractive/fat women. That is my point.

You seem as though you are a bitter, gay man who is just trying to be cute. Why are you so concerned about whether there are great looking men? Who cares? That isn't the topic. The topic is women don't care about looks, and men do. You seem to miss this.