Problem with Citing Examples of Good Looking Bald Men

[Locke]

While on this site I have come across numerous threads listing bald(ing) men who are considered good looking by the ladies. For example, Vin Diesel and Jason Statham. The thing being overlooked is that both of these guys are very physically fit. If they had hair they'd be EVEN MORE attractive.

Currently, I'm not the most physically fit guy and I was in really good, way above average shape for one year in my life. With that being said, when I had a full head of hair I could often get by with being 'cute' in the eyes of many females even if I was scrawny.

Now that I'm losing my hair I think I've lost that appeal...

My point is, maybe we should use hair loss as a motivation to get physically fit so that we're on par with guys who have hair? I'm just trying to be positive about all of this, haha!

[Fixed by 35]

The trouble is, do you really have any motivation to get fit just so that you can look good in someone else's eyes? I have zero motivation to exercise when I know already I'll be disappointed with the end result.

I also don't want to look like the examples you give. In identity terms, they are the polar opposite to me and I'd hate to look like them.

[CIT_Girl]

I say any motivation to get physically fit is great- particularly if it's a way of turning your hair loss into something positive. Sure, you shouldn't get fit just to look good in someone else's eyes but working out is something that will surely benefit you in many ways, and if you happen to have some more admirers because of it, so be it! You only live once so you might as well try to be the best version of you that you possibly can.

Just to throw it out there- I think both Michael Stipes and Andre Agassi are really handsome men and they don't fit that typical action-hero profile (though Agassi is certainly fit and Michael Stipes has that whole famous musician thing going for him ).

Also, you got me thinking...what would Vin Diesel look like with hair?!

[Fixed by 35]

This is my logic:

Life is crap with hair loss and I'll never be happy with my image.

I have few remaining pleasures in life. These include reading, good food and alcohol (in moderation of course!).

The option facing me is either be chubby and bald, or be fit and bald. So, basically the choice is, well, say Homer Simpson or Steve Jobs! I'm really not bothered either way. Both are as depressing as the other.

If I choose to be Homer Simpson, I can retain my current lifestyle and keep eeking out the remaining pleasures of life.

If I choose Steve Jobs, I give up the pleasures of life to do something I hate (going to the gym).

Besides the fact that a gym lifestyle will make me more miserable, I won't get any positive return from it at all. In fact, if I choose the Homer option, I'm basically living the same life I did before hair loss, so I'm not a prisoner of it. I'm a victim, certainly, in so far as I'm involuntarily discriminated against for it, but I'm still in control.

In contrast, if I take the Steve option, then I become a prisoner of my baldness. Not only will it steal my life chances away, it will actually steal hours from my life in the gym and it'll even steal the nice food off my plate and the wine out of my glass!

[KeepTheHair]

I agree baldness sucks and it really changes your life dramatically.


You really LOSE your image. It's GONE. You have to start being someone else.


To top it off....it is an UGLY someone else. People have no respect for bald people, ugly people, fat people.


eh. what a disaster

[jooder]

Fixed by 35, Keep the hair - I feel sorry for you both. You must have horrendous self images of your self.
I understand hairloss can be devastating to some people, especially at a young age....so 'keep the hair' i have a bit of understanding for...... however 'fixed by 35' - i would hate to be a close friend of yours! - what a pecimist!. Homer simpson is a cartoon character
Andre Agassi, Vin diesel, Bruce Willis, Patrick Stewart, Taye Diggs, Stanley Tucci,Kelly Slater....... are all examples of good looking bald men. Go onto other forums - ask women whether these men are ugly??

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Fixed by 35, Keep the hair - I feel sorry for you both. You must have horrendous self images of your self.
I understand hairloss can be devastating to some people, especially at a young age....so 'keep the hair' i have a bit of understanding for...... however 'fixed by 35' - i would hate to be a close friend of yours! - what a pecimist!. Homer simpson is a cartoon character
Andre Agassi, Vin diesel, Bruce Willis, Patrick Stewart, Taye Diggs, Stanley Tucci,Kelly Slater....... are all examples of good looking bald men. Go onto other forums - ask women whether these men are ugly??

Exercise releases endorphins which are essential for good mental health. Plus, chicks like a guy who's in shape. I'm sure if you asked a girl to pick between an out-of-shape bald guy or an in shape one, she'll go for the latter. Furthermore, I'm sure they'll take an inshape bald guy over a fat guy with hair.

Working out is about being healthy and feeling good. FTW man. I agree with jooder-you all have to stop being so pessimistic. Being bald is NOT the end of the world. Sure it sucks, but come on man.

[KeepTheHair]

Actually I have thought about it and... A guy who is bald is still less likely to be picked than the guy with hair.


You are thinking about the GOOD looking guy without hair and the bad looking guy with hair.

Take the same guy.

In once instance you take away all his hair or some of it whatever you want.

In the next you rather make him fat or slightly fat, whatever.


The bald dude is still way less attractive than the fat guy. Truth of the matter is there is a lot more room for a belly than there is for a receding hair line. I feel this is very true.

Sure if you have a total fatass he won't get far. But you know, baldness is still much less attractive than just "being out of shape".


And for what it's worth I am in extremely good shape...at least I think so.

[Vanzzzz]

KeepTheHair I think you are rather obsessed with your appearance now. Not everything has to be defined on the attractiveness scale. Maybe due to your genes, you will become bald and hence unattractive.

However, instead of defining yourself by your hair loss, how about you channel your energy to be rich and famous? These traits are more than sufficient to offset any loss in attractiveness due to your baldness. Baldness is something beyond our control now, but being rich is certainly something that is achieveable, at least more so than keeping your hair if nature wants to take it off you.

[canigetawitness]

Sean Connery was sexy with and without his toupees

[jooder]

Keep the hair - You seem to have become entrenched in a very peccimistic world. Instead of presuming what everybody else likes and doesnt like.... why not ask them? There are plenty of answer sites out there - answerbag etc.

[NateDog]

Sheesh another topic about shaving and another hard line opinion from Fixed and his brain washed side kick Keep the Hair

I do not know why people ask on these forums should I shave... Only one way to find out whether you like it. The alternative is..... There is none if you are thinning out and on Rogaine and Propecia or Avodart then keep up the meds and grow your hair back out as it will only be like it would of been anyway.

I am waiting for summer to roll around and buzzing mine off to a 3 or 2 depending on what looks ok to me. I have a small HT scar on the back (luckily not ear to ear). I have decided to buzz and go with it and get in shape thats the path I choose.

I have stopped doing more transplants... Not because they do not work they definitely work you grow the hair you move thats for real. But expectation is another thing... If you are a norwood 4 and destined that for the rest of your life and your sides and donor do not get senile alopecia over time then you will get some great results. If you go past into the 5 and 6 category then you are going to find out if you are in the lucky five percent that can spend forty grand and be bobman or Falceros... Or you can find out fast how cool it must look having a full front with the middle back crown bald as a badger look. So you gotta be really careful when you decide... For mine I figure shave it and you know if I can get past this I can do anything and in terms of people telling me can I find a girl of course you can thats ridiculous! Sure not all women will respond to you but sheesh every damn woman I know has some small complex about why they do not like a guy for this and that

If you can afford a hair transplant and look like NicNitro then do it absolutely do it. If you have fine straight hair or bad donor or any little thing that makes you not the best of the best candidate I say stop and think really hard because that fine whispy combover you sport after spending 20 grand is going to make you less attractive to women (go read forums about comb overs and also do not believe me go ask the women you know in real life if they love the comb overs). Thats about the jist of it.

As for Fixed who will tell you you are ugly if you shave hes entitled to his opinion. But I guess that will mean we wont be getting that date with him anytime soon also Lol! Gutted...

[KeepTheHair]

Why do you call me brainwashed? Do you think this website and hair transplantation exists because shaving is a viable option.

I don't think so.


People hate the look. Anyone who shaves his head and thinks he looks just as good is the brainwashed one.


I admit I have a bad self image. I admit it. I admit this gets to me more than it should. I can't help that. I just express my opinions openly here. I think shaving is the last option I will ever have. Some men still look good with it though. But it's just so rare. I would definitely not look good, and same goes for the majority of men.

[NateDog]

So what do you do... That day comes that your hair really starts to look out of shape and you cannot hide the fact you have thin hair anymore

Do you just go with it and live it

Do you shave it short and neat

Do you buy a rug

Do you get a transplant

These are the options we face today if we were to freeze time and technology. I too honestly cycle through the above options... Ok reality check some guys shaved are unfortunately not blessed with good looks or a good shaped head or whatever but if it allows them the freedom to move on with their lives and re-enter the real world versus hiding at home then I hope to join their ranks soon. And another reality to me is transplants... Expectations... I see a few that are amazing for sure but then I see alot more that I look at and think to myself would I be happy (no way). So its funny when you see support forums like sly guys for sure no matter what you look like people will always say you look great. Same goes for hair transplants I saw a guy with a whisp of hair on top and it was after 6000 grafts which is what 24 grand. People were saying wow you are bald no more you have a full head. In fact he had a thin see through layer on top. Personally I think you are better to buzz or shave but that is just me

[njs]

Also remember if a HT can save you for a few more years we may be looking at some big changes in the near future. Hopefully histogen or lattise will be the answer for many and than there is cloning......

That was in part my view when I underwent the HT.