My final thoughts on having no hair at 20

[FlightTL]

Well you know maybe it's coming together now, you've never been insulted on anything and you seek others reassurance so damn much that hearing even a dumb insult shuts your childish brain down. You can't take any criticism on anything and the fact you posted what the other person said about you shows you have to flaunt. I don't care what they said about you, Hitler had some supporters too if you remember.

The 4 remarks I heard, including yesterday were over the course of 10-11 months, you know what the other 3 were? 'Whoa nice summer cut Big Cat!' From a full timer where I work (which he jokes with everyone) a guy who learned I skydive said I'm probably more aerodynamic without hair (and I actually laughed at that) and one very old boy asked if my barber messed up. So most or them were friendly joshing anyway. Oh and as for my reaction, I came up in a military family, like I said I'm quick on wit in any situation and maybe it's not I'm bald GASP maybe it's I have balls enough to stand up for myself and others!! I know that's a pretty foreign concept for you Fred. Either way many many many times people even older people tell me I look good like this, and so many people I've met since shaving. (Including girls) have told me they couldn't imagine me with hair, and wouldn't want to given how I carry it well to them. So I've heard 10 times as many compliments as I have insults and I go to house parties at a huge college town where young immature women run rampant so if they hated bald guys so much I'd hear more of it. Plus the reason you probably haven't got many insults about much is because since you're transplant you've been on this site all the time bragging to other people and saying 'yep your life's over I'm right'

I'm sure you'll get your batman mode on and nitpick some detail of what I wrote to try to prove your right. But I have to point out that you completely ignored of evidence given because you can't accept it. So if you can't just go start another forum about how bad your life treated you.

By the way I have many bald uncles who went very far in service in times if war, Rangers, Green Berets (special forces of the army), Navy PT boat gunners and some of them balded too. And no one thinks less of them for it, when they walk into a room they command everyone's attention when being interviewed. A couple have even appeared in books and memoirs from Vietnam. They're the reason I go skydiving mostly, I figured some of them could do it getting shot at. I could do it with just a landing field underneath. But they don't have a problem being bald, in fact military considers hair to be juvenile anyway and many shave like me with full heads. So being bald doesn't lower you at all when you're a good person, I can see where it might a person such as yourself who's only good quality was hair though.

At least you are not giving up on life. That in itself is huge! Beavecake, hang in there. You are young, and yes hair loss is not easy on anyone. Best to you!

[FlightTL]

It's funny, on another forum, someone said this about me:



It seems it's all a matter of perspective.

Anyway, you say hair loss doesn't matter and that people don't care. And now you're saying you've been insulted 4 (!) times about your baldness?

To me, it seems that people do care. Since the results of my hair transplant became obvious, the only insults I got the last 9 months was: "Egg head!" from two stupid kids.

Other than that, absolutely nothing. Nothing. So there goes your argument about "if it's not that, it's going to be something else!"

Nope, I didn't get a single comment on any of my features in 9 months. And among my friends, my girlfriend's friend, my colleagues, I interacted with quite a lot of people.

Yet nothing. So maybe there is something wrong with you if people make rude remarks to you? Maybe it's because, god forbid, you're bald? Let that sink in.

Fred, I recently saw your hair transplant results. I will say that I am very happy for you. Because you have a strong hairline and great results. May you continue to be happy.

I wish you and Beavecake all the best.

[BeaveCake]

Hey man, I salute you for practicing what you preach. You in fact do look like you are bald so therefore you can speak from a first-person perspective and that does wonders for your credibility. I think what irritates Fred, and what irritates me too for that matter, is when you get people with barely any hair loss lecturing us to "stop whining" or calling us "pussies". These fullheads really cannot fathom the negative effects that hair loss can have on some one because they haven't experienced it first hand for themselves. Not to mention, they are doing everything they can to ensure that they will not go bald themselves. But it looks like you practice what you preach, so I salute you for that.

I get that people pretend to always have it worse (Fred loves to say that about him in everything) even just to give support. While I only get frustrated more on people who understand loneliness when they are everyone's center of attention or those who pretend to know loss when the family dog dies so to speak.

Like I said when I first found this site I was very concerned what women would think, I didn't even worry about what other guys thought or what my boss would think etc because I knew hair wouldn't define my achievements, however attraction is something where the most you can do is take care of yourself, go for this you find very attractive and keep trying until one returns it. Even with no hair I never considered settling on that. But what irks me is a young guy coming here to investigate hairloss sees many posters like Fred saying baldness is so awful it's the end of your life basically, so if that's the first example someone has of life without hair young they run the risk of turning into someone like that. (I'm not saying any of this about you or the majority of posters, just those who attack any evidence of success bald) that's why I created this post, if some young guy is losing hair to mpb, or alopecia, or a weird hybrid type deal like mine with TE and follicle damage, I want them to know that if they handle it life will go on just fine. I mean let's be honest a lot of men of bald, over 2/3rds they say and even many young ones in the big picture. The truth is 95% of those guys probably don't even know this site exists and live on just fine. When I first started here and was bummed about what I saw my mother showed me a picture of a friends daughters husband, the guy was white and cueball like me, balding since highschool, and his now wife is gorgeous and model like. I seen that and thought to myself 'he doesn't even know there's a forum for it I bet' and after that I stopped coming here or other sites. I walked proud with a shaved head. I've always had balls to be bold and that's the one thing I will brag about some. In a way a shaved head showed me my personal happiness is way above what culture thinks of hair and I honestly believe that's why I've had success, people can tell I'm not ashamed. And that's why I can't stand people like Fred in these posts, I know some guys aren't balding bad and say it's no biggie, but I gave evidence and he's trying to nitpick some inconsistency to prove himself right. My hope is some new guy who's losing hair finds my post first and learns that a shaved head can get you by just as fine as hair (because let's be honest treatments for hairloss are extremely iffy) no matter what some people say on here.
But I do thank you for being civil and helping point out some if the skepticism which I can understand

[burtandernie]

I think this is because so many people on this forum are not even close to being bald themselves, therefore they preach about something they know nothing about. Nobody is gonna make fun of anyone for being an NW 1.5.

can you blame them? Prevention is the only option to even try right now. You cant show up here NW 7 and expect to do anything about it. You have to jump on it the instant of even a hint of MPB even if its paranoia

[DepressedByHairLoss]

can you blame them? Prevention is the only option to even try right now. You cant show up here NW 7 and expect to do anything about it. You have to jump on it the instant of even a hint of MPB even if its paranoia

Oh yeah, I hear you. But there are a lot of hypochondriacs on here too. But I just cannot stand how people with virtually no hair loss preach to people with real hair loss with regards to something that they know nothing about.

[FlightTL]

I get that people pretend to always have it worse (Fred loves to say that about him in everything) even just to give support. While I only get frustrated more on people who understand loneliness when they are everyone's center of attention or those who pretend to know loss when the family dog dies so to speak.

Like I said when I first found this site I was very concerned what women would think, I didn't even worry about what other guys thought or what my boss would think etc because I knew hair wouldn't define my achievements, however attraction is something where the most you can do is take care of yourself, go for this you find very attractive and keep trying until one returns it. Even with no hair I never considered settling on that. But what irks me is a young guy coming here to investigate hairloss sees many posters like Fred saying baldness is so awful it's the end of your life basically, so if that's the first example someone has of life without hair young they run the risk of turning into someone like that. (I'm not saying any of this about you or the majority of posters, just those who attack any evidence of success bald) that's why I created this post, if some young guy is losing hair to mpb, or alopecia, or a weird hybrid type deal like mine with TE and follicle damage, I want them to know that if they handle it life will go on just fine. I mean let's be honest a lot of men of bald, over 2/3rds they say and even many young ones in the big picture. The truth is 95% of those guys probably don't even know this site exists and live on just fine. When I first started here and was bummed about what I saw my mother showed me a picture of a friends daughters husband, the guy was white and cueball like me, balding since highschool, and his now wife is gorgeous and model like. I seen that and thought to myself 'he doesn't even know there's a forum for it I bet' and after that I stopped coming here or other sites. I walked proud with a shaved head. I've always had balls to be bold and that's the one thing I will brag about some. In a way a shaved head showed me my personal happiness is way above what culture thinks of hair and I honestly believe that's why I've had success, people can tell I'm not ashamed. And that's why I can't stand people like Fred in these posts, I know some guys aren't balding bad and say it's no biggie, but I gave evidence and he's trying to nitpick some inconsistency to prove himself right. My hope is some new guy who's losing hair finds my post first and learns that a shaved head can get you by just as fine as hair (because let's be honest treatments for hairloss are extremely iffy) no matter what some people say on here.
But I do thank you for being civil and helping point out some if the skepticism which I can understand

Beavecake, just look at Bruce Willis. He cut off all his hair, and his wife is super HOT. Good luck and hang in there!

[fred970]

Beavecake, just look at Bruce Willis. He cut off all his hair, and his wife is super HOT. Good luck and hang in there!

Bruce Willis is 60, filthy rich, and a celebrity. Wake up!

[BeaveCake]

Beavecake, just look at Bruce Willis. He cut off all his hair, and his wife is super HOT. Good luck and hang in there!

While he is a celebrity (which disproves some peoples points that baldness is viewed as some awful beta disorder by society) plenty of 'regular' bald guys do fine too. Of the four other guys I know of who bladed and shave around my age, two got married to very gorgeous model type girls, one got married to a very pretty girl, and the last one got married to a very unattractive girl, you know the difference between them? The first three all took care of themselves and I haven't seen hairloss ever affect them like it has people here, the last one is a fat slob who's brain works pretty slow, so that's the reason he got less, it's not about hair. True some girls hot or not won't get past it, but just as many even young will, so it's not a big issue. Don't worry about what others say here. Although I can say many girls seem to prefer shaved over thin or horshoe hair grown out. I think people forget girls turn down guys for tons of different physical aspects all the time, just go for a girl you find attractive until one you do thinks the same. That's how it works, hair or lacking it won't stop you.

[fred970]

Married? How is that an achievement? If they got married, that means they got money, otherwise no woman would be marrying them.

It's going to be fun for them when they get divorced and she takes half his possessions and the kids. Back on the dating market, broke and bald.

That's going to be fun.

[JayM]

Married? How is that an achievement? If they got married, that means they got money, otherwise no woman would be marrying them.

It's going to be fun for them when they get divorced and she takes half his possessions and the kids. Back on the dating market, broke and bald.

That's going to be fun.

Prenup.

[DAVE52]

Married? How is that an achievement? If they got married, that means they got money, otherwise no woman would be marrying them..

You sound very bitter
A lot of people lose their hair and deal with it . They buzz it , shave it , take med, get HT's whatever suits them .
Hair loss isn' t the end of the world and it isn't the deciding factor on meeing someone and getting married and living an enjoyable life.

[BeaveCake]

Married? How is that an achievement? If they got married, that means they got money, otherwise no woman would be marrying them.

It's going to be fun for them when they get divorced and she takes half his possessions and the kids. Back on the dating market, broke and bald.

That's going to be fun.

Alright Fred, despite evidence otherwise and your counters, they do middle class run of the mill jobs, ones a police officer another's not even done with college yet and he's like 25 so obviously it isn't money. I'm getting really tired of you disrespecting people who get past baldness because you couldn't. It's not so much your opinion of me, at no point in my day do I think 'oh my girl is lying to me because Fred said women hate bald guys' or 'all my co workers are laughing at me I bet because some Internet forum guy said they would' but what irks me now is you are now going way off the scale. Now it isn't even really about baldness, your post almost sounded cynical about marriage itself.

Fred you really need ask for a refund from your shrink because you seem to think everyone is a cynic working against bald men. It really is in your head, sure some girls won't like it, rarely is it a preference I'll give you that, but most don't care enough to make or break a guys attractiveness to them. The idea that bald is hated and slandered and viewed as less of a person or genetic garbage is all in your head, you'll hear a comment and think it's the end of the world when it may have been friendly joshing.

I'm going to use a term you love to use against people who live happily with no hair and get by fine to describe your minds way of thinking on this issue; it's delusional.