Guys on here who are Norwood 2 and devastated, just think about me: Norwood 7 :(

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  • x4342
    Member
    • Apr 2013
    • 55

    #16
    I agree with Notcooanymore that sometimes you seem like a caricature. Not saying you are or anything, but it's tough to tell.
    I think your path is clear. On one hand I don't want to sugarcoat things, but on the other hand I legitimately believe in being positive.

    What you should be be doing is simple in concept although tough in practice. Focus on what you can control. From a hair standpoint you have very, very aggressive hair loss- probably something like my maternal uncles. You really can't do anything about it at this point. Eventually, technology will improve but for the time being focus on other things you can control. Are you in great shape? How's your face? Let's assume the worst, and that you have a "bad" face and are incapable of working out and developing your body at all. In that case, I would focus all my energy on getting rich. Yes, again, easier said then done, but that's the reality. Lloyd Blankfein is very bald. He also never had a model's face to begin with. But, boy is he rich.

    Spencer does a great job about talking how hair loss frustrates people because they can't control it. There are medications that can help, but it's not as if a norwood 7 can say "f it, I'm going to the gym seven days a week and working my way back to my juvenile density." Being a balding guy isn't like being a fat guy. Eventually this will all change and we will have real treatment options. Until then, the key to dealing with hair loss is to place extra emphasis on things that you have control over. Yes, far easier said then done I know, but it is what it is.

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    • Notcoolanymore
      Senior Member
      • Jun 2013
      • 2246

      #17
      Originally posted by baldozer
      No, its not, ask me! I'm NW7 and perfectly fine and happy. And I look pretty good. There are many happy NW7s out there who don't give a shit.
      This is why I think FlightTL should post a picture of himself. Baldozer you have stated before that although you are a NW7 that you can pull it off pretty good. This is NOT the case for everybody. I never said that you couldn't be happy and a NW7, but with the exception with that one guy that used to post on these boards that loved being balled at 16, most do give a shit and do care.

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      • burtandernie
        Senior Member
        • Nov 2012
        • 1563

        #18
        Every guy I ever knew did not enjoy the beginning of losing their hair because its a sign of old age. Once they realized the options most of them just accepted it or tried minox and basically went bald anyways, A lot of guys dont like the idea of taking a pill every day for life and altering their hormones. Can you really blame them? Given the options accepting MPB is not a bad idea.

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        • FlightTL
          Senior Member
          • Jun 2011
          • 841

          #19
          Originally posted by x4342
          I agree with Notcooanymore that sometimes you seem like a caricature. Not saying you are or anything, but it's tough to tell.
          I think your path is clear. On one hand I don't want to sugarcoat things, but on the other hand I legitimately believe in being positive.

          What you should be be doing is simple in concept although tough in practice. Focus on what you can control. From a hair standpoint you have very, very aggressive hair loss- probably something like my maternal uncles. You really can't do anything about it at this point. Eventually, technology will improve but for the time being focus on other things you can control. Are you in great shape? How's your face? Let's assume the worst, and that you have a "bad" face and are incapable of working out and developing your body at all. In that case, I would focus all my energy on getting rich. Yes, again, easier said then done, but that's the reality. Lloyd Blankfein is very bald. He also never had a model's face to begin with. But, boy is he rich.

          Spencer does a great job about talking how hair loss frustrates people because they can't control it. There are medications that can help, but it's not as if a norwood 7 can say "f it, I'm going to the gym seven days a week and working my way back to my juvenile density." Being a balding guy isn't like being a fat guy. Eventually this will all change and we will have real treatment options. Until then, the key to dealing with hair loss is to place extra emphasis on things that you have control over. Yes, far easier said then done I know, but it is what it is.
          Appreciate your support. You're a good cat man.

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          • FlightTL
            Senior Member
            • Jun 2011
            • 841

            #20
            Originally posted by burtandernie
            Every guy I ever knew did not enjoy the beginning of losing their hair because its a sign of old age. Once they realized the options most of them just accepted it or tried minox and basically went bald anyways, A lot of guys dont like the idea of taking a pill every day for life and altering their hormones. Can you really blame them? Given the options accepting MPB is not a bad idea.
            Acceptance is a spiritual practice I agree....Just hard to do when I see how bald I am, and how much it hurts...

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            • Jasari
              Senior Member
              • May 2011
              • 251

              #21
              Norwood two isn't really hair loss to be honest. The only relevant reason to be upset about it would be the prospect of future loss.

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              • baldozer
                Senior Member
                • Oct 2012
                • 752

                #22
                Originally posted by FlightTL
                Acceptance is a spiritual practice I agree....Just hard to do when I see how bald I am, and how much it hurts...
                Just wear a hairpiece and see if that makes any difference when it comes to attracting women. If not, then your problem is not baldness.

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                • James7
                  Member
                  • Oct 2013
                  • 93

                  #23
                  Originally posted by FlightTL
                  Whenever you guys who are around a Norwood 2, get sad or think life is bad, just think about me. Norwood 7 by mid 20s, and now is late 20s in age. I have no job, no career, no girlfriend.
                  Just think about me, and you'll see you are in a much better place.
                  Originally posted by FlightTL
                  Working out is fun. I'll admit, my depression goes away during and for 2 hours post workout. I still have to buy more stylish clothes. Job hunt is not working out for me. I may just have to work at Burger King or K-mart.
                  FlightTL, you have depression, like you said yourself (in the part I quoted).
                  Saying that you have no job, no career, no girlfriend and being generally down about things, really sounds like you are derpressed.
                  And clearly some self-esteem issues.

                  You should really get some counselling, it will help you.

                  I know what you're going to say, you'll say you can't afford it.
                  But you can probably afford at least 1 hour. Really you should try it even for that first hour.
                  And if you can afford to go to the gym, you can probably afford the odd counselling session.

                  So when you go there, you can air all you worries and work through these problems with a professional. So that you can get back into life
                  It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you, but like you said you need to work out your life, career, girlfriend, your baldness worries etc. and you clearly want to talk it through, because you keep posting about it.
                  They should be able to help you work through all these things, towards seeing things in a more healthy manner.
                  You can do it man, and it's much easier with someone to help.

                  Please consider this and tell me what you think. Thanks

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                  • FlightTL
                    Senior Member
                    • Jun 2011
                    • 841

                    #24
                    Originally posted by James7
                    FlightTL, you have depression, like you said yourself (in the part I quoted).
                    Saying that you have no job, no career, no girlfriend and being generally down about things, really sounds like you are derpressed.
                    And clearly some self-esteem issues.

                    You should really get some counselling, it will help you.

                    I know what you're going to say, you'll say you can't afford it.
                    But you can probably afford at least 1 hour. Really you should try it even for that first hour.
                    And if you can afford to go to the gym, you can probably afford the odd counselling session.

                    So when you go there, you can air all you worries and work through these problems with a professional. So that you can get back into life
                    It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you, but like you said you need to work out your life, career, girlfriend, your baldness worries etc. and you clearly want to talk it through, because you keep posting about it.
                    They should be able to help you work through all these things, towards seeing things in a more healthy manner.
                    You can do it man, and it's much easier with someone to help.

                    Please consider this and tell me what you think. Thanks

                    Yes...I might just have to visit a therapist...

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                    • Notcoolanymore
                      Senior Member
                      • Jun 2013
                      • 2246

                      #25
                      Originally posted by FlightTL
                      Yes...I might just have to visit a therapist...
                      I think you should. At this point you are your own worst enemy. Not saying being NW7 doesn't suck, but it is what it is. Time to deal with it and make the best of what you have. Your 20's are just about gone. If you don't change your 30's will soon be gone too.

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                      • FlightTL
                        Senior Member
                        • Jun 2011
                        • 841

                        #26
                        Originally posted by Notcoolanymore
                        I think you should. At this point you are your own worst enemy. Not saying being NW7 doesn't suck, but it is what it is. Time to deal with it and make the best of what you have. Your 20's are just about gone. If you don't change your 30's will soon be gone too.
                        Your words are true. I'm terrified my 30s will go to waste, as my 20s did...

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                        • burtandernie
                          Senior Member
                          • Nov 2012
                          • 1563

                          #27
                          Well in his defense his 20s and 30s will be gone no matter what he does just like the rest of us. You cant really do a lot about time passing and it always goes by too fast.

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                          • Cathal
                            Junior Member
                            • Dec 2012
                            • 8

                            #28
                            I was really down about my hair a year ago and it was only a 1.5 on the norwood scale. It stayed like that for a year and over the last month I've been shedding like crazy and it's probably at 2.5 now. The irony being that I dream of having the hair that made me depressed a year ago. It's not fun this, is it?

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                            • FlightTL
                              Senior Member
                              • Jun 2011
                              • 841

                              #29
                              Originally posted by Cathal
                              I was really down about my hair a year ago and it was only a 1.5 on the norwood scale. It stayed like that for a year and over the last month I've been shedding like crazy and it's probably at 2.5 now. The irony being that I dream of having the hair that made me depressed a year ago. It's not fun this, is it?

                              Think about me, I'm Norwood 7. You can still have a social life.

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                              • Cathal
                                Junior Member
                                • Dec 2012
                                • 8

                                #30
                                Originally posted by FlightTL
                                Think about me, I'm Norwood 7. You can still have a social life.
                                You might suit that though, I don't know. I don't know if it's the same for everyone else but every guy I see with hair loss (at any stage) seems to look 'alright' to me. It looks normal enough. It just doesn't when it's me or something.

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