Sad truth is I only get noticed by women and treated nice, when I wear a hat...

[FlightTL]

Last week, I went grocery shopping, but it was freezing cold, so I wore a hat....

For the first time, this good looking gal at the register smiled. She saw me 100s of times before at the same store but never smiled. This was the first time....Then I went to get some coffee at starbucks. Another cute girl smiled. She also has seen me tons of times.


I have realized the sad truth. I am not handsome at all like Jason statham or others. So, only with covering my Super norwood 7, did they finally notice me.






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I will still work out from time to time....But I have realized that all the working out in the world will not replace hair.....


Sorry to disappoint anyone.

[SL]

Some men will exude more confidence with a hat on if they are losing of have lost hair and often will then carry themselves in a more confident manner and this is what the other person will pick up on often. It may not be the hair issue as such but just a confident manner, more direct eye contact or a smile that is given off and responded to that may be lacking when the hair loss is more evident and the individual feels less confident.

By no means a definitive reason but just a possibility for some and I know patients who have worn hats and myself identified with them and they said they feel far more confident when doing so and even enjoy cold weather because then hats are more the norm and they feel more free and less inhibited.

In any event hope she, they, smile next time also.

[35YrsAfter]

I have been married for just short of 25 years. Women see the world very differently than men do. A bad hair transplant is worse than being bald. Perhaps the worst repair case in the history of hair transplant surgery had a girlfriend when he had massive scarring, pitting and tattooing that turned blue. I just showed a repair consult my photos from ten years ago. Very depressing for me to look at even now. Many women just don't care that much about the things we men agonize over.

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[topcat]

If I had to sum it up in a few words through my own personal experience and 25 years of observation in the night club industry I would put it this way.

Care about how you look and feel for yourself but don’t care too much about how others care about how you look and feel. If you do they will instantly pick up on it. I can instantly pick up on someone who seems to feel uncomfortable with themselves as it is given off in subtle body language and I’m sure many others have had similar experiences where they might have picked up on the subtle clues of someone who seems to be uncomfortable.

Wearing the hat can easily help eliminate that subtle body language in the case of hairloss, learning to do it without the hat is a little harder but it can be done. The fact that you can do it with the hat already tells you that you possess these traits of inner confidence and it’s just a matter of bringing that back to the surface and not letting hairloss be a hindering factor.

[Alih]

Hay bro it's all about confidence I have a full head of hair that's curly and down to my shoulers olmost and I get complemented on it a lot
but on the day I feel confident I get attention from girls and on the day my confident level is low i get 0 attention bro.
I know it's hard I had some shedding going on and I went crazy but try your best to be confident and see the diffrents.

[redy]

The fact that you can do it with the hat already tells you that you possess these traits of inner confidence and it’s just a matter of bringing that back to the surface and not letting hairloss be a hindering factor.

boom

[Dan26]

if i had to sum it up in a few words through my own personal experience and 25 years of observation in the night club industry i would put it this way.

Care about how you look and feel for yourself but don’t care too much about how others care about how you look and feel. If you do they will instantly pick up on it. I can instantly pick up on someone who seems to feel uncomfortable with themselves as it is given off in subtle body language and i’m sure many others have had similar experiences where they might have picked up on the subtle clues of someone who seems to be uncomfortable.

Wearing the hat can easily help eliminate that subtle body language in the case of hairloss, learning to do it without the hat is a little harder but it can be done. The fact that you can do it with the hat already tells you that you possess these traits of inner confidence and it’s just a matter of bringing that back to the surface and not letting hairloss be a hindering factor.

+1000

[Notcoolanymore]

Damn, all these guys made some very good points. All I have to say is keep working on improving yourself. You don't have to be Mr. Universe to be in good shape. Just keep doing your thing. Picking up women will get easier as you get older. Looks will still be a factor, but they wont be the main factor like they are now.

Your going to be alright FlightTL, just keep your head up.

[ravegrover]

One way to overcome the fear of rejection is to reject women before they reject you. Always works

[FlightTL]

One way to overcome the fear of rejection is to reject women before they reject you. Always works

Really?

I saw a guy that women loves always down talking women, and women melt and drop on their knees for this guy.


I guess you're right.

[Artista]

This thread reminded me of a time at my work from approx 5 years ago.
There was and is this good looking divorced woman coworker (around my age)
She and I got along quite well. We worked together once in a while and had some decent chats, laughed together etc etc.
I felt that she was being a bit flirtatious with me too.
I certainly DID like the attention, it was FUN . Flirtation is always cool!
I did like her BUT I was unavailable and anyway, I wouldnt date a coworker..I had learned that lesson the hard way long ago.
Besides, she did have issues..everyone at work knew that.
So , I was happy just to be her friend there.
I ALWAYS WEAR A HAT at work ..everywhere else too.
Us employees there must wear a VISIBLE photo ID badge for security reasons.
I always wore it so that my ID image was turned around-No one could see my image unless they asked me.
One day , at the beginning of the work day my coworker friend 'Sonya' walked up to me while I was busy doing something . I looked at her only to see that she was STARING down at my ID badge for a period of time.
Of course, the badge image was facing out and she could not stop looking at it.
I pretended as if I didn't notice, we had small talk right after and the she said that she had to get to her work area never mentioning my ID badge.
After that day she seemed to have stayed away from me.
She no longer came over to find me at my work-area.
When I would walk up to her,,she was always 'busy'. When I saw her on the bus coming in she never would sit next to me either. (she did before)
Now my friends keep in mind, I really DIDN'T care that she might be judging me by my hair loss. After-all, she did already have obvious personal 'issues' anyway and I was 'spoken for' anyway!! (I wouldnt cheat on my woman)
It was disturbing that a coworker or anyone else would abruptly discontinue or impede a 'friendship' over the image of my hair loss.
We never argued nor debated anything. We got along fine.
I can only conclude that, she may have wanted more from our 'friendship' and then after seeing and staring so long at my ID badge that day, she lost INTEREST in me--LOL.
No harm- No foul and No LOSS on my part.
That is so crazy though.
Oh by the way, since being on Fin' my new ID badge image is not so disturbing to me..I wear it normally,,people can see the image!!

[FlightTL]

This thread reminded me of a time at my work from approx 5 years ago.
There was and is this good looking divorced woman coworker (around my age)
She and I got along quite well. We worked together once in a while and had some decent chats, laughed together etc etc.
I felt that she was being a bit flirtatious with me too.
I certainly DID like the attention, it was FUN . Flirtation is always cool!
I did like her BUT I was unavailable and anyway, I wouldnt date a coworker..I had learned that lesson the hard way long ago.
Besides, she did have issues..everyone at work knew that.
So , I was happy just to be her friend there.
I ALWAYS WEAR A HAT at work ..everywhere else too.
Us employees there must wear a VISIBLE photo ID badge for security reasons.
I always wore it so that my ID image was turned around-No one could see my image unless they asked me.
One day , at the beginning of the work day my coworker friend 'Sonya' walked up to me while I was busy doing something . I looked at her only to see that she was STARING down at my ID badge for a period of time.
Of course, the badge image was facing out and she could not stop looking at it.
I pretended as if I didn't notice, we had small talk right after and the she said that she had to get to her work area never mentioning my ID badge.
After that day she seemed to have stayed away from me.
She no longer came over to find me at my work-area.
When I would walk up to her,,she was always 'busy'. When I saw her on the bus coming in she never would sit next to me either. (she did before)
Now my friends keep in mind, I really DIDN'T care that she might be judging me by my hair loss. After-all, she did already have obvious personal 'issues' anyway and I was 'spoken for' anyway!! (I wouldnt cheat on my woman)
It was disturbing that a coworker or anyone else would abruptly discontinue or impede a 'friendship' over the image of my hair loss.
We never argued nor debated anything. We got along fine.
I can only conclude that, she may have wanted more from our 'friendship' and then after seeing and staring so long at my ID badge that day, she lost INTEREST in me--LOL.
No harm- No foul and No LOSS on my part.
That is so crazy though.
Oh by the way, since being on Fin' my new ID badge image is not so disturbing to me..I wear it normally,,people can see the image!!

I knew there was something to this. Till this day, women have shunned me completely. Only with a hat on, did I get a few smiles....

Some guys have all the hair in the world...others like me, are destined to Norwood 7 from a young age, will never have a normal psychological outlook on life.

I will keep working out though, because the endorphins feel good, even if the feeling lasts only a few hours.


LONG LIVE SPENCER KOBREN AND JOE FROM SI, THE LEADER OF US HAIR LOSS SUFFERERS.