I've come here, to The Bald Truth, not looking for any real answers; I pretty much know the score, I know what the options are. I've come here in an attempt to find some sort of Support Network. To find other Men who are going through the same thing, hopefully some who have found a way to accept it, preferably fellow young men, around my age, who I can connect with in some way with this terrible affliction.
As the title suggests, I'm 21 years of age. My Father is in his mid-forties, and is a bald man who cuts his hair extremely short on a regular basis. My Grandfather, on my Mother's side, is also a bald man. This is something which I knew was a possibility, but something I didn't waste my time thinking about; it wasn't going to happen until I was much older, so I didn't need to concern myself with it while I was young. I'd always had extremely thick very dark brown hair that looked black unless under direct light. I have a double crown that always made my hair quite hard to style in ways that my friends did. At times, it was simply just hard to maintain once it got to a certain length, and then it got curly, which I hated.
Some time in 2010, I began to use Roaccutane to combat my acne that just never seemed to go away no matter how hard I fought against it with creams, lotions, facial washes, you name it. It was around 2011 that I started to notice that I could see part of my scalp on the crown of my head. Not a whole lot, but I could see it. I brushed it off as normal, and didn't put much thought into it. But as the year went on, it became something I was always aware of, I became obsessed with it. Was I losing m hair? I started wearing beanies a lot; I could cover up my insecurities and still look "fashionable" while I did. Whenever I was in front of a mirror, I would check if any sign of hair loss was visible. I started noticing hairs around the place, my pillow attracted many. I told my girlfriend about it, wondering if the Roaccutane was to blame as I had read stories on the internet. I was definitely losing my hair. One night, when my hair was really quite long, I was looking at my hair and how it just didn't look as think as it used to. I started to feel incredibly emotional at that point. I grabbed the clippers that we have in the house, put on a number 2 or 3 clipper head, and cut my hair off. Expecting it to "hide" what was happening, it just made it clearer, and my fears were confirmed. I bawled my eyes out, collapsing in a mess as m Mum ran into the bathroom asking what was wrong. She looked at my hair, in which you could see the typical Male Pattern Baldness pattern in my now short hair. She said it didn't look "that bad" and that it may be something else, but the fact remained; I was losing my hair.
I went to a Doctor to get a reference for my Dermatologist, and he looked at my scalp as well. He told me that Roaccutane can't be the problem, as I had been off it long enough that it would no longer be in my system, causing loss. I went to my Dermatologist, and he said that just because I read it on the internet doesn't mean it's true. He was a bit of an ass about it too, saying "Some people say it's good to drink your own urine on the internet, do you want to do that?" to which I came very close to saying "**** you, you ****ing ****". He said he'd do some blood tests so they can see if anything's wrong and that they'd send me something in the mail if there was anything, suggesting that if it comes back clean we can talk options. He mentioned Finasteride, which I had already read about at that time.
I saw my Mother's GP, and she also said that Roaccutane can't be the problem because I'd been off the drug for quite some time, noting that the pattern in the loss pointed towards Male Pattern Baldness. Funny thing is is that I'm still half convinced that Roaccutane was to blame in some way. I'm 21 years old, and I'm losing my hair rapidly, and it seemed to have started while I was on it. NO OTHER MAN IN MY FAMILY, to my knowledge, has started to lose their hair at age 20. It always happens in their mid years. My Grandfather had thick, luscious hair when he was my age. It just doesn't seem to make much sense to me, and it just feels soooo ****ing unfair that this is happening to me.
I think if I didn't have my Girlfriend I would be absolutely ****ing lost. She's supported me, stuck by me, and held me while I just broke down into tears at feeling so helpless. That feeling where you just have no real control at all. I had been using Minoxidil 5% for a while, but I found it hard to keep to the instructions; twice a day, morning and night, where you can't wear a hat afterwards for an hour? I couldn't leave the house, I sometimes couldn't even leave my room, without wearing a beanie or a hat. I put that stuff on in the morning, and I didn't even want to leave my room in case my Sister saw my hair and would use it in an argument against me, to bring me down. There were days where sticking to the schedule just wasn't possible ... just due to life getting in the way. I used it until I ran out, and was unsure it had done anything. It didn't really seem like it. My girlfriend started cutting my hair in a way that was still fashionable but hid it, mostly; very short on the sides and back, very long on the top with a fringe.
But now I'm at the stage where the haircut no longer "hides" most of the loss anymore. I've lost enough along the sides that it's nearly impossible to wear it without noticing loss along the sides. The top of my head? Feels extremely thin, I mostly just feel scalp when I touch there. I move my hair around with my hand? I see hair falling in front of my face. I was my hair with anti-dandruff stuff because my Dermatologist said that it wasn't normal and could be "contributing", but I still have dandruff and my hands are covered in hair after rubbing my hands through it. I feel completely defeated.
I've asked my Mother to buy more Minxodil, but throughout all of this, I've just been tempted to be done with all of this pain and shave off my hair. All of it. Just let it go. But I have a lot of fears with that; will I look okay with no hair? Does my head have an okay shape for it? Do I have moles or other unsightly things lurking beneath? Will I still look attractive to my girlfriend? Hell, will I still look attractive to other women and, in a way, other men? All of these questions are just plaguing me, the biggest one of all related to the career path I'm pursuing; I've finished studying Film as a Director, and I'll be signing onto a Production House to direct Commercials. Part of the reason I was put forward by an old lecturer was because I look "marketable"; clients and Agency Creatives honestly take looks into account and it's important for us to look "young" and "cool". I wear clothes that I guess could be considered that, but what the **** do I do about my hair? That's a factor, and I've hidden it from EVERYONE in my life apart from my parents and girlfriend. No one knows WHY I always wear a hat or a beanie; I wore a ****ing beanie to my graduation screening, and there are times where they ask me to take it off and I just can't. Jokes that when I take it off and "there'll be a bald spot" just hit me to the ****ing core.
My girlfriend has literally just texted me saying that she's behind me with shaving it all. I feel like I'm not closer at all to accepting it, and I'm losing my hair rapidly. Much faster than any man would want to lose their hair. I'm scared to my bones that shaving it all off will just "ruin" me, but what other choice do I have? I really don't want to take Finasteride, for reasons that I don't really need to explain, and Minox doesn't seem to help unless you stick to its rigorous instructions, and even then it doesn't seem like the gains will be overly amazing. So I'm really hoping that with this step, I can gain back my confidence ...
Not long before I started losing my hair, I was actually starting to feel comfortable in my own skin. I had no acne, my braces had just come off, I was feeling good in myself. Funny how these things work.
Thank you to those who actually make it all the way through that.
As the title suggests, I'm 21 years of age. My Father is in his mid-forties, and is a bald man who cuts his hair extremely short on a regular basis. My Grandfather, on my Mother's side, is also a bald man. This is something which I knew was a possibility, but something I didn't waste my time thinking about; it wasn't going to happen until I was much older, so I didn't need to concern myself with it while I was young. I'd always had extremely thick very dark brown hair that looked black unless under direct light. I have a double crown that always made my hair quite hard to style in ways that my friends did. At times, it was simply just hard to maintain once it got to a certain length, and then it got curly, which I hated.
Some time in 2010, I began to use Roaccutane to combat my acne that just never seemed to go away no matter how hard I fought against it with creams, lotions, facial washes, you name it. It was around 2011 that I started to notice that I could see part of my scalp on the crown of my head. Not a whole lot, but I could see it. I brushed it off as normal, and didn't put much thought into it. But as the year went on, it became something I was always aware of, I became obsessed with it. Was I losing m hair? I started wearing beanies a lot; I could cover up my insecurities and still look "fashionable" while I did. Whenever I was in front of a mirror, I would check if any sign of hair loss was visible. I started noticing hairs around the place, my pillow attracted many. I told my girlfriend about it, wondering if the Roaccutane was to blame as I had read stories on the internet. I was definitely losing my hair. One night, when my hair was really quite long, I was looking at my hair and how it just didn't look as think as it used to. I started to feel incredibly emotional at that point. I grabbed the clippers that we have in the house, put on a number 2 or 3 clipper head, and cut my hair off. Expecting it to "hide" what was happening, it just made it clearer, and my fears were confirmed. I bawled my eyes out, collapsing in a mess as m Mum ran into the bathroom asking what was wrong. She looked at my hair, in which you could see the typical Male Pattern Baldness pattern in my now short hair. She said it didn't look "that bad" and that it may be something else, but the fact remained; I was losing my hair.
I went to a Doctor to get a reference for my Dermatologist, and he looked at my scalp as well. He told me that Roaccutane can't be the problem, as I had been off it long enough that it would no longer be in my system, causing loss. I went to my Dermatologist, and he said that just because I read it on the internet doesn't mean it's true. He was a bit of an ass about it too, saying "Some people say it's good to drink your own urine on the internet, do you want to do that?" to which I came very close to saying "**** you, you ****ing ****". He said he'd do some blood tests so they can see if anything's wrong and that they'd send me something in the mail if there was anything, suggesting that if it comes back clean we can talk options. He mentioned Finasteride, which I had already read about at that time.
I saw my Mother's GP, and she also said that Roaccutane can't be the problem because I'd been off the drug for quite some time, noting that the pattern in the loss pointed towards Male Pattern Baldness. Funny thing is is that I'm still half convinced that Roaccutane was to blame in some way. I'm 21 years old, and I'm losing my hair rapidly, and it seemed to have started while I was on it. NO OTHER MAN IN MY FAMILY, to my knowledge, has started to lose their hair at age 20. It always happens in their mid years. My Grandfather had thick, luscious hair when he was my age. It just doesn't seem to make much sense to me, and it just feels soooo ****ing unfair that this is happening to me.
I think if I didn't have my Girlfriend I would be absolutely ****ing lost. She's supported me, stuck by me, and held me while I just broke down into tears at feeling so helpless. That feeling where you just have no real control at all. I had been using Minoxidil 5% for a while, but I found it hard to keep to the instructions; twice a day, morning and night, where you can't wear a hat afterwards for an hour? I couldn't leave the house, I sometimes couldn't even leave my room, without wearing a beanie or a hat. I put that stuff on in the morning, and I didn't even want to leave my room in case my Sister saw my hair and would use it in an argument against me, to bring me down. There were days where sticking to the schedule just wasn't possible ... just due to life getting in the way. I used it until I ran out, and was unsure it had done anything. It didn't really seem like it. My girlfriend started cutting my hair in a way that was still fashionable but hid it, mostly; very short on the sides and back, very long on the top with a fringe.
But now I'm at the stage where the haircut no longer "hides" most of the loss anymore. I've lost enough along the sides that it's nearly impossible to wear it without noticing loss along the sides. The top of my head? Feels extremely thin, I mostly just feel scalp when I touch there. I move my hair around with my hand? I see hair falling in front of my face. I was my hair with anti-dandruff stuff because my Dermatologist said that it wasn't normal and could be "contributing", but I still have dandruff and my hands are covered in hair after rubbing my hands through it. I feel completely defeated.
I've asked my Mother to buy more Minxodil, but throughout all of this, I've just been tempted to be done with all of this pain and shave off my hair. All of it. Just let it go. But I have a lot of fears with that; will I look okay with no hair? Does my head have an okay shape for it? Do I have moles or other unsightly things lurking beneath? Will I still look attractive to my girlfriend? Hell, will I still look attractive to other women and, in a way, other men? All of these questions are just plaguing me, the biggest one of all related to the career path I'm pursuing; I've finished studying Film as a Director, and I'll be signing onto a Production House to direct Commercials. Part of the reason I was put forward by an old lecturer was because I look "marketable"; clients and Agency Creatives honestly take looks into account and it's important for us to look "young" and "cool". I wear clothes that I guess could be considered that, but what the **** do I do about my hair? That's a factor, and I've hidden it from EVERYONE in my life apart from my parents and girlfriend. No one knows WHY I always wear a hat or a beanie; I wore a ****ing beanie to my graduation screening, and there are times where they ask me to take it off and I just can't. Jokes that when I take it off and "there'll be a bald spot" just hit me to the ****ing core.
My girlfriend has literally just texted me saying that she's behind me with shaving it all. I feel like I'm not closer at all to accepting it, and I'm losing my hair rapidly. Much faster than any man would want to lose their hair. I'm scared to my bones that shaving it all off will just "ruin" me, but what other choice do I have? I really don't want to take Finasteride, for reasons that I don't really need to explain, and Minox doesn't seem to help unless you stick to its rigorous instructions, and even then it doesn't seem like the gains will be overly amazing. So I'm really hoping that with this step, I can gain back my confidence ...
Not long before I started losing my hair, I was actually starting to feel comfortable in my own skin. I had no acne, my braces had just come off, I was feeling good in myself. Funny how these things work.
Thank you to those who actually make it all the way through that.
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