new guy feel so unhappy

[Jack21]

Once a week with a #1 guard. It takes ten minutes at the most. I put some aloe on afterwards and that's it. It couldn't be any easier. The funny thing is that when I still had hair I used to keep it shaved most of the time like in the picture below.

Where did you post it,which thread?
I believe society would be better and more understanding if they stopped these hair advertisement on tv. When i goto the gym ,rogaine is every other commercial. Also they should stop pushing attractiveness as the best quality in people. Thats why these high school kids are so insane about looks and judgemental..
Jack how often do you shave your head to keep that style? I think I'm gonna go for that look also with the goutie.

[Jack21]

thanks ddi

You're a good man. I really appreciate your support.

Jack, you are right. You are never going to find another woman like Elissa. You are going to find someone better.

[Jack21]

courage

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This is my post from yesterday evening:


I spent the day with a group of high school kids at an academic tournament. I used to compete in high school and now I read and moderate a few Saturdays a year or coach the group from my alma mater. This year the team from my old HS had one kid in a wheelchair and one kid with one arm. I know that this sounds like some sort of bad joke, but its not. The kid with the one arm had his long sleeve rolled up so that the amputated limb was visible. I am no expert but it didn't look like a traumatic but a congenital amputation. I didn't ask him obviously. The kid in the wheelchair was not paralyzed. I was told that he has a disease akin to ALS but I don't really know. He is also virtually bald - at 16.

These kids compteted and I wish I could say that they won but they didn't. They were very good and made it to the semifinals. It was a long day with a quite a bit of down time between matches so I got the chance to talk to both of them. There they were not just not sitting in the house feeling sorry for themselves, but out competing in front of close to a hundred of their peers. I just thought to myself "How the **** can you just sit around feeling sorry for yourself and thinking about just throwing in the towel when you see such amazing acts of inner strength? I don't mean that b/c they are handicapped they are strong. I mean that they get out and live their lives despite of their handicaps. They know everyone stares. They know everyone is uncomfortable around them at first but they soldier on. I know that this is getting way off topic, but I thought that I had to share this.

I will say again that I have not made peace with baldness I have not even come close to being comfortable with it. I wake up every morning and the two or three seconds I have before remembering that I have shaved my head are the only misery free seconds of my day. But if these kids can soldier on, I mean I have to stop this. We all do. We can not allow this to ruin our lives. I am talking just as much to myself as I am to anyone else.

Where did you post it,which thread?
I believe society would be better and more understanding if they stopped these hair advertisement on tv. When i goto the gym ,rogaine is every other commercial. Also they should stop pushing attractiveness as the best quality in people. Thats why these high school kids are so insane about looks and judgemental..
Jack how often do you shave your head to keep that style? I think I'm gonna go for that look also with the goutie.

[dgman21]

Where did you post it,which thread?
I believe society would be better and more understanding if they stopped these hair advertisement on tv. When i goto the gym ,rogaine is every other commercial. Also they should stop pushing attractiveness as the best quality in people. Thats why these high school kids are so insane about looks and judgemental..
Jack how often do you shave your head to keep that style? I think I'm gonna go for that look also with the goutie.

[Don'tDoIt]

Jack, you are right. You are never going to find another woman like Elissa. You are going to find someone better.

[Jack21]

My sister used to always tell me not to get mixed up with beautiful girls b.c they know they're beautiful and tend to be on the bitchy side. Elissa didn't leave me b.c. I was losing my hair. She left me b/c I became obsessed with my hair among a lot of other things. The army left me with some psychological baggage obviously. I hate labelling but if Elissa was a 9 or a 10 the girl I went out with last night was a 4 or maybe 5 but she was really, really nice. Maybe this is an eye opener. Like I said before I didn't even give the poor girl the time of day before last week. Its not all about outward appearances. Our society does put way too much stock in outward appearance, but we balding men aree not shunned or treated like many minorities were/ have been in this country for centuries. We get made fun of b/c laughing at baldness is still accepted. It sux but it really could be a lot worse. Did you see my post about the kids at the acamedic contest?

Thanks for the support thats very helpful.

Jack21 as for Elissa,I understand the feeling but if we can get our self confidence back and all stick together we can get women like that.
I know style is important too as in how you dress. I'm trying to stay positive..

[dgman21]

Thanks for the support thats very helpful.

Jack21 as for Elissa,I understand the feeling but if we can get our self confidence back and all stick together we can get women like that.
I know style is important too as in how you dress. I'm trying to stay positive..

[Jack21]

solidarity

Well you sure as hell aren't the only one going through this misery associated with hair loss. Its good to have a small group to talk about this stuff with. Its not ****ed up when you realize that you are not alone. Some people handle this with surprising ease and well then there are us.

I have been venting and upset for a long time about this hairloss. It feels comforting to talk with people that understand. I wish there was hairloss anonymous meetings. I actually goto aa meetings to help with this but it doesn't seem to be working...Its fcked up isn't it. But I really need to talk with other guys to see how to get passed this bullshit!

[Jack21]

So when I looked like this:



My wife looked like this:



I am not going to ever find another woman like Elissa, although she was a real bitch.

I honestly dont believe you have to lower your sights regarding women. I started receeding at 20! My worst nightmare was to be comb - over man........ so i shaved it bald.....im talking bic bald. Im now 31..... from the age of 23 to 30 i was with a gorgeous girl and in that time i never even thought about my hair...just shaved it at the end of the day and that was that. Whilst i was seeing her i was 'approached' by other decent to good looking women too.
Since i split with her i have 'seen' another 10 women.... and none of them were ugly.... i would say for the sake of arguing they were all decent to good looking again (none below a 6, most 7/8 out of 10).
Its only recently i have even been concerned about my hair loss ( im a norwood 4/5!) and i occassionally come onto the forums to see if anything new is happening. I guess if a truly scarless HT was possible i might consider it as it would give me more options.....but apart from that im pretty much happy.
Jack21 - By the way, i would consider myself no better looking than you..... i just stand tall when i go out because at the end of the day im not settling for a second rate life.
P.S.... i sent you a private message with some ideas : )

[Don'tDoIt]

I have been venting and upset for a long time about this hairloss. It feels comforting to talk with people that understand. I wish there was hairloss anonymous meetings. I actually goto aa meetings to help with this but it doesn't seem to be working...Its fcked up isn't it. But I really need to talk with other guys to see how to get passed this bullshit!

dgman, hang in there. My guess is that you look just fine. It is OK to be bald, or have diffuse thinning, or to have a receding hairline. You are so much more than just your hair. Your personality, brains and overall presence go far beyond your hair. Be grateful for the gifts that you have been given. You deserve a good life and eventually you will have one!

[dgman21]

I have been venting and upset for a long time about this hairloss. It feels comforting to talk with people that understand. I wish there was hairloss anonymous meetings. I actually goto aa meetings to help with this but it doesn't seem to be working...Its fcked up isn't it. But I really need to talk with other guys to see how to get passed this bullshit!

[jooder]

I honestly dont believe you have to lower your sights regarding women. I started receeding at 20! My worst nightmare was to be comb - over man........ so i shaved it bald.....im talking bic bald. Im now 31..... from the age of 23 to 30 i was with a gorgeous girl and in that time i never even thought about my hair...just shaved it at the end of the day and that was that. Whilst i was seeing her i was 'approached' by other decent to good looking women too.
Since i split with her i have 'seen' another 10 women.... and none of them were ugly.... i would say for the sake of arguing they were all decent to good looking again (none below a 6, most 7/8 out of 10).
Its only recently i have even been concerned about my hair loss ( im a norwood 4/5!) and i occassionally come onto the forums to see if anything new is happening. I guess if a truly scarless HT was possible i might consider it as it would give me more options.....but apart from that im pretty much happy.
Jack21 - By the way, i would consider myself no better looking than you..... i just stand tall when i go out because at the end of the day im not settling for a second rate life.
P.S.... i sent you a private message with some ideas : )

[dgman21]

I know exactly what your talking about lowering standards of outside appearance in women...Its more from the inside..Most of the time in my experience the really goodlooking women are Bitches

[Jack21]

thanks very very much

Thanks for your insight and comments. I really appreciate it. I mean I really, really do. If it hadn't been for the support from you guys on here I would never have gone out last night.

Jack, I have agreed with you about how bad transplants can be for some people, but now I have to agree with Jooder.

You still look good. Heck, you are easily better looking than I am. Find a girl and start a family. Life can still be good. Life WILL be good. Take it from me, a guy who wishes that he had your good looks!

[Jack21]

Yes, Jooder, you are right. The terrible lack of self esteem certainly comes across. Its in my eyes, my posture. It is so obvious. I'll try and act more like Rich. I think that its going to take time. I am still only in the second week of facing the world with the shaved head. I did actually go out last night with a girl from work. This is a terrible thing to say but when I still had hair I would never have gone out with a girl like that. Look how superficial I am. Terrible! But we went to a comedy show, had a few drinks, and I had a good time. She's a really nice girl and until last week I never even gave her the time of day because I was the guy who had been married to a gorgeous model - who was a total bitch btw. I am starting to learn about not allowing appearances to dictate our lives. I will try to smile and act more like Rich. Part of this means not hiding behind the ball cap b/c when it comes off its straight back to that miserable "I wish I was dead" look. Thanks for the comments guys. Really appreciate it.

Jack21- You are seriously letting this shit get on top of you. Your second pic is a prime example of why people say bald men are not attractive to females. The posture and miserable, non smiling look would put most women off! Why would anybody be attracted to a shell of a man??
This is not an attack on you.....im just trying to point out how your own lack of self esteem is coming across....and from one pic i can tell that!
Your a good looking man with a serious lack of self esteem. Study your friend with the bald head....does he have a cowering posture?...does he look miserable?...does he never smile. I think you will find that he does the exact opposite of these. Study other bald men who , in your eyes, are either good looking or happy people. I guarantee all of them will walk tall, smile and laugh and have a prescence about them.......much the same a happy people with hair funnily enough!
Do yourself a favour, dont listen to the 'fixed by 35's of this world....the man is suffering from depression! Copy your frinds attitude to life