new guy feel so unhappy

[Don'tDoIt]

Jack, I have agreed with you about how bad transplants can be for some people, but now I have to agree with Jooder.

You still look good. Heck, you are easily better looking than I am. Find a girl and start a family. Life can still be good. Life WILL be good. Take it from me, a guy who wishes that he had your good looks!

[jooder]

Jack21- You are seriously letting this shit get on top of you. Your second pic is a prime example of why people say bald men are not attractive to females. The posture and miserable, non smiling look would put most women off! Why would anybody be attracted to a shell of a man??
This is not an attack on you.....im just trying to point out how your own lack of self esteem is coming across....and from one pic i can tell that!
Your a good looking man with a serious lack of self esteem. Study your friend with the bald head....does he have a cowering posture?...does he look miserable?...does he never smile. I think you will find that he does the exact opposite of these. Study other bald men who , in your eyes, are either good looking or happy people. I guarantee all of them will walk tall, smile and laugh and have a prescence about them.......much the same a happy people with hair funnily enough!
Do yourself a favour, dont listen to the 'fixed by 35's of this world....the man is suffering from depression! Copy your frinds attitude to life

[Jack21]

Well thanks jooder. Obviously the miserable look of depression and the hunched shoulders don't help. If I had more support like yours I would be doing a lot better. My beard needs a trim too. I thank you and hope that I can find more support from my family. My best friend is in my corner but that's about it.

Jack21- I really dont know where you are looking to see such a drastic difference. You look just as good in the second pic as you do in the first! The only difference i can see is the hunched shoulders 'im ashamed of myself' type stance.Honestly, you look absolutely fine!

[jooder]

Jack21- I really dont know where you are looking to see such a drastic difference. You look just as good in the second pic as you do in the first! The only difference i can see is the hunched shoulders 'im ashamed of myself' type stance.Honestly, you look absolutely fine!

[Jack21]

great idea!

Jump on that. Get one of those nice big Sephardic yarmakas. What can anyone say? Take it off? Tell em to take a look at the Consitution. Maybe you'd really end up orthodox and inner peace would allow you to come to terms with balding.

Or being Jewish like me and wish I can wear a yarmakah always..Maybe I should become orthodox! The picture of you looks good.

[dgman21]

Or being Jewish like me and wish I can wear a yarmakah always..Maybe I should become orthodox! The picture of you looks good.

[Jack21]

I don't know if I was happier about making sgt. or having a beret to cover my balding pate. I wish I could just wear a beret to work everyday. It such a tiny, tiny thing but it would make life SO much better. Sometimes I think about some of the countries I've been posted in and all the men wearing keffiyah. Wouldn't it be nice if a head covering was part of western culture? We'd instantly be a thousand times happier.

[Jack21]

cruelty

I should add that he's the only person who has said "good for you for shaving your head" (not in those exact words, but you get the gist). Everybody else looks at me in horror and says "Jack, why did you do that?" my family included. When even your parents are appalled by your appearance and suggest that you do something to hide it what the hell are your chances of making peace with it? 1 person in is my corner and the rest of the world is telling me to "Please put a hat on" or "just go to hair club". Its been 1 week of work with my shaved head and it is really, really miserable but I am positive that after enough time has passed people will get used to it. I tried this before and only lasted a couple of weeks. This is going to take months if not a year. I throw a hat on every chance I get so its fine away from work but I spend 9 hours a day 5 or 6 days a week at work. The hazing that I had to endure in the army when I was moved to a veteran rifle company was horrible. Combat was terrifying and I would be lying if I said that it doesn't still screw with my emotions. But this, the disdain shown to a man b/c he is now ugly and used to be good looking - I just can't understand it. It is the worst I have ever felt in my life. I just want to go back into the army but with my injuries I'd be sitting behind a desk which is the one thing that is worse than death - worse even than this. At least I still have my honor even if my hair is gone.

This was then.



This is now. It is tough to look at the two next to each other.

[Jack21]

My best friend has a shaved head. He started losing his hair in college and just started shaving it. He is married, has 2 kids, and is just about the most self confident guy I know. People might say "Oh well he's African American, and all African American guys look good with shaved heads." I've "met" online plenty of African American men who are just as devestated about hair loss as people of any other ethnicity. But he sure as hell isn't - or he does a damned good job of pretending to not mind.

A lot of people you see on TV 'cover up' and fair play to them.

I see bald men going about their daily lives but if you look at the younger ones most of them avoid eye contact and seldom smile. When I meet a happy person with premature hair loss I'll consider changing my views.

[dgman21]

Fixed,
Are you suggesting every young bald guy just kill themselves?? Life after death can be a lot worse,right? Then you definitely won't have a chance of curing baldness...

[Fixed by 35]

A lot of people you see on TV 'cover up' and fair play to them.

I see bald men going about their daily lives but if you look at the younger ones most of them avoid eye contact and seldom smile. When I meet a happy person with premature hair loss I'll consider changing my views.

[Jack21]

loss and depression

wow! For years I thought that there was something SERIOUSLY wrong with me for feeling so depressed about hair loss. I can't believe how many other people are so affected by it. I am not saying that I have learned to accept it b/c I haven't, but I see dozens of bald men everyday going about their lives - at the grocery store, at work, even on television (well really just 1 or 2 out of the hundreds of faces I see on the TV/ every week but still there are some). The custodian of my apartment complex has a prosthetic leg and he wears shorts everyday. If someone can lose a leg and wear shorts in public everyday SURELY we can all learn to accept losing our hair.

I disagree. If there was no hope or prospect of an effective treatment, I wouldn't be here by now. I'd have given up on life long ago and either be dead or living rough.

[Fixed by 35]

I disagree. If there was no hope or prospect of an effective treatment, I wouldn't be here by now. I'd have given up on life long ago and either be dead or living rough.

[Jack21]

I always say that I wish that I had never discovered toppik, that I had never heard a commercial for HT. If it were something that I could do absolutely nothing about it would be easier to accept. I mean I cannot change what color my eyes are or how tall I am. I just accept these things. Maybe I would like to be 6'5 but I'm not and never will be so I accept my height.

Your not a hypocrite,,unfortunately this is all we can do until cloning

Accept the things we cannot change and learn how to live with the things that we can!

[dgman21]

Your not a hypocrite,,unfortunately this is all we can do until cloning

Accept the things we cannot change and learn how to live with the things that we can!