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With balding this young that's treatment resistant to both minoxidil and finasteride, there is little chance of making it to 30 with even close to a full head of hair. Even if dutasteride works exceptionally well (which is highly unlikely given the rate you're progressing even with fin+min), its only going to buy you a few years before you're back to where you are now or worse. More realistically it will either slow loss or do nothing. It may even make it worse since you may be susceptible to hyperandrogenicity
So will you be happy with your current hair or worse for the next 3 years? Cause if you're not going to be happy like that, then you need to seriously reassess your plan for how to be happy in the next years of your finite life. fighting something that's inevitably going to happen, at significant cost, time, mental effort with possible side effects is not a strategy thats actually going to work.
I'm not going to lie and say losing your hair doesn't suck, but its primarily the process of losing hair and the feeling of powerlessness that sucks. Being bald is basically fine. Once you've accepted it you stop thinking about it. Know how little you thought about other peoples baldness before you were balding? That's how little you'll think about it once you're embraced it. You can find plenty of bald guys with great lives so being miserable over being bald is just a way to avoid improving the things in life you can change.
Killing your DHT can also effect your beard/body hair development, which you'll need to help balance out your face. Bald + stubble/beard looks way better than bald + no facial hair. The kind of women who are attracted to bald guys tend to be into the manly look so they're usually into beards and hairy chests too.
Even if you think somehow you can't be one of the millions of successful, happy bald people, there's still nothing you can do about it. So your only choice is to either feel sorry for yourself, which makes you even less attractive and encourages you to let life pass you by and blame all your problems on something you can't change, or you can accept it and focus on the things you can change.
The longer you fight it, the more resources and emotion you dump into fighting it the harder it will be to accept it.
BTW based on your last picture your hair is too thin to really pull off the "young, full head of hair look" but it looks easily dense enough to pull off a buzzcut, which will make your thinning a lot less noticeable. It will also stop messing with your internal monologue when you should be focused in the moment, you won't be worried about how your hair looks when its wet or viewed from a certain angle, you won't be fiddling with it which draws peoples attention to it. You'll also learn not to associate your value or appearance with hair but with other aspects of yourself. Buzzing your hair (I'd recommend number 1 or no-guard) can easily buy you a few more years of passable hair, which will help a lot since in your early 20s hair is still more of a big deal for some girls. By your late twenties/early 30s its far less of an issue and you'll be ready to embrace the full bald look.
Yeah its way easier to say than do, and getting over insecurity is still a struggle even when you're engaged in accepting what you have instead of fighting it, but its really the only viable option to be happy about that hand you're dealt in life. If you fight something you can't change you will always be unhappy about it.
As for people commenting on your hair, this is partly because thinning hair looks bad (Full head of hair > Buzzcut/Bald > Balding head of hair, especially on a young guy) and partly because anything that marks you as different at your age will be made fun of by other young bucks looking to assert their dominance. Those who are sensitive and get upset are demonstrating that they feel inferior, those who laugh it off show that they're confident in their value and position in the group.
By obsessing about your hair you're painting a massive target on your back for people to poke fun at if they're looking to knock you down a peg. Just look at how Donald Trumps hair is treated vs Bernie Sanders. Everyone jokes about Trumps hair even though he's "got a full head of hair". Bernie Sanders baldness is basically never mocked because he's not trying to hide it.
Sanders hair doesn't look any better than Trumps, in fact it probably looks worse, but he's not attempting to be something he's not so no one even thinks of making fun of him about it because its not a big deal. Trumps hair is only a big deal because he's made it a big deal. He's not being mocked for balding, he's mocked for being vain and insecure and pretending.
So will you be happy with your current hair or worse for the next 3 years? Cause if you're not going to be happy like that, then you need to seriously reassess your plan for how to be happy in the next years of your finite life. fighting something that's inevitably going to happen, at significant cost, time, mental effort with possible side effects is not a strategy thats actually going to work.
I'm not going to lie and say losing your hair doesn't suck, but its primarily the process of losing hair and the feeling of powerlessness that sucks. Being bald is basically fine. Once you've accepted it you stop thinking about it. Know how little you thought about other peoples baldness before you were balding? That's how little you'll think about it once you're embraced it. You can find plenty of bald guys with great lives so being miserable over being bald is just a way to avoid improving the things in life you can change.
Killing your DHT can also effect your beard/body hair development, which you'll need to help balance out your face. Bald + stubble/beard looks way better than bald + no facial hair. The kind of women who are attracted to bald guys tend to be into the manly look so they're usually into beards and hairy chests too.
Even if you think somehow you can't be one of the millions of successful, happy bald people, there's still nothing you can do about it. So your only choice is to either feel sorry for yourself, which makes you even less attractive and encourages you to let life pass you by and blame all your problems on something you can't change, or you can accept it and focus on the things you can change.
The longer you fight it, the more resources and emotion you dump into fighting it the harder it will be to accept it.
BTW based on your last picture your hair is too thin to really pull off the "young, full head of hair look" but it looks easily dense enough to pull off a buzzcut, which will make your thinning a lot less noticeable. It will also stop messing with your internal monologue when you should be focused in the moment, you won't be worried about how your hair looks when its wet or viewed from a certain angle, you won't be fiddling with it which draws peoples attention to it. You'll also learn not to associate your value or appearance with hair but with other aspects of yourself. Buzzing your hair (I'd recommend number 1 or no-guard) can easily buy you a few more years of passable hair, which will help a lot since in your early 20s hair is still more of a big deal for some girls. By your late twenties/early 30s its far less of an issue and you'll be ready to embrace the full bald look.
Yeah its way easier to say than do, and getting over insecurity is still a struggle even when you're engaged in accepting what you have instead of fighting it, but its really the only viable option to be happy about that hand you're dealt in life. If you fight something you can't change you will always be unhappy about it.
As for people commenting on your hair, this is partly because thinning hair looks bad (Full head of hair > Buzzcut/Bald > Balding head of hair, especially on a young guy) and partly because anything that marks you as different at your age will be made fun of by other young bucks looking to assert their dominance. Those who are sensitive and get upset are demonstrating that they feel inferior, those who laugh it off show that they're confident in their value and position in the group.
By obsessing about your hair you're painting a massive target on your back for people to poke fun at if they're looking to knock you down a peg. Just look at how Donald Trumps hair is treated vs Bernie Sanders. Everyone jokes about Trumps hair even though he's "got a full head of hair". Bernie Sanders baldness is basically never mocked because he's not trying to hide it.
Sanders hair doesn't look any better than Trumps, in fact it probably looks worse, but he's not attempting to be something he's not so no one even thinks of making fun of him about it because its not a big deal. Trumps hair is only a big deal because he's made it a big deal. He's not being mocked for balding, he's mocked for being vain and insecure and pretending.
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