Coping with Hair Loss in Every Day Life

[Maradona]

Ay, ****. Shouldn't be having to think about this on my birthday. Thanks for the support regardless, guys. Been a rough year sort of.

Im really afraid of the future im shedding like a mofo, looking myself in the mirror is gonna be so ****ing depressing.

I think it just better to shave it all off and not having to look at a high ass hairline.

Gotta love the winter though!!

PS: you guys should come to the chat of tomorrow's bald truth show and suggest Spencer for a subforum. A sub forum like this could really help some of us get through this much easier and even EMBRACE the baldness which is what I'm trying to do....

Happy birthday bro ! srry for being late :S, sure there are still things we can appreciate : ), hope you enjoyed it.

[clandestine]

Im really afraid of the future im shedding like a mofo, looking myself in the mirror is gonna be so ****ing depressing.

I think it just better to shave it all off and not having to look at a high ass hairline.

Gotta love the winter though!!

PS: you guys should come to the chat of tomorrow's bald truth show and suggest Spencer for a subforum. A sub forum like this could really help some of us get through this much easier and even EMBRACE the baldness which is what I'm trying to do....

Happy birthday bro ! srry for being late :S, sure there are still things we can appreciate : ), hope you enjoyed it.

Much love, mate. Ended up wearing a hat for a bit of it, but didn't in other occasions! About half and half, or a little less than half without hat, a little more with.

Great suggestion, by the way.

[itssomuchfun]

I think the hardest thing about hair loss has been my perceptions on dating and love. My hair loss was slow and pretty much unnoticed until a long-term relationship of mine ended. Since then it's been pretty rapid for almost 8 months now. It's made me feel like hell because I've never been all that confident and now with hair loss it's hard for me to remain realistic about finding someone for the future. It's the idea that you'll be disqualified by so many people you meet. That's true before hair loss as people are attracted to a certain build or height, but as others have mentioned, hair loss just seems to come out of nowhere and drastically change the way you look. You had a whole lifetime to get used to your height and build and those are likely to change, but your hair does. Does anyone else feel that their thoughts about relationships are the hardest thing to overcome?

[NotBelievingIt]

I think the hardest thing about hair loss has been my perceptions on dating and love. My hair loss was slow and pretty much unnoticed until a long-term relationship of mine ended. Since then it's been pretty rapid for almost 8 months now. It's made me feel like hell because I've never been all that confident and now with hair loss it's hard for me to remain realistic about finding someone for the future. It's the idea that you'll be disqualified by so many people you meet. That's true before hair loss as people are attracted to a certain build or height, but as others have mentioned, hair loss just seems to come out of nowhere and drastically change the way you look. You had a whole lifetime to get used to your height and build and those are likely to change, but your hair does. Does anyone else feel that their thoughts about relationships are the hardest thing to overcome?

I feel similar.

I've had few relationships and the most recent one, while it ended badly, it didn't end "badly"...heh

But what sucks is, right after that I started looking through pics to put on match.com and thats when it dawned on me I'm losing my hair...and I swear, it has accelerated since..or maybe its just that I'm actually paying attention to my hair more now.

That connection of a relationship ending at the same time discovering my hair loss will never be forgotten unfortunately, I hate that it has been made in my mind also.

What really stinks is that I'm at a point in my life where its beginning to actually matter to me - wanting to find love and a life mate.

[mnx]

I agree this deserves a sub forum. I'm the sort of person who usually conceals his feelings, but I feel gutted at the prospect of losing my hair. Plus with the relative anonymity of the web, what is the use of hiding your pain and keeping a noble silence.

As for relationships, yeah it is a concern. Truth is I asked a girl out a week ago in the midst of my hair loss anxiety and had a real nice time. I feel like my anxiety of the hair loss is a shadow that is threatening my enjoyment of life though. I didn't affect me too much during the date, but I've been so overwhelmed with anxiety and depression that I am afraid it is going to spoil what could be a nice thing going on.

[NotBelievingIt]

I didn't affect me too much during the date

I don't mean to sound rude or anything, but of course it didn't!

For the same reason when I go to my local indoor climbing gym my hair doesn't even enter my mind. I'm so focused on something I enjoy that requires, well, focus heh, that I simply end up not caring about my own hair. This is a good thing. Yes, its always "there" in the back of my mind (evidenced by the fact I notice the balding/bald guys at the gym and the kids with huge amounts of hair) but it doesn't enter my active train of thought.

, but I've been so overwhelmed with anxiety and depression that I am afraid it is going to spoil what could be a nice thing going on.

I'm beginning to realize that the biggest problem we have is a wandering mind. When there is nothing to focus our minds, "hair" comes front and center. Often times this is a mental thing that needs to be overcome.

Monday was a great day for me, I didn't "think" about it at all. Tuesday though? For whatever reason it got into my head on the way into work and just wouldn't leave.

In some ways this forum is good, and others its terrible because it makes us think about the very thing we wish we wouldn't obsess about.

[mnx]

I don't mean to sound rude or anything, but of course it didn't!

For the same reason when I go to my local indoor climbing gym my hair doesn't even enter my mind. I'm so focused on something I enjoy that requires, well, focus heh, that I simply end up not caring about my own hair. This is a good thing. Yes, its always "there" in the back of my mind (evidenced by the fact I notice the balding/bald guys at the gym and the kids with huge amounts of hair) but it doesn't enter my active train of thought.



I'm beginning to realize that the biggest problem we have is a wandering mind. When there is nothing to focus our minds, "hair" comes front and center. Often times this is a mental thing that needs to be overcome.

Monday was a great day for me, I didn't "think" about it at all. Tuesday though? For whatever reason it got into my head on the way into work and just wouldn't leave.

In some ways this forum is good, and others its terrible because it makes us think about the very thing we wish we wouldn't obsess about.

You're right on both counts. To be honest I think I need to stay off this site and stop thinking about my hair.

[tbtadmin]

As requested we've started a new forum category dedicated to the topic of "Coping With Hair Loss In Everyday Life." Learning to deal with the emotional aspects of hair loss is a big part of our daily struggle and we hope this new addition to the forum provides a place to gain strength and inspiration from others.

[Tracy C]

I'm finding myself having second thoughts if friends ask me out somewhere. If I don't fix this I fear I will become a hairless hermit!

Don't do that. I did that for a decade. I will never get that decade back. Find a way to live with it so you can live your life. I know it's hard but trust me, it can be done.

[clandestine]

As requested we've started a new forum category dedicated to the topic of "Coping With Hair Loss In Everyday Life." Learning to deal with the emotional aspects of hair loss is a big part of our daily struggle and we hope this new addition to the forum provides a place gain strength and inspiration from others.

Incredible. Thank you, from all of us around the forums.

[clandestine]

Went the whole weekend without wearing a hat! Figure it better not to hide what hair I have. Little battles; make small daily progress.

[chrisis]

Had a good weekend myself, someone complimented me on my hair and how it looked good in a quiff. For him it was probably a casual remark, but it made my night. Last time someone made a comment was to say it was receded, but I think combination of the minoxidil helping thicken the hairline and learning to style it better has helped a lot.

[jgold]

I don't know if this will help any of you but it realllly helped me and is still helping me get over the hair loss sadness.

ONE DAY YOU ARE NOT GOING TO BE HERE, ON EARTH, AND YOU WILL NOT BE ABLE TO LIVE IN THIS LIFE AND BE A HUMAN BEING.

I know this is something that almost everyone thinks about, but really let it marinate. Really let it soak in. Everything around you is gong to be gone one day and you will never be able to get it back, ever. The people around you, the earth, the beauty.

This simple thought helps me in almost every situation and really has helped me to overcome my fears. Try it out. Hopefully it will really influence you to have a positive outlook on almost everything. I hope.

[Maradona]

I don't know if this will help any of you but it realllly helped me and is still helping me get over the hair loss sadness.

ONE DAY YOU ARE NOT GOING TO BE HERE, ON EARTH, AND YOU WILL NOT BE ABLE TO LIVE IN THIS LIFE AND BE A HUMAN BEING.

I know this is something that almost everyone thinks about, but really let it marinate. Really let it soak in. Everything around you is gong to be gone one day and you will never be able to get it back, ever. The people around you, the earth, the beauty.

This simple thought helps me in almost every situation and really has helped me to overcome my fears. Try it out. Hopefully it will really influence you to have a positive outlook on almost everything. I hope.

Extremly good advice, my broseph !

[clandestine]

Turned down going out tonight. Partially cause I could do some work, moreso because I've been feeling really down about my hair loss these last couple days. Had a terrible dream last night that involved hair loss, as well. ****, etc.

It's Friday, everyone is out. I feel so sorry for my self; I know this is wrong, only further perpetuates my depressive state. Not coping well as of late.