I can't imagine ever being happy again

[I hate this]

I feel u dude I'm getting.closer.N closer tosuicide everyday not many people understand n not every guy can look good people don't understand the permanent shame humiliation the sense of feeling inferior the mocky the inadequate life opportunities the change of ur sprite a once can conquer anything and a feeling of being free is replaced with self hate feeling weak less appealing. I gave up my life I quit everything I don't take care of myself at all.cuz of this to.the.people that say acting this way won't get u a girl I say I couldn't get a girl when I was handsome N had money n n loved myself n had confidence this is about our own self satisfaction of our own perceived image that represents our character its a deseise that hinder a n alters ur life makes things rougher n worst of all no one sees it as an issue and no one thinks it as big.as.it is they hear people.sad about n look at them.with belittlment n think we are just be I.g wimps or cacti.g ridiculous over hair but the contrast it hold on the average face is so devastating to ur looks when it gone so give.majority if bald man look old n bitter some.might look.Good but that's a select few

[Trouse5858]

I've only ever commented on the cutting edge section but I felt like I needed to respond to this threat because of how depressed I am at the moment. What's funny to me is that everyone here seems to make the connection between baldness and old age, or a lack of youth. Honestly, I see plenty of guys who are bald and look plenty young to me, but maybe that's just a reflection of my own situation. My hairloss doesn't make me look older, it just makes me look considerably worse. An unthinkable combination is that my skin has been getting worse and worse for the better part of a couple years. So not only am I short (5'8), I'm balding pretty rapidly in a diffuse manner and I have bad skin. Like seriously, how much of a sadistic asshol.e must I have been in my past life right??

Balding has ruined me in a way that I could never have imagined. It's taken my self-esteem hostage and I don't see myself ever realizing the confidence I had when I was a teenager. I sometimes sit around and fantasize about the horrific things that I would gladly put myself through if I could just get my hair back. Waterboarding, anal rape, a year of solitary confinement: you name it. I'm not even kidding, I would jump at the chance to make any of these trade-offs. If it is even remotely socially acceptable to wear a hat, I've got one on.

As someone else mentioned, the hardest part is just knowing that barring some remarkable advancements in hairloss treatments, I will never again be able to get out of the shower and start off my day thinking I look good. That's a truly horrible realization that I wouldn't wish on anyone. I just got invited to a wedding next year because two of my friends are tying the knot down south and one of the first things I thought about was how I was probably going to be the only "friend" who was bald. I'm only 25, this is the first wedding I get to go to where I will be able to party my face off and the first thing I think about is my goddamn vertex. Like I could buy a $5,000 Italian tailored suit, have a two week Caribbean tan and be coming off a steroid cycle and I am going to look worse than just about every guy there who has a full head of lettuce to rock. It's a poisonous mind-set that I just can't shake. (That was longer than I anticipated, sorry for ranting...)

[GNX]

really? well I can assure it aint attracting any girls either..... would u be attracted to a chic who was balding? no i didn't think so. so why wud u think women wud be attracted to a balding man? their not! and its simply a sign of old age and there is nothn youthful about a balding guy.

yea yea yea I know there a exceptions to every rule but the rule is young hot chics in general are NOT attracted to balding dudes PERIOD!

That's the true people need to understand that hair doesn't bring you girls.

[alex777]

That's the true people need to understand that hair doesn't bring you girls.

Yet it is a sign of being young and healthy, is it not? To me it seems that as you're aging, hairloss will emphasise and speed up you getting out of that league. I guess I'm being too dramatic and generalising, but a 19yo girl with a bald dude is either sugar-daddy kind of relationship, or just not happening. Either way, doesn't look natural.

[kadze]

I perfectly understand that majority of guys don't benefit from balding. But honestly, you are turning your own lives into hell.

self-pity will destroy you

[keebler239]

One of the hardest parts of hairloss is not knowing where that loss will end up. Hairloss doesn't become psychologically difficult ONCE your bald, it's hard throughout. Sometimes the calm before the storm can be so much worse. You spend that time convincing yourself it'll be an impossible storm; when the reality is it might not be so bad. But during that time, you'll torture yourself.
The paranoia of hairloss, whether it's a NW2 or 5, it still hits everyone.

It is not a competition. Period.

I also think that there's something about the finality of it - Knowing that you'll probably never get your hair back and be stuck with very few options for the rest of your life (Unless some kind of miracle treatment comes out soon). As a young man this can be devastating. I know that's what bothers me most. Also, there are many people who are OK bald, but look much better with hair so it can still be a downer.

[LogicalBald068]

I do appreciate to not giving up Hair loss is something which we can not say anytime when it will end up. We can not predict the future about hair loss or fall but we can reduce the worries and anxiety for which hair loss is one of the significant reason

[fred970]

One of the hardest parts of hairloss is not knowing where that loss will end up. Hairloss doesn't become psychologically difficult ONCE your bald, it's hard throughout. Sometimes the calm before the storm can be so much worse. You spend that time convincing yourself it'll be an impossible storm; when the reality is it might not be so bad. But during that time, you'll torture yourself.
The paranoia of hairloss, whether it's a NW2 or 5, it still hits everyone.

It is not a competition. Period.

You're completely right. And I'll tell you now, it's not as horrible as you think it will be. I know, I have been in both states (balding and worrying how it will be, and then actually bald).

You think that when you're going to be bald, it's going to be the end of the world. Well I was bald, at 22, and it wasn't the end of the world. Sure it sucked a lot for some social situations.

But besides a minority of men and women (I tried to date) being extremely harsh, my life was still going globally well. So I can tell as someone who has been on both sides of the fence:

NW2's are wrong to worry so much about the future. You still have hair, enjoy it, and when you don't have it anymore, you'll just get rejected by girls a lot more and mocked by random assholes.

That's all. But still, it made me want to have a hair transplant, because I didn't want to be looking over my shoulder for yet another insult from someone.

[Not giving up]

It's not, NW5 and NW2.5 are worlds apart. You say I should feel bad for still being NW2.5? Hell I don't, I think my hair line is badass and I love my current shaved look.

But to compare that to a slick shiny infinite forehead NW5? It doesn't compare really. People who agonize over anything under a NW3 should learn something called perspective.

One of the hardest parts of hairloss is not knowing where that loss will end up. Hairloss doesn't become psychologically difficult ONCE your bald, it's hard throughout. Sometimes the calm before the storm can be so much worse. You spend that time convincing yourself it'll be an impossible storm; when the reality is it might not be so bad. But during that time, you'll torture yourself.
The paranoia of hairloss, whether it's a NW2 or 5, it still hits everyone.

It is not a competition. Period.

[fred970]

I'm sorry you feel that way but any hairloss at all is devastating to many.

Also I hopefully won't ever go bald. I'm tolerating finasteride 1.25mg a day and 5% minox twice a day very well so with that combination odds are I gain rather than lose while waiting for future treatments.

It's not, NW5 and NW2.5 are worlds apart. You say I should feel bad for still being NW2.5? Hell I don't, I think my hair line is badass and I love my current shaved look.

But to compare that to a slick shiny infinite forehead NW5? It doesn't compare really. People who agonize over anything under a NW3 should learn something called perspective.

[BaldingEagle]

This, for god's sake I was a slick NW5 at 22 years old, and my hair transplant at 24 brought me back to a NW2.5!

This guy has no idea about what the reality of baldness is. I have only one thing to say to that BaldingEagle: wait until you're bald.

I'm sorry you feel that way but any hairloss at all is devastating to many.

Also I hopefully won't ever go bald. I'm tolerating finasteride 1.25mg a day and 5% minox twice a day very well so with that combination odds are I gain rather than lose while waiting for future treatments.

[jamesst11]

This, for god's sake I was a slick NW5 at 22 years old, and my hair transplant at 24 brought me back to a NW2.5!

This guy has no idea about what the reality of baldness is. I have only one thing to say to that BaldingEagle: wait until you're bald.

It's not a f*cking contest you guys... Y'all have so much self pity that whenever some one else has a personal issue, you turn it around on them and make yours SOOOOO much more significant. The "reality" of baldness is different for different people, just as the reality of anything else. You win though Fred... you went super bald at such a young age, and that is obviously worst than anything ANY of us are experiencing on here.

[fred970]

I don't want to be rude or anything, but from my personal perspective (see my previous message), being NW2.5 at 26 and talking about the consequences of hair loss in your life seems more like a joke than anything else. All you have is simply a little more than a mature hairline, which is not unusual in this age.

This, for god's sake I was a slick NW5 at 22 years old, and my hair transplant at 24 brought me back to a NW2.5!

This guy has no idea about what the reality of baldness is. I have only one thing to say to that BaldingEagle: wait until you're bald.

[Onion Knight]

My wife is 21 and I'm 26. She doesn't give a shit about my hair loss.

Too many people worry no girls will want them due to hairloss and becoming depressed.

Look at how many bald men are married.

You don't need hair or money to land a decent girl.

Many girls will turn down a bald man, but shallow whores don't make good wives.

The best thing you can do to attract a girl, or friends for that matter... Be an interesting person. Have things to say. Have skills, build character.

I started losing my hair at 20 and I've never had any issues with women. Sure some girls rejected me, and that happens to literally everyone.

At the end of the day I'm a 26 year old NW 2.5 with a 21 year old wife who's an objective 8-9. I make 40k a year which isn't impressive and I have an average build.

Hair loss sucks I get it, but it doesn't automatically remove you from attaining true happiness.

I sincerely hope you learn to love yourself and be happy.

Best of luck.

That's the true people need to understand that hair doesn't bring you girls.

[Frosty1992]

I have just read this and you have totally hit the nail on the head dude. I'm 23 and I absolutely hate my hair. I have tried to avoid myself in the mirror/reflections, anything to make sure I don't catch a glance at my awful hair. I despise it. I keep hoping with each new product I try, or new technique that my hair will look thicker and fuller. However this never happens. I tried Propecia for two months and I had a huge shed. It scared the life out of me so I stopped it and it has only just made my hair worse. I am at the end of my tether with the way I look and my hair. All I want to do, is look I the mirror and think 'you look good today' however that hasn't happened in a good three years.

I feel your pain man, I really do. Just know that this is a place where you can vent your anger and tell people how you really feel without being judged or discriminated against.

Let's just hope there's a miracle cure soon.