There have been times I've walked into a club and had a girl come up to me, ask me to dance just because I "stood tall". I'm 34, balding, terrible hairline and yet every single time I go out I have women around me. Why, because I talk to them, make them laugh and of course... Buy them drinks. Lol. I have a 25 year old girl that calls me every now and then to hook up. She's very cute, double D's and yet chooses me over guys with NW1's.
Confidence is crucial. The way you walk, talk and compose yourself draws women to you. Hang your head, feel sorry for yourself because you're not a model and girls can sense your weakness.
I wish I had a full head of hair and will continue to work towards having hair again but won't be living on the sidelines just because I'm balding.
An experience I had; dancing with a girl at a club, got her to come home with me because I TOLD her with CONFIDENCE we were going to **** tonight. She said no at 1st but I told her, YES we are and guess who got laid that night... Yep, me!
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This is an interesting discussion we've got going here. I can see everyone's points to a certain agree, although I do not agree with the simple "confidence" part. Confidence needs to stem from something, a person cannot simply be confident for no reason. And in today's increasingly aesthetic society, a person's outer looks are going to matter first and foremost, and will always be the primary factor. Of course, inner qualities will matter once a relationship progresses, but outer looks are what "gets you in the door" and causes that initial attraction that ultimately leads to a relationship. And having a full head of hair is just so integral to a person's outer appearance, a completely difference-maker. Also, a woman's need for physical attraction to her mate never goes away and I guess that is why that woman (no matter how much of an idiot she is) on that loveshack site that Fred linked is starting to look elsewhere. And quite honestly, I would feel terribly awkward if I was in a relationship with a woman who liked me for my kindness and generosity but was not attracted to me physically.
All of this kind of contributes to my dilemma as well. I've been a muscular weight-lifter for a long time and on paper, I'd be the ideal guy who could pull off the shaved head/bad-ass look. But I just cannot bring myself to do it. Despite my size, I am not the most self-assured guy and although I am already depressed due to hair loss, I feel that shaving my head would magnify my depression tenfold.
James, you are right though. Although outer looks really are the primary determining factor, other things do matter. I used to be on a dating website and one girl on there mentioned that she wanted a "bad boy with a good heart". I really feel like that describes me to a T. Although I look intimidating due to my size, and I love rocking out at my metal shows with my long hair, I still always took pride in performing kind gestures for women, showing them my sensitive side, and treating them with kindness and respect. But still, those are all really complementary and secondary things though. Outer looks are still first and foremost. Sometimes I try and convince myself that even if I do shave my head, that I can still get women through my size and muscles. Women do like that sense of security of being with a guy that can protect them, I've had several tell me that in the past but I just cannot bring myself to do it.
Yet I just cannot bring myself to do it, due to some the points I have alluded to in this post.
Lastly, with all due respect, is your hair really that bad, James? I've seen cases of people who have had premature hair transplants yet they still retain a ton of hair.Leave a comment:
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Well, I haven't read all the threads there, but I consider that it is just an opinion of several women. As about the suggestion to divorce, may it is the correct one, because a woman who discusses her husband online and shares her negative feelings towards her partner with absolutely unknown people, is not likely to love him. I think that in this particular case, the problem is not in his baldness, but in the initial absence of love.
Moreover, I think it is just a way to clear herself.Leave a comment:
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Yes. It happens more than you think: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/roma...ed-him-anymoreLeave a comment:
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Fred,
Let me clear a few things up.
1) I never used to word "false", although that you bring that up, I do believe that there are people that act "false" when it comes to relationships
2) How the hell have I "mocked" any one here. I will restate what I said previously so it's more clear and break it down. In the U.S., at least, the MAJORITY of people that frequent clubs are those that are mostly looking to party. It is loud, every one is usually drunk and most of the people are quite young. I apologize if this does not apply to you and your current situation and experiences.
3) Who the f*ck orbits women? I never have and never will be taken advantage of like that. I do nice things for her and she does the same for me.
4) F*cking her is all that matters? No, real women and men in their 30's that want a relationship that lasts don't jump right into sex. I did that throughout my 20's and it complicated things. We pleasure each other in other ways for now, and she goes out of her way to do things that are of absolutely no benefit to herself because she likes me and wants something more (not that any of this is your business).
5) "a healthy romantic relationship without sex? tell me more" O.K. we've been hanging out for 3 weeks bruh, get a grip.
6) NO I have not been bald. I wish every single night that I had progressed into baldness delicately. Instead I was one of those idiots that disfigured himself with a hair transplant because I was thinning and overly vain. Have you ever been disfigured, fred?
Have you ever been forced to wake up every morning spend an hour on your f*cking hair, come it in a way to hide bad hair transplants, plaster it with hair spray and pray your not in a situation involving rain or strong wind?
A woman will resent me when I am truly bald as much as I would resent a woman for having horrible acne or something. It is true though that once you become so enamered by someone, these things may still be somewhat significant, but much less noticeable.Leave a comment:
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I shave my head and I hate how you can still see that my hairline receded pretty badly.
I was pretty surprised to see that my first post on this forum was almost 3 years ago. I could grow my hair out back then no problem. In the past 3 years my hair turned thin and wispy some how. I don't know if it was from the aggressive oil massaging, boar brushing or what.
I almost think it was from the oil massaging.
I have a twin brother and his hair is still thick (his hairline has recession though), he could probably get propecia and a hair transplant which is something I could have done when I first posted on this forum but I chose not to, I didn't think my hair was going to get worse (but that wouldn't have changed my decision either).
I've also been depressed over something for the past 5 years so I wonder if that's what caused my hair to go and my brothers to not.
I don't take treatments because for me, it's all or nothing.
I guess I wouldn't mind being bald if I just could fix my other issues and have a fit body and became good at what I wanted to like running and dance (but I'm having some knee issues right now and I don't have any idea when that's going to be fixed, so that's making me feel extra depressed.)Leave a comment:
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What are FALSE women? Why do you mock women who frequent clubs? Is it because they wouldn't ever give you the time of the day? Probably.
You f*cking her is all that matters. Otherwise you're just her friend, her servant who does all these nice little things for her, and she exploits you, she doesn't respect you enough to have sex with you.
Anyone can become some girl's orbiter. How is that an accomplishment? A healthy romantic relationship without sex? Tell me more.
Bald men in a relationship have been settled for. No woman has "bald" on her shopping list. She will resent you for not having hair.
Have you been bald? Nope, so you can't speak from experience. I can. As soon as you have an argument with her, guess what she attack first?Leave a comment:
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and I will say it ONE more time - PLEASE do not be influenced by Fred's bitterness. Look around you. There ARE several BALD men that have awesome relationships and healthy sex lives with women that actually AREN'T plotting to **** a NW1 behind their back. COMPLETE BULL SH*T.Leave a comment:
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Fred, based on your comments, it just doesn't seem that you know a lot about, yes, REAL women or that you even have that much respect for women. Indeed, I was making a generalization about women that frequent clubs. I am not saying that they are all horrible, shallow, sluts... I am saying that if you are looking for a good woman that you want to DATE, there are several other locations that would be more suitable for your purpose... Secondly, "have I ****ed her yet"??? really, what's wrong with you man? have some f*cking class. Is that all that really matters? I am in my 30's and I left sex being the first priority behind me. I have been in steady, healthy relationships. You are a victim of a very tragic condition dude, we get it, all of us on here are... please stop spreading your negativity and apathy.Leave a comment:
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I'd defiantly say get in shape if you're not. Except yoga. never heard of a woman say, "that guy does yoga, he's hot".
Actually I'd join Crossfit. 60% are women. Afraid of injury? What sport besides yoga doesn't have injuries? Mountain biking is my choice but I do hit the gym.
Youtube alpham subscribe to his channel. He has a wealth of information on how to dress and present yourself. Not implying you don't know how.Leave a comment:
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