Wearing hats....impressions

[JimmyJones]

They view you differently because they haven't assessed you holistically (hair status) with the hat on. Once you take the hat off, not only does it reveal that you are balding, but it may be interpreted that you are ashamed and trying to hide your hair loss (may or may not be the case.) They re-assess you at that time. This is the reason I slick my hair back, don't use concealer, and do nothing to hide my hair loss (only do things to prevent it). I own my hair, and I feel much more comfortable talking to a girl with my diffused receder looking them right back in the face with confidence, as opposed to styling it or wearing a hat to hide it. Let me be explicit that I'm not saying you are hiding anything; you said you are just wearing a hat because it's cold. I'm simply stating that other people will judge you.

I catch myself analyzing people that way. I see guys on campus or at work who are very diffused and try to style their hair to hide it. Sometimes you just have to catch the right angle and other times it's beyond obvious even from many meters away. When I see these people, I see them as pathetic and without self-worth. It's a disgusting way to view people, but I have no way to disconnect myself from that perception. I get the same feeling when I'm with a girl and find out she has a super padded bra -- it's insecurity, and that is a negative trait that transcends gender, age, race, etc.

http://healthland.time.com/2012/09/2...-and-dominant/ Interesting study that kind of highlights my point: Hair is choice, bald has it's own perks, but extreme diffusion just looks like shit.

Oh, one more thing on beanies: I hate them because they mat your hair down. It makes the lack of density egregiously obvious. I'd rather let me head be cold, or I wear hats that have room between them and the scalp, so that my slicked hair can maintain it's shape.

But I guess everyone isn't as confident as you about their hair loss. It's good to say, 'don't give a shit - confront people with your wispy hair in their face but with confidence' but in reality most of us feel like shit and completely insecure with balding. No amount of gusto from anyone else will really help that. You can either live with it or you can't. When i had a full head of hair i could move moutains, i rocked, I was a party animal with a new girl each week. But now, with thinning hair it's a different story and if I don't use fibres for example to conceal it and i am going down an escalator where the people behind me can see my balding, my confidence pisses away.

[Shan]

When I had long hair I used to to wear a cap nearly everyday as it used to keep my hair slicked back, but now I have a buzz cut , I never wear it

[Jcm800]

When I had long hair I used to to wear a cap nearly everyday as it used to keep my hair slicked back, but now I have a buzz cut , I never wear it

Do you have any visible thinning tho?

[Shan]

Do you have any visible thinning tho?

I had slight thinning at tiny mid scalp area that shed with Fin and left a visible patch but came back stronger.