Baldness acceptance from a 25 y/o

[MacB87]

Hey guys! Hope everyone is well, obviously this is my 1st post, so be kind!

I used to read this forum at the height of my baldness woes, maybe two or three years ago, desperatly searching for advice, information and "cures" for my pending baldness.

I started losing my hair at around 20ish, I used to have thick hair, I was confident (a bit too confident), very active, and done well with girls. My dad lost his hair at a young age, so I guess i knew it was coming, but it doesn't exactly cushion the blow. Anyway, I let my hair loss got in the way of my life to the extent that I dropped out of uni because I felt so paranoid, stopped working out and kickboxing because I was using those nano fibres to cover my bald spot, lost so much confidence that I faded into the background during nights out, and I detested getting on pubic transport because I just felt that everyone was staring at my head. I was depressed, I thought about hairloss every minute of the day.

When I was 23 took the plunge and just shaved my head, plucked up some courage and went travelling around Europe. Taking that first step was the hardest, but it does get easier and easier after that. When I shaved my head I honestly felt like a huge weight was off my shoulders, because I think I was just as embarraced about people noticing that I was concealing my baldness as I was about my actual baldness. I no longer had to worry about girls I fancied seeing me in a certain light, or worrying about girls seeing me in the morning. What you see is what you get, if you dont fancy me because I'm bald then that's fine, I'm not attracted to vain people anyway.

Looking back I cant believe how much I let it get in the way of my life. I'm 25, I'm bald, but I'm happy. I still look in the mirror and sometimes think "I'd be damn good looking if I had hair!" but it's just a passing thought now. 25 isn't an abnormal age to be bald, so I honestly dont really care anymore, I'm not going to let it ruin my life.

To anyone dealing with early teen - 20's balding - I was at the depths of depression, I know how it feels. I know not everybody can "just do it" but I think coming to terms with baldness it better than any operation or drug. If you are struggling to cope in your current environment then GET OUT, go travelling, do some volunteering and you'll meet people from alternative lifestyles who wouldn't waste a second to question your appearance. Working out helped me a lot because it not only improves you physically, but mentally too because of the chemicals excercise releases.

I hope this is of some help to some people. I just want to let you know that there is light at the end of the tunnel no matter how depressed you are about your hair now! I was at the exact same place a couple of years ago.

Cheers!