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Originally Posted by EXprettyboy
I'd say countless great men in history never reached their potential because of balding weakening their self esteem.
I agree for the most part except this point..
I too am in a similar position.. young and at the point of no return..
BUT if something like going bald is going to destroy your life then the only one to blame is you.. we have no options really, drugs and ointments that scarcely work or surgery thats only successful for some and really expensive..
The only real option is acceptance (as hard as i know it is). Those that are going to make successes of their lives.. are going to do so bald or not.. AND there are many examples of this..
I really hope that some type of treatment/cure comes along but until then, (I) personally am going to focus on the things i can change and keep the hope for the rest.
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Well said mate! Life's never been fair, but it's up to us to make a difference where we can!
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Yeah I'm not saying that balding prevents you from succeeding, I'm saying it is a drain on the self esteem and confidence. Thats not something we can choose not to feel. we can act tough and get on with it, but regardless it is a burden. Emotionally strong men can overcome it, But what if your self expression requires you to be not distracted by this issue??
I said it's a shame that talented and great men in the past undoubtedly did not reach their potential because of their self esteem being chipped away at.
Read some of the posts on this site ...these guys are hurting. Maybe you and footballer Wayne Rooney and surfer Kelly Slater and actor Jason statham don't give a **** about it and are unperturbed BUT most of us are drowning in self pity and shame. We devote every minute to trying to muster the strength to live 'normally'. But then we're at a party and we're consumed by self consciousness and fear. And even if society did get over it, I don't think I could!!
Can you imagine for a moment if this was cured.... A whole legion of men ready to express themselves without any distraction or without having to overcome any inner demons or fear, or self esteem issues IN THE FIRST PLACE!!
I intuitively know that that first generation of redeemed former mpb victims are gonna be a ferocious bunch. Renewed vigor and and confidence will drive them to do extraordinary things. Emotions that they had blocked off 'forever' will overwhelm them. They will have gotten through a certain death of Identity and be reawakened to LIFE! Nobody else will understand. The strength we will derive from this difficult period will make us overcome anything. That first wave of desperate men will be free again, and they will be a formidable breed. They will be hungrier and more determined than other men. New confidence and freedom will spawn creativity, unstymied expression and AMBITION.
For later generations it wont be an issue. MPB will never be enough of an issue to drive men to edge like this again. They won't get it either. It will be an easily resolved flaw, that people don't think about twice.
But for the meantime, I have to tolerate being an easy punchline, and the young girls automatic last choice, and the victim of my own inner deprication.
I just spent the day walking around town to find a ****ing nice hat to wear to college to hide my Achilles heel in the first day of college tommorow. I'm ashamed of balding. I'm also ashamed of my Vanity. I used to feel good, I was reasonably attractive, I was free to express talent. Now I'm the balding guy, my energy is wasted trying to maintain my hair count and trick everybody into not realising!.
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Brilliant post exprettyboy!
I agree with everything you just typed up.
Hey, just make sure you stay on the forum whilst your at college yeah, i reckon you've more good stuff to say.
...anyway your college days - good luck mate!
Regards,
57mph
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I wuld have to agree that was a great post....and your right about later generations. My future children will never understand the the toll balding took on their fathers and grandfathers etc. Self confidence. It will be a quick fix for them. They're damn lucky.
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Originally Posted by EXprettyboy
Yeah your right I always say If I was 40 and this started, at least I will have had my twenties..... but I ****in didn't!
Heres a quick account of this nightmares progress:
Adolescence : great shiny curls, Hair was one of my best assets.
mid teens : Starting to adopt 2 side fringes to hide slight recession, not an issue of major concern.
late teens: Receding hairline, Unmanageable weakening hair, looks suffering, insecurity developing
Early twenties : crap hair, actual areas of thinning, Medicines initiated, Depression and anxiety about hair a big issue
now : Still have hair, (messy norwood 2) but only because of meds, if I stop there would be a big shed and I would be a norwood 3 with thinning). Emotionally worn out by this issue, periodic bouts of depression. hanging on.
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this just depressed the **** out of me...........
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....It depressed me too ....HAhaha
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How often were you having sex or masturbating between your late teens and now?? just wondering if sex could play a role
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..... Very frequently, .... But are you for real man? I'm not shocked by the invasive question, I'm pretty open about things. What I am shocked by is that you would actually think that would have any impact on hairloss.
Look, people go bald because of a sequence of code in their dna that eventually gets expressed as DHT sensitive hair follicles.
So if I was a monk and didn't interfere with myself I could still end up with a shimmering scalp, and if I was a nymphomaniac porno star I could be rockin an afro, all depending on that one piece of genetic code.
So my young baldrick, jerk off to your hearts content.
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I'm not saying it causes hair loss, I'm just wondering if maybe those who are genetically pre-disposed to it could slow down the process at all by abstaining from sex.
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