Feel Good Story

[bluegrasshoppa]

Hey, Bluegrasshoppa, I'm glad to hear that you've come to terms with your hairloss. You're really fortunate that you don't look bad with a shaved head. I, on the other hand, look horrible without a full head of hair. The back of my head is flat, and my skull just isn't shaped in a way that can carry short hair/shaved looks well.
That's one of the big reasons why I've been deeply depressed for the last few years. I used to be a pretty good looking guy. Girls would tell me I'm good looking all the time, and I was pretty confident. I had a full head of movie-star hair that was so thick it wouldn't move even on a windy day.
Losing 60% of my hair density in a year and a half has been brutal. I've become alot more withdrawn socially. I stopped trying to look nice, and I haven't bought any nice clothes in a year.
At this point, I don't even care if I never get my old hair back. I would even take a nicely shaped skull so I can buzzcut my hair, but I can't. So I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. I have no idea what to do, and the depression is getting worse everyday. I'm even getting suicidal thoughts, even though I would never go through with it. There really isn't much in my life that I wouldn't give to have my confidence/happiness back.

Hey Buckerine,

I am not that perfect either, I have a bit of an underbite and my jaw is a little crooked. I felt when I was going bald, that I needed to have immaculate facial features and I had trouble with going "clean" because of it. The problem was, was that I put a lot of emphasis on it and my depression grew. I have a 3 moles right by my ear that really bothered me as well which i covered up with side burns. I felt disfigured in my own mind. The problem for me was that I let these things control me, I think its hard to put it into words but I am trying my best. I put so much thought into my wrongs that I felt everyone else saw them in the same light as I had. You may be putting too much emphasis on your looks, like I did. Is this hair loss recent? If so, it is going to take some time to accept it.(took me 6 years) I think personally that hair loss is a blessing because I care less about what I look like now. I am not checking my hair, or buying hair spray, spending money on hair cuts and looking in the mirror every hour to see how many hairs I lost. I just live my life, pursue my interests, focus on my career and hopefully find a girl that will like me for me. There is a lot of people in this world, all you need to find is one. If she can't accept you for being bald, than she wasn't worth it anyways. Also, some of the things women have told me about bald men. 1) If it starts getting messy or patchy, shave it. 2) Show confidence in yourself 3) Some women prefer bald men, and some will never date a bald man 4) The biggest thing is personality, women care less about looks than you think.

Tips for overcoming baldness

1)Work out, join a gym and take lessons to learn how to do it correctly if you are not experienced.
2)Find hobbies outside your home(frisbee golf,ultimate frisbee, rock climbing, fishing,skiing)
3)Find ways to laugh i.e. Watch "Curb Your Enthusiasm", comedy clubs, read jokes online, SNL
4)Read some good books
If you stay physically fit, show that you have interests, make people laugh or laugh with them, and exhibit intelligence than you will be on a good path to happiness.

I think as far as having suicidal thoughs, (I have had them as well) you should seek professional help and talk to a psychiatrist. Its not healthy to let your looks control your life. Good luck brother, if you ever need to chat than hit me up. I hope this helped, it is a painful experience losing your hair but you are not alone!!