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    Default Suffering from depression for a couple years, suicidal thoughts...I am lost.

    At first glance you might think that this is an overdramatic post made by a teen who just lost a little hair here and there. It is not. And I don't have anyone to help me out. So could you please give me some suggestions that could add some value to my life?

    Hello guys, I'm a 22 years old male who's in this battle since his 16/17s. I've started taking minoxidil and finasteride since then. Yup, pretty much 5 years. What a long journey it has been... Sadly these medications couldn't help me that much.

    Well, I'm completly lost guys. I've already attempted some messed up things at myself when I was at my worst. I already tried everything..medication, hobbies, gym, talking to dermatologists, psycologists, family and even some of my friends. But it's really hard for someone who's not suffering from it to actually trully understand you, and I'm ok with that. But I really don't know what to do with my life.

    Everything I've been doing so far was with no true passion. I just graduated and I don't feel like I've accomplished anything that could really make me happy.

    I just got out of a relationship with a girl who didn't trully love me at all. Then I spoke it all to my mom, I said: "Mom, I no longer love myself. It's been a couple years that I feel this way and I don't know what to do. This is not me, and it's dragging me down in a way I've never imagined". She started crying, she wanted to help me. We tried some supplements and shampoos she bought but they didn't really do much.

    Now this is me in the present. A white skinny boy with no facial hair who's been using topical fibers and bonnets to cover up this disease that I, sadly, care so much for. I tried buzzing my hair and then I end up looking like a poor kid who's in chemotherapy. I asked my dad if there was any chance that we could do a trip and go to a hair system store. I showed him what these hair systems were and he started yelling at me, that I was going crazy.

    If there's anything that you think that I should do/consider, then please leave it here. Whether it is to treat hair loss or my depression. I'll take any suggestions in consideration.


    Thank you for giving me a hand. And I hope you can enjoy yourself and live your life to the fullest. You trully deserve it.

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    There are a couple of suggestions, add a keto shampoo to your regiment. Also do you use branded propecia or generic? Consider changing your diet.

    Add maybe RU58841 depending on your Finasteride. You could also consider a good hair system if you can afford one?

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    Vunoo,

    Being a young balding man is tough, I know because I was one and am still bald at 44, but it’s not a death sentence. First thing you need to do is accept it. It’s real and it’s a struggle. Your depression lies in unacceptance. Once you say this is something I need to deal with and I’m ready to take action, you’re on your way. Once you accept it you can work on your confidence. The best way to do that is cut your hair short and move on. If you’re worried about women, they will respond way more to a man who has accepted his fate, trimmed it down, and doesn’t let it interfere with his daily responsibilities and dreams, than to a man trying to hold onto something he no longer has control over, and suffering with self doubt and low confidence in the process. Once you accept this, you can earn back some self respect and start working towards the things you want in life. It won’t be easy, but it’s not easy for anyone. Start doing hot yoga. I wish someone would have told me to do that 20 years ago. Go talk to a counselor or therapist. Go walk, jog or bike. Get a dog, he will love you know matter what. Accept the fact that some assholes will point out your lack of hair and try to make you feel bad about yourself, just know that they are projecting their own insecurities on you. Learn to get comfortable with yourself, meditate. Celebrate the little wins, build resilience, just know this all takes time. Know this, you will meet an incredible person one day. Stay away from alcohol and drugs if you have a tendency for abuse. Live a discipline life and look at yourself in the mirror and stay committed. Stay away from internet porn. Don’t be so damn hard on yourself, everyone’s concentrating on themselves anyway. Best of luck buddy.

    P.S. - I have to remind myself of all this often.

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    Quote Originally Posted by spitfire View Post
    Vunoo,

    Being a young balding man is tough, I know because I was one and am still bald at 44, but it’s not a death sentence. First thing you need to do is accept it. It’s real and it’s a struggle. Your depression lies in unacceptance. Once you say this is something I need to deal with and I’m ready to take action, you’re on your way. Once you accept it you can work on your confidence. The best way to do that is cut your hair short and move on. If you’re worried about women, they will respond way more to a man who has accepted his fate, trimmed it down, and doesn’t let it interfere with his daily responsibilities and dreams, than to a man trying to hold onto something he no longer has control over, and suffering with self doubt and low confidence in the process. Once you accept this, you can earn back some self respect and start working towards the things you want in life. It won’t be easy, but it’s not easy for anyone. Start doing hot yoga. I wish someone would have told me to do that 20 years ago. Go talk to a counselor or therapist. Go walk, jog or bike. Get a dog, he will love you know matter what. Accept the fact that some assholes will point out your lack of hair and try to make you feel bad about yourself, just know that they are projecting their own insecurities on you. Learn to get comfortable with yourself, meditate. Celebrate the little wins, build resilience, just know this all takes time. Know this, you will meet an incredible person one day. Stay away from alcohol and drugs if you have a tendency for abuse. Live a discipline life and look at yourself in the mirror and stay committed. Stay away from internet porn. Don’t be so damn hard on yourself, everyone’s concentrating on themselves anyway. Best of luck buddy.

    P.S. - I have to remind myself of all this often.
    I will never accept this condition. I am almost 70 and my hair first started thinning when I was 14. I will never surrender. To surrender is to deserve it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by spitfire View Post
    Vunoo,

    Being a young balding man is tough, I know because I was one and am still bald at 44, but it’s not a death sentence. First thing you need to do is accept it. It’s real and it’s a struggle. Your depression lies in unacceptance. Once you say this is something I need to deal with and I’m ready to take action, you’re on your way. Once you accept it you can work on your confidence. The best way to do that is cut your hair short and move on. If you’re worried about women, they will respond way more to a man who has accepted his fate, trimmed it down, and doesn’t let it interfere with his daily responsibilities and dreams, than to a man trying to hold onto something he no longer has control over, and suffering with self doubt and low confidence in the process. Once you accept this, you can earn back some self respect and start working towards the things you want in life. It won’t be easy, but it’s not easy for anyone. Start doing hot yoga. I wish someone would have told me to do that 20 years ago. Go talk to a counselor or therapist. Go walk, jog or bike. Get a dog, he will love you know matter what. Accept the fact that some assholes will point out your lack of hair and try to make you feel bad about yourself, just know that they are projecting their own insecurities on you. Learn to get comfortable with yourself, meditate. Celebrate the little wins, build resilience, just know this all takes time. Know this, you will meet an incredible person one day. Stay away from alcohol and drugs if you have a tendency for abuse. Live a discipline life and look at yourself in the mirror and stay committed. Stay away from internet porn. Don’t be so damn hard on yourself, everyone’s concentrating on themselves anyway. Best of luck buddy.

    P.S. - I have to remind myself of all this often.
    I would be lying to you if I said I would be capable of embracing it. Its been 5 years and I still couldnt do it. This is not me. Its like Im someone else..

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jazz1 View Post
    There are a couple of suggestions, add a keto shampoo to your regiment. Also do you use branded propecia or generic? Consider changing your diet.

    Add maybe RU58841 depending on your Finasteride. You could also consider a good hair system if you can afford one?
    Can I get that Ru drug in a pharmacy? Do you know any well-known hair system shop in Europe? What kind of diet would you suggest?

    Thanks for the reply.

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    May be hope at the end of the year. Replicel is suppose to be released in Japan so that is exciting.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mrclean View Post
    May be hope at the end of the year. Replicel is suppose to be released in Japan so that is exciting.
    Even if it ends up working it would have to pass FDA's approval and all that stufff. It'll be years until we get our hands on something better than the current alternatives. Which is just sad.

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    Well at the very least you should seek counseling if you feel suicidal. Best of luck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vunoo View Post
    Even if it ends up working it would have to pass FDA's approval and all that stufff. It'll be years until we get our hands on something better than the current alternatives. Which is just sad.
    You get on a plane to Japan and get the treatment that is what I will be doing.

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