Suffering from depression for a couple years, suicidal thoughts...I am lost.

[Ahab]

Vunoo,

Being a young balding man is tough, I know because I was one and am still bald at 44, but it’s not a death sentence. First thing you need to do is accept it. It’s real and it’s a struggle. Your depression lies in unacceptance. Once you say this is something I need to deal with and I’m ready to take action, you’re on your way. Once you accept it you can work on your confidence. The best way to do that is cut your hair short and move on. If you’re worried about women, they will respond way more to a man who has accepted his fate, trimmed it down, and doesn’t let it interfere with his daily responsibilities and dreams, than to a man trying to hold onto something he no longer has control over, and suffering with self doubt and low confidence in the process. Once you accept this, you can earn back some self respect and start working towards the things you want in life. It won’t be easy, but it’s not easy for anyone. Start doing hot yoga. I wish someone would have told me to do that 20 years ago. Go talk to a counselor or therapist. Go walk, jog or bike. Get a dog, he will love you know matter what. Accept the fact that some assholes will point out your lack of hair and try to make you feel bad about yourself, just know that they are projecting their own insecurities on you. Learn to get comfortable with yourself, meditate. Celebrate the little wins, build resilience, just know this all takes time. Know this, you will meet an incredible person one day. Stay away from alcohol and drugs if you have a tendency for abuse. Live a discipline life and look at yourself in the mirror and stay committed. Stay away from internet porn. Don’t be so damn hard on yourself, everyone’s concentrating on themselves anyway. Best of luck buddy.

P.S. - I have to remind myself of all this often.

I will never accept this condition. I am almost 70 and my hair first started thinning when I was 14. I will never surrender. To surrender is to deserve it.