Perspective from a forty something on hair loss.

[spitfire]

Just wanted to offer my real world experience.

Suffer from mpb. Started thinning when I was 19/20. By 21 there was no hiding it. I met a beautiful lady that year. We fell in love, got married five years later and have been together since. Had I not met her, I'm positive I would have had a great dating/sex life in my 20's and 30's. There were numbers of times in my 20's and 30's that women would come up to me in bars and offer to by me drinks. I even had an offer once from two women (talk about an ego boost!) Of course I never took any of them up on it because I was in a monogamous relationship. I am not "hot" in the traditional sense. I'm 5'10, on the thinner side but with a slim muscular build. I am fun and outgoing regardless of hair loss. In fact, I never got too depressed over it. It sucked, yeah, but it didn't stop my life. I still get insecure sometimes. I think that has more to do with the inevitable fact that I'm not "young" anymore, which is something all men face. Would I look better with hair? No doubt about it. Would I have attracted more women in my youth with hair? No doubt whatsoever. Do I attract women in their twenties now? Honestly, I don't think so. But none of that matters. The woman I've been with for 23 years has always accepted me for me, the man she fell in love with. We have been 100% faithful to each other all these years, have a family, and the passion we have for each other grows more each day. Our sex is incredible - and that's important for sure, but more importantly she loves me unconditionally, regardless of the amount of hair on my head.

Believe me guys, when I say I know all about the insecurities of being bald. My best advice, eat right, take care of yourself, exercise, keep a close haircut, and most importantly, try and build some self confidence. Try hair restoration if you want. I just never wanted to put that much time and energy into something that would prolong the inevitable. Let's face it, being bald, you may not be able to turn heads right away anymore, or maybe you do, but I've found once women get to know you, through interactions at work or social groups, etc. they start looking past physical traits and accept you for who you are. I'm bald, but I have real conversations with people, I can make women laugh, they compliment me on occasion, and we can have fun. That makes me feel good about myself. Stay strong in the struggle and good luck.