Problem with Citing Examples of Good Looking Bald Men

[Locke]

While on this site I have come across numerous threads listing bald(ing) men who are considered good looking by the ladies. For example, Vin Diesel and Jason Statham. The thing being overlooked is that both of these guys are very physically fit. If they had hair they'd be EVEN MORE attractive.

Currently, I'm not the most physically fit guy and I was in really good, way above average shape for one year in my life. With that being said, when I had a full head of hair I could often get by with being 'cute' in the eyes of many females even if I was scrawny.

Now that I'm losing my hair I think I've lost that appeal...

My point is, maybe we should use hair loss as a motivation to get physically fit so that we're on par with guys who have hair? I'm just trying to be positive about all of this, haha!

[Fixed by 35]

The trouble is, do you really have any motivation to get fit just so that you can look good in someone else's eyes? I have zero motivation to exercise when I know already I'll be disappointed with the end result.

I also don't want to look like the examples you give. In identity terms, they are the polar opposite to me and I'd hate to look like them.

[CIT_Girl]

I say any motivation to get physically fit is great- particularly if it's a way of turning your hair loss into something positive. Sure, you shouldn't get fit just to look good in someone else's eyes but working out is something that will surely benefit you in many ways, and if you happen to have some more admirers because of it, so be it! You only live once so you might as well try to be the best version of you that you possibly can.

Just to throw it out there- I think both Michael Stipes and Andre Agassi are really handsome men and they don't fit that typical action-hero profile (though Agassi is certainly fit and Michael Stipes has that whole famous musician thing going for him ).

Also, you got me thinking...what would Vin Diesel look like with hair?!

[Fixed by 35]

This is my logic:

Life is crap with hair loss and I'll never be happy with my image.

I have few remaining pleasures in life. These include reading, good food and alcohol (in moderation of course!).

The option facing me is either be chubby and bald, or be fit and bald. So, basically the choice is, well, say Homer Simpson or Steve Jobs! I'm really not bothered either way. Both are as depressing as the other.

If I choose to be Homer Simpson, I can retain my current lifestyle and keep eeking out the remaining pleasures of life.

If I choose Steve Jobs, I give up the pleasures of life to do something I hate (going to the gym).

Besides the fact that a gym lifestyle will make me more miserable, I won't get any positive return from it at all. In fact, if I choose the Homer option, I'm basically living the same life I did before hair loss, so I'm not a prisoner of it. I'm a victim, certainly, in so far as I'm involuntarily discriminated against for it, but I'm still in control.

In contrast, if I take the Steve option, then I become a prisoner of my baldness. Not only will it steal my life chances away, it will actually steal hours from my life in the gym and it'll even steal the nice food off my plate and the wine out of my glass!

[KeepTheHair]

I agree baldness sucks and it really changes your life dramatically.


You really LOSE your image. It's GONE. You have to start being someone else.


To top it off....it is an UGLY someone else. People have no respect for bald people, ugly people, fat people.


eh. what a disaster

[jooder]

Fixed by 35, Keep the hair - I feel sorry for you both. You must have horrendous self images of your self.
I understand hairloss can be devastating to some people, especially at a young age....so 'keep the hair' i have a bit of understanding for...... however 'fixed by 35' - i would hate to be a close friend of yours! - what a pecimist!. Homer simpson is a cartoon character
Andre Agassi, Vin diesel, Bruce Willis, Patrick Stewart, Taye Diggs, Stanley Tucci,Kelly Slater....... are all examples of good looking bald men. Go onto other forums - ask women whether these men are ugly??

[doramider7]

This is my logic:

Life is crap with hair loss and I'll never be happy with my image.

I have few remaining pleasures in life. These include reading, good food and alcohol (in moderation of course!).

The option facing me is either be chubby and bald, or be fit and bald. So, basically the choice is, well, say Homer Simpson or Steve Jobs! I'm really not bothered either way. Both are as depressing as the other.

If I choose to be Homer Simpson, I can retain my current lifestyle and keep eeking out the remaining pleasures of life.

If I choose Steve Jobs, I give up the pleasures of life to do something I hate (going to the gym).

Besides the fact that a gym lifestyle will make me more miserable, I won't get any positive return from it at all. In fact, if I choose the Homer option, I'm basically living the same life I did before hair loss, so I'm not a prisoner of it. I'm a victim, certainly, in so far as I'm involuntarily discriminated against for it, but I'm still in control.

In contrast, if I take the Steve option, then I become a prisoner of my baldness. Not only will it steal my life chances away, it will actually steal hours from my life in the gym and it'll even steal the nice food off my plate and the wine out of my glass!

I agree baldness sucks and it really changes your life dramatically.


You really LOSE your image. It's GONE. You have to start being someone else.


To top it off....it is an UGLY someone else. People have no respect for bald people, ugly people, fat people.


eh. what a disaster

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[njs]

Wow, some of you guys are hit pretty hard. I guess I am lucky in that most never notice mt hair issues. I also can afford to get the ht without killing myself financially.

I guess the bottom line is we are all responsible for our own happiness and we have to make the best of what you can.

My personal take on looks is that you have to be in as best shape you can manage. I have been exercising regularly since I was a kid and now at almost 50 I am in pretty good shape. I have a 31 inch waist and a 43 inch chest and still have a six pack. As far as women and being attractive is concerned, I think/hope they do notice if you are in good shape and take care of yourself. This, a good personality and sense of humor go a really long way with girls.

Just my opinion. Hope I don't come off as being too shallow. Try to cheer up guys.

[chasguy]

The trouble is, do you really have any motivation to get fit just so that you can look good in someone else's eyes? I have zero motivation to exercise when I know already I'll be disappointed with the end result.

I also don't want to look like the examples you give. In identity terms, they are the polar opposite to me and I'd hate to look like them.

Getting a HT and going on meds has actually motivated me to get back into shape. I slacked when the hair started losing... sort of like "whats the point" attitude

[Fixed by 35]

It is also another badge of insecurity, when you decide the only thing you can do is give up a large chunk of your spare time going to the gym, basically for no other reason than to please others with your appearance. If you're bald, you might as well be fat too for all the difference a bit of exercise is going to make. A second job would be time better spent, in order to achieve earning parity with those who did not lose their hair at a young age!