Want to shoot myself in the head

[Borntoosoon]

I don't post much. I try to live my life and not think about all this. I've had roughly 1800 units, FUE (Norwood 3a) that only cost me about $15000 USD, three days of surgery (all day long each long day) and 9 months to grow in.

That was four years ago.

I'm fit, sharp, youthful, etc. but whenever I talk to women I ALWAYS catch them take a quick glance at my scalp, as if to say, 'Man, you're really interesting... Holy CRAP! HOW OLD ARE YOU?!?!?!? ARE YOU ABOUT TO RETIRE? WTF? You're an old man. Nice try, but move on.'

I'm confident as well. I have no difficulty striking up a conversation with anyone, especially attractive women.

But I'll look in the mirror and my deeper, honest self knows that the transplant makes me look like I'm balding because 50% or less of the follicles appear to have taken.


I was talking to a younger girl in the breakroom. The subject of age came up. When I asked how old she thought I looked she guess that I was actually five years older than what I am.


I played it off, but I'll be honest... later in the day I was so hurt and angry at... just life.

If I looked good with a shaved head I would do so but unfortunately it doesn't look good on me at all. The only way I can look 'normal' would be at least 10,000 units with the gamble on how many will take and a cost I can't afford at this point.

I just feel helpless against this thing we all fight.

To any other male who says 'oh, it's no big deal.' I say how about we cut off your testicles and see if you feel the same way.

To any woman who says, 'it's no big deal', why don't we cut off a breast and see if you feel the same way.


It's bad enough that we live in this world where your acceptance requires you to be diligent about your health in ways people weren't fifty years ago, but it's just absolutely rotten that genetic disposition puts so many of us at an incredible disadvantage in life.

This will brighten your day.

I had a friend as dumb as a doorknob: perfect hair, perfect skin (naturally tan too), symmetrical face, fit body (without lifting a single weight) and terribly boring. Think he EVER had to lift a finger to find companionship?


I'm feeling in the dumps. I'll get over it (that's what we do), but man... right now I'm really hating life.

[JohnMPB]

Do u have pics of your ur hairline? I'd imagine 1800 fue performed by a decent surgeon would easily bring u back to a nw 2 as long as there was a decent survival rate of grafts?

[michaelgranger65]

Well, this is my first post on the forum even though I've been lurking on and off for a few years. I like to check in and see what's going on in the world of hair-loss from time to time. So, losing your hair sucks but as you get older you start to have more companions in that regard. I always want to tell the younger guys that irrespective of your hair situation, things get much much better in regards to your relationships with women. I don't know how old you are but I can say that age favors men in a way that it doesn't favor women. Also, women are often attracted to men many years their senior. This could be for a number of reasons, but you have to keep in mind that men are visual creatures by nature. Trust me. Women do not judge you as harshly as you judge them or yourself based on appearance. They truly are different then us and as I got older it's something I took notice of. I have so many guy friends that are totally bald and get with women all the time. Some are married, some are single but all of them do just fine.

[GeezBeez]

I'm so sorry you are feeling this much pain. Sending you some love.

[Artista]

Hello Borntoosoon ...please respond to everyone here on your thread!

There are CARING members here that truly do WANT to try to help others, especially the very young!

JohnMPB, Michaelgranger65 and GeezBeez are here to help you!!
I am here now to try to help you as well!

How old are you now Borntoosoon? Also, it would really help if you were to post current photos of your hair/scalp. Of course, you do NOT have to show your face on here.
Born' you are so very emotional right now and I am concerned for you!
I am sure that I am so much older than you and because I am, I do have proper foresight.
I would never talk about or tell you anything that would be considered nonsense.
I want to help you just as the other members on here are wanting to HELP you.

[Mpbman]

You're putting too much into this, mate!

Of course girls check our heads (hair) - we check their breasts, legs, butts and hair too. That's perfectly natural. And if you don't want to be hurt when people tell you you look a few years older - just don't ask them.

Sometimes it's hard to figure out someones age - maybe you just look more mature for your age and don't have a baby face like some do.

You'll be fine - don't worry so much!

[BeaveCake]

Well, this is my first post on the forum even though I've been lurking on and off for a few years. I like to check in and see what's going on in the world of hair-loss from time to time. So, losing your hair sucks but as you get older you start to have more companions in that regard. I always want to tell the younger guys that irrespective of your hair situation, things get much much better in regards to your relationships with women. I don't know how old you are but I can say that age favors men in a way that it doesn't favor women. Also, women are often attracted to men many years their senior. This could be for a number of reasons, but you have to keep in mind that men are visual creatures by nature. Trust me. Women do not judge you as harshly as you judge them or yourself based on appearance. They truly are different then us and as I got older it's something I took notice of. I have so many guy friends that are totally bald and get with women all the time. Some are married, some are single but all of them do just fine.

Are you implying women 18-24 years old dislike a shaved bald head? That is false.

[ShooterMcGavin]

Hi Borntosoon. I see I'm quite late to this party. I signed up to this forum myself only 30 minutes ago and wanted to start a topic, but yours caught my attention and I've read every comment in detail. I find your post very entriguing. You made an interesting point about confidence and personality and I believe you have both. Both shine through in your post, you seem like a funny guy. I believe there is a common misconception that not liking something about yourself means you have no confidence. I can honestly say I have never had any problems with attracting girls or achieving my work goals, but I hated my hairline and wanted to do something about it. My point is that while it is probably all in your head that the girl was checking out your hair - your paranoia is not likely to go away until you are feeling right/good about it. There are some great people on here commenting, offering support and advice. I like them really wish you well and hope you get the results you are looking for one day.

[JustShaveIt]

F*ck it and shave it.

[DAVE52]

F*ck it and shave it.

agree
Your head shape looks fine