+ Reply to Thread
Page 1 of 2 1 2 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 11
  1. #1
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Dec 2014
    Posts
    118

    Default Dating a new girl and she wants to....

    So I'm dating a new smoking hot girl. Things are going well minus the distance, she lives about 400km away from me. But my real issue is, she wants to take a shower with me but I don't know how to tell her the truth. With the way I style my hair it's difficult for an average person to realize I'm losing it on the crown. But if my hair gets wet it's easy to see.

    She's never seen my hair wet or in its natural form, i always have hair putty. And she finds it odd. So far I've avoided the shower issue by saying I don't like taking showers. But she's like you are really odd about your hair.

    I know she won't care, and it's more my insecurities than anything. But I'm honestly paralyzed with fear to tell her the truth.

  2. #2
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Jun 2015
    Posts
    166

    Default

    He longer you drag this out, the worse it'll be.

    Women have this amazing ability to sense your insecurities. You've probably given away more than you've realised at times and that's why she's picked up on it.

    She won't drop it now, they never do. It's not about wanting a shower with you, it's about seeing how you handle insecurities.

    I say **** it, go in all guns blazing and do it. Say you've just been joking about not liking showers etc and make it happen. Reasons for this are as follows:

    1. Your hairloss won't be as bad to others as it is to you, she might not even notice or care.
    2. How she'll react to your imperfections strongly relates to how YOU react to them. If you continue to be weird about this, and drag this out, all she take from it is you're not able to handle yourself. Women want a man to be a man, they're meant to be the pretty one of the relationship is how they'll see it, so the more concerned you are about this the more she'll be concerned about it. Be cool about it, be relaxed, and she will be too. Ive seen studies show that we overlook our partners imperfections because we're in love with them, I'm sure you're not perfect in every way apart from a bit of crown loss, so she's already overlooking other stuff I'm sure you're insecure about but less obvious with, and you'll be overlooking stuff with her, so crack on.
    3. You get to shower with a hot girl. Yes it's scary facing situations like this, we've all been there, but it's never so bad. I played football with my work mates the other week, it pelted down with rain and I was soaked, I was horrified by my hair, no one even noticed.
    Don't let this thing ****ing own you bro. You have a hot girl, who's clearly into you, stop letting something like this hold you back. I know it's hard, but if you carry on trying to avoid everyday life situations you'll only make life impossible.

  3. #3
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Apr 2014
    Posts
    351

    Default

    Have you ever seen her without her make up, high heals and hair done?

    She might just want you to see the real her...

    If she likes you for you, she won't care about your hair loss.

  4. #4
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Jun 2014
    Posts
    1,111

    Default

    This is a great response. It's not the actual physical issue that ruins relationships it's the insecurities that come from that issue. MOST men, and probably quite a few that she have dated in the past, are experiencing hair loss, especially in their 30's. It is ALWAYS WAY WORST in your mind than it is in hers. Chances are, she gets out of the shower and is insecure about her makeup, and maybe even her own hair. So she will be immediately fussing with her wet hair and probably redoing her concealer and eye liner... she might not even notice your hair. I let my insecurities about my hair end a pretty awesome relationship lately. My scenario might be different as I have these transplants, scars, horrible diffuse thinning every where and wouldn't even let her touch my hair. It was humiliating, immasculating, and just the sickest shitty feeling in the world. I literally had NO idea how to deal with it and still really don't until I shave to a zero and expose everything to the world. I know it's hard man, but the most cliche thing is also the most correct - If she doesn't accept you with hair loss, then she is just not the right one and not worth your time.

  5. #5
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Feb 2010
    Posts
    251

    Default

    NotGivingUp's answer is perfect. Just jump right in dude, and concentrate on the hot girl who wants to shower with you - rather than worrying about what you look like, concentrate on how good she looks. If you want to, I'd even make a joke of it - tell her that if she says you're odd about your hair again, then you'll spank her, or something. Women don't care about your appearance so much as they care about how you deal with things, it's an evolutionary thing - men want a hot girl because we want to plant our seed in the healthiest female possible to produce the healthiest offspring, but women want a guy who copes with anything life throws at him, because he needs to protect her and any potential offspring from the sabre-tooth tiger, hunt to feed them in winter etc.

  6. #6
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Nov 2014
    Posts
    223

    Default

    Just be straight foward man, once you get it off your chest and see that she doesn't care then youll feel so much better, I was like that with my girlfriend until I just told her and too be honest she says I could lose it all today and she won't see me any different (well see about that) lol but we've been through so much together that its not even about the looks anymore, she knows who and how I really am and as long as that doesn't change well i guess you can say the hair was just a bonus for me? Idk but point is be the man you've always been towards her and don't let your hair issue ruin that cause it will get the best of you and women like men that areconfident

  7. #7
    Senior Member JDW's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2012
    Posts
    108

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Not giving up View Post
    He longer you drag this out, the worse it'll be.

    Women have this amazing ability to sense your insecurities. You've probably given away more than you've realised at times and that's why she's picked up on it.

    She won't drop it now, they never do. It's not about wanting a shower with you, it's about seeing how you handle insecurities.

    I say **** it, go in all guns blazing and do it. Say you've just been joking about not liking showers etc and make it happen. Reasons for this are as follows:

    1. Your hairloss won't be as bad to others as it is to you, she might not even notice or care.
    2. How she'll react to your imperfections strongly relates to how YOU react to them. If you continue to be weird about this, and drag this out, all she take from it is you're not able to handle yourself. Women want a man to be a man, they're meant to be the pretty one of the relationship is how they'll see it, so the more concerned you are about this the more she'll be concerned about it. Be cool about it, be relaxed, and she will be too. Ive seen studies show that we overlook our partners imperfections because we're in love with them, I'm sure you're not perfect in every way apart from a bit of crown loss, so she's already overlooking other stuff I'm sure you're insecure about but less obvious with, and you'll be overlooking stuff with her, so crack on.
    3. You get to shower with a hot girl. Yes it's scary facing situations like this, we've all been there, but it's never so bad. I played football with my work mates the other week, it pelted down with rain and I was soaked, I was horrified by my hair, no one even noticed.
    Don't let this thing ****ing own you bro. You have a hot girl, who's clearly into you, stop letting something like this hold you back. I know it's hard, but if you carry on trying to avoid everyday life situations you'll only make life impossible.
    That's a great post

  8. #8
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Dec 2014
    Posts
    145

    Default

    Why should you tell her? Just behave yourself as usual and don't attract her attention to your problem.

  9. #9
    Junior Member
    Join Date
    Sep 2020
    Posts
    6

    Default

    Do not think about this. Be strong. Show her that you are alpha

  10. #10
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Jan 2023
    Posts
    568

    Default

    Hard to tell. Only you yourself must understand whether you like a person or not, whether he corresponds to your worldview, whether your values, priorities and outlook on life are the same, and so on. In general, I believe that in order to understand that person or not, you need a lot of time to get to know him. Therefore, dating sites https://meet-your-love.net/review/geek2geek-co/ are a very good tool in this regard. Here you can communicate a lot, get to know each other and not waste time on real meetings.

Similar Threads

  1. Dating and wigs?
    By Jaclyn in forum Women's Hair Loss Treatments
    Replies: 2
    Last Post: 03-26-2024, 06:18 AM
  2. Study on balding men and dating
    By khan in forum Men's Hair Loss: Start Your Own Topic
    Replies: 11
    Last Post: 06-08-2023, 07:48 PM
  3. Women are the masters of the universe within the dating game
    By Dav7 in forum Off Topic Discussions
    Replies: 54
    Last Post: 09-09-2022, 06:50 AM
  4. Joined a dating website. I put no pic, but I get responses asking for a pic...
    By FlightTL in forum Men's Hair Loss: Start Your Own Topic
    Replies: 43
    Last Post: 11-05-2014, 12:41 PM
  5. How has a hair transplant affected your dating life?
    By CarlosMiller in forum Hair Transplant: Start Your Own Topic
    Replies: 5
    Last Post: 06-19-2012, 11:20 AM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts

» IAHRS

hair transplant surgeons

» The Bald Truth

» Recent Threads

1800 graft repair case results by Dr. Lindsey
Yesterday 08:38 AM
Last Post By Dr. Lindsey
Yesterday 08:38 AM
Navigating the German Job Market as a Kenyan Citizen
11-04-2023 06:31 AM
Last Post By Keegan212
Yesterday 03:51 AM
DR HAKAN DOGANAY/ 4500 GRAFTS / Implanter Pen+FUE
03-26-2024 04:15 PM
Last Post By Hakan Doganay, MD
03-26-2024 04:15 PM
The Mane Event for Thursday, June 15th, 2023
06-15-2023 02:59 PM
Last Post By gisecit34
03-26-2024 08:05 AM
Sun Exposure after Hair Transplant
02-26-2009 02:36 PM
Last Post By gisecit34
03-25-2024 08:24 PM