Baldness and anger

[MrBald]

I am noticing that everytime my I get this feelings of anxiety/depression/despair/anger over my baldness, I at the same time become angry on my family and sometimes friends. Angry about things that for example have happened long time ago? Sometimes I dont even know why I am being angry at them, rationally thinking I cant hold them responsible for my hairloss?

I wonder if any of you also experience this?

[jamesst11]

Losing your hair is like losing your identity. Like losing your youth. I don't give a f*ck what any one says, it is the hardest thing any man can deal with. Perhaps if you are 6'2", have a flawless face, are tan, have a perfect head shape and a ripped body... then you'll simply worry LESS, because you have so much confidence in other areas. For me, I would SERIOUSLY rather have some horrible, deadly disease then be experiencing the hair loss I am right now. SERIOUSLY. God, give me a deadly disease and a full head of hair, and i will be happier. I know it sounds sick, but I pray for this. I hate not being able to recognize myself in the mirror. I hate how quickly this has happened to me. I f*cking hate wearing hairspray every day and being afraid of the wind and rain and sun and lights .... So... my point is... this type of mental torment can definitely lead to depression and apathy, which are like the food for anger. My brother called me today and said, "my gf is worried about you. you seem fine to me, but she keeps saying, you're chronically depressed"... I wanted to yell at him with every bone in my body, "**** yes I am I hate myself, I hate the way I look. I hate my hair!!!" .... but, when you say it to yourself it sounds ridiculous. "I am so depressed and sad and angry because of my hair"... I just can't say it to anyone, except for on these forums.

[fred970]

People will deadly diseases usually do quite fine, that's why I hate when they are used as examples or courage.

Take HIV for example, you still look like yourself, no one could tell you are sick, and most importantly, unless it was passed by your mother, you'd be responsible for contracting the disease.

Same with heart disease, diabetes and many other things considered worse. Give me a break, with those ailments, you may be sick, but at least you don't look like it, you're still yourself.

I had this debate with a friend who had type 1 diabetes, and there's no debate to be had really, hair loss is worse.

But there he was complaining about having two shots a day and feeling tired sometimes.

Seriously? And this guy had the nerve to trivialize hair loss, "my father is bald and if it happens to me, I'll just get a hair transplant!" Because they think it's that f-ing simple!

Hair loss and severe facial burns are the worst thing that can happen to a human being, anything that alters your identity for the worse. Silent disease and physical suffering are a walk in the park.

[25 going on 65]

HIV is extremely bad because it ruins your sex life so I would put it on a similar level w/ balding.

In fact this is THE main reason why hair loss is terrible, it kills your sexual identity which is the most important part of your identity as a human being. Some will want to disagree but if they think through it for a second they will realize that most of what they do & care about comes down to sex/love/dating

But yeah I agree, in general invisible diseases are much much better to have than disfigurement

[MrBald]

I agree with you Jamesst11. Balding is among the hardest things. What NW are you?

[MrBald]

I am glad that I at least have you guys on this forum, that can relate to this hell we are all facing...

And I am glad for those of you who manage to cope with it, personally I just can't.

[fred970]

I am glad that I at least have you guys on this forum, that can relate to this hell we are all facing...

And I am glad for those of you who manage to cope with it, personally I just can't.

No one can deal with it, those who pretend not to care are either NW1-2, or extremely delusional.

I've met countless guys in real life who pretended to be "alpha males" who didn't give a sh*t about their hair loss.

Yet don't ask them to remove their hats... at night! Or don't ask them why there is no picture of them after hair loss on their Facebook.

They always crack though, and reveal they spent a fortune in snake oil to treat their hair loss, cried and drank themselves to sleep for years because of it.

Only guys who don't give a sh*t about anything (who also get fat, in debt etc.) don't give a sh*t about hair loss. Everyone else will care.

[IAMX]

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[jamesst11]

I agree with you Jamesst11. Balding is among the hardest things. What NW are you?

I don't even know. I am horribly diffused thin every where, but especially in the temples and crown. I also have thick, evenly and spaced too far apart transplants on just one side of my head... I would say "weird looking and disfigured". I would pay 50k right now for a normal bald head, and I had a full head of hair 2 years ago. Mark my words, 50k.

[MrBald]

I don't even know. I am horribly diffused thin every where, but especially in the temples and crown. I also have thick, evenly and spaced too far apart transplants on just one side of my head... I would say "weird looking and disfigured". I would pay 50k right now for a normal bald head, and I had a full head of hair 2 years ago. Mark my words, 50k.

So the transplant you had, did you have it only on one side? Or did it just take on one side?

Does it look weird if you shave it? A scar in the back?