Fred, no one was was ever saying 'just shave your head and be bald.' That's not the reason people come here. Some people can't afford a HT. Some people won't respond to meds. Your response of 'work hard and save for a HT.' Some people will be so crippled by hairloss that they lose all confidence and will struggle to progress in life and earn enough money for a hair transplant. Hell some people might just not have the smarts to earn enough, or just have so many responsibilities that spending that sort of money on themselves just isn't an option. It's not a case of just fixing a problem for some. Great that it was for you, but some people will need other outlets. Not everyone can win this battle, and in truth, to some, having a shaved head like you is as bad for their confidence as balding anyway if they normally have long hair.
The problem with you Fred, is you pass your opinions and experiences off as facts. You're talking about things that have happened to you as if every person on the planet will have the same problems you did. Can I see your point of view? Of course. You make good points. Do I think you're 100% right? No. You're too stuck in your own beliefs.
You have no need to be here convincing young people life will be awful bald. Will it be difficult? Yes. Is it impossible? Hell no. My best friend is NW5 at 24, has been since 23 and he's dating a hot blonde who he lives with (who he met when bald) he's even slightly overweight, but he's not doing badly, it's really not all doom and gloom. He hits the gym, he makes people laugh, he's saving for a house not a hair transplant. Has he been hurt by hairloss? Yes, but he moved on, pushed through. Could I do that? I don't know, balding is a crippling thought for me, I might be more like you and struggle with it too much and get a hair transplant, but my point is, not everyone can or has to do that to be happy. If it isn't an option, there are other ways to deal with it.
Case and point, paraolympians, some of those guys lose limbs in accidents, say they lost their legs in a car crash, so do they sit around, bitching about life, or do they go down other avenues, train hard and accomplish more in life than we certainly ever will?
There were other ways of dealing with the negative comments you received, getting a hair transplant to be 'normal' was one of them, but not the only one, young people here need a better role model than someone who thinks their way is the only way.
Frankly, you kind of gave in to peer pressure pretty easily and just played into their hands a bit. Would I be any different? As I said, I don't know, maybe not, but then I'm not the one trying to shoot everyone down because they don't agree with me.
Fred's message for the kids: if you don't fit in, sucks to be you. Don't come back until you do.'
Awesome.
The problem with you Fred, is you pass your opinions and experiences off as facts. You're talking about things that have happened to you as if every person on the planet will have the same problems you did. Can I see your point of view? Of course. You make good points. Do I think you're 100% right? No. You're too stuck in your own beliefs.
You have no need to be here convincing young people life will be awful bald. Will it be difficult? Yes. Is it impossible? Hell no. My best friend is NW5 at 24, has been since 23 and he's dating a hot blonde who he lives with (who he met when bald) he's even slightly overweight, but he's not doing badly, it's really not all doom and gloom. He hits the gym, he makes people laugh, he's saving for a house not a hair transplant. Has he been hurt by hairloss? Yes, but he moved on, pushed through. Could I do that? I don't know, balding is a crippling thought for me, I might be more like you and struggle with it too much and get a hair transplant, but my point is, not everyone can or has to do that to be happy. If it isn't an option, there are other ways to deal with it.
Case and point, paraolympians, some of those guys lose limbs in accidents, say they lost their legs in a car crash, so do they sit around, bitching about life, or do they go down other avenues, train hard and accomplish more in life than we certainly ever will?
There were other ways of dealing with the negative comments you received, getting a hair transplant to be 'normal' was one of them, but not the only one, young people here need a better role model than someone who thinks their way is the only way.
Frankly, you kind of gave in to peer pressure pretty easily and just played into their hands a bit. Would I be any different? As I said, I don't know, maybe not, but then I'm not the one trying to shoot everyone down because they don't agree with me.
Fred's message for the kids: if you don't fit in, sucks to be you. Don't come back until you do.'
Awesome.
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