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  • boatbuff
    Junior Member
    • Oct 2015
    • 21

    #16
    i know your pain but life is not about a full head of hair i think you need to find your calling in life and go for it don't just sit cry about your hair and screw what people think take Rogaine twice a day and stop feeling sorry for your self i know a lot of guys with bald heads who have nice girls great jobs and money some guys look great bald and some look great with a buzz cut pick one stop dragging you self down with self pitty 80% of men will have thinning hair your far from alone in this so my advice to you is to get into cars build one find a hobby get out and enjoy being healthy and being alive take your mind off it it seems you have to much time on your hands your generation has failed you all still live with your moms and do nothing important but play video games and social media us as parents have failed to by not forcing you into getting a job and move out at 21

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    • boatbuff
      Junior Member
      • Oct 2015
      • 21

      #17
      it sucks my cousin lost his hair at 19 he dressed up nice was the life of the party he worked it well i think in your mind your a social outcast but thats far from the truth i was in LA this summer i seen a guy at the beach jogging he had a very short almost bald buzz cut the guy was in top shape tanned he looked great and he looked the best around and was far from a outcast i wanted to buzz my hair that day and become a fitness nut but i worked hard to get my hair back on track and im fit from good jeans passed to me

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      • VFrankenstein
        Junior Member
        • Oct 2015
        • 27

        #18
        Originally posted by recedoroy
        I'm trying to see myself as the things that I do and the things that I say and the opinions that I have instead of the face I see in the mirror. But its hard as hell and I haven't managed it yet. That's me in the mirror and I ****ing hate myself.
        It's fine to feel beaten about you body but you really have to understand that we are not our body or not even our thoughts. If you come to understand that you are not your body a lot problems will be solved by itself. This is some Asian philosophy and belief which is always helpful for me.

        If you feel like your confidence suffers from the way your hair looks like then you can still focus on some other aspects of the body. I do exercise and it helps me with my confidence. If you think about what physical aspects women really look at when they meet a men you will realize that they care about how your hands look like, how you smell and how you dress yourself. So it all comes down to the fact that you take care of your body (what you obviously do if you treat your hair loss) and that you can also handle a relationship well.

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        • Frosty1992
          Junior Member
          • Nov 2015
          • 7

          #19
          I have just read this and you have totally hit the nail on the head dude. I'm 23 and I absolutely hate my hair. I have tried to avoid myself in the mirror/reflections, anything to make sure I don't catch a glance at my awful hair. I despise it. I keep hoping with each new product I try, or new technique that my hair will look thicker and fuller. However this never happens. I tried Propecia for two months and I had a huge shed. It scared the life out of me so I stopped it and it has only just made my hair worse. I am at the end of my tether with the way I look and my hair. All I want to do, is look I the mirror and think 'you look good today' however that hasn't happened in a good three years.

          I feel your pain man, I really do. Just know that this is a place where you can vent your anger and tell people how you really feel without being judged or discriminated against.

          Let's just hope there's a miracle cure soon.

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          • Onion Knight
            Member
            • Oct 2015
            • 77

            #20
            Originally posted by BaldingEagle
            My wife is 21 and I'm 26. She doesn't give a shit about my hair loss.

            Too many people worry no girls will want them due to hairloss and becoming depressed.

            Look at how many bald men are married.

            You don't need hair or money to land a decent girl.

            Many girls will turn down a bald man, but shallow whores don't make good wives.

            The best thing you can do to attract a girl, or friends for that matter... Be an interesting person. Have things to say. Have skills, build character.

            I started losing my hair at 20 and I've never had any issues with women. Sure some girls rejected me, and that happens to literally everyone.

            At the end of the day I'm a 26 year old NW 2.5 with a 21 year old wife who's an objective 8-9. I make 40k a year which isn't impressive and I have an average build.

            Hair loss sucks I get it, but it doesn't automatically remove you from attaining true happiness.

            I sincerely hope you learn to love yourself and be happy.

            Best of luck.
            That's the true people need to understand that hair doesn't bring you girls.

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            • fred970
              Senior Member
              • Nov 2009
              • 924

              #21
              Originally posted by Vox
              I don't want to be rude or anything, but from my personal perspective (see my previous message), being NW2.5 at 26 and talking about the consequences of hair loss in your life seems more like a joke than anything else. All you have is simply a little more than a mature hairline, which is not unusual in this age.
              This, for god's sake I was a slick NW5 at 22 years old, and my hair transplant at 24 brought me back to a NW2.5!

              This guy has no idea about what the reality of baldness is. I have only one thing to say to that BaldingEagle: wait until you're bald.

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              • jamesst11
                Senior Member
                • Jun 2014
                • 1110

                #22
                Originally posted by fred970
                This, for god's sake I was a slick NW5 at 22 years old, and my hair transplant at 24 brought me back to a NW2.5!

                This guy has no idea about what the reality of baldness is. I have only one thing to say to that BaldingEagle: wait until you're bald.
                It's not a f*cking contest you guys... Y'all have so much self pity that whenever some one else has a personal issue, you turn it around on them and make yours SOOOOO much more significant. The "reality" of baldness is different for different people, just as the reality of anything else. You win though Fred... you went super bald at such a young age, and that is obviously worst than anything ANY of us are experiencing on here.

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                • BaldingEagle
                  Senior Member
                  • Oct 2015
                  • 377

                  #23
                  Originally posted by fred970
                  This, for god's sake I was a slick NW5 at 22 years old, and my hair transplant at 24 brought me back to a NW2.5!

                  This guy has no idea about what the reality of baldness is. I have only one thing to say to that BaldingEagle: wait until you're bald.
                  I'm sorry you feel that way but any hairloss at all is devastating to many.

                  Also I hopefully won't ever go bald. I'm tolerating finasteride 1.25mg a day and 5% minox twice a day very well so with that combination odds are I gain rather than lose while waiting for future treatments.

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                  • fred970
                    Senior Member
                    • Nov 2009
                    • 924

                    #24
                    Originally posted by BaldingEagle
                    I'm sorry you feel that way but any hairloss at all is devastating to many.

                    Also I hopefully won't ever go bald. I'm tolerating finasteride 1.25mg a day and 5% minox twice a day very well so with that combination odds are I gain rather than lose while waiting for future treatments.
                    It's not, NW5 and NW2.5 are worlds apart. You say I should feel bad for still being NW2.5? Hell I don't, I think my hair line is badass and I love my current shaved look.

                    But to compare that to a slick shiny infinite forehead NW5? It doesn't compare really. People who agonize over anything under a NW3 should learn something called perspective.

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                    • Not giving up
                      Senior Member
                      • Jun 2015
                      • 166

                      #25
                      Originally posted by fred970
                      It's not, NW5 and NW2.5 are worlds apart. You say I should feel bad for still being NW2.5? Hell I don't, I think my hair line is badass and I love my current shaved look.

                      But to compare that to a slick shiny infinite forehead NW5? It doesn't compare really. People who agonize over anything under a NW3 should learn something called perspective.
                      One of the hardest parts of hairloss is not knowing where that loss will end up. Hairloss doesn't become psychologically difficult ONCE your bald, it's hard throughout. Sometimes the calm before the storm can be so much worse. You spend that time convincing yourself it'll be an impossible storm; when the reality is it might not be so bad. But during that time, you'll torture yourself.
                      The paranoia of hairloss, whether it's a NW2 or 5, it still hits everyone.

                      It is not a competition. Period.

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                      • fred970
                        Senior Member
                        • Nov 2009
                        • 924

                        #26
                        Originally posted by Not giving up
                        One of the hardest parts of hairloss is not knowing where that loss will end up. Hairloss doesn't become psychologically difficult ONCE your bald, it's hard throughout. Sometimes the calm before the storm can be so much worse. You spend that time convincing yourself it'll be an impossible storm; when the reality is it might not be so bad. But during that time, you'll torture yourself.
                        The paranoia of hairloss, whether it's a NW2 or 5, it still hits everyone.

                        It is not a competition. Period.
                        You're completely right. And I'll tell you now, it's not as horrible as you think it will be. I know, I have been in both states (balding and worrying how it will be, and then actually bald).

                        You think that when you're going to be bald, it's going to be the end of the world. Well I was bald, at 22, and it wasn't the end of the world. Sure it sucked a lot for some social situations.

                        But besides a minority of men and women (I tried to date) being extremely harsh, my life was still going globally well. So I can tell as someone who has been on both sides of the fence:

                        NW2's are wrong to worry so much about the future. You still have hair, enjoy it, and when you don't have it anymore, you'll just get rejected by girls a lot more and mocked by random assholes.

                        That's all. But still, it made me want to have a hair transplant, because I didn't want to be looking over my shoulder for yet another insult from someone.

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                        • LogicalBald068
                          Member
                          • Oct 2015
                          • 32

                          #27
                          I do appreciate to not giving up Hair loss is something which we can not say anytime when it will end up. We can not predict the future about hair loss or fall but we can reduce the worries and anxiety for which hair loss is one of the significant reason

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                          • keebler239
                            Member
                            • Jan 2016
                            • 38

                            #28
                            Originally posted by Not giving up
                            One of the hardest parts of hairloss is not knowing where that loss will end up. Hairloss doesn't become psychologically difficult ONCE your bald, it's hard throughout. Sometimes the calm before the storm can be so much worse. You spend that time convincing yourself it'll be an impossible storm; when the reality is it might not be so bad. But during that time, you'll torture yourself.
                            The paranoia of hairloss, whether it's a NW2 or 5, it still hits everyone.

                            It is not a competition. Period.
                            I also think that there's something about the finality of it - Knowing that you'll probably never get your hair back and be stuck with very few options for the rest of your life (Unless some kind of miracle treatment comes out soon). As a young man this can be devastating. I know that's what bothers me most. Also, there are many people who are OK bald, but look much better with hair so it can still be a downer.

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                            • kadze
                              Junior Member
                              • May 2015
                              • 26

                              #29
                              I perfectly understand that majority of guys don't benefit from balding. But honestly, you are turning your own lives into hell.

                              self-pity will destroy you

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                              • alex777
                                Junior Member
                                • Jan 2016
                                • 8

                                #30
                                Originally posted by Onion Knight
                                That's the true people need to understand that hair doesn't bring you girls.
                                Yet it is a sign of being young and healthy, is it not? To me it seems that as you're aging, hairloss will emphasise and speed up you getting out of that league. I guess I'm being too dramatic and generalising, but a 19yo girl with a bald dude is either sugar-daddy kind of relationship, or just not happening. Either way, doesn't look natural.

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