The last time I went to a bar/club

[JSmith120]

Wow this forum has a completely different perspective than ***

[Not giving up]

Guys will try to remind you of your place, and it doesn't matter if you put them back at theirs.

The fact will be: they already disrespected you because you were bald, it wouldn't have happened in the first place if you were "one of them".

Oh, did I mention I was only talking about actual baldness. LOL at NW1-3 who think they have any idea of what it's like to be bald in your early 20's.

Live your social life with a slick shiny NW5 at the age of 22, and come back to tell me how strong you are. Tough NW2 guys...

Fantastic attitude yet again pal! 'Your baldness isn't as bad as my baldness.'
Tell you what bro, let's just slap our dicks on the table and we'll see who is bigger if you're just interested in having a pointless competition.

The sad thing is people come to these sites looking for two things: answers, and equally as important, hope, something you seem so hellbent on removing from this topic.

So I'm going to ignore your point scoring. Yes I wasn't bald at 22 like you apparently were, I'm sorry that happened to you and you had to deal with it, but as you had 'dreamy blue eyes' (lol, who the hell even says that about themselves bro) I shall instead just share the story of my best friend, and hopefully to any impressionable Young desperate guy who will lose the fight against baldness at a young age might actually restore some hope into their lives.

My best friend started losing his hair at 18. He's always been overweight so losing his hair at a young age was probably the last thing he needed. He got ripped by our buds (not so much myself as I didn't want to kick the guy when he was down.)
His hairline was more or less gone by the time he hit 21. He was still overweight, the small amount of hair he had left on top was thin and awful. He had a girlfriend but she was nothing to brag about and treat him like he was nothing, telling him how he was fat constantly (ironically never mentioning his hair.)

Fast forward to january 2014. He started to come to the gym with me. He trained hard until the summer of that year and he lost a good amount of weight, still a big guy, but he carried it better, more in his shoulders and arms and chest.
That summer he finally braved the shave. He only had hair left on his crown by this point.
His life changed. He continued in the gym, he broke up with the girl that treated him like dirt and met a girl he now lives with that I'd be proud to be banging. He's got a good job and works hard in life. He's a NW6 now but he's never let it hold him back.

This isn't a story about his appearance despite the content thus far, because the point is, not once did my friend ever give up, even when our friends tried to rip on him for balding, or being overweight, he just threw an insult back at them and laughed. Guys will try to put each other down no matter what. It's what they do. If you have hairloss, yes, they'll probabbly mock you, but if you had acne they'll mock you for that, guys will mock each other for just about anything, the important thing isn't to feel all butt hurt about it like our friend Fred here. Take it on the chin, if they weren't mocking you about that, they'd mock you about something else, I've been a topless butler and modelled yet my friends still rip me to shreds for a number of things. No one is immune from banter. Be a lad, they'll be mocking you because they're insecure about something themselves, if you're getting a hard time, try not to show it, think of something witty to say and throw it the hell back at them. See how quick they are to mock you if you shine a big old spot light on something theyre so insecure about. Fight fire with Fire. Don't just accept you're balding and therefore deserve to be less than them. Be an alpha male and don't take any crap.

Hope is a fragile thing, coming to this forum you'd think there is none but that's not true. There is hope for young bald guys out there. Your attitude towards life shall create the life you have, and clearly Fred's victim attitude stunk.

Life does not end at NW6 and my best friend is living proof.

[fred970]

For one guy like your friend, there are 100 that will be f-cked. Hope is a dangerous thing.

You know what gave me hope? Getting some of my hair back thanks to a hair transplant.

Not being an overcompensating try-hard (that's how women will see it) who thought he could compensate for his ugly bald head with big muscles.

Since I have some hair on m head again (thin NW2.5), the mockeries have magically stopped. Life is much more pleasant to live all of a sudden.

[Not giving up]

Attention all. I was wrong, Fred is right.

Abandon all hope. Fred had a bad time and you will too. Life is over. Quit your job. Live in a cave. Kill yourself. Do whatever. None of it matters, you're balding, it's all over.

Wow. That felt great. I see why you do it Fred. Thank God you got your hair back and became a perfect human being again immune from all forms of persecution and mockery.

You're right, it is magical.

[noquierosercalvo]

and i ask... why the **** dont just use a hair prothesis ? i mean if you are so ***ed and sad etc why dont use it ? i will do it in a few weeks for the try and im sure it will be awesome.

[DepressedByHairLoss]

Fred is right, the difference between an NW2 and an NW6 is like the difference between night and day. No one will make fun of an NW2 because you can barely even notice their hair loss. Yet some one with a totally bald crown, whose hair loss is much more obvious and pronounced, will unfortunately become the target of jokes and ridicule. No amount of positive thinking will ever change this.

I was the same way when my hair loss was barely noticeable. I would spout cliched sayings like "confidence is what it's all about", "oh, if I lost my hair, I would just simply move on", or "there is more to me than my hair". But my attitude changed once my hair loss became more pronounced. The fact is that talk is cheap and actions speak louder than words. Having a full head of hair is an absolutely integral part of a person's good looks and is especially important in today's image-driven society.

A central point of Spencer's radio show is that those who have not experienced true baldness will never truly understand it for themselves. And some guys on here essentially have full heads of hair so how can they understand something like true hair loss if they've never experienced it for themselves. Again, feeling and experiencing is believing and actions speak louder than words.

Just like that "take it on the chin" advice. No one likes to be mocked constantly and guys do not mock other guys for just about anything. Not to mention that hair loss is something that cuts much much deeper than anything else. So you have big ears, a bit of acne, or packed on some extra weight. Big deal.

I also used to tell stories about people I know who despite their baldness, have led successful lives. I know people like that too. Yet I cannot bring myself to completely let my hair go and neither can anyone else in this thread.

[fred970]

Thank you for the realism DepressedByHairLoss. /thread

[Trimmed]

25 year old norwood 7 shaved horseshoe looks like a creeper to women in their 20's.

go tell that to the girls in their 20's who still find me hot with a shaven head at 35 years old.

A handsome face is all you need. Hair does not make a person attractive... your facial features do. Even when I had my full head of hair I never once got a compliment on my hair.. only about my facial features.

[Trimmed]

Fred is right, the difference between an NW2 and an NW6 is like the difference between night and day. No one will make fun of an NW2 because you can barely even notice their hair loss. Yet some one with a totally bald crown, whose hair loss is much more obvious and pronounced, will unfortunately become the target of jokes and ridicule. No amount of positive thinking will ever change this.

I've been razor shaving my head for probably 6 years and I've never once been made fun of or ridiculed... nobody makes fun of baldness... because its just not funny... and so common to see everywhere... every other guy these days is bald to some degree..

Now if you were talking about a female walking around bald then ya I could see that... but definitely not for a man.

[Trimmed]

Thank you for the realism DepressedByHairLoss. /thread

That's not realism for me.

[Trimmed]

Guys will try to remind you of your place, and it doesn't matter if you put them back at theirs.

The fact will be: they already disrespected you because you were bald, it wouldn't have happened in the first place if you were "one of them".

Men do not disrespect other men because they're bald.. in fact its been shown that men have more respect for men with shaven heads because shaven heads look masculine and Alpha. It's also been shown that men with shaven heads look an inch taller and 30%+ physically stronger to others.

[Trimmed]

Not being an overcompensating try-hard (that's how women will see it) who thought he could compensate for his ugly bald head with big muscles

You must be one ugly looking dude if you actually were made fun of (which I still don't believe).

About 2 weeks ago I got a letter from a girl who works as a model after she saw my pictures on a dating site... she said "I love handsome bald men".. and wanted to take me and my ugly bald head out to dinner.

[jbrit25]

Men do not disrespect other men because they're bald.. in fact its been shown that men have more respect for men with shaven heads because shaven heads look masculine and Alpha. It's also been shown that men with shaven heads look an inch taller and 30%+ physically stronger to others.

This is true. I have been told by several men the I look more intimidating now than I did before I shaved my head.

[Trimmed]

You must be a white guy living in an Asian country. This never happens to me or anyone I know.

Women doesn't "sense" weakness. That's just BS. She senses and clearly sees good looks and good genes.

You can be the best looking guy around but if you have no confidence the girl will drop you fast. One of my friends went on a date once with a good looking girl who liked him. He was good looking.. but on the date he was very shy and was acting strange because of it... after the date the girl told him "it seemed difficult for you".... and she did not want to see him again.

If he was confident it would have been completely different.

[GNX]

dude stop talking out of ur ass u sound stupid!

Men do not disrespect other men because they're bald.. in fact its been shown that men have more respect for men with shaven heads because shaven heads look masculine and Alpha. It's also been shown that men with shaven heads look an inch taller and 30%+ physically stronger to others.