Hair matters some, but not near as much as most here make it out to be

[BeaveCake]

I'm a 19 year old who about a year ago lost over half my scalp hair to a (now permanent) condition, I shave my head cue ball, I'm skinny and paler but my face and head shape are good for it I admit. I was concerned how girls my age would feel about it, but I was never worried it'd affect school jobs etcetera like some delusional people do. Well I got my answer to how girls feel about it when a 16 year old asked me to her prom, and she was very attractive. (I'm barely 2 years older before anyone brings up the age) she barely knew me and she asked me to go so I agreed and she asked why I shaved head, I was honest that I lost it, and while she said it wasn't her preference she said it's just hair why would she care about that. So here's a girl just about 17, very attractive, saying she didn't care I had no hair, full knowing I never will. And prom boosted confidence even more, it was a different schools prom and I was one of the more talked to kids there, people asked me about courses I was taking when they heard I was skydiving for a license and people were curious who one of the 'hottest' girls in thier school took. After prom she even got jealous when I was simply talking to her friend because I guess her friend had a thing for me and thought I was flirting. After this me and this girl are together. I truly don't care about the lost hair given I've had plenty of success in life without it. And I'm not even 20 yet. And yes I'm full on skin head, howie Mandela shaven. No pigment even. And I accomplished this. I just thought I'd give a positive story that it doesn't have to be that big of a deal like many people here make it. Most bald guys are out living doing just fine, that's why you don't see them post. The only ones here posting that baldness destroyed their lives and made them lose everything are either going through the initial shock. Or too weak in that they put strength and life worth into hair. It can be difficult. But it's really just hair. God bless

[Herbaliser]

I'm a 19 year old who about a year ago lost over half my scalp hair to a (now permanent) condition, I shave my head cue ball, I'm skinny and paler but my face and head shape are good for it I admit. I was concerned how girls my age would feel about it, but I was never worried it'd affect school jobs etcetera like some delusional people do. Well I got my answer to how girls feel about it when a 16 year old asked me to her prom, and she was very attractive. (I'm barely 2 years older before anyone brings up the age) she barely knew me and she asked me to go so I agreed and she asked why I shaved head, I was honest that I lost it, and while she said it wasn't her preference she said it's just hair why would she care about that. So here's a girl just about 17, very attractive, saying she didn't care I had no hair, full knowing I never will. And prom boosted confidence even more, it was a different schools prom and I was one of the more talked to kids there, people asked me about courses I was taking when they heard I was skydiving for a license and people were curious who one of the 'hottest' girls in thier school took. After prom she even got jealous when I was simply talking to her friend because I guess her friend had a thing for me and thought I was flirting. After this me and this girl are together. I truly don't care about the lost hair given I've had plenty of success in life without it. And I'm not even 20 yet. And yes I'm full on skin head, howie Mandela shaven. No pigment even. And I accomplished this. I just thought I'd give a positive story that it doesn't have to be that big of a deal like many people here make it. Most bald guys are out living doing just fine, that's why you don't see them post. The only ones here posting that baldness destroyed their lives and made them lose everything are either going through the initial shock. Or too weak in that they put strength and life worth into hair. It can be difficult. But it's really just hair. God bless

Very nice story and hopefully some people understand your point.
I started loose hair when i was about 20 years old, and i never felt depressed or how others look at me.
Of course i´m 40 now and probably the society has changed, with our modern day gadgets that keeps us constantly updated how we should be, and with that comes interactive bullying.

For me personally it´s sad, how much it effects people, and what their willing to do for keeping hair at any cause.

[BeaveCake]

Very nice story and hopefully some people understand your point.
I started loose hair when i was about 20 years old, and i never felt depressed or how others look at me.
Of course i´m 40 now and probably the society has changed, with our modern day gadgets that keeps us constantly updated how we should be, and with that comes interactive bullying.

For me personally it´s sad, how much it effects people, and what their willing to do for keeping hair at any cause.

I'm glad to see someone was like me on here. When I first seen thinning patches I was going crazy with stress. When I was told about my condition and that it was permanent I went into kind of a zen thing. My family was very military Rangers, even Green Berets (Army's SEAL equivalent) and I was taught in a very...tough environment to say the least but that taught me plenty and I knew hair didn't make a man so I shaved it. Honestly yes I was worried what girls would think but as I said it hasn't noticably affected me and I've never heard any negative. People say I look 22 which if anything could help (plus unless I wrinkle badly young it also means I'll probably stay looking that young too-bonus) and I truthfully like standing out. The only thing that killed hope at first was hairloss 'support' forums. It's just huge pity all around. People here act like bald men are treated like a different species and I thought to myself 'I wonder if that shaved bald (from hairloss) 20 year old guy I know, actually I know two of them, with the smoking got girl spends all night on these sites worried.' Then I realized no, the successful bald guys are out enjoying life, either not knowing sites like these even matter and not caring, or like me and maybe you and others got on sites like this for research into a problem and seen the ridiculousness of these places and left. Sorry for the long comment but for only being 19 I've been through a hell of a lot, and I don't consider hairloss one of the worst things. So when I see some guys saying it gets no worse than hairloss well.... I wish I could meet them face to face to prove them wrong-sorry that's the family thing speaking but you get my point.

[DeuceWillis]

Great post man. Excellent attitude to have.

[Herbaliser]

I'm glad to see someone was like me on here. When I first seen thinning patches I was going crazy with stress. When I was told about my condition and that it was permanent I went into kind of a zen thing. My family was very military Rangers, even Green Berets (Army's SEAL equivalent) and I was taught in a very...tough environment to say the least but that taught me plenty and I knew hair didn't make a man so I shaved it. Honestly yes I was worried what girls would think but as I said it hasn't noticably affected me and I've never heard any negative. People say I look 22 which if anything could help (plus unless I wrinkle badly young it also means I'll probably stay looking that young too-bonus) and I truthfully like standing out. The only thing that killed hope at first was hairloss 'support' forums. It's just huge pity all around. People here act like bald men are treated like a different species and I thought to myself 'I wonder if that shaved bald (from hairloss) 20 year old guy I know, actually I know two of them, with the smoking got girl spends all night on these sites worried.' Then I realized no, the successful bald guys are out enjoying life, either not knowing sites like these even matter and not caring, or like me and maybe you and others got on sites like this for research into a problem and seen the ridiculousness of these places and left. Sorry for the long comment but for only being 19 I've been through a hell of a lot, and I don't consider hairloss one of the worst things. So when I see some guys saying it gets no worse than hairloss well.... I wish I could meet them face to face to prove them wrong-sorry that's the family thing speaking but you get my point.

Like you quoted forums like this does not help people.
Noticed that directly when i posted an non supplemental natural method, to reverse hair loss that i discovered by accident.
I thought maybe it could help somebody but since 95% are drug users, the responses amazed me and how narrow minded people got.

Their strive to reach alpha male status (don´t know why) is quiet alarming, since finasteride increases testosterone i got a better understanding of their aggressive responses.
There is far more to life like you said, than loosing hair but the media=society wants us to think otherwise and the drug companies uses our fear for beneficial reasons.
Like i said, i really hope you will at least influence some people to think otherwise.

[BeaveCake]

Like you quoted forums like this does not help people.
Noticed that directly when i posted an non supplemental natural method, to reverse hair loss that i discovered by accident.
I thought maybe it could help somebody but since 95% are drug users, the responses amazed me and how narrow minded people got.

Their strive to reach alpha male status (don´t know why) is quiet alarming, since finasteride increases testosterone i got a better understanding of their aggressive responses.
There is far more to life like you said, than loosing hair but the media=society wants us to think otherwise and the drug companies uses our fear for beneficial reasons.
Like i said, i really hope you will at least influence some people to think otherwise.

Oh I agree the media plays it all up, I don't think on matters of appearance anyway that they full blown make it all up, I can admit looks matter a lot to me in a girl it's they initial spark, and I know they want the same. It's just when guys compare bald or shaved baled to something very repelling like obesity, yes we all have standards but hair shouldn't make or break you anymore than some people crappy nose or face etc. And I agree with the treatment being bad, with my condition I was told it was temporary, then I was told it's premature balding, then I was told no it was the temporary condition made permanent by my exhaustion at the time. In a hilarious post that Fred guy accused me of not knowing 'true baldness' because you know a shaved skinhead isn't true baldness haha. But through it all I'd done research about hairloss and knew treatment was way too iffy and affected aspects of a man much more important than hair. Anyway I thank you for helping be firsthand proof on this site that there are guys who lived a life without hair and did fine.

And anyone else reading I meant no offense, but those put all their chips on hair and are saying I was condescending etc I don't feel bad for, they are partially choosing what they get. I hope young guys experiencing hairloss take my advice and some hope from this post, in this age shaving your head is just another style. And it's only a problem if you walk around clearly showing it wasn't your choice.

[FlightTL]

Oh I agree the media plays it all up, I don't think on matters of appearance anyway that they full blown make it all up, I can admit looks matter a lot to me in a girl it's they initial spark, and I know they want the same. It's just when guys compare bald or shaved baled to something very repelling like obesity, yes we all have standards but hair shouldn't make or break you anymore than some people crappy nose or face etc. And I agree with the treatment being bad, with my condition I was told it was temporary, then I was told it's premature balding, then I was told no it was the temporary condition made permanent by my exhaustion at the time. In a hilarious post that Fred guy accused me of not knowing 'true baldness' because you know a shaved skinhead isn't true baldness haha. But through it all I'd done research about hairloss and knew treatment was way too iffy and affected aspects of a man much more important than hair. Anyway I thank you for helping be firsthand proof on this site that there are guys who lived a life without hair and did fine.

And anyone else reading I meant no offense, but those put all their chips on hair and are saying I was condescending etc I don't feel bad for, they are partially choosing what they get. I hope young guys experiencing hairloss take my advice and some hope from this post, in this age shaving your head is just another style. And it's only a problem if you walk around clearly showing it wasn't your choice.

I'm glad that woman likes you and is your gf. Good job mate! I'm sure you have a handsome face and good head structure.

[dus]

I'm a 19 year old who about a year ago lost over half my scalp hair to a (now permanent) condition, I shave my head cue ball, I'm skinny and paler but my face and head shape are good for it I admit. I was concerned how girls my age would feel about it, but I was never worried it'd affect school jobs etcetera like some delusional people do. Well I got my answer to how girls feel about it when a 16 year old asked me to her prom, and she was very attractive. (I'm barely 2 years older before anyone brings up the age) she barely knew me and she asked me to go so I agreed and she asked why I shaved head, I was honest that I lost it, and while she said it wasn't her preference she said it's just hair why would she care about that. So here's a girl just about 17, very attractive, saying she didn't care I had no hair, full knowing I never will. And prom boosted confidence even more, it was a different schools prom and I was one of the more talked to kids there, people asked me about courses I was taking when they heard I was skydiving for a license and people were curious who one of the 'hottest' girls in thier school took. After prom she even got jealous when I was simply talking to her friend because I guess her friend had a thing for me and thought I was flirting. After this me and this girl are together. I truly don't care about the lost hair given I've had plenty of success in life without it. And I'm not even 20 yet. And yes I'm full on skin head, howie Mandela shaven. No pigment even. And I accomplished this. I just thought I'd give a positive story that it doesn't have to be that big of a deal like many people here make it. Most bald guys are out living doing just fine, that's why you don't see them post. The only ones here posting that baldness destroyed their lives and made them lose everything are either going through the initial shock. Or too weak in that they put strength and life worth into hair. It can be difficult. But it's really just hair. God bless

Wait... so your entire post is basically stating that even with hair loss you've just had amazing positive experiences... but you can't comprehend that some people have had polar opposite experiences from the ones you've had? Where you have had joy others have had suffering/ social ridicule etc. and from your position of relative joy you just call these people too weak. You are young so I'll won't blame you for your imo shallow opinion.

[lvlace]

Great post Beavecake. You nailed it. You may be 19 but you are wise beyond your years. No ridicule whatsoever in the post. A very "mature" opinion. You will do well in life with that attitude.

[BeaveCake]

Great post Beavecake. You nailed it. You may be 19 but you are wise beyond your years. No ridicule whatsoever in the post. A very "mature" opinion. You will do well in life with that attitude.

I can't tell if this is sarcasm or not given the quotes