Life isn't worth living if you're bald.

[Illusion]

Every day, I make this promise to myself "I'm not going to read hair loss forums today". This thread is an example of why I want to stay far, far away from hair loss forums (apart from the useful content on here like future treatments and experiences with (experimental) hair loss combatters). I wish I didn't read it: it makes me sad but especially affraid. It makes me sad because it makes me think that baldness is a big disadvantage in the eyes of society. However, that's not what I fear the most. I am terrified that I will be just like some of the guys on here when I grow up: a depressed, anxious, broken person.

Balding usually doesn't do much good for your appearance. But this mindset (see thread title) has got to stop. Some of you guys are literally throwing your life away. I just can't believe baldness is the only reason for not wanting to live anymore. It just can't be. And if you guys are going to tell me it is, then yes, I want to be delusional about that. Like baldozer said, if that's keeping me happy then I'd rather be deluded.

That's also the only thing I agree with him on. Seriously baldozer, wtf are you doing on this site? 70% of your posts consists of you saying that you don't mind being a nw7 and that you look good. 29% is naming handsome bald(ing) celebrities and telling others what facial aesthetics a man need. Then there is the remaining 1% when you talk about the actual reason (according to yourself) you're on this site: the future baldness of your son or whatever.

[Munkynutz]

Oh wow. The first of these posts caught my eye and I just kept reading. I am shocked to see some of you have these views, but granted I didn't lose a ton of hair in my 20's so I perhaps cannot empathize with your exact situations.

I have had a high hairline for a very long time, since my late teens, and it certainly hasn't improved. While I still maintain an acceptable amount of hair it still preoccupies a reasonable amount if my thoughts and I look at my remaining hair in a mirror far more often than I should.

I am not sure I agree that life is ruined without hair though. I've always maintained if I lose enough of it that I will just shave my head and be done with it. I keep myself fit and exercise regularly, and have shaved my head in the past - true it doesn't look as good as people with s full set of hair but it looks far superior to the balding look especially if you take the time to shave it properly. In fact it remains one of the cleanest looks I have ever seen on men. Keep yourself healthy and hair or no hair you will look much better than most other people of there wandering around.

As far as women go - to think you can't find women with no hair or balding is a serious misjudgement. Pay attention to the people around you and their women, social status, whatever. I know and see tons of guys with a sad state of hair with perfectly good women.

I also know many guys with a full head of hair who have it looking like crap, poorly cut, horrible hygiene and overweight sagging bodies which women like far less than no hair. Also in case you haven't notices the majority of people in western societies are missing most of their hair at an ever increasingly early age. So this claim of 'normal' to have hair is utter BS. The opposite is true. Worried about youth? Look at a fit slick bald guy with a shaved head in their 40's versus a guy with greasy grey hair in the normal kept condition.... I know what I thjnj looks more youthful.

Now for you about to say I haven't lost enough hair to appreciate your point of view - I have something far worse in my opinion. I have psoriasis which covered a respectable portion of my body and is gross and flakey and red and actually looks like a damned disease opposed to lost hair which honestly just looks like you've lost hair.

It doesn't depress me, take away my chances in work environments, screw with my social chances, or for the most part scare away women. A few of them sure, especially very young girls I guess, but by and large they like me because I am a happy, easy, outgoing and intellectual individual with a lot of hobbies, personal interests, and knowledge.

If you resign yourself to misery, depression, and self loathing then you are not going to attract anyone. Afraid to take the lead at work because you don't have hair?? Wow. The a job. I don't know anyone I have ever worked with who has suffered in their career prospects because of a lack of the stuff on their heads - granted I don't work with actors - but again, wow.

Life is worth living when you're old and grizzled, it's often worth living even with debilitating diseases, to think not having hair or enough of it has destroyed all your hopes and dreams? Maybe for you - but to me this is offensive and it is the lie.

Best of luck with this particularly self destructive attitude. I choose to enjoy my life no matter what.

[DeuceWillis]

Oh wow. The first of these posts caught my eye and I just kept reading. I am shocked to see some of you have these views, but granted I didn't lose a ton of hair in my 20's so I perhaps cannot empathize with your exact situations.

I have had a high hairline for a very long time, since my late teens, and it certainly hasn't improved. While I still maintain an acceptable amount of hair it still preoccupies a reasonable amount if my thoughts and I look at my remaining hair in a mirror far more often than I should.

I am not sure I agree that life is ruined without hair though. I've always maintained if I lose enough of it that I will just shave my head and be done with it. I keep myself fit and exercise regularly, and have shaved my head in the past - true it doesn't look as good as people with s full set of hair but it looks far superior to the balding look especially if you take the time to shave it properly. In fact it remains one of the cleanest looks I have ever seen on men. Keep yourself healthy and hair or no hair you will look much better than most other people of there wandering around.

As far as women go - to think you can't find women with no hair or balding is a serious misjudgement. Pay attention to the people around you and their women, social status, whatever. I know and see tons of guys with a sad state of hair with perfectly good women.

I also know many guys with a full head of hair who have it looking like crap, poorly cut, horrible hygiene and overweight sagging bodies which women like far less than no hair. Also in case you haven't notices the majority of people in western societies are missing most of their hair at an ever increasingly early age. So this claim of 'normal' to have hair is utter BS. The opposite is true. Worried about youth? Look at a fit slick bald guy with a shaved head in their 40's versus a guy with greasy grey hair in the normal kept condition.... I know what I thjnj looks more youthful.

Now for you about to say I haven't lost enough hair to appreciate your point of view - I have something far worse in my opinion. I have psoriasis which covered a respectable portion of my body and is gross and flakey and red and actually looks like a damned disease opposed to lost hair which honestly just looks like you've lost hair.

It doesn't depress me, take away my chances in work environments, screw with my social chances, or for the most part scare away women. A few of them sure, especially very young girls I guess, but by and large they like me because I am a happy, easy, outgoing and intellectual individual with a lot of hobbies, personal interests, and knowledge.

If you resign yourself to misery, depression, and self loathing then you are not going to attract anyone. Afraid to take the lead at work because you don't have hair?? Wow. The a job. I don't know anyone I have ever worked with who has suffered in their career prospects because of a lack of the stuff on their heads - granted I don't work with actors - but again, wow.

Life is worth living when you're old and grizzled, it's often worth living even with debilitating diseases, to think not having hair or enough of it has destroyed all your hopes and dreams? Maybe for you - but to me this is offensive and it is the lie.

Best of luck with this particularly self destructive attitude. I choose to enjoy my life no matter what.

Bravo! Tell them like it is brother... Hands down best post I've ever read on this site. Logged in just to tell you that.

Life IS meant to be lived, If you're not doing that, you're dead.

[Munkynutz]

Heh thank you!! And you're right, life IS meant to be lived. Make yours interesting and fun and it will be that way to other people too. We only get one, right.

[fred970]

Let's say some of us are just too smart and lucid for our own sakes.

[Vox]

I don't know anyone I have ever worked with who has suffered in their career prospects because of a lack of the stuff on their heads - granted I don't work with actors - but again, wow.

If you work in the show business, then looks and in particular hair play a major role. There are really mediocre, unintelligent even ignorant people in this business doing just fine (profession-wise I mean) because they look good.

Even if you have a work involving regular contact with people (e.g. clients, patients), looks can also be important.

I consider myself lucky in my baldness mishap in the sense that the importance of having hair or not is really minor, if not nil, in what I am doing. I was lately in a conference. Many guys of my age and younger were already bald like myself. No one cared. Great discussions and laughs, bald and hairy ones. Life was good. But this is not the rule.

[Munkynutz]

Hmmm, I will agree with the show business at least as far as North America is concerned. This seems to be much less of an issue in Europe, but then people are normally more impressed over there by what you do with yourself than how you look. Believe it or not this is probably the case here as well, and a person who is dumb and boring but perfect looking may glean immediate bar attention but when it really comes down to it... I can't say I agree. You're better off having a personality and some glimmer to your life.

As far as working with the public goes, I have been done that many times. And I can't say it seems to have had any impact on sales, customer relations, or any other aspect of my job. Sure, I may be missing hair - but I still keep myself well groomed well dressed. Granted that may be enough to look professional and thereby circumvent what you are suggesting.

Where I work? It doesn't matter at all. Most jobs are like that.

In fact, come to think of it, the guy who was my real estate agent when I bought my house was missing a ton of hair. I went with him because he was personable, knew his subject well, and was always ready to help.

Hell, the guy who gave me the mortgage at the bank was bald too. Or at least totally shaved bald. So essentially the same thing. Can't say that bothered me either.

[Munkynutz]

Now for the people who are convinced that they can't meet women, can't get good jobs, or have any success in their lives... I still maintain. Open your damned eyes and have a look at how many high level business people are missing their hair. True not too many presidents but we're fickle when it comes to elections. I think Winston Churchill may have been one of the last people in the circle of major powers to be missing a ton of hair and have success. David Cameron going a little thin too, Vladmir Putin obviously but you don't tend to think of him as "that bald guy".

For women? Hell, I kill women. I am missing hair. Eventually I'll just shave my damned head and deal with it that way unless something spectacular comes out. Keep yourself in decent shape (No, you don't have to look like Vin Diesel or some sh*t), MAKE your life interesting, and you'll find them no problem.

Sit there convinced your life is ruined because you're missing a little hair???? You're doing this to yourself.

[Vox]

Keep yourself in decent shape (No, you don't have to look like Vin Diesel or some sh*t),

Yeah, I never understood why people keep bringing up this kind of male model. If what women say behind anonymity in forums is to be trusted, then this is not the model to follow. It is appealing only to a minority of them.

[mitchsmith]

It's a funny thing that Vin Diesel, Statham, The Rock & co. always get mentioned when people talk men who look good bald. Less ripped types like Ed Harris, Patrick Stewart, Samuel L. Jackson, Sean Connery are way underrated, and FAR more appealing.

Plus, you'd be surprised but bald men are considered way more attractive than ones with hair in large portions of Europe.