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  • fred970
    Senior Member
    • Nov 2009
    • 924

    #46
    Originally posted by cichlidfort
    Get out of bed, hit the gym, get some sunlight and move forward with life.
    Get out of bed? Well of course, you have to get out of your bed to be somehow productive. Hit the gym? Screw becoming a stereotyped meathead! Get some sunlight? Screw trading skin cancer for what people believe is a healthy look! Move forward with your life? Like the first advice, this doesn't mean anything.

    You don't want to admit the truth, you don't want to know the truth, and who could blame you? Isn't ignorance bliss? Retrograde alopecia yeah right, if you look like the way you do on your avatar picture, you have nothing to complain about, and you have no idea of what you're talking about.

    But get a life right. Get a life! So easy to do for some people here who were NW5 in their early twenties. Don't get me wrong, I kept my bloat afloat, I'm going to get my master's degree in a few months and will be starting an internship in a big company next week. And how did I manage to do that? Simple: an expensive (and successful) FUE hair transplant with a top notch doctor, years of minoxidil to buy time, concealers, therapy and keeping my chin up while entire bars laughed in choirs at my bald head (I'm not making this up).

    But telling the crap and giving the generic (wrong) advice you do? It has never helped anyone struggling with the nightmare of hair loss. The truth is, it probably only made people sink even lower. "If I'm such a bald loser, it must not be because of the hair loss, it's because I'm not muscular and I don't go to tanning salons!" Newbies need to be told the truth. And the truth is not pretty, it's going to be a hellish ride for them, and there's no other way to look at it.

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    • DeuceWillis
      Member
      • Feb 2014
      • 75

      #47
      FRED you seem to always have an excuse to what anyone says, and you seem to always miss the point. Its common knowledge working out and being fit boosts self confidence, it's not just to become a meathead as you say. It's all about making the most of what you've got. Sure we'd ALL look better with a ****ing full head of hair, but guess what WE CANT have that, it's up to us to accept that shitty reality and move on the best we can.

      Also, if someone makes fun and laughs at you for your baldness, and it bothers you that much... Punch them in the ****in mouth. Don't get your feelings hurt.

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      • cichlidfort
        Senior Member
        • Jan 2013
        • 262

        #48
        Originally posted by fred970
        Get out of bed? Well of course, you have to get out of your bed to be somehow productive. Hit the gym? Screw becoming a stereotyped meathead! Get some sunlight? Screw trading skin cancer for what people believe is a healthy look! Move forward with your life? Like the first advice, this doesn't mean anything.

        You don't want to admit the truth, you don't want to know the truth, and who could blame you? Isn't ignorance bliss? Retrograde alopecia yeah right, if you look like the way you do on your avatar picture, you have nothing to complain about, and you have no idea of what you're talking about.

        But get a life right. Get a life! So easy to do for some people here who were NW5 in their early twenties. Don't get me wrong, I kept my bloat afloat, I'm going to get my master's degree in a few months and will be starting an internship in a big company next week. And how did I manage to do that? Simple: an expensive (and successful) FUE hair transplant with a top notch doctor, years of minoxidil to buy time, concealers, therapy and keeping my chin up while entire bars laughed in choirs at my bald head (I'm not making this up).

        But telling the crap and giving the generic (wrong) advice you do? It has never helped anyone struggling with the nightmare of hair loss. The truth is, it probably only made people sink even lower. "If I'm such a bald loser, it must not be because of the hair loss, it's because I'm not muscular and I don't go to tanning salons!" Newbies need to be told the truth. And the truth is not pretty, it's going to be a hellish ride for them, and there's no other way to look at it.
        God you're the epitome of an idiot. Clouded with judgement and delusion, you too should see a therapist. Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if one of you depressed balding dudes just stopped posting because you really did commit suicide. It's sad man and I truly mean that. You guys both have to WAKE UP and realize there are a million and one things more to life than strands of hair. You also sound like spoiled little brats. There are an infinite amount of people that have it way worse than losing hair. Missing limbs, PTSD, blindess, severe anxiety disorder, etc. Hairloss is a bargain in comparison.

        Did I ever suggest being a meathead? No! Working out has so many benefits and the fact that you suggest working out makes you look like a prenteious tool is even more pathetic. With that said, it's probably safe to assume you're a typical American that's sedentary that's anti working out simply because your a lazy sack of you know what. Working out will boost your mood, your confidence, and you're overall health generally speaking. Just the other day i saw one of the finest girls with a lean muscular bald man. Guess what, he wasn't stellar looking and he wasn't even 6ft. You guys are so OBSESSED with hair you can't even see what's really important. By the time you're 45, you're going to have so many regrets about living a life in misery over something so trivial in the grand scheme of things. At the end of the day, most men lose their hair. It's accepted. Just get a grip and stop getting your panties in a wad like a bunch of 8 year old girls.

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        • DeuceWillis
          Member
          • Feb 2014
          • 75

          #49
          Originally posted by cichlidfort
          God you're the epitome of an idiot. Clouded with judgement and delusion, you too should see a therapist. Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if one of you depressed balding dudes just stopped posting because you really did commit suicide. It's sad man and I truly mean that. You guys both have to WAKE UP and realize there are a million and one things more to life than strands of hair. You also sound like spoiled little brats. There are an infinite amount of people that have it way worse than losing hair. Missing limbs, PTSD, blindess, severe anxiety disorder, etc. Hairloss is a bargain in comparison.

          Did I ever suggest being a meathead? No! Working out has so many benefits and the fact that you suggest working out makes you look like a prenteious tool is even more pathetic. With that said, it's probably safe to assume you're a typical American that's sedentary that's anti working out simply because your a lazy sack of you know what. Working out will boost your mood, your confidence, and you're overall health generally speaking. Just the other day i saw one of the finest girls with a lean muscular bald man. Guess what, he wasn't stellar looking and he wasn't even 6ft. You guys are so OBSESSED with hair you can't even see what's really important. By the time you're 45, you're going to have so many regrets about living a life in misery over something so trivial in the grand scheme of things. At the end of the day, most men lose their hair. It's accepted. Just get a grip and stop getting your panties in a wad like a bunch of 8 year old girls.
          Can I get an amen?!?

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          • nursedude22
            Member
            • Sep 2014
            • 70

            #50
            Originally posted by cichlidfort
            God you're the epitome of an idiot. Clouded with judgement and delusion, you too should see a therapist. Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if one of you depressed balding dudes just stopped posting because you really did commit suicide. It's sad man and I truly mean that. You guys both have to WAKE UP and realize there are a million and one things more to life than strands of hair. You also sound like spoiled little brats. There are an infinite amount of people that have it way worse than losing hair. Missing limbs, PTSD, blindess, severe anxiety disorder, etc. Hairloss is a bargain in comparison.

            Did I ever suggest being a meathead? No! Working out has so many benefits and the fact that you suggest working out makes you look like a prenteious tool is even more pathetic. With that said, it's probably safe to assume you're a typical American that's sedentary that's anti working out simply because your a lazy sack of you know what. Working out will boost your mood, your confidence, and you're overall health generally speaking. Just the other day i saw one of the finest girls with a lean muscular bald man. Guess what, he wasn't stellar looking and he wasn't even 6ft. You guys are so OBSESSED with hair you can't even see what's really important. By the time you're 45, you're going to have so many regrets about living a life in misery over something so trivial in the grand scheme of things. At the end of the day, most men lose their hair. It's accepted. Just get a grip and stop getting your panties in a wad like a bunch of 8 year old girls.
            RANDOM QUESTION cichilfort: How's finasteride/propecia working for you man? Is it even effective for retrograde alopecia? (I too suffer from it and thinking of hopping on the fin bandwagon)

            P.s. I asked you on here because for some weird reason this forum doesn't let me PM you.

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            • mitchellthesuper
              Junior Member
              • Sep 2014
              • 13

              #51
              come on guys! ok, I accept being bald is not ideal but it is not something dreadful. If people judge you for being bald, it means they are wrong people for you and you should get hem out of your life.

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              • hairlessM
                Member
                • Feb 2013
                • 44

                #52
                Originally posted by cichlidfort
                There are an infinite amount of people that have it way worse than losing hair. Missing limbs, PTSD, blindess, severe anxiety disorder, etc. Hairloss is a bargain in comparison.
                I call BS on some of this. I have dealt with PTSD and severe anxiety disorder but nothing even comes close to body dysmorphic disorder which hair loss can cause, I mean damn, if there was any reason for someone to suffer bdd than hair loss has to be high on that list.

                It's also BS that it's not taken seriously and it can easily effect somebody in every aspect of their life from their employment to relationships to social life. You are kidding yourself if you think otherwise, personal appearance is a major part of life, and nothing will whack that up than mpb. The OP has taken a lot of heat but I gotta agree with him.

                I've been through divorce, my ex cheated multiple times and almost everyone knew and nobody ever told me. I've been through a looooooooong custody battle where I didn't see my daughter for almost 8 months. The result of the above took almost every cent I had and cost me my home which was built %100 on money I made. I basically lost everything I had ever worked for because I married the wrong woman. So you can see where my PTSD and severe anxiety disorder came from.

                I've moved past all of that, started to build up a new life but the one thing I cannot overcome is my dumb-luck appearance. Not even in my mid-30's and complete nw7. Far, far worse than anything I've been through because it's permanent and there is nothing I can do about it. What's even more bizarre is I've had a shaved head for almost half my life and would have a shaved head now even if I had a full head of hair. I have every "element" people "say" you "need" to pull of the shaved head except for height as I'm pretty much bang on average.

                Try and explain that to a therapist, it doesn't go down well.

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                • templerun
                  Junior Member
                  • Apr 2013
                  • 3

                  #53
                  Originally posted by hairlessM
                  I call BS on some of this. I have dealt with PTSD and severe anxiety disorder but nothing even comes close to body dysmorphic disorder which hair loss can cause, I mean damn, if there was any reason for someone to suffer bdd than hair loss has to be high on that list.

                  It's also BS that it's not taken seriously and it can easily effect somebody in every aspect of their life from their employment to relationships to social life. You are kidding yourself if you think otherwise, personal appearance is a major part of life, and nothing will whack that up than mpb. The OP has taken a lot of heat but I gotta agree with him.

                  I've been through divorce, my ex cheated multiple times and almost everyone knew and nobody ever told me. I've been through a looooooooong custody battle where I didn't see my daughter for almost 8 months. The result of the above took almost every cent I had and cost me my home which was built %100 on money I made. I basically lost everything I had ever worked for because I married the wrong woman. So you can see where my PTSD and severe anxiety disorder came from.

                  I've moved past all of that, started to build up a new life but the one thing I cannot overcome is my dumb-luck appearance. Not even in my mid-30's and complete nw7. Far, far worse than anything I've been through because it's permanent and there is nothing I can do about it. What's even more bizarre is I've had a shaved head for almost half my life and would have a shaved head now even if I had a full head of hair. I have every "element" people "say" you "need" to pull of the shaved head except for height as I'm pretty much bang on average.

                  Try and explain that to a therapist, it doesn't go down well.
                  I hear you brother. All the pep talk doesn't necessarily help the people who are smart enough to figure that by definition- pep talk is some overly optimistic irrational bull shit. Distorting the truth - never appealed to me. I am balding and you made me realize maybe I am not trying enough to save my remaining hair. I always thought I could get a HT later on but for some reason all the people here dont seem to think that viability of hair transplants is not good enough to stop worrying about hair loss. I am actually a little puzzled about this and I invite other more informed people to comment. Thanks.

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                  • baldozer
                    Senior Member
                    • Oct 2012
                    • 752

                    #54
                    Originally posted by hairlessM
                    I call BS on some of this. I have dealt with PTSD and severe anxiety disorder but nothing even comes close to body dysmorphic disorder which hair loss can cause, I mean damn, if there was any reason for someone to suffer bdd than hair loss has to be high on that list.

                    It's also BS that it's not taken seriously and it can easily effect somebody in every aspect of their life from their employment to relationships to social life. You are kidding yourself if you think otherwise, personal appearance is a major part of life, and nothing will whack that up than mpb. The OP has taken a lot of heat but I gotta agree with him.

                    I've been through divorce, my ex cheated multiple times and almost everyone knew and nobody ever told me. I've been through a looooooooong custody battle where I didn't see my daughter for almost 8 months. The result of the above took almost every cent I had and cost me my home which was built %100 on money I made. I basically lost everything I had ever worked for because I married the wrong woman. So you can see where my PTSD and severe anxiety disorder came from.

                    I've moved past all of that, started to build up a new life but the one thing I cannot overcome is my dumb-luck appearance. Not even in my mid-30's and complete nw7. Far, far worse than anything I've been through because it's permanent and there is nothing I can do about it. What's even more bizarre is I've had a shaved head for almost half my life and would have a shaved head now even if I had a full head of hair. I have every "element" people "say" you "need" to pull of the shaved head except for height as I'm pretty much bang on average.

                    Try and explain that to a therapist, it doesn't go down well.
                    I am also NW7, but I'm pretty happy. I don't know whats the problem with you.

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                    • fred970
                      Senior Member
                      • Nov 2009
                      • 924

                      #55
                      Originally posted by baldozer
                      I am also NW7, but I'm pretty happy. I don't know whats the problem with you.
                      He has not drowned in self-delusion.

                      @templerun: a HT is the only viable solution out of this mess in my opinion. There's nothing else really.

                      The ideal would be the combination of good FUE megasessions and concealers. Better than just remain bald.

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                      • Notcoolanymore
                        Senior Member
                        • Jun 2013
                        • 2260

                        #56
                        Even if we do assume that baldozer is as good looking as he thinks he is(never seen pics) , that is 1 out of what every 1000? 1 out of every 10,000? It has been said many times before and I will say it again balding does not work for most that have it. I do my best not to walk around completely depressed like many on this forum, but that doesn't mean I am completely oblivious as to the effect that MPB is having on my life.

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                        • FlightTL
                          Senior Member
                          • Jun 2011
                          • 842

                          #57
                          Baldozer and fred790 are polar opposites.

                          One can live freely as a Norwood 6. The other depends on a FUE megasession for survival.

                          Honestly, I side a bit more with Fred790 because I am deeply depressed over hair loss.

                          More power to you Baldozer. You really must be handsome with a great head shape to be happy. At least ur happy, cat man, and I hope u stay that way!

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                          • baldozer
                            Senior Member
                            • Oct 2012
                            • 752

                            #58
                            Originally posted by fred970
                            He has not drowned in self-delusion.

                            @templerun: a HT is the only viable solution out of this mess in my opinion. There's nothing else really.

                            The ideal would be the combination of good FUE megasessions and concealers. Better than just remain bald.
                            If delusion keeps me happy, than I would rather be deluded. Life is too short. So, I would rather enjoy it than staying depressed.

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                            • Illusion
                              Senior Member
                              • Jul 2014
                              • 500

                              #59
                              Every day, I make this promise to myself "I'm not going to read hair loss forums today". This thread is an example of why I want to stay far, far away from hair loss forums (apart from the useful content on here like future treatments and experiences with (experimental) hair loss combatters). I wish I didn't read it: it makes me sad but especially affraid. It makes me sad because it makes me think that baldness is a big disadvantage in the eyes of society. However, that's not what I fear the most. I am terrified that I will be just like some of the guys on here when I grow up: a depressed, anxious, broken person.

                              Balding usually doesn't do much good for your appearance. But this mindset (see thread title) has got to stop. Some of you guys are literally throwing your life away. I just can't believe baldness is the only reason for not wanting to live anymore. It just can't be. And if you guys are going to tell me it is, then yes, I want to be delusional about that. Like baldozer said, if that's keeping me happy then I'd rather be deluded.

                              That's also the only thing I agree with him on. Seriously baldozer, wtf are you doing on this site? 70% of your posts consists of you saying that you don't mind being a nw7 and that you look good. 29% is naming handsome bald(ing) celebrities and telling others what facial aesthetics a man need. Then there is the remaining 1% when you talk about the actual reason (according to yourself) you're on this site: the future baldness of your son or whatever.

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                              • Munkynutz
                                Senior Member
                                • Aug 2014
                                • 128

                                #60
                                Oh wow. The first of these posts caught my eye and I just kept reading. I am shocked to see some of you have these views, but granted I didn't lose a ton of hair in my 20's so I perhaps cannot empathize with your exact situations.

                                I have had a high hairline for a very long time, since my late teens, and it certainly hasn't improved. While I still maintain an acceptable amount of hair it still preoccupies a reasonable amount if my thoughts and I look at my remaining hair in a mirror far more often than I should.

                                I am not sure I agree that life is ruined without hair though. I've always maintained if I lose enough of it that I will just shave my head and be done with it. I keep myself fit and exercise regularly, and have shaved my head in the past - true it doesn't look as good as people with s full set of hair but it looks far superior to the balding look especially if you take the time to shave it properly. In fact it remains one of the cleanest looks I have ever seen on men. Keep yourself healthy and hair or no hair you will look much better than most other people of there wandering around.

                                As far as women go - to think you can't find women with no hair or balding is a serious misjudgement. Pay attention to the people around you and their women, social status, whatever. I know and see tons of guys with a sad state of hair with perfectly good women.

                                I also know many guys with a full head of hair who have it looking like crap, poorly cut, horrible hygiene and overweight sagging bodies which women like far less than no hair. Also in case you haven't notices the majority of people in western societies are missing most of their hair at an ever increasingly early age. So this claim of 'normal' to have hair is utter BS. The opposite is true. Worried about youth? Look at a fit slick bald guy with a shaved head in their 40's versus a guy with greasy grey hair in the normal kept condition.... I know what I thjnj looks more youthful.

                                Now for you about to say I haven't lost enough hair to appreciate your point of view - I have something far worse in my opinion. I have psoriasis which covered a respectable portion of my body and is gross and flakey and red and actually looks like a damned disease opposed to lost hair which honestly just looks like you've lost hair.

                                It doesn't depress me, take away my chances in work environments, screw with my social chances, or for the most part scare away women. A few of them sure, especially very young girls I guess, but by and large they like me because I am a happy, easy, outgoing and intellectual individual with a lot of hobbies, personal interests, and knowledge.

                                If you resign yourself to misery, depression, and self loathing then you are not going to attract anyone. Afraid to take the lead at work because you don't have hair?? Wow. The a job. I don't know anyone I have ever worked with who has suffered in their career prospects because of a lack of the stuff on their heads - granted I don't work with actors - but again, wow.

                                Life is worth living when you're old and grizzled, it's often worth living even with debilitating diseases, to think not having hair or enough of it has destroyed all your hopes and dreams? Maybe for you - but to me this is offensive and it is the lie.

                                Best of luck with this particularly self destructive attitude. I choose to enjoy my life no matter what.

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