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[jackhammer199]

Hi, long time lurker, first real time posting...

I'm currently a Norwood 2.5 and have been slowly progressing through the scale since I was 19, I am now 23. I went for a haircut today, the same as I do every 5 or 6 weeks, and in the space of about 3 hours have had 4 or 5 acquaintances say things along the lines of "Wow, you're really losing your hair eh!" and "How are you losing your hair at 23??!"...

I've been pretty good (or so I think!) at hiding my loss so far so to have this happen after getting a pretty short haircut (that I thought would hide the thinning and recession) is a massive source of frustration and depression for me. I'm pretty certain that I won't be going down the propecia/RU/any other crazy concoction route, so I know I can't really complain about the whole situation..I'm just here to vent really.

How long has it taken your friends to get over the whole balding/bald thing? My confidence has been hit pretty hard by it, I wish I was able to just shrug off the comments and jokes but that's not really me.

[35YrsAfter]

Hi, long time lurker, first real time posting...
I'm pretty certain that I won't be going down the propecia/RU/any other crazy concoction route, so I know I can't really complain about the whole situation..I'm just here to vent really.

How long has it taken your friends to get over the whole balding/bald thing? My confidence has been hit pretty hard by it, I wish I was able to just shrug off the comments and jokes but that's not really me.

Propecia is usually pretty effective. RU of course is gray market experimental.

35YrsAfter also posts as CITNews and works at Dr. Cole's office
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Alpharetta, Georgia 30009
Phone 678-566-1011
email 35YrsAfter at chuck@forhair.com
The contents of my posts are my opinions and not medical advice
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[fred970]

People began to tell me my scalp was showing by the age of 18.

On what planet are these people living? Losing your hair at 23 is not that common, but surely they should know it can happen.

Try to find fat people among those acquaintances, and just tell them:

"Wow you're really chubby, aren't you? How come someone can become so fat! Are you going to McDonalds everyday?!"

What?

[Jasari]

People began to tell me my scalp was showing by the age of 18.

On what planet are these people living? Losing your hair at 23 is not that common, but surely they should know it can happen.

Try to find fat people among those acquaintances, and just tell them:

"Wow you're really chubby, aren't you? How come someone can become so fat! Are you going to McDonalds everyday?!"

What?

Some people are really really ignorant; especially regarding hair loss I've come to notice.

There was this one occasion about 2 years ago where I went to a hair dresser. I was around a 4a so my crown was pretty good but the front third of my hairline was more or less gone. I had a cap on & the moment I sat down & took it off the hair dresser called over one of their colleagues & said 'Check this out' 'Have you ever seen anything like it' 'You are really bald'

It's pretty odd for someone to react that way regarding something as common as hair loss.

In regards to the OP in my experience people never get over your hair loss which makes it hard for yourself to do the same. That being said the moment you become confident enough to 'not give an f' the people around you won't either. Derogatory remarks are always the basis of people who aren't confident themselves. Unshakable confidence in yourself will get you further than any head of hair ever will.

[Notcoolanymore]

There was this one occasion about 2 years ago where I went to a hair dresser. I was around a 4a so my crown was pretty good but the front third of my hairline was more or less gone. I had a cap on & the moment I sat down & took it off the hair dresser called over one of their colleagues & said 'Check this out' 'Have you ever seen anything like it' 'You are really bald'

You should have walked out.

[35YrsAfter]

Some people are really really ignorant; especially regarding hair loss I've come to notice.

There was this one occasion about 2 years ago where I went to a hair dresser. I was around a 4a so my crown was pretty good but the front third of my hairline was more or less gone. I had a cap on & the moment I sat down & took it off the hair dresser called over one of their colleagues & said 'Check this out' 'Have you ever seen anything like it' 'You are really bald'

It's pretty odd for someone to react that way regarding something as common as hair loss.

When I was in my late twenties, I had a hair transplant by the big chain who advertised everywhere except the Internet, because it didn't exist then. The hairline never looked natural. I went back for a hairline refinement and think I could have done a better job than the doctor after a half hour training session with Dr. Cole. It's funny but the guy who made my hairline worse, still advertises and practices hair transplant surgery. He must be 85 years old. Perhaps a very slow learner with abysmal artistic sensibilities. Anyway, the people at my work recommended I have my hair cut shorter. Because my donor was butchered, I called the hair transplant clinic for a barber/hairdresser recommendation. After a little time in the hairdresser's chair, it became evident that she was a commissioned agent of the hair transplant clinic. She did her best to make me feel like I didn't have enough hair. She pointed out an older man in the chair next to me, commenting how wonderfully full his hair was and wouldn't I love to have a head of hair like that. It was disgusting. The hair cut turned out well but I was visibly pissed and the hairdresser didn't seem to comprehend why. Some people are socially clueless.

35YrsAfter also posts as CITNews and works at Dr. Cole's office
forhair.com
Cole Hair Transplant
1070 Powers Place
Alpharetta, Georgia 30009
Phone 678-566-1011
email 35YrsAfter at chuck@forhair.com
The contents of my posts are my opinions and not medical advice
Please feel free to call or email me with any questions. Ask for Chuck

[fred970]

My first dermatologist who was 60 years old found good to point when he told me I was balding at 19 years old: "Look, Frédéric, even I have more hair than you!"

Prick.

[howardroarke]

I am not sure if this will help you .. but I just want to share my experience. This might be overly dramatic too. I had beautiful hair which I got compliments for until I was about 19. Then I slowly started loosing hair which has progressed to a NW3-3.5 now.I am 28. I have not given up still and somehow deal with it with some crazy hairdo. But the hardest part is to go the hairdressers. I can't blame them for what they do to my hair... I honestly think they can't do much about how it can be cut. I cringe when I see my reflection in the mirror .. my hair just looks disgusting. As I walk out of the saloon lobby to pay.. I can see most people staring at my hair.It's a very painful experience. I usually walk back home from this saloon ... and it's during this time I usually make decisions .. think about how to bring something good out of myself in the coming 15 days... This feeling is so intense and I have accomplished what ever I thought about. For instance, it was during one of the walks that I decided to quit my job and go to grad school. I did . Then I wanted to get a great gpa. I got 4.8 and then I got a better job. I can say most of these came out of the pain that I have experienced and none out of the happy moments. I am not looking forward to this pain but then when I come across it I realized I just will make it work for me somehow.

[baldduders]

hey try to laugh about it as much as you can.. you have to wonder why you are so hurt, someone is like, dude your losing your hair ! Your like ya, i guess so.. it's kind why are you hurt by it, everyone is thinking, poor dude, losing his hair, so when someone says it don't be surprised like dude, ya i am i look in the mirror.

I used to joke about it or be frank, like for instance, but so many people jump on that for a chance to throw in the "ya i wouldn't want to date a bald guy either.. now i don't throw them an opening, so if someone says something about it I always see what is there problem...

most people that bug you about it are low self esteem people, so snap back lightly like "oh tell the bald guy" just say "said the fat women" or "said the shorty" there is always something to pick on people about, wrinkles.. you don't have to be mean but one at a time they will not have the guts to say it twice, make sure to one up them, like hey baldy, say oh ya wrinkly or what ever.. they shut up pretty quickly

[hal]

[QUOTE=jackhammer199;172393]Hi, long time lurker, first real time posting...



Wait 5 years. The hairline/hair you're so depressed about right now is the one you will desperately wish you had back again.

You'll say, God, if I only had the hairline I had when I was 23 I'd never worry about my hair again...

Anyway, you have 1 option at this point. Propecia. You roll the dice and take your chances and maybe you keep the hair you have. Or maybe it has side effects and makes your hair worse.

Hal