Coworker with hair loss. Should I get involved?

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  • 25 going on 65
    Senior Member
    • Sep 2010
    • 1476

    #31
    Originally posted by Notcoolanymore
    After reading the point of view from all you guys, I just decided to leave it alone. If he asks me for info, I will let him know what I know. Other wise I won't bring it up. Who knows, him buzzing his head might be his way of just saying "screw it" and moving on with this life.
    But I understand wanting to tell him. Almost makes me neurotic seeing some guy just let his hair go to waste for months, years even
    A friend I met last year is like NW 3.5 & his head/face are all wrong for it. His father tagged him in an old photo on FB when he was like NW1.5-2 w/ bangs....HOLY SH*T he was like another person. He was actually a goodlooking guy

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    • Notcoolanymore
      Senior Member
      • Jun 2013
      • 2260

      #32
      Originally posted by 25 going on 65
      But I understand wanting to tell him. Almost makes me neurotic seeing some guy just let his hair go to waste for months, years even
      A friend I met last year is like NW 3.5 & his head/face are all wrong for it. His father tagged him in an old photo on FB when he was like NW1.5-2 w/ bangs....HOLY SH*T he was like another person. He was actually a goodlooking guy
      I understand the potential problems getting involved could create. I just remember my own situation. Being misinformed destroyed my hair. If I would have known 15 years ago what I know today, my hair might be in totally different shape.

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      • PatientlyWaiting
        Senior Member
        • Jan 2011
        • 1639

        #33
        Originally posted by Hicks
        I wish I took before pictures of me when I started the big 3. I'm 15 months out and there it's a big difference. I would casual say to person X "Hey man, check this out! 15 months on the Big 3. Pretty amazing stuff".

        I told my trainer I would be off 2 weeks for my HT. Told HER about the big 3 and she was skeptical. I forward her the link to Bernstein Medical of before and after from medication.
        Good for you man. I'm happy to read a positive post from a fin/minoxidil user.

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        • PatientlyWaiting
          Senior Member
          • Jan 2011
          • 1639

          #34
          Originally posted by DAVE52
          +1
          The fact the guy buzzed his head shows that he knows he has a problem and he's dealt with it .
          Don't bring it up
          Taking the " big 3 " as people like to say isn't going to bring his hair back to the way it was .
          I buzz my head to a zero, I bet other balding men who care about their hair loss look at me and say "Damn, I wish I could be like him, look at him, he just shaved and moved on." Little did they know I have nearly 1500 posts on a hairloss forum, and a couple hundred posts on other hair loss forums and have thought about hair loss every single day of my life since it started when I was 16 years old(now 25). Buzzing your head doesn't mean you dealt with it IMO, it could just be that you are using rogaine and finasteride/dutasteride every day just to wait to do something better about it some day.

          When I see young/or middle aged men with a shaved head I don't assume he's happy about it or that that is his final resolution to his hair loss. I see it more like he could have moved on yes, but also it could be a temporary thing.

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          • Notcoolanymore
            Senior Member
            • Jun 2013
            • 2260

            #35
            Originally posted by PatientlyWaiting
            " Little did they know I have nearly 1500 posts on a hairloss forum, and a couple hundred posts on other hair loss forums

            Buzzing your head doesn't mean you dealt with it IMO, it could just be that you are using rogaine and finasteride/dutasteride every day just to wait to do something better about it some day.

            When I see young/or middle aged men with a shaved head I don't assume he's happy about it or that that is his final resolution to his hair loss. I see it more like he could have moved on yes, but also it could be a temporary thing.
            I have been buzzing my head for about 10 years. I was not happy with it when I first started, and not happy about it now. I do it because in my eyes this is the best option for the quantity of hair that I have.

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            • DannyBoyy7
              Senior Member
              • Sep 2012
              • 102

              #36
              I shave my head cause i dont like it when it grows to a certain length there is times when im lazy and i just let it grow...but still...funny how things change though there was a time i dreaded the horse shoe look now i walk round shops etc with no care in the world when im in my lazy moods...i remember i was in the shop once with my hood up cause i still had it up from when i was outside cause it was cold i keep it up cause im not in that certain shop i was in for long...and i took it of to prove a point...because i use to hide it (when it wasnt at it worse just some thinning)with hairstyles now i dont no more...it just came to mind to do it i suppose its a little "**** you" to the hairloss problem cause how it made me feel once upon a time and now it dont bother me nomore.

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              • yeahyeahyeah
                Senior Member
                • Nov 2011
                • 1818

                #37
                Just throw my 2 cents in.

                I was out on valantines day, got a haircut. But this time I told my hairdresser to keep my fringe longer and slightly longer on top - giving me a NW1 apperance.

                I got SO MUCH attention, girls winking at me, blowing kisses. Girls with boyfriends, holding my hand after meeting them for 2 minutes, and telling me to stay with them if I jokingly say I have gotta go.

                Last month, my hairline was more exposed after a haircut, I got told that I looked gay and ugly by a girl. Another person thought I looked like I was 30+. I am now getting IDed.

                So my point is, OP you should tell him about treatments, at least he can buy some time that way and get a wife.

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                • custards
                  Junior Member
                  • Sep 2012
                  • 29

                  #38
                  Originally posted by Notcoolanymore
                  I wish somebody would have given me advice years ago. A family member, friend, casual acquaintance, anybody. What do you guys think?
                  It's a nice idea but I reckon either look to make a friend or leave it alone. It's kind of an awkward thing to discuss sincerely for many people. Often people will joke and pretend not to care about it. On the other hand everyone appreciates having a friend going through similar things, and possibly being able to tease out the topic in the right setting.

                  Also yeah it's hard to read someone by their hairstyles like you mentioned... The way I see it: having a bit of a combover is a relatively tidy option for people with very limited options. Denial or not, people won't part their hair through all the thin spots because it looks even sillier than a combover. Shaving is another tidy option but it doesn't necessarily mean acceptance. People seem to respect it more, but I mean buzzing it takes more effort than letting it grow, so I can't really imagine what someone's mental state is either way...

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                  • Jcm800
                    Senior Member
                    • Jan 2011
                    • 2627

                    #39
                    Originally posted by yeahyeahyeah
                    Just throw my 2 cents in.

                    I was out on valantines day, got a haircut. But this time I told my hairdresser to keep my fringe longer and slightly longer on top - giving me a NW1 apperance.

                    I got SO MUCH attention, girls winking at me, blowing kisses. Girls with boyfriends, holding my hand after meeting them for 2 minutes, and telling me to stay with them if I jokingly say I have gotta go.

                    Last month, my hairline was more exposed after a haircut, I got told that I looked gay and ugly by a girl. Another person thought I looked like I was 30+. I am now getting IDed.

                    So my point is, OP you should tell him about treatments, at least he can buy some time that way and get a wife.
                    So you'd recommend a co-worker take a drug that you won't touch with a stick yourself?

                    I think your opinion of Finasteride might change once you develop a bad patch..each day passes mine is .

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                    • Jcm800
                      Senior Member
                      • Jan 2011
                      • 2627

                      #40
                      ..a bald patch even*

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                      • DAVE52
                        Senior Member
                        • Sep 2010
                        • 776

                        #41
                        Originally posted by PatientlyWaiting

                        When I see young/or middle aged men with a shaved head I don't assume he's happy about it or that that is his final resolution to his hair loss. I see it more like he could have moved on yes, but also it could be a temporary thing.
                        Yea, he might not be happy about buzzing it , but what are his options : buzz it or walk around looking like a dork with a comb over or thinning hair .

                        And temporary for what ?

                        You really think there is going to be some miracle cure that will grow all your hair back ?

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                        • Notcoolanymore
                          Senior Member
                          • Jun 2013
                          • 2260

                          #42
                          Originally posted by yeahyeahyeah
                          Just throw my 2 cents in.

                          I was out on valantines day, got a haircut. But this time I told my hairdresser to keep my fringe longer and slightly longer on top - giving me a NW1 apperance.

                          I got SO MUCH attention, girls winking at me, blowing kisses. Girls with boyfriends, holding my hand after meeting them for 2 minutes, and telling me to stay with them if I jokingly say I have gotta go.

                          Last month, my hairline was more exposed after a haircut, I got told that I looked gay and ugly by a girl. Another person thought I looked like I was 30+. I am now getting IDed.

                          So my point is, OP you should tell him about treatments, at least he can buy some time that way and get a wife.
                          Your 2 cents are worth at least $2000. I gotta go find my coworker and tell him about treatments before it's too late.

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                          • inspects
                            Senior Member
                            • Aug 2012
                            • 260

                            #43
                            Originally posted by Notcoolanymore
                            Your 2 cents are worth at least $2000. I gotta go find my coworker and tell him about treatments before it's too late.
                            I'm with you bro, I wish someone would have said something to me about the options available, I had NO idea, because I didn't look.

                            I basically just thought, hell, I'm losing my hair like no tomorrow, may as well make the best of it, so I just ignored it.

                            I certainly wish I would have found this forum years ago.

                            I've had a transplant since, I'm thrilled with the results, but I could of had this done years ago knowing what I know now.

                            Anyway, life goes on, I'm on Fin and Rogaine now and couldn't be happier. I have the hair I want and stopped the loss. BUT I could have done this a LONG time ago.

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                            • Notcoolanymore
                              Senior Member
                              • Jun 2013
                              • 2260

                              #44
                              Originally posted by inspects
                              I'm with you bro, I wish someone would have said something to me about the options available, I had NO idea, because I didn't look.

                              I basically just thought, hell, I'm losing my hair like no tomorrow, may as well make the best of it, so I just ignored it.

                              I certainly wish I would have found this forum years ago.

                              I've had a transplant since, I'm thrilled with the results, but I could of had this done years ago knowing what I know now.

                              Anyway, life goes on, I'm on Fin and Rogaine now and couldn't be happier. I have the hair I want and stopped the loss. BUT I could have done this a LONG time ago.
                              Yeah, misinformation killed my hair. I tried to seek the advice of doctors, but surprisingly they knew less than I did. I just hate to see somebody go through severe hair loss if they don't have to.

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                              • Hicks
                                Senior Member
                                • Apr 2013
                                • 291

                                #45
                                Originally posted by Notcoolanymore
                                Yeah, misinformation killed my hair. I tried to seek the advice of doctors, but surprisingly they knew less than I did. I just hate to see somebody go through severe hair loss if they don't have to.
                                My Dermatologist told me to take 2.5mg of Fin. I questioned her about it and I knew she didn't have a clue. I just got the perscription and RAN! Never went back.

                                Actually the only reason that I looked into Propecia is a friend told me about it. I was telling him that my dam hair is falling out (only after my dad told me my hair looked like sh*t). He said take propecia. I was like what's that? Then I found all these great Hair Loss Forums with very positive people.

                                For real, I am glad I found these forums and the few guys that I've talked to on the phone about this mess.

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