Almost got over it now anxiety is back in full force.

[Cr779]

So after a bad experience with propecia I resigned myself to my hair loss. Wasn't gonna bother with minox or anything else as it would only prolong the loss for a bit and I was afraid the shed would ruin what was left of my hairline. After a few months I really did stop caring, I don't even think I'll look that bad bald now, but I can still hide it almost completely.

Now just last week I finally got myself my first girlfriend. She's way out of my league. And now suddenly my hair is making me more self conscious than I ever imagined. I'm so terrified she's going to notice, as it fairly quickly gets worse I'm not gonna be able to hide it in probably another 4-5 months. I'm scared shitless she's not going to find me attractive once she notices I'm thinning and that she might lose interest in me. Anyone else ever get anxious about what a significant other thinks about their declining hairline?

[Dan26]

Bro change your mind set! Never think a girl is 'way out of your league'. You're the catch, she's lucky yo have you. There are two ways to go about this. Fight your hairloss battle tooth and nail and just be accepting of whatever the outcome may be, or simply embrace your baldness and shave your head when it becomes noticeable. Do it with confidence!

[Cr779]

Sorry, by leauge I meant in terms of physical attractiveness. She's really, really pretty. Like everyone I know is telling me how lucky I am. But other than that yeah, I'm a decent catch myself, just only average looking. But I'm still afraid as a 21 year old girl she's gonna get majorly turned off when she see's that I'm balding. And she's head over heels about me so the idea that that might change turns my stomach.

I mean lets face it, some girls really don't find bald men attractive, what if she doesn't? I mean she'd never leave me over it, but it could be a turn off, which could lead to the relationship declining. Or maybe not, I dunno like I said I thought I was over this and now suddenly I'm worrying all night. Things are just so good with this girl and my hair loss has always been my Achilles heel.

[clandestine]

Bro change your mind set! Never think a girl is 'way out of your league'. You're the catch, she's lucky yo have you. There are two ways to go about this. Fight your hairloss battle tooth and nail and just be accepting of whatever the outcome may be, or simply embrace your baldness and shave your head when it becomes noticeable. Do it with confidence!

Dan, big post.

[clandestine]

Self love. Time to culture; she likes you for you. Enjoy your time together.

Your living with too many 'what if's'. Get out of this mindset, appreciate the present.

[Dan26]

Dan, big post.

Young balding brothers unite.

Sorry, by leauge I meant in terms of physical attractiveness. She's really, really pretty. Like everyone I know is telling me how lucky I am. But other than that yeah, I'm a decent catch myself, just only average looking. But I'm still afraid as a 21 year old girl she's gonna get majorly turned off when she see's that I'm balding. And she's head over heels about me so the idea that that might change turns my stomach.

I mean lets face it, some girls really don't find bald men attractive, what if she doesn't? I mean she'd never leave me over it, but it could be a turn off, which could lead to the relationship declining. Or maybe not, I dunno like I said I thought I was over this and now suddenly I'm worrying all night. Things are just so good with this girl and my hair loss has always been my Achilles heel.

If there is one thing I can relay to you, that you must understand, it's that you cannot let losing your hair change you, and change how you are with your girl. If you do, your relationship may spiral, and it will be all your fault. Don't do that to yourself brother. Just keep being who you are and acting true to yourself, and if she doesn't feel the same about you, simply because of a physical change you make, believe me the relationship was destined to fail at some point.

I know what you are experiencing, and it is a scary prospect; to have someone you care deeply about, and who you believe cares deeply about you, reject you because of a physical change you can't even control!

[Morbo]

Not sure if I'm misreading it, but if you think don't look bad bald why don't you just shave it?

[Exodus]

Bro change your mind set! Never think a girl is 'way out of your league'. You're the catch, she's lucky yo have you. There are two ways to go about this. Fight your hairloss battle tooth and nail and just be accepting of whatever the outcome may be, or simply embrace your baldness and shave your head when it becomes noticeable. Do it with confidence!

Good post.

But more importantly he's right. You do have to change your mindset as it's going to be the only way to cope. Almost a year ago now I remember thinking how I hated my hair losing out and I was becoming a 'lesser person'. Fast forward a year, not much has changed life wise except I am much more happier in my own skin and with my own hair...all because I buzzed it.

I'd be up front with her and just go for it bro!