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  • Breaking Bald
    Senior Member
    • Aug 2012
    • 610

    Mother nature is a ****ing bitch!

    What kind of sick joke is this?? I am getting hairier everywhere but my head, starting to notice hairs on my back emerging

    I honestly can't do this, I don't feel like same person anymore. Everyday 'right don't think about hair loss, just keep going, focus' But I just crumble as soon as I look in the mirror

    The worst part is the loooong and sloooooww wait, knowing that it is only going to get worse and worse. Always wondering, when is it going to stop? How bald am I going to be? Is there ever going to be any new treatments?

    I just want to be who I used to be again.
  • BigThinker
    Senior Member
    • Oct 2012
    • 1507

    #2

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    • Exodus
      Senior Member
      • Nov 2012
      • 318

      #3
      Breaking last year before Christmas I felt exactly like you and a part of me still does.

      But you know what after getting the super short one, I kinda realised it's not going to be the end of the world. Yes I'll be bald, but if Im going down, Im going down fighting and trying. That includes medication, working out, etc (you know the drill lol).

      You're the same age as me and from the same country so I feel I can relate to you. The bottom line is, get on a med you want and find a strategy to cope in the short to medium term (and if it means shaving no guard...then it has to be that).

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      • Bobman
        Member
        • Nov 2008
        • 34

        #4
        First, let me say that I totally understand your pain. I lost ALL my hair by the time I was 30 and started at 22-23. Remember though, we cannot EVER control what happens TO US, but we ALWAYS have the power to control what things MEAN to us. The meaning you give it will control your focus, your emotions, your decisions and your actions.

        Let's start today by changing the meaning. I'm not saying it doesn't suck...cuz I've been there and it's not pleasant. So vocabulary is crucial in this step. From here out try to use less negative emotional charging words. For example, if you routinely say "I Hate that I'm going bald"...try..."I'm peeved that I'm going bald. Sounds silly I know, but it works. Sit down, draw a line down the middle of a piece of paper and on the left side list the words you routinely use to express your current state of disappointment. On the right side of that line...for each word make up a new one...maybe even a postive to the negative which is the most transformational.

        What I'm trying to offer you is to TAKE CONTROL of what you have control over...the meaning you give it. This will put you in a better state to take a more positive action towards becoming a "Hair-loss Victor", rather than a sufferer.

        Also, the best way to ask questions is to pay attention to how you're forming them. For example:
        1) When is it going to stop? Change to: "What options are available to me?"

        2) How bald am I going to be? Change to: "Is there anyone out there that was once where I am who has overcome this?"

        3) Is there ever going to be any new treatments? Change to: "What treatments currently work well and might be good for me NOW?"

        It's all about positioning yourself to be what you truly are, a powerful being that has the ability to change things. And I believe that if a simple guy like me can...you certainly can.

        I hope this opens up your eyes to your strength. You're not alone in this thing and we are ALL here to help.

        May this find you well and let me know if you have any questions.

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        • UK_
          Senior Member
          • Feb 2011
          • 2744

          #5
          Thats how the majority of us feel breaking.

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          • Breaking Bald
            Senior Member
            • Aug 2012
            • 610

            #6
            I'm just having a bad day and very true BT lol. I mean seriously what is the reason for this ridiculous curse?

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            • Assemblage23
              Senior Member
              • Aug 2009
              • 197

              #7
              Breaking bald, you havent started fin yet?

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              • Breaking Bald
                Senior Member
                • Aug 2012
                • 610

                #8
                Originally posted by Assemblage23
                Breaking bald, you havent started fin yet?
                Nah man, only minox. I still don't trust fin.

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                • Kayman
                  Senior Member
                  • Dec 2012
                  • 260

                  #9
                  Originally posted by Breaking Bald
                  What kind of sick joke is this?? I am getting hairier everywhere but my head, starting to notice hairs on my back emerging

                  I honestly can't do this, I don't feel like same person anymore. Everyday 'right don't think about hair loss, just keep going, focus' But I just crumble as soon as I look in the mirror

                  The worst part is the loooong and sloooooww wait, knowing that it is only going to get worse and worse. Always wondering, when is it going to stop? How bald am I going to be? Is there ever going to be any new treatments?

                  I just want to be who I used to be again.
                  Break out the clippers and get rid of that long slow wait.

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                  • Breaking Bald
                    Senior Member
                    • Aug 2012
                    • 610

                    #10
                    Originally posted by Kayman
                    Break out the clippers and get rid of that long slow wait.
                    I just can't do it Kayman, I can't be that guy who was known for his awesome thick messy hair, to being 'the bald guy'. 'Oh have you seen X, he's lost all his hair', 'but he has awesome hair!'

                    I just can't bare it, I'm a guitar player!!! How am I meant to be a guitar god with a bald head!!! My hair was something that I was so proud of, it was something that I actually liked about myself, something that defined my appearance.

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                    • Breaking Bald
                      Senior Member
                      • Aug 2012
                      • 610

                      #11
                      How can I go from that?
                      ...
                      To a bald guy!?
                      Look at it! It was so awesome
                      I'm 22 for crying out loud! I'm not meant to be bald!! I haven't even had a chance to live my youth yet and everyday it feels like my vitality is vanishing right before my eyes...
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                      • Kayman
                        Senior Member
                        • Dec 2012
                        • 260

                        #12
                        Originally posted by Breaking Bald
                        I just can't do it Kayman, I can't be that guy who was known for his awesome thick messy hair, to being 'the bald guy'. 'Oh have you seen X, he's lost all his hair', 'but he has awesome hair!'

                        I just can't bare it, I'm a guitar player!!! How am I meant to be a guitar god with a bald head!!! My hair was something that I was so proud of, it was something that I actually liked about myself, something that defined my appearance.
                        Better to be the guitar player with the bald head than the one with the wispy thin hair no? Satriani,Nick Oliveri, Kerry King, Billy Corgan, Moby, Michael Stipe, Fred Durst all baldies, all good musicians with plenty of fans (maybe not Fred Durst lol). Yes the stereotypical rock star has the long locks but if its not happening its not happening, so may as well try and rock the bald musician look no? Better than being the "wispy" guitarist, or the "balding" guitarist. Just my two cents, I used to play the bass all through my twenties, unfortunately don't really get the time to do it now and the shaved head never really impeded my image or the bands image. I have a friend who still plays in a band and he's a complete slick norwood seven at age 34, he's a guitarist in a metal band and looks the part.

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                        • Aames
                          Inactive
                          • Nov 2012
                          • 626

                          #13
                          Originally posted by BigThinker
                          LMAOOOOO. If they ever discover how to transplant ass hair, I will have a NW-1.

                          And damn Breaking, you had/have fantastic hair. God, I hate to see you not use treatments; slowly losing the battle and drifting away.

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                          • Breaking Bald
                            Senior Member
                            • Aug 2012
                            • 610

                            #14
                            I know Aames, I had the kind of hair that even girls were jealous of it was beautiful. This change is too much for me to deal with. I started minox but I don't think I'll ever touch fin.

                            I hear ya Kayman, maybe one day...Although at least all of those musicians got somewhere with hair, even Joe Satriani had hair when he started his career.

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                            • Aames
                              Inactive
                              • Nov 2012
                              • 626

                              #15
                              Originally posted by Breaking Bald
                              I know Aames, I had the kind of hair that even girls were jealous of it was beautiful. This change is too much for me to deal with. I started minox but I don't think I'll ever touch fin.

                              I hear ya Kayman, maybe one day...Although at least all of those musicians got somewhere with hair, even Joe Satriani had hair when he started his career.
                              I was hesitant too when I was considering fin. I was thinking the same thoughts you are. Eventually, I hit a breaking point and couldn't deal with it anymore. I'm a very depressed person and being bald on top of everything would have been the end of me. Now I'm on duta and doing okay downstairs so far.

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