Dealing with the comments/jokes

[Dan26]

Starting to lose my hair at a young age actually motivated me! I'm still at the point where I'm trying to fight it and it is not THAT noticeable. If that day comes when it is (I hope not it doens't!), by then I will have already improved myself in others ways and wont feel as bad about it as I would have if I just moped around depressed about it letting it stop me from living life.

[nativer]

Don't take it too personally, that is just man shit. When guys do that, they are testing you to see how you rank.

You need to hit them back just as hard. I have a friend that sometimes does that with me. He says, stuff about my hair. I put him down instantly. I make fun of his prfoession (a plumber) I call him blue collar, or say I call him next time I clogged my toilet. I have almost made him cry

[WhyDoesMyScalpHateMe]

What the hell is wrong with some people? Seriously? Making someone feel like shit because of traits they have no control over is just a shitty thing to do.

I know I wouldn't go out of my way to make someone feel less than human over something they had no control over (face, body type, height, MPB, disablity, etc), but I know a lot of people in this world would.

[BigThinker]

Don't take it too personally, that is just man shit. When guys do that, they are testing you to see how you rank.

You need to hit them back just as hard. I have a friend that sometimes does that with me. He says, stuff about my hair. I put him down instantly. I make fun of his prfoession (a plumber) I call him blue collar, or say I call him next time I clogged my toilet. I have almost made him cry

Heard that. Quick wit and a razor tongue will handle most people.

I had a buddy who would, in jest, make fun of my above average size nose (which didn't bother me a bit). But then, in a drunken douche moment, he tried to make fun of me when we were playing card games with a bunch of girls to shift leverage. I remember instantly making fun of him for being chubby and getting horrible grades in Freshmen level courses, etc. etc.

Cut him down so hard he ended up walking home while sending me fiery, but non-concerning, texts the whole way.

The trick is to come off as unphased and to attack what is mostly likely their source of self-conscious, without skipping a beat.

[Exodus]

Exactly, I mean they're gonna use the fact that they have hair as the 'one-up' against you. I've had the laughs, the comments, the smirks, giggles etc....

What I've learnt is, it usually happens once and then dies. Although it can depend on who your 'friends' are.

But ripping someone back harsh, hard and fast can be the way to go. For example I have a friend who has a mullet and made balding comments, I in turn explained that whilst I have no hair and you have a mullet, I am for more physically attractive then you and you are small and insignificant.

Later he admitted he too was going bald...

[Aames]

If your hair loss isn't concealable, you need to bring out the big guns ASAP! No one should know except you. And even then, only in your heart of hearts.

[Exodus]

If your hair loss isn't concealable, you need to bring out the big guns ASAP! No one should know except you. And even then, only in your heart of hearts.

Big guns right?

[mpb47]

I've always had a receding hairline my whole life (started at a NW2+) , so I assume it's slightly easier for me than for most (who started at NW1/0). Even thought I'm used to it, the comments and jokes are really wearing on me. For some reason bald/balding men are open targets in our society. MPB is simply a matter of genetics, no different than race, height, etc.. For some reason it's considered totally acceptable to mock/comment when its no more a choice than the colour of your skin. If I were to make a comment about someone's race I'd be crucified (figuratively), but when someone makes a joke about my hairline it's considered perfectly acceptable. I really do feel for anyone who's balder than I am, considering the public stigma associated with it and the effect it has on your appearance. I wish that people understood/respected that its not a choice and how sensitive of an issue it can be for people. Just my 2cents, I'd like some of your opinions though.

You are right in the fact that people will bring it up, even if they they mean no ill intent. I don't know why they do it, but they do. Like you don't already know. But at the same time you may be misinterpreting comments as insults.

The true insults, if any, will cease as you get older, but the comments will probably continue. I think the only true insults I ever got was from 2 girls in high school and a guy in college. That poor guy is totally bald now so he knows how it feels and then some.


But as I got older, I only got "beat around the bush" comments from female friends and my cousin. Well one did tease me a bit but she has dated plenty of bald guys and the comments had no ill intent. Another one more recently, was not happy that her boyfriend would not try treatment. He went from near Brad Pitt hair to a 5 plus in about 10 years time,. She basically told me that there was no reason I had to go through the same and should about get on propecia right away.

Yea it embarrassed me a bit but there was no ill intent. And I had a few more like comments from other friends but you get the idea.


so no, I don't know why people do it, but they do, even if you loss is not very noticeable.

[Dav7]

I've always had a receding hairline my whole life (started at a NW2+) , so I assume it's slightly easier for me than for most (who started at NW1/0). Even thought I'm used to it, the comments and jokes are really wearing on me. For some reason bald/balding men are open targets in our society. MPB is simply a matter of genetics, no different than race, height, etc.. For some reason it's considered totally acceptable to mock/comment when its no more a choice than the colour of your skin. If I were to make a comment about someone's race I'd be crucified (figuratively), but when someone makes a joke about my hairline it's considered perfectly acceptable. I really do feel for anyone who's balder than I am, considering the public stigma associated with it and the effect it has on your appearance. I wish that people understood/respected that its not a choice and how sensitive of an issue it can be for people. Just my 2cents, I'd like some of your opinions though.

If fairness man, people will find anything in others just to take the piss - it's not just MPB or baldness. I know a lot of blokes who just laugh it off, even referring to themselves as baldy. Like any form of slagging, if you let people see they are getting to you, they will only continue to slag you. If you ignore it, or even laugh it off, they will quickly get over the slagging.

[clandestine]

[B]If we want to be happy in this life then we must become flawless. There are no alternatives.

Maybe shes born with it? Maybe it's maybelline!

[Exodus]

You're right. The only solution is to let ourselves go to waste and laugh off the insults.

How about being in a continual state of self-improvement?

Would you rather they take the piss out of your bald head, or how much of a perfectionist you are for having a perfect body?

People only joke at someone else's appearance when they know you are vulnerable and don't have the ability to shut them down. Is a fat, ugly, NW7 going to joke about how I look? Of course not. He knows that if he tried - based on whatever flaw he perceives me to have - he not only come across as being ridiculous, but also shut down in a matter of seconds.

I live my life in such a way that I'm not ashamed of what I do. People can insult me for caring about my appearance, but to me that is meaningless. People don't know what I do behind closed doors, they only see the end result.

If we want to be happy in this life then we must become flawless. There are no alternatives.

You're either aesthetic or pathetic. That's life.

[BigThinker]

Maybe shes born with it? Maybe it's maybelline!

[Aames]

You're right. The only solution is to let ourselves go to waste and laugh off the insults.

How about being in a continual state of self-improvement?

Would you rather they take the piss out of your bald head, or how much of a perfectionist you are for having a perfect body?

People only joke at someone else's appearance when they know you are vulnerable and don't have the ability to shut them down. Is a fat, ugly, NW7 going to joke about how I look? Of course not. He knows that if he tried - based on whatever flaw he perceives me to have - he not only come across as being ridiculous, but also shut down in a matter of seconds.

I live my life in such a way that I'm not ashamed of what I do. People can insult me for caring about my appearance, but to me that is meaningless. People don't know what I do behind closed doors, they only see the end result.

If we want to be happy in this life then we must become flawless. There are no alternatives.

You're either aesthetic or pathetic. That's life.

It is sad how much I relate to this post. I've even seen a therapist about this but it didn't do any good. I think I would rather be dead than to accept anything less than perfection in my appearance.

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[Tratc1956]

I just brush it off because I can't change anything, I have it and that's it. I cannot live a life pleasing other people, I want to live life to the fullest. Whatever I say or do, others will always have something to talk about you. You cannot be perfect in their eyes so why bother. Tracy of polished concrete austin