So tired of Non-Sufferers telling me to "get over it", "Hair loss is nothin. Move on"

[baldozer]

It funny, you cant put yourself in someones elses shoes. You have a certain potential you want to elevate to and when something consumes even a minor aspect of that potential it is still a portion of the whole.

My buddies say the same thing. What I can say is that as bad as we are to each other we know the ONE thing that we all hate about ourselves and seem to not knock it. My best friend was always heavy but I NEVER made fun of his weight and in fact its because of me (not me but my lifestyle when we were room mating) he quit smoking, and lost about 150lbs.

Now he has the hanging skin. I have seen it and where he hates it and all he talks about is getting it removed I talk about my HT. He finally gets it now somewhat.

I always compare it to being in a band. I play bass, its not the most well renowned instrument and mostly the butt of jokes. I never knew it though when i was younger learning it.
I told my last guitarist you can honestly understand why it annoys me because you are the guitarist, admiration just comes with the package. You can be mediocre and still get more praise than I ever will (he was FAR from mediocre tho lol).

Its not just hair loss, we are people, we are selfish and no matter what "my" problem is always more important and worse than "yours".

Best option is not talk about it with them unless you have some kind of news thats good, such as a HT consult, or your taking some med thats working. If they want to go out and your feeling down, just saying your busy atm or youll meet them out later. It sucks but everyone blames my GF for me not really going out much but honestly my hair makes me so self concious I dont want to go out and have a night life.

If you are a good bassist, no makes fun of you. For example, Cliff Burton from Metallica and Flea from RHCP!

[swingline747]

If you are a good bassist, no makes fun of you. For example, Cliff Burton from Metallica and Flea from RHCP!

Do you play bass?
Trust me as good as you can get the only people who admire you are either other bassist or guys who want to be bass players (usually big goobs).

In my younger years it used to eat me alive when we played out. After every show ALL the people who came up after to meet me were bass players. I hated it. My drummer and guitarist used to get all the girls and I was WAAAAAAAAAAAAY better looking.

It also depends on the music. We played rock so bass is not really so predominant there.

This is a whole other discussion tho, I have since started playing again after a few years hiatus, it takes my mind off my hair for a little while a day. Until I get in another band that is and then im just the BALD bass player.

[yeahyeahyeah]

Do you play bass?
Trust me as good as you can get the only people who admire you are either other bassist or guys who want to be bass players (usually big goobs).

In my younger years it used to eat me alive when we played out. After every show ALL the people who came up after to meet me were bass players. I hated it. My drummer and guitarist used to get all the girls and I was WAAAAAAAAAAAAY better looking.

It also depends on the music. We played rock so bass is not really so predominant there.

This is a whole other discussion tho, I have since started playing again after a few years hiatus, it takes my mind off my hair for a little while a day. Until I get in another band that is and then im just the BALD bass player.

I know what you mean, I work in IT. As a result of my work we have been nominated for awards; I have had publications in magazines etc yet no girl is interested because it is IT related.

Doesn't quite have the same sex appeal as being a singer.

[baldozer]

Do you play bass?
Trust me as good as you can get the only people who admire you are either other bassist or guys who want to be bass players (usually big goobs).

In my younger years it used to eat me alive when we played out. After every show ALL the people who came up after to meet me were bass players. I hated it. My drummer and guitarist used to get all the girls and I was WAAAAAAAAAAAAY better looking.

It also depends on the music. We played rock so bass is not really so predominant there.

This is a whole other discussion tho, I have since started playing again after a few years hiatus, it takes my mind off my hair for a little while a day. Until I get in another band that is and then im just the BALD bass player.

I bet most of the girls don't even know the difference between bass and guitar, LOL!

[swingline747]

ldozer;151233]I bet most of the girls don't even know the difference between bass and guitar, LOL![/QUOTE]

Played bass many years and trust me girls know the difference.
There have been a few exceptions like gene and Nikki but they are very rare.

Most girls see bass player and think lazy loser of the band who will never be able to write them a song.

Serioulsy tho this is way off topic

[DepressedByHairLoss]

Swingline, I too am a bass player and I never really felt that women didn't approach me as much because I played bass as opposed to guitar or drums. I love to play 80s hard rock/metal and a person's look was really what was important in drawing women to you. That's why I hate hair loss so much: because I had such a great long-haired rock n roll look before I started losing my hair. True though, bass is an easier instrument to learn/play than guitar but I found that as long as you're in a band, it really doesn't matter what instrument you play, women will still flock to you.

Baldozer, you're totally right. Head tattooing is an absolutely asinine "solution" for hair loss. It seems like all of these treatments today appeal to only a handful of people. I've heard that today's treatments are only used by like 5% of hair loss sufferers. So let's say 5% of people get hair transplants. Do people in the hair loss industry really think that crazy s**t like beard hair transplants and head tattooing are going to appeal to anything close to a majority of hair loss sufferers?

[capitan]

Head tattooing is an absolutely asinine "solution" for hair loss.

Why?

Although I'm far from even having to buzz my hair, I still had a look at Scalp Micropigmentation.

To me, it's actually one of the most attractive options out there.

It has no affect on hair transplants (it's actually used in conjunction many times) and it wont interfere with future solutions.

Many people also do it before losing all their hair, so you can still feel the prickle of the hair they have left when you run your hands through it, making it more realistic.

When I have to shave my head, I'm going to get this done.

This look is not bad



Especially if you get a natural looking hair line, that's low enough to frame your face nicely but high enough to look natural.

I think there's a huge difference between being shiny-fleshy-skin bald and having that 5 o'clock shadow all over.

Just my opinion.

[UK_]

I think there's a huge difference between being shiny-fleshy-skin bald and having that 5 o'clock shadow all over.

Well duh.

[swingline747]

Why?

Although I'm far from even having to buzz my hair, I still had a look at Scalp Micropigmentation.

To me, it's actually one of the most attractive options out there.

It has no affect on hair transplants (it's actually used in conjunction many times) and it wont interfere with future solutions.

Many people also do it before losing all their hair, so you can still feel the prickle of the hair they have left when you run your hands through it, making it more realistic.

When I have to shave my head, I'm going to get this done.

This look is not bad



Especially if you get a natural looking hair line, that's low enough to frame your face nicely but high enough to look natural.

I think there's a huge difference between being shiny-fleshy-skin bald and having that 5 o'clock shadow all over.

Just my opinion.

what happens when your hair grays?

This is not a horrible option but honestly what happened also when your girl says, "you would look so nice with your hair grown out a bit."