At 19: Coming to grips with baldness...

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  • johnone23
    Junior Member
    • May 2012
    • 14

    At 19: Coming to grips with baldness...

    I'm 19 years old, in my second year of college. I have been struggling with noticeable hair loss ever since the start of college and it has been hell. I have learn't to cope with the constant emotional turmoil of hair loss, and I did go through the five stages of grieve concerning. I am always the person that listens to and solves other peoples problems and just solve my own - which I'm sure hasn't helped with my emotional state. I attempted many things to aid it, but i resigned to attempting to merely conceal it using products like DermmMatch and Nanogen as nothing else seemed to work.

    Unfortunately now I've realized that I cannot keep this up, especially on a student budget, and hair numbers are getting to a certain point where I'm not really disguising anything. I'm resigned to shaving it off, there is no other way...
    But I'm scared of my immediate future following hair loss... Has anyone got any good clothing tips for young bald guys, I feel that from following this path I need to re-invent my image, and dressed with style and complimentary could be key.

    Thanks
  • clandestine
    Senior Member
    • Aug 2011
    • 2005

    #2
    Originally posted by johnone23
    Unfortunately now I've realized that I cannot keep this up, especially on a student budget, and hair numbers are getting to a certain point where I'm not really disguising anything. I'm resigned to shaving it off, there is no other way...
    But I'm scared of my immediate future following hair loss... Has anyone got any good clothing tips for young bald guys, I feel that from following this path I need to re-invent my image, and dressed with style and complimentary could be key.
    I'm right there with you mate. Second year of college, balding, blah.

    Understand there are options. Propecia (generic finasteride), Rogaine (generic minoxidil) and Nizoral A-D shampoo, dubbed 'the big 3', are proven to treat hair loss.

    Propecia has the potential for sexually related side effects, some of which might persist after discontinuing medication in a subset of men. Research these well.

    Good luck.

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    • johnone23
      Junior Member
      • May 2012
      • 14

      #3
      Thanks man, it is somewhat comforting to know that there are other people with my woes... young... in college .
      Thanks

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      • clandestine
        Senior Member
        • Aug 2011
        • 2005

        #4
        Originally posted by johnone23
        Thanks man, it is somewhat comforting to know that there are other people with my woes... young... in college .
        Thanks
        Yea, it ****ing sucks. But you know that. I'm seeing so many young guys (>20, early 20's) come forward with mpb problems, makes me wonder what the is going on with our generation.

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        • john2399
          Senior Member
          • Jan 2012
          • 527

          #5
          Im right there too! Ugh I hate this club were in! Anyway my hairloss had such a bad impact on me i had to leave my college and come to a college close to home.I could not take the constant attempt to hide my hairloss from everyone and wearing hats 24/7 on campus, which noone wants to be that dude. I am so tempted to shave my head too but im scared ill look twice my age and just look like a creep. Hang in there bro im right with you, its a constant uphill battle and im just praying everyday a better treatment like histogen will be here soon. People say hairloss is tough but having it at 19 is truly heartbreaking.

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          • johnone23
            Junior Member
            • May 2012
            • 14

            #6
            Could not agree more! It is so brutal. It does seem unjust and unfair, mostly due to the age thing. If it happened to me at 30 or 40, when my life was in place, or married etc. It would have been less emotionally taxing. My biggest fear, and I'm sure yours is too is the unknowing of the future, and how/if shaving my head changes my future.

            I have just got to wrap my head around the fact that my life will be different, that is the last mental stage I have to cross before I shave my head.

            Although I'm resigned to shaving my head, I am going to go for a 2 or a 3. I have no intention of looking like a bond villain! Aha. Anyway, hang in there man, and let me know how you get on!

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            • Davey Jones
              Senior Member
              • Apr 2012
              • 356

              #7
              Originally posted by johnone23
              I'm resigned to shaving it off, there is no other way...
              Originally posted by john2399
              I am so tempted to shave my head too but im scared ill look twice my age and just look like a creep.
              Shave it off, brahs! After a certain point, that's the only way. Keep using Nizoral, Rogaine, or Propecia (or generic versions) to keep what you have until Histogen comes out. And if Histogen never comes out, well, f*ck, I don't know what to tell you. I guess I suggest we all band together and start burnin' cities to the ground until they fix this sh*t. Desperate times, desperate measures, amiright?

              (PS, I don't actually take Propecia and chose not to start, but it comes highly recommended on this site.)

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              • clandestine
                Senior Member
                • Aug 2011
                • 2005

                #8
                Originally posted by Davey Jones
                Shave it off, brahs! After a certain point, that's the only way. Keep using Nizoral, Rogaine, or Propecia (or generic versions) to keep what you have until Histogen comes out. And if Histogen never comes out, well, f*ck, I don't know what to tell you. I guess I suggest we all band together and start burnin' cities to the ground until they fix this sh*t. Desperate times, desperate measures, amiright?

                (PS, I don't actually take Propecia and chose not to start, but it comes highly recommended on this site.)
                Davey; Sorry if you've already explained somewhere, but what's your personal reasoning for opting not to take propecia?

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                • Davey Jones
                  Senior Member
                  • Apr 2012
                  • 356

                  #9
                  Originally posted by clandestine
                  Davey; Sorry if you've already explained somewhere, but what's your personal reasoning for opting not to take propecia?
                  Varying reasons. I think the first thing I read about Propecia when I started to notice my hairloss was someone posting somewhere about experiencing that syndrome they talk about. It was a big turn off, and I had enough hair and even more denial, so I just forgot about it for a bit.

                  When I lost more hair and become concerned enough to think about taking the risk (and more educated about how little risk there actually is), I was a little more embarrassed about hairloss. The thought of going to a doctor and saying, "Hey, so, my hair is falling out, and I'm so vain that I'd like to alter my hormones to try to save it," was a little much.

                  It went back and forth from afraid of the sides to embarrassed until eventually I decided, "F*ck all this noise, I'm shaving my head." 1/8th of an inch at first. Then no guard. Then a razor. Surprisingly, it didn't look half bad, and seemed to look better with each step. And at this point, I don't want to go back to worrying about my hair all the time. If I look like this for the rest of my life, I can live with that. Won't be ideal, but I can live with it. I think to some degree, going on Propecia might make me give up that comfort, bring me back into the world of thinking about hairloss all the time. And anyone who has become okay with their hairloss knows that becoming comfortable with it is NOT easy.

                  Besides, now that I'm more okay with how I look, the "Pros" column for taking Propecia isn't quite so long as the potential "Cons" column.

                  Though don't get me wrong: comfortable or not, if Histogen comes out and works, I'mma bankrupt my *** to go get it.

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                  • johnone23
                    Junior Member
                    • May 2012
                    • 14

                    #10
                    I haven't heard much of this Histogen lark before this post... though upon research there seems to be a fair bit of hype with it...

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                    • 25 going on 65
                      Senior Member
                      • Sep 2010
                      • 1476

                      #11
                      Hair loss in college is a real bitch. My very favorite thing about school was the girls... the day I noticed my crown starting to thin, I dropped out and never went back.

                      Even though my hair has improved from meds, I still don't feel comfortable surrounding myself with a bunch of 18-35-year-old women for hours every day. I won't go back until this is truly fixed, even if it means I never go back at all.
                      Those of you who push through it and get your degrees/certificates/whatever deserve a lot of credit.

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                      • Davey Jones
                        Senior Member
                        • Apr 2012
                        • 356

                        #12
                        Originally posted by johnone23
                        I haven't heard much of this Histogen lark before this post... though upon research there seems to be a fair bit of hype with it...
                        You ought to take a look at the results from their phase I trials. A full copy is floating around Hairsite somewhere. Anyone have a link?

                        But either way, the important bits are posted in some of the Histogen threads here. I'd find a link for you, but I'm on my phone.

                        The numbers were very promising. Especially for a phase I.

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                        • johnone23
                          Junior Member
                          • May 2012
                          • 14

                          #13
                          25 going on 65: You're not the first person I've heard about dropping out of their degree because of hair loss, both on this forum and from people I know. I understand your pain I really do, but I think that is even more of a reason to gain success, to strive to make the other elements of your life better. I hope you find the strength to enroll yourself back into university/college and get what you initially set out to do! But boy do I know the impact of hairloss on getting girls, without sounding too ego-centric, I was not a bad looker at all before my hairline started receeding. But I feel your pain

                          Davey Jones: Thanks man, I found a couple of threads discussing it. It looks quite good. I'm tempted to hang in the maybe for a while longer, focus of finding better concealers and temporary treatments until it comes out. I don't know. It does seem promising. I'll thing about it over summer break!

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                          • worried
                            Member
                            • Mar 2012
                            • 54

                            #14
                            Davey Jones is right
                            Shave your head and move on ... eh we baldies do not have any other option except those vigs

                            will Hostogen works on dead folliciles ?

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                            • 25 going on 65
                              Senior Member
                              • Sep 2010
                              • 1476

                              #15
                              Originally posted by johnone23
                              25 going on 65: You're not the first person I've heard about dropping out of their degree because of hair loss, both on this forum and from people I know. I understand your pain I really do, but I think that is even more of a reason to gain success, to strive to make the other elements of your life better. I hope you find the strength to enroll yourself back into university/college and get what you initially set out to do! But boy do I know the impact of hairloss on getting girls, without sounding too ego-centric, I was not a bad looker at all before my hairline started receeding. But I feel your pain
                              Thank you for your sympathy and well wishing!

                              Unfortunately, I'm starting to realize that I really don't give a shit about much when I feel I can't look good (other than family, friends, etc). The biggest reason I went to college was to make enough money that I could go on being with a lot of women through my 20's and 30's. Attracting them without working hard was the most fun I've ever had.

                              I'm not really interested in settling for a "back-up plan."
                              (And I dislike how much I sound like Scorpion right now.)

                              Maybe it'll be better if I get out of this funk. I was in a better mood after 1+ year of successful treatment, but lately I've been constantly comparing my hair to what it once was, and it's bugging me a lot.

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