Guys who start losing hair in their lates 30s and 40s

[ryan555]

You think men just stop caring about their appearance and their youthfulness when they turn 30? Think again. It's not all about getting women, most men actually care about their self image for their own sake. It is almost as difficult in your 30's as is it is in your 20's to see your youthfulness fading away. The only upside for men who lose hair later on is that they tend to lose hair much more slowly and not become as bald as guys who lose hair early on. They also tend to have more money to address the problem.

[clandestine]

It is almost as difficult in your 30's as is it is in your 20's to see your youthfulness fading away.

Disagree completely. The younger you are, the more ostracized you will be from your peers. Hair loss sufferers in their late teens and early twenties are indeed a minority. The same can not be said for older men. Sorry.

Not saying it isn't hard at any age, and I do agree with you that it will never be easy, regardless of age. All I'm saying is the younger you are, the less likely your hair loss will be accepted by peers and those around you. Young hair loss sufferers are not the norm.

[DepressedByHairLoss]

I agree that the younger you are, the harder hair loss is to deal with. A friend of mine actually started losing his hair in high school and kids ridiculed him for it. I don't know how the hell I would be able to deal hair loss at that age!! I think baldness is much more acceptable to deal with later on in life because a lot more people deal with hair loss later on in life than they do earlier on. If you are a 50-year-old man and you are around other 50-year-old men, odds are that a good percentage of them will be dealing with hair loss so you won't feel ostracized and abnormal. But if you are a 20-year-old man, then odds are that most of your peers are not losing their hair, and that can make the 20-year-old think that they look ugly or abnormal. Plus, a 50-year-old man can look back and say that he lived for so many years without hair loss and can relish in the memories that he lived life as a young adult free and uninhibited by hair loss.
That being said though, hair loss can be devastating at any age. I'm 33 and I feel like hair loss is ruining my whole life, because I feel like my looks and my identity are being taken away from me. Hell, you even see plenty of guys in their 50's and 60's wearing wigs because they hate their hair loss. I have 2 close friends who do this. Lastly, I do have the utmost sympathy for Joe from Staten Island. I've listened to his story and not only did he start losing his hair early on, but he got butchered from a bad hair transplant so I'd bet he has noticeable scars and bumps on his head from the butchery of that transplant.

[Jcm800]

I hear you DepressedByHairloss & clandestine - i'd hate to have started losing my hair in my teen's, it would have been even more devastating ten fold, i don't doubt that for a minute.

But - i also get pissed off hearing younger guy's saying i shouldnt worry about it. Well, i do - and i alway's will. Luckily it's been a slow process for me - started around the age of 27, and hasn't been a rollercoaster ride to hell, but the ride is heading there - and you bet it concern's me.

[clandestine]

But - i also get pissed off hearing younger guy's saying i shouldnt worry about it. Well, i do - and i alway's will. Luckily it's been a slow process for me - started around the age of 27, and hasn't been a rollercoaster ride to hell, but the ride is heading there - and you bet it concern's me.

Understandable, absolutely. As I've said, it's shitter. Whatever your age, people worry.

How we cope with our worries and our fears is what's important. We should aspire to embrace our fears, and do away with our worries.

[john2399]

Yes, at any age it sucks and people will worry but if you are 40 and cant get over hairloss, thats pretty bad. At some point you got to say screw it, im going to enjoy the time i have with my wife and kids. The young guys dont have that option, we still are searching for our identity.

[Jcm800]

Yes, at any age it sucks and people will worry but if you are 40 and cant get over hairloss, thats pretty bad. At some point you got to say screw it, im going to enjoy the time i have with my wife and kids. The young guys dont have that option, we still are searching for our identity.

Err, do you think you'll ever get over your hairloss then?! Ok - you're searching for your identity, I understand that.

I'm losing mine, I had it, liked it and it's going, so I'm pissed as well.

[DAVE52]

...... but if you are 40 and cant get over hairloss, thats pretty bad. At some point you got to say screw it,..........

Yup I agree
Wish I could do it
I still have to wake up and face the world
But Tell that to the guys who are in their 40, 50, 50 's and they still get HT 's

[DAVE52]

All I'm saying is the younger you are, the less likely your hair loss will be accepted by peers and those around you. Young hair loss sufferers are not the norm.

And I disagree with you
Lots of people buzz or shave their heads now a days
Teens, 20's, 30 's , 40's , 50 's etc
It is now considerd acceptable for men to shave their heads
No one gives a shit accept for those of us who don't have the balls to do it ourselves
No one gives it a second look when you see a guy with a buzzed head
But you see a guy with a grotesque comb over , you take a another look and ask why he doesn't just shave it off

[clandestine]

Lots of people buzz or shave their heads now a days
Teens, 20's, 30 's , 40's , 50 's etc
It is now considerd acceptable for men to shave their heads

Very true, I'm with you on that one.

No one gives a shit accept for those of us who don't have the balls to do it ourselves

Any radical change in appearance, such as a buzz cut or shaved head from having hair (whatever degree) will be noticed. Yes, people will in time adjust to your change in appearance, this is natural, of course.

No one gives it a second look when you see a guy with a buzzed head

Here is where our opinions differ. As discussed in previous threads, some people look better with buzzed or shaved heads, naturally. Head size, shape, and degree of hair loss are all clearly factors concerning how someone will look with a close crop.

I've tried buzzing my head before, in multiple instances. Problem is I have a smaller than average head size. This, coupled with my receded hairline, has put me off doing it for a while. I would also like to point out that degree of hair loss /temple recession becomes entirely more noticeable with a buzz cut. There is literally no hiding what you're dealing with.

The solution, you might say, is to shave completely. Again, I refer to points such as ideallic head characteristics, and the fact that cue ball is by no means a necessarily 'normal' haircut among youth (late teens, early 20s).

But you see a guy with a grotesque comb over , you take a another look and ask why he doesn't just shave it off

Yes, you get to a certain point, you cut your losses, so to speak.

But you've come off my original point completely. I said the younger you are, the less likely your hair loss will be accepted by peers and those around you. Young hair loss sufferers are not especially the norm. I stand by this.

You're trying to tell me people who deal with any degree of hair loss are often too scared to either buzz or shave their heads. I'm telling you there are reasons this look is not a be all end all solution, but can only necessarily be deemed appropriate/inappropriate provided someone has already tried to do so.

My point remains, hair loss is hard at any age. Hair loss is especially hard among youth. We all suffer in a similar manner, but to varying degrees, considering various factors such as age, emotional stability, support, etc.