Is the redness on your scalp still apparent? Reason I ask is that i'm considering an FUE but I have more hair than yourself so considering a single procedure + propecia indefinitely. If I can continue to lose my hair then i'll just buzz the top right down. Wondering if this is viable? Your scarring doesn't seem to be that noticeable on the top so I want to see if it could be viable. Thanks.
I really like the shape of the hairline! I wouldn't look at you and say you are bald at all. Just like to have your hair cut short. And would certainly not think you have had any work done.
Maybe work on the beard now ;) Are you happy with it?
05-22-2015 11:15 AM
fred970
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Originally Posted by JayM
I really like the shape of the hairline! I wouldn't look at you and say you are bald at all. Just like to have your hair cut short. And would certainly not think you have had any work done.
And that was my main goal, and it seems that I have attained it :). Thanks for you comment.
No one has ever thought twice in real life too. Not even my girlfriend of 7 months!
05-22-2015 09:23 PM
BeaveCake
[QUOTE=fred970;174545]Thank you Chuck and Artista :).
The short answer: I just didn't want to be "the bald guy".
And to be honest, I had some "disposable" income and I wondered, what is the best thing I could buy? What would truly make me happier? Some more hair.
I hope it will turn out great of course, but in the end, it's just a bonus. I would be OK if I had to shave my head for the rest of my life.
As a young guy who does shave his head I have to ask, do you view men who shave with disdain or less than with a full head. I'm trying to figure out how you could be fine with your life without hair yet still want something like this. I'm only 19 but my life has been very successful skinhead bald the past year in love life, school life, all of it, so it doesn't affect me and I never had serious mental anguish from it. I wouldn't consider something like this, I'm curious as to why it became such a problem if you said it wasn't such an issue and you were okay without.
05-23-2015 01:30 AM
fred970
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Originally Posted by BeaveCake
As a young guy who does shave his head I have to ask, do you view men who shave with disdain or less than with a full head. I'm trying to figure out how you could be fine with your life without hair yet still want something like this. I'm only 19 but my life has been very successful skinhead bald the past year in love life, school life, all of it, so it doesn't affect me and I never had serious mental anguish from it. I wouldn't consider something like this, I'm curious as to why it became such a problem if you said it wasn't such an issue and you were okay without.
I was like you at your age. I didn't think it would be a big problem, but when you actually turn bald, people will treat you like crap for it, especially women.
That's just how it is, and that's the main reason I've done this. Just getting out of the bald category has allowed me to live the life of a normal 25 year old again.
05-23-2015 08:35 AM
BeaveCake
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Originally Posted by fred970
I was like you at your age. I didn't think it would be a big problem, but when you actually turn bald, people will treat you like crap for it, especially women.
That's just how it is, and that's the main reason I've done this. Just getting out of the bald category has allowed me to live the life of a normal 25 year old again.
The fact you called it the bald category proves the point you think that way. I'm not male pattern but it's a scalp confined alopecia, I am bald, skinhead bald, like pit bull or howie Mandell and it's never stopped me, I look good shaved and even if you look at another thread I started recently, (the last one given the craziness on this site) I was asked by a very attractive girl to go to her prom, when I got there we had a good time I was one of the more talked to ones there, (wasn't even the school I used to attend) and her friend started hitting on me and then she got jealous. Anyway long story short this very attractive 16 nearly 17 year old girl got with me after that night. When she asked about the hair when we first met I was honest told her it wasn't coming back if it did it'd be patchy, and she admitted it wasn't her preference but said 'it's just hair though I like the rest of you who gives a ****?' So the whole young women don't like bald guys was wrong for me, I don't have hair, for the past couple years I've had many different diagnoses of why I lost some but recently a specialist did tell me it was a scalp confined alopecia brought on from exhaustion. However it is permanent and the shaved skinhead is the only route. So it's bald before you say it's not true baldness. But I just never minded it. I have an attractive young girlfriend who's sweet, the few people who've said anything I'm quick with a harsher comeback, and I know everyone gets ridiculed for something.
I really do believe a lot of it with you or other guys is you view bald guys as less and therefor you fall under your own spell. It's just hair, true maybe I pull off cue ball better than some but I've never had an issue. You said yourself that you suffered from psychosis from it and that proves how much this controls you, so maybe you do need some extra help to realize it's not that bad. Maybe doc Phil, who went bald before 21 also. (Actually did look it up) but you act like people hate bald guys, I've never seen that happen, I've seen guys trying to repair the loss or cover it get mocked, but not guys deal with it or take it all off.
I know 3 bald guys who were shaved bald at 20, 1 was premature balding why he shaved. He got married last year to a gorgeous 25 year old, another had a scalp condition, married a very attractive girl in her twenties, the last didn't rate so well with women but he was a slob who was fat and that was the reason why. So I'm not buying society hates bald men, if you're young with a horseshoe yeah girls won't like it, but shaved skinhead is just another style now. I think a lot of people on this site do have something against bald guys and that's why they have such an issue with just accepting and shaving. So no you're not like me, in all the pics I've seen you were never fully shaven, and if you let it get you so bad to the point it affected the mind that awfully then we really aren't alike. I've seen people die, had a chute malfunction once in a skydiving course and much more stressful times than losing hair. Its just hair, how you handle it is key. It matters some but not as much as these sites make it.
05-23-2015 08:42 AM
fred970
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Originally Posted by BeaveCake
I'm not male pattern but it's a scalp confined alopecia, I am bald, skinhead bald, like pit bull or howie Mandell and it's never stopped me, I look good shaved and even if you look at another thread I started recently, (the last one given the craziness on this site) I was asked by a very attractive girl to go to her prom, when I got there we had a good time I was one of the more talked to ones there, (wasn't even the school I used to attend) and her friend started hitting on me and then she got jealous. Anyway long story short this very attractive 16 nearly 17 year old girl got with me after that night. When she asked about the hair when we first met I was honest told her it wasn't coming back if it did it'd be patchy, and she admitted it wasn't her preference but said 'it's just hair though I like the rest of you who gives a ****?' So the whole young women don't like bald guys was wrong for me, I don't have hair, for the past couple years I've had many different diagnoses of why I lost some but recently a specialist did tell me it was a scalp confined alopecia brought on from exhaustion. However it is permanent and the shaved skinhead is the only route. So it's bald before you say it's not true baldness. But I just never minded it. I have an attractive young girlfriend who's sweet, the few people who've said anything I'm quick with a harsher comeback, and I know everyone gets ridiculed for something.
I really do believe a lot of it with you or other guys is you view bald guys as less and therefor you fall under your own spell. It's just hair, true maybe I pull off cue ball better than some but I've never had an issue. You said yourself that you suffered from psychosis from it and that proves how much this controls you, so maybe you do need some extra help to realize it's not that bad. Maybe doc Phil, who went bald before 21 also. (Actually did look it up) but you act like people hate bald guys, I've never seen that happen, I've seen guys trying to repair the loss or cover it get mocked, but not guys deal with it or take it all off.
I know 3 bald guys who were shaved bald at 20, 1 was premature balding why he shaved. He got married last year to a gorgeous 25 year old, another had a scalp condition, married a very attractive girl in her twenties, the last didn't rate so well with women but he was a slob who was fat and that was the reason why. So I'm not buying society hates bald men, if you're young with a horseshoe yeah girls won't like it, but shaved skinhead is just another style now. I think a lot of people on this site do and that's why they have such an issue with just accepting and shaving. So no you're not like me, in all the pics I've seen you were never fully shaven, and if you let it get you so bad to the point it affected the mind that awfully then we really aren't alike. I've seen people die, had a chute malfunction once in a skydiving course and much more stressful times than losing hair. Its just hair, how you handle it is key. It matters some but not as much as these sites make it.
I appreciate the effort but what you've just written will not help me or anyone here who is anchored in reality.
Being bald is one of the crappiest situation ever when you're in your 20's. And there is no other way to look at it.
I could say I've never had any problems too.
I've had a lot of girlfriends while completely bald. But it didn't stop these girls from treating me poorly or from seeing me as "less than".
05-23-2015 09:11 AM
BeaveCake
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Originally Posted by fred970
I appreciate the effort but what you've just written will not help me or anyone here who is anchored in reality.
Being bald is one of the crappiest situation ever when you're in your 20's. And there is no other way to look at it.
I could say I've never had any problems too.
I've had a lot of girlfriends while completely bald. But it didn't stop these girls from treating me poorly or from seeing me as "less than".
So just to clarify I left a respectful post of actual events in my personal life, and it's not real? Well I won't waste my breath on someone like you then and the respectfulness comes off here, hairloss isn't the crappiest thing in your 20's it's not, you were weak enough to let it destroy you and others took advantage of the state you were/are in. Hair isn't going to solve it all. People will call me out I'm sure but someone needed to tell you this.
Whether you want to accept it or not me and other guys who are bald in early or even before 20's from whatever reasons are still living successful lives, only hassle is a little more prone to sunburn. We are happy and don't need your approval that it's 'real'
And I'm not grounded in reality? From the guy who let hair actually drive him nuts? I think you've some serious problems still.
