Good post.
But more importantly he's right. You do have to change your mindset as it's going to be the only way to cope. Almost a year ago now I remember thinking how I hated my hair losing out and I was becoming a 'lesser person'. Fast forward a year, not much has changed life wise except I am much more happier in my own skin and with my own hair...all because I buzzed it.
I'd be up front with her and just go for it bro!