Girlfriend dumped me this Thursday... For a guy with a full head of hair

Okay, so I've been dating this really pretty blonde haired, blue eyed girl for a few months and we had been friends before for about a year. I hate smug assholes so I'm not trying to brag, but I'd like to say that I'm a fairly interesting guy. Also not unattractive other than my hair really. I'm working toward a pilots license and an EMT certification, I've got a scuba certification, and I'm a pretty decent guitar player. I go and see a lot of small time concerts and bands on the weekend in the city I live close to, and I do a lot of camping and kayaking trips in the summer. Yet, the bitch ditches me for a dude who is kind of fat, doesn't have a job or direction in life, and only cares about his car and his XBox. Yet, he has hair, and she told me she wished I could do something about my hair but I told her there was only so much I could do. I'm sure that wasn't the only factor but damn guys I treated her like an angel. Way better than I should have I guess. Whatever, I think she'll regret it. Sorry for the rant guys but why do so many people judge on looks alone? Even if it's just a couple of flaws?

Look for hypergamy and women on Google. You'll understand.

Women have no self-awareness and will worship dudes who are utter losers, to us only, for them, they're perfect.

"He plays the Xbox and tunes his can for now, but he'll get something going for him, you'll see!"

I've seen it so many times man. Not to brag either, but I consider myself a really great guy, I've been with more or less 30 girls in my life.

And they're all, I repeat all the same. They only like you for what you'll bring to the table, for the benefits they can get from you. Never for who you are.

Every guy who truly knows (Western) women will hate them to some degree, there is no way around that.

I've been ditched for a tall dark stranger with a full head of hair too. I've seen it with my own eyes.

My only problem is (was? My hair transplant is coming in nicely) my hair. And unfortunately, I see women won't forget this particular flaw.

Apparently, you can be fat, short, have no hygiene, no direction in life, play video games all the time, and women will still want to be with you.

But don't you dare being bald!

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Originally Posted by fred970

Look for hypergamy and women on Google. You'll understand.

Women have no self-awareness and will worship dudes who are utter losers, to us only, for them, they're perfect.

"He plays the Xbox and tunes his can for now, but he'll get something going for him, you'll see!"

I've seen it so many times man. Not to brag either, but I consider myself a really great guy, I've been with more or less 30 girls in my life.

And they're all, I repeat all the same. They only like you for what you'll bring to the table, for the benefits they can get from you. Never for who you are.

Every guy who truly knows (Western) women will hate them to some degree, there is no way around that.

I've been ditched for a tall dark stranger with a full head of hair too. I've seen it with my own eyes.

My only problem is (was? My hair transplant is coming in nicely) my hair. And unfortunately, I see women won't forget this particular flaw.

Apparently, you can be fat, short, have no hygiene, no direction in life, play video games all the time, and women will still want to be with you.

But don't you dare being bald!

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No, short is way worse than being bald. Bald at least appears masculine and powerful, but a short guy looks too weak. Not sure about being fat, but that doesn't seem to be that much of a dealbreaker, because one could always lose weight anyhow.

Thanks guys for replying. I'm not tall by any means, I'm about average, 5 11' but that guy is about the same height as me anyway. He's also got long douche bag hair that makes this guy look like a kid. I have a tapered, blond, jude law-like hair style and a beard. You're dead on about women Fred, and the reason this one really got to me is that I thought she was different. She thought I was a badass and wanted to do what I did and have fun. Toward the end of our 6 month relationship and you could hardly get her out of her house or get her to look up from her phone. Give me a couple of weeks and I'll probably find someone else. Just the fact that hair was an issue really messes with me. I have pretty high standards personality wise and looks wise, which sounds hypocritical but if an average looking chick really impresses me somehow, I'll go for her. I have standards but I'm not shallow.

I hate girls liked that, I bet she wore make up? Should have wiped her face clean with Kleenex just to remind her she ain't nothing special.

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Originally Posted by Jazz1

I hate girls liked that, I bet she wore make up? Should have wiped her face clean with Kleenex just to remind her she ain't nothing special.

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Ya, and probably she bleached her hair blonde and wore blue contact lenses too.

This you OP ? http://www.reddit.com/r/confession/c...y_how_much_my/

There you have it folks, this is what I've been saying the WHOLE TIME. Looks will ALWAYS triumph over education and/or personality. Sorry about your loss OP, if you haven't figured it out yet, balding is a big no no in today's society.

Srry man. Don't have anything else to say. The worst thing once a man starts balding the only women that are interested to him are not those he finds interesting when attractiveness comes to mind.

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Originally Posted by HairIsLife

This you OP ? http://www.reddit.com/r/confession/c...y_how_much_my/

There you have it folks, this is what I've been saying the WHOLE TIME. Looks will ALWAYS triumph over education and/or personality. Sorry about your loss OP, if you haven't figured it out yet, balding is a big no no in today's society.

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That is right, baldness is a death sentence. Now go and kill yourself! Your whining is so annoying.

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Originally Posted by baldozer

That is right, baldness is a death sentence. Now go and kill yourself! Your whining is so annoying.

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Oh man, I really wish you were nearby so I could knock some sense into you.

The fact is all women are whores and have no empathy , this is a fact and god forbid if I ever have kids and have a daughter!!!

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Thanks guys for replying. I'm not tall by any means, I'm about average, 5 11' but that guy is about the same height as me anyway. He's also got long douche bag hair that makes this guy look like a kid. I have a tapered, blond, jude law-like hair style and a beard. You're dead on about women Fred, and the reason this one really got to me is that I thought she was different. She thought I was a badass and wanted to do what I did and have fun. Toward the end of our 6 month relationship and you could hardly get her out of her house or get her to look up from her phone. Give me a couple of weeks and I'll probably find someone else. Just the fact that hair was an issue really messes with me. I have pretty high standards personality wise and looks wise, which sounds hypocritical but if an average looking chick really impresses me somehow, I'll go for her. I have standards but I'm not shallow.

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She sounds like a loser. And I'm hoping everyone on this thread is under 25, cause you all sound like teenagers. Someone intelligent is not going to care if you're going bald. Maybe 20 year old girls care (some of them), but once you get to be in your late twenties girls with any sense (hot and not hot) won't give a ****. The girl who dumped you will end up living in a trailer with her loser husband who will probably beat her. You sound like a productive and great guy, juts forget about your hair and live your life and get shit done, and someone who is worth your time will materialize. It never fails, you just have to retain your self esteem and do good things. Judging by the misogyny and completely ridiculous attitudes on here, I'm surprised any of you have ever been with a woman, and if you have I feel sorry for them.

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Originally Posted by sdsurfin

Someone intelligent is not going to care if you're going bald.

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Jesus, what a stupid thing to say. So every girl that cares about a guy balding is automatically not intelligent ? LOL.

Some of you guys on this forum...

I don't have a problem with the girl deciding to leave. Is it effed up? Yes it is, but it would have been worse if she left after a long term relationship. Be happy she didn't waste any more of your time. We all have our standards and she has the right to have hers. She might not like bald guys and you might not like women with small tits and no ass. There are plenty of women out there that are looking for guys with something going for them, find and spend time with those.

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Originally Posted by HairIsLife

Jesus, what a stupid thing to say. So every girl that cares about a guy balding is automatically not intelligent ? LOL.

Some of you guys on this forum...

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All I need to do is read your username to know you're a moron. And yes, any girl that bases whether or not she wants to stay with her boyfriend on his hair situation is likely an idiot. As I don't know these people, she could have left for any number of reasons that could be perfectly good ones. Maybe its because her boyfriend was on hair loss forums all the time and his insecurity about it bleeds through to his general way of carrying himself. Not every girl that has a preference for a lot of hair is an idiot, but any girl who has that as a deciding factor on whether they stay with someone is definitely shallow and probably dumb, especially if the guy is productive and a good partner otherwise. If someone intelligent loves you, they aren't gonna leave you because of hair. Not every intelligent woman will give a bald guy a chance in the first place, but most will, and most women don't judge handsomeness and attractiveness based on hair.


I say this girl sounds like a loser because she clearly has nothing going on for herself. Someone who sits around in their apartment and does nothing does not sound lil a worthwhile human to spend time with. Also the fact that she left him for a guy who is a mess- pretty clear red flag that she a) has insecurity issues and b) is a waste of space herself. I know NO women at the age of 30 that will have anything to do with a guy who is doing nothing with his life. Only 18 year old girls want to make guys into projects. by their mid 20s girls want to be taken care of or at least have a partner who is equally as ambitious and productive. hair is a miniscule concern. Women are not all whores and in fact they are much more accepting than men of physical flaws, and the fact that young women will have faith in someone and try to better them shouldn't be seen as something counting against them. Every woman will run out of patience if a guy is being a loser, but very few will be shallow enough to leave someone because of the way their hair looks. Either way good riddance to bad rubbish. Maybe your next girl is even hotter or not as hot, but hopefully she's a lot better for you and a lot more deep.

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Originally Posted by HairIsLife

Jesus, what a stupid thing to say. So every girl that cares about a guy balding is automatically not intelligent ? LOL.

Some of you guys on this forum...

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Also "caring" is relative. Sure, I will probably "care" when my next girlfriend or wife gets old and starts to get wrinkles and her breasts sag. Aging sucks to see in ourselves as well as in others. But I'm not going to leave her for it. Balding is even less of an issue for most women, because it literally happens to almost every man at some point, and is not really a sign of aging or even particularly unattractive to most women. You have a much better chance of turning your mate off by getting fat or having bad teeth or hygiene or getting old in a million other ways. Anyway if you're as young as you sound I wouldn't worry about it much. In five years time there will most probably be much better treatments, replicel is just one example of advancements that are still being worked on (everyone looks at something like adorns and thinks its a disaster, but the fact is its just a hiccup in a chain of advancements and knowledge). And in ten you'll still be young (many of my friends are more handsome in their 40s, especially to women, than they were as twenty somethings) and there's a good chance they'll have something really game-changing. I don't think they are too far off with hair cloning, and for me it'll be kinda too late, but stem cell remedies are relatively on our doorstep in many areas of medicine. And if it doesn't pan out until we are old, then **** it, just be bald and don't think about it too much, millions of men have done great things and lived happy lives bald before you. just one of many shitty things in life that you must endure in order to be happy, and unless you're very lucky, probably not nearly the worst.

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Originally Posted by sdsurfin

All I need to do is read your username to know you're a moron.

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And all I need to do is read your username to know you're a gay fag who surfs in San Diego. For a guy who is nearly 100% positive that a cure isn't coming in his lifetime, you sure spend ALOT of time on this forum. I don't really care to read your paragraphs cause you repeat the same shit every post so I'm sure I already read what you typed. Good luck to you sir.

OP, you might have a point. I've been rejected because of my looks more times than number of atoms in this universe...

I am not handsome, and with hair loss, I look very old, and no woman wants anything to do with me....

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Originally Posted by FlightTL

OP, you might have a point. I've been rejected because of my looks more times than number of atoms in this universe...

I am not handsome, and with hair loss, I look very old, and no woman wants anything to do with me....

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Then go after older women and get laid today!

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Originally Posted by Notcoolanymore

Then go after older women and get laid today!

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Great advice! I never thought of that....Thanks cat man!

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Originally Posted by Kudu

Okay, so I've been dating this really pretty blonde haired, blue eyed girl for a few months and we had been friends before for about a year. I hate smug assholes so I'm not trying to brag, but I'd like to say that I'm a fairly interesting guy. Also not unattractive other than my hair really. I'm working toward a pilots license and an EMT certification, I've got a scuba certification, and I'm a pretty decent guitar player. I go and see a lot of small time concerts and bands on the weekend in the city I live close to, and I do a lot of camping and kayaking trips in the summer. Yet, the bitch ditches me for a dude who is kind of fat, doesn't have a job or direction in life, and only cares about his car and his XBox. Yet, he has hair, and she told me she wished I could do something about my hair but I told her there was only so much I could do. I'm sure that wasn't the only factor but damn guys I treated her like an angel. Way better than I should have I guess. Whatever, I think she'll regret it. Sorry for the rant guys but why do so many people judge on looks alone? Even if it's just a couple of flaws?

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It'll take her 15 years to realize how much of a f.vck up she is. Don't chase her... obviously not worth it.

Thanks guys, you are spot on most of the things about her lol. She's a natural blond and she doesn't have contacts, she doesn't really have nice tits or that much of an ass, she used to be really self conscious about it, still is to some degree. I told her that it doesn't really matter to me and that she was still really attractive, I'm looking for more than just a piece of ass, I have a good physique and confident around people so getting laid really isn't a problem right now. I'm looking for someone who will go and have a good time with me and not be obsessed with her damn phone all the time. I'm bummed out about it, and the hair comment kinda hurt, but I'm going to try and focus on work and school now and try and forget about women for a while. It's incredibly hard to find a mature girl in high school. The thing is, my hair hasn't really gotten any worse than when we started dating I've been a NW 3 for two years now, if I can maintain that I'll be fine.

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Originally Posted by HairIsLife

This you OP ? http://www.reddit.com/r/confession/c...y_how_much_my/
Sorry about your loss OP, if you haven't figured it out yet, balding is a big no no in today's society.

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Loss? I don't view losing something/someone shallow and superficial as a loss. I had to wait a long time for my wife (married for 25 years). A great woman is well worth the wait. Look it up... Many women find bald men attractive. Success is the sweetest for of revenge. Pilot's license?... I know someone whose life is a little work and mostly play. He flies a private jet all over the world. Lots of time on his hands in exotic places. Don't settle for a woman damaged on the inside.

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Loss? I don't view losing something/someone shallow and superficial as a loss. I had to wait a long time for my wife (married for 25 years). A great woman is well worth the wait. Look it up... Many women find bald men attractive. Success is the sweetest for of revenge. Pilot's license?... I know someone whose life is a little work and mostly play. He flies a private jet all over the world. Lots of time on his hands in exotic places. Don't settle for a woman damaged on the inside.

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10,000 women is many.

10,000 out of 10,000,000 is NOT many. Let's not kid ourselves, the vast majority of women find baldness extremely repulsive.

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Many women find bald men attractive.

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There's nothing attractive about a bald man, sorry. If you were a good looking girl, would you go out of your way to date a bald man when there's plenty of guys around with full heads of hair ? Probably not. Let's not kid ourselves here. The woman would be making a serious exception for that one bald man, whether she admits it or not. It's like going to the dealership to buy a car, you find two of the same ones but one is full of dents and the other is in mint condition, which one would you choose ?

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There's nothing attractive about a bald man, sorry. If you were a good looking girl, would you go out of your way to date a bald man when there's plenty of guys around with full heads of hair ? Probably not. Let's not kid ourselves here. The woman would be making a serious exception for that one bald man, whether she admits it or not. It's like going to the dealership to buy a car, you find two of the same ones but one is full of dents and the other is in mint condition, which one would you choose ?

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Hair is about 10% of the looks, the rest is face. I see many guys with hair who are ugly, and I see many bald guys who look good. For example, do you think Zidane or Fredrik Ljungbreg are bad looking. On the other hand, look at Maradona. He has a full head of dark thick hair, but was still once voted the ugliest footballer. Zidane, on the other hand was once rated the sexiest footballer. Although, he still has some hair in front, but I think he would look as good with no hair at all.

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10,000 women is many.

10,000 out of 10,000,000 is NOT many. Let's not kid ourselves, the vast majority of women find baldness extremely repulsive.

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I'm not a woman, but I think Zidane, Fredrik Ljungberg, Dwayne Jonson etc. all look fantastic bald. Face is more important than hair. If you have a good looking face, you win, bald or not.

We both are in the same grade (seniors) in high school so we both have the same government teacher. The guy is 26, NW 7 with a shaved head, has a short beard, and about 6 2'. Ironically, this girl finds him extremely attractive almost to the point of hitting on him at one point (before we dated). He's a really cool guy with a witty personality and we get along well, so I can understand how a chick would find him attractive. I don't think it was all about hair, but it's definitely related. I feel that I'm pretty mature for my age, between my hobbies, education, and job. I act a little more professional than your typical 17 year old jock or hipster loser. Most of my friends are early 20s, I don't know why, it's just the people I get along with. To most people, I look about 20-22 years old. I don't know if it's the fact that I look older so I act older or the fact that hair loss has humbled me and helped me grow up. Either way, if she wants a boy instead of a man that's fine by me, but you gotta grow up some time.

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Originally Posted by baldozer

I'm not a woman, but I think Zidane, Fredrik Ljungberg, Dwayne Jonson etc. all look fantastic bald. Face is more important than hair. If you have a good looking face, you win, bald or not.

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True, your face needs to ooze masculinity though. I have strong cheekbones and a good jaw (I've posted my pictures on *** before) but I'm only 5'8. My height is embarrassing therefore I NEED to compensate with hair.

Being bald and short is a death sentence.

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True, your face needs to ooze masculinity though. I have strong cheekbones and a good jaw (I've posted my pictures on *** before) but I'm only 5'8. My height is embarrassing therefore I NEED to compensate with hair.

Being bald and short is a death sentence.

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A true death sentence is being bald, short, fat (George Costanza) and having a micropenis. Also, this sounds terrible, but people who are mentally handicapped whether girl or guy will find it tremendously difficult to get the 8, 9, and 10s.

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Originally Posted by jksl

A true death sentence is being bald, short, fat

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I'm all three of those, where can I pick up my award ?

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Originally Posted by HairIsLife

I'm all three of those, where can I pick up my award ?

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Yeah, but you also have a micropenis?

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Yeah, but you also have a micropenis?

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Well considering I can't see it without a telescope, I think it's safe to assume so.

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Well considering I can't see it without a telescope, I think it's safe to assume so.

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Okay, you get the award....

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Thanks guys, you are spot on most of the things about her lol. She's a natural blond and she doesn't have contacts, she doesn't really have nice tits or that much of an ass, she used to be really self conscious about it, still is to some degree. I told her that it doesn't really matter to me and that she was still really attractive, I'm looking for more than just a piece of ass, I have a good physique and confident around people so getting laid really isn't a problem right now. I'm looking for someone who will go and have a good time with me and not be obsessed with her damn phone all the time. I'm bummed out about it, and the hair comment kinda hurt, but I'm going to try and focus on work and school now and try and forget about women for a while. It's incredibly hard to find a mature girl in high school. The thing is, my hair hasn't really gotten any worse than when we started dating I've been a NW 3 for two years now, if I can maintain that I'll be fine.

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High school? High SCHOOL???
Man there is your problem, it is extremely hard to find a mature girl in high school... Damn when I remember girls from my high school. Only few were worth dating regardless of looks... And when you take looks into account those were taken or not interested...
I can't tell you which woman will find you or not find you attractive but as you get older you will find that women also get more mature...

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Thanks guys, you are spot on most of the things about her lol. She's a natural blond and she doesn't have contacts, she doesn't really have nice tits or that much of an ass, she used to be really self conscious about it, still is to some degree. I told her that it doesn't really matter to me and that she was still really attractive, I'm looking for more than just a piece of ass, I have a good physique and confident around people so getting laid really isn't a problem right now. I'm looking for someone who will go and have a good time with me and not be obsessed with her damn phone all the time. I'm bummed out about it, and the hair comment kinda hurt, but I'm going to try and focus on work and school now and try and forget about women for a while. It's incredibly hard to find a mature girl in high school. The thing is, my hair hasn't really gotten any worse than when we started dating I've been a NW 3 for two years now, if I can maintain that I'll be fine.

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When you find a good woman, hold on to her...Do NOT waste your 20s like me. Learn from a sad human being.

I am 5" 7" bald, starting losing my hair in high school. i am 35 and have seen enough. I have never been without female company and my current relationship is years with a very attractive women, all of my girlfriends were over average attractive, some were very hot.. I am also skinny and hairy lol, i even have a little bit of a deformity on my body, and and have always been a bit of a bum you could say.. I do have a good looking face i have been told but i don't think women are as caught up about looks as men think, they really like a guy to be theres and so you find lots of slimy, great shape, long hair, dudes really can't get laid for the life of them after 25 , let alone a girlfriend because they are assholes, sure some do but you know. I guess am a pretty nice guy, I try to be as Alpha as i can, women like a tough guy, can strong and brave and not big or have hair, and have developed my talents and stuff as much as I can as I have always felt like I had to prove myself.

I would say being bald is about as bad as a women having small boobs.. There is tons of hot girls with small boobs but what guy doesn't mind some small boobs if the girl is right..
I would say being short is about like a women that has a big butt... there is tons of hotties with big butts.

i am straight but i also know a short bald guy is one of the most sought after for gay men, just saying.

Sexual attraction isn't some superficial TV brainwashed, porn watching, bull crap.. it's more like hard to describe and a chemical reaction in your brain, that's why you know you look at some strange looking women and get a raging hardon cause they just are..

So maybe dude, look for a decent women, one that is mature enough to handle a little bald guy, they most probably won't be your typical yuppie chick you might have to start going to burning man or other alternative scenes to start to mingle with beautiful outcast women.

1st of all guys - WORK ON YOUR SELF, nobody wants to date a miserable asshole.. you got to feel good and lucky just to be alive and starting doing useful interesting things before you complain about your hair !

Wow, jesus I haven't been here in months and I just stopped to pop my head in after feeling a little down about my still progressing hair loss. Surprisingly this thread has cheered me up because seeing some people blow this shit out of proportion really knocks some sense into me. Man to think how much of a deal I used to make out of this.

But anyway, what I meant to post. I'm a guy who started balding at 20 and is now 23 and approaching a norwood 3 or I dunno something close its hard to tell I have curly hair and a weird pattern of loss. Point being, when hair is wet or in the wrong light, or messed up by touching it too much you can tell my hairline is receding and thinning.

I have a girlfriend, she knows I'm balding. She's known for probably 8 or 9 months now(I told her I was balding and asked if she cared). We've been together for 14 months. She doesn't give a single ****. I mean, sure she likes my hair and is sad that I'm losing it. But it doesn't actually bother her in a "lets be serious here" kinda way. She just said "when it starts to get really bad please shave it" which I said was my plan anyway. We're even planning on moving in together in another year, once we have some money saved up and she continually tells me how much she loves me and how "I'm a keeper" and how happy I make her.

She's also 23 and if I do say so myself really hot. I've been told by just about all my friends and family that I did really well for myself and that she's a keeper(both looks and personality).

So this whole "girls will always choose looks" or "being bald is a death sentence" and "only ugly girls or girls in their 30's will date a bald guy" stuff is pure crap. I have 3 other friends all more bald than I am and only a year or two older who all have girlfriends as well. And each of those girls is average at worst(average not being a bad thing either). Like those guys said, find a smart girl with a good head on her shoulders and she'll think about more than if you have hair or not.

Interesting posts. Some days I really don't know what to believe, is this negative perception just all a bunch of shit that I made up and told myself to believe, or does it actually happen in real life ? Some of you say after 25 women don't really give a shit, is that really true ? What else do you have to bring to the table for them to overlook such a cosmetic flaw ?

You can't compare small boobs to hair because the chest doesn't affect the face, so even with a big or small chest, the face remains the same whereas with balding, it completely f*cks up what you had going for you, or maybe that's just in my head too. I don't really know what to think about all this shit anymore.

I cant speak for every girl. But the younger women i know are very vocal about there attraction to a nice head of hair.