I'm so devastated for my son

[Exodus]

Excuse me, your son is not even Norwood 2 and you are worried. At age 20 I was almost completely bald. Like you, my mother was also very stressed out. Anyway, I think it was a blessing in disguise. It made me work harder in other areas of my life. Academically I did very well, I got a gold medal in my Bachelors, which I did in Electrical Engineering, which is among the toughest degree in the world.

And baldness didn't hurt my looks either. People, both men and women used to say how handsome I was, even though I was bald. I met my wife through a family friend. She knew I was bald before I met her. She once told me that when she heard that I was bald, she thought I would be some ugly fat kind of guy, but she was very surprised when she saw me, as she didn't expect I would be that good looking. If you are handsome, you will be handsome even bald. So maybe its a blessing in disguise for your son too, as he may focus more on his career now.

Look I became bald, but still I have a wife, a son and a daughter, what else do I need? Having said that I still hope my son himself doesn't become bald. My wife's father is 67 and has hair of a teenager, also her brothers have thick head of hair, so I hope my son has inherited from then rather than me !

Balding has forced me to get my arse into gear. Lose weight, get a better job, exercise more and generally be the person I've always wanted to be. Obviously hair would be great to retain, but in it's current form it looks like I have odd hay on my head!

[baldozer]

Excuse me, your son is not even Norwood 2 and you are worried. At age 20 I was almost completely bald. Like you, my mother was also very stressed out. Anyway, I think it was a blessing in disguise. It made me work harder in other areas of my life. Academically I did very well, I got a gold medal in my Bachelors, which I did in Electrical Engineering, which is among the toughest degree in the world.

And baldness didn't hurt my looks either. People, both men and women used to say how handsome I was, even though I was bald. I met my wife through a family friend. She knew I was bald before I met her. She once told me that when she heard that I was bald, she thought I would be some ugly fat kind of guy, but she was very surprised when she saw me, as she didn't expect I would be that good looking. If you are handsome, you will be handsome even bald. So maybe its a blessing in disguise for your son too, as he may focus more on his career now.

Look I became bald, but still I have a wife, a son and a daughter, what else do I need? Having said that I still hope my son himself doesn't become bald. My wife's father is 67 and has hair of a teenager, also her brothers have thick head of hair, so I hope my son has inherited from then rather than me !

[Rootman]

I'm not willing to paint my head. Thanks though.

I can respect that - It only works for some people...

[ChrisM]

yes i tried it for 5 months. i used the foam and it was just so frustrating to apply every day and it always dried weird making my scalp show on top. i did not notice it help at all so i quit.

Minoxidil does NOT show results until even close to 6-8 months at the soonest for some individuals and upwards until about a year at the most for others. You quit far too early to see any results whatsoever. If you felt that it was drying out your scalp you could have regulated this with a ketoconazole based shampoo.. since Nizoral is in shortened supply you might have tried Regenepure shampoo and its conditioner to moisturize your scalp.

[jgold]

I'm not willing to paint my head. Thanks though.

[Rootman]

yes i tried it for 5 months. i used the foam and it was just so frustrating to apply every day and it always dried weird making my scalp show on top. i did not notice it help at all so i quit.

Have you tried thickening your hair with dermatch? That stuff has worked miracles for me... but it only works if you have some hair (however thin) to paint...

[jgold]

yes i tried it for 5 months. i used the foam and it was just so frustrating to apply every day and it always dried weird making my scalp show on top. i did not notice it help at all so i quit.

[Kayman]

Unless positivity can help me maintain my hair, I'm not interested.

You should be because once that hair is gone positivity will be all you have left.

[Kayman]

My point is you're a hypocrite. You're telling a guy who is depressed about his hair loss to not be depressed and maintain a positive outlook while, at the same time, you have gone so far as to set up an account and post on a hair loss forum yourself. I would be willing to bet that the reason you took that step is because you too were depressed about your hair loss. If you truly were positive about it you never would have wasted the time setting up an account here. You simply wouldn't care.

How does that make anyone a hypocrite? If you have suffered or suffer MPB you have just as much right to discuss it on a hair loss forum as anyone else. I have MPB, I'm not depressed over it, I used to be a long time ago but I'm not depressed anymore I accept who I am it makes things much less stressful but I like to share my experiences and thoughts with those who have gone through or who are going through what I did. A little positivity never hurt anyone.

[tgajr]

For the record, I totally recognize that it is very shallow for the hairloss to devastate me / anyone this much and all that truly matters is what is inside.

Have you tried using minoxidil?

[jgold]

For the record, I totally recognize that it is very shallow for the hairloss to devastate me / anyone this much and all that truly matters is what is inside.

[jgold]

The reason I said don't take propecia is because I think it is too risky and I wish I hadn't taken it. I took it because I started losing my hair at 17 and when 18 came around I couldn't handle it emotionally, so I took the risk. Propecia helped 100% to maintain and regrow significantly, but it decreased my sex drive so much I just couldn't be on it anymore. It not only decreased my drive to have sex, but the normal thoughts just weren't there, and I actually think it messed with my brain functioning - I know, kind of weird but scientifically speaking DHT plays a big role in a mans body and mind. I took it for about a 7 months then got off it for about 7 months then got on it for a year and now I'm off of it again.

I am still completely devastated by my hair loss however Propecia was a dead end for me. I'm probably more devastated than most because I have a bit of BDD, but I only have it about my hairloss. A thing to note is that most people who take propecia are older and being so young and taking it I personally think is riskier and there is a far greater chance of it effecting you negatively. I think that the studies about it are bs when they say it's safe, in my personal opinion.

I can't tell you what to do. I would say to stay away from propecia. I have tried to find something else that is effective, but I have failed. Hopefully your son will have the strength to not give a shit and not let this effect him. I apologize for the dismal response, but this is just my reality.

[tgajr]

My point is you're a hypocrite. You're telling a guy who is depressed about his hair loss to not be depressed and maintain a positive outlook while, at the same time, you have gone so far as to set up an account and post on a hair loss forum yourself. I would be willing to bet that the reason you took that step is because you too were depressed about your hair loss. If you truly were positive about it you never would have wasted the time setting up an account here. You simply wouldn't care.

I understand how you feel. I will be the first to say if I could snap my fingers and have my hair back I would do it. And yes I do miss it. But I am only trying to get a true message across. If someone is a good, decent, hard working person then there is little to be devastated about.

My brother is autistic, but with lots of hair. I am working on a PhD and am bald.

Charles Manson has lots of hair, and look at whats inside his head.

Take your pick.

Its whats in your head that counts, not whats on it!

Attempting to reverse or deal with your hair loss is just fine, and understandable. There is just no need for devastation.

[lalala]

Is there a better place to promote a positive outlook on being bald or not being DEVASTATED by it?

My point is you're a hypocrite. You're telling a guy who is depressed about his hair loss to not be depressed and maintain a positive outlook while, at the same time, you have gone so far as to set up an account and post on a hair loss forum yourself. I would be willing to bet that the reason you took that step is because you too were depressed about your hair loss. If you truly were positive about it you never would have wasted the time setting up an account here. You simply wouldn't care.

[Aames]

Is there a better place to promote a positive outlook on being bald or not being DEVASTATED by it?

Unless positivity can help me maintain my hair, I'm not interested.