The Shaved Head

[Fixed by 35]

I'm in a long term relationship and have been for three years. If you think that's the only thing worth worrying about when you lose your hair, it would be irresponsible of me to pull the veil from your eyes and trigger a depression!

But, as a taster, I for one don't particularly look forward to spending the rest of my life looking like a bouncer. Men shorter than 6'5" might not understand that stigma.

[nassau]

Mr. Fixed by 35,

Well buddy first let me say that I do enjoy some of your post. But, you genarally just have a crap attitude. I understand going bald is not a fun experience that neither I nor anyone esle probably has enjoyed. But what I have come to conclude. Is that anyone with your bad attitude towards life or balding has not been laid in a long, long, long, long, long time. When it all comes down to it balding would not bother guys if we didn't think it would hurt our chances to getting laid. Especially for the single guys. I am 23 and started noticing my balding at 22 and 5 months. So I just shave it all down now. I was a bit sad for a day or so, but the first time I pulled a number and hooked up with a girl bald. I knew that it was going to be all good. Yes I am on propecia because I would like to keep what I have when it comes to my stuble. But when it comes down to it, we all just need a confidence boost to reasure us that its not as bad as we think. So just for the record. How long has it been fixed by 35???

[ThinFast]

Truthfully, I'm considering shaving my head and it's not cause I'm embarassed about losing my hair. The real reason is because I simply do not have the ability to make my hair style the way I want. It just looks weird when you have diffuse thinning all on top of your head, there's no good way to style it.

[NateDog]

Well again who cares if one calls it sly or a badge of insecurity does it really matter... It is irrelevant

Each person is different and they do whatever they have to do to get through each day. We all share something in common and that is hair loss... So bagging someone for trying to move forward seems hypocritical (ie shaving their heads)

We should all just focus on ourselves instead of seeking advice or approval from others to make the decisions for us because alot of the answers I read on these forums are not constructive and more so based on opinions fueled by a persons own resentment about their hair loss condition

[Fixed by 35]

Please don't call it sly. It might be a lot of things, but sly is not one of them! I've even heard it being described as the ultimate badge of insecurity, because a more secure person wouldn't feel any need to shave his remaining hair in order to be 'accepted.'

[NateDog]

What is the point of debating whether we think bald guys are ugly or not who gives a f***

Want hair get a hair transplant or hair system

Want to try the shaved or bald look go for it

Plenty of women love the sly look plenty do not and some do not care such is the dating game. But honestly if you are some fat schmoe then with or without hair chances are the ladies do not flock to you anyway

[NateDog]

Honestly think if you can sport the look of a shaved head (or buzzed down) then this is not the forum for you

As much as everyone wants to think this forum is geared towards hair loss sufferers and support its more geared towards information and prevention of hair loss and fixing it via transplants and medications. What it tends to fuel is a loop of hope and loss and denial

If you look good shaved I am jealous plus get out there and get off this forum. Your life will be far more positive then the rest of us in here who fail to find acceptance. Im still too chicken sh1t to shave my head I aint fat but my head shape aint the best... My advice to anyone thinking of doing it if they can get the courage to try it then do it... stay on the meds (you wont be any balder then you would of been anyway) but you gotta be in the right mindset and ready to accept a new look. If you just go ahead and buzz it or shave and think you will be happy you probably will regret it. Its the whole acceptance thing. Sooner accepted the sooner our lives will mean something again. Easier said then done though

[thejdizzle]

shaving your head is a great way to mentally deal with hair loss. no more bullshit. plus i look rugged. so much better than a comb-over existence i imagine a lot of people live

[NateDog]

Everything I read on these forums tend to gear towards Hair Transplants

They can be great if you have minimal hair loss and the older you are obviously the better. Older guys can get away with thin comb overs.

We all worry about our looks and our youth. Getting older is a scarey thing. And the stigma that goes with balding. Shaving your head is just another way of dealing with acceptance just as using a concealor or wigs or even if you sport the hair you have and stay on the meds. Its just a way of dealing with it.

I wish I could find that happy medium. And I am envious not of guys with hair but of all the people out there that are not on these forums fuelling each other with negative thoughts and opinions

[mark-1]

Can we see a photo of fixed by 35?

I bet your hairloss isn't even that bad

[Fixed by 35]

We'd certainly like to think that.

[jooder]

Its ridiculous that you think peoples minds work that way.....there may be a few people who would, but most sane people have more about them.

[Fixed by 35]

I agree it is ridiculous. I disagree when you say it isn't something to worry about. It is alarmingly common.

[jooder]

The problem that faces you is that you presume that most people are as prejudiced as yourself.
Example.... a good looking girl, fun to be with..... but she is flat chested. Therefore she must be dumped?.....thats ridiculous.

[Fixed by 35]

With the exception of hair loss, I am very happy with who I am, maybe even arrogantly so.

The frustration exists because of a failure to both be who I am and be perceived as such. That was never a problem before, whereas now it is a problem that is huge.

People DO make split second judgments. These are often subconscious and they have no idea that they've been so arbitrary. We ARE on the receiving end, along with fat people, tall or flat chested women and short men, among others. We will continue to be on the receiving end until either we can control the gene that causes hair loss or control the gene that causes split second perception.

Guess which one I think is easier to achieve?

In the meantime, the only resource is to fight back. I never give men with full heads of hair jobs; sod them, they have ample opportunities elsewhere. I also give them a hard time to balance out the misery. It's not the most rewarding thing to do, but the alternative is to come second all the time.