I think people need to put hair loss in perspective

[dex89]

I have been the brunt of the balding joke many times, and have just had to stand there and take it like a loser. I swear this shit happens to the nicest guys. i was never the one to make fun of the nerdy kid, or make fun of the fat kid. Always respectful of my elders, and respectful to my peers. You know? just a quiet regular dude. i had a big gap between my teeth in HS and finally got that corrected at the end of HS. I did not flirt with one girl in HS, not one. Only got with one average girl. I mean in HS, when looks are everything, who would want to date someone with shitty teeth. I thought things were turning around. Boy was I wrong. ONce MPB started advancing for me, i just thought to myself, so this is what happens when you are a good person.

I feel the same way man. I hate how Thinningb420 just thinks that we all should just get over it and that there are far more worse things to go through. Well thats why we are here dumbss, cause this fcking bs genetic disease is/has ruining/destroyed our self confidence and self worth. Hairloss has made be believe that I am a pathetic for starting to bald practically when I was 18/19. This sht had messed with my head so much I don't even know who I am anymore. Some days all I think about is what it would be like to end my life cause I can't bare the thought of being completely bald and having to shave my head. I liked the way I looked for 18 years, so why can't I continue to look like that? Because of some crap disease that we have no control over.

At work, I see groups of guys walking around with full heads of hair, and I become so self conscious that I think when they are looking at me they are thinking wtf happened to this kid? Then when I am on the train and seated, and theres an attractive girl coming on and standing, and she can surely see my thinning hair, I can't even make eye contact for more then a second for fear of seeing the shocked look on her face of how bad my hair looks.

As bad as this sounds, I think sometimes I would have been better off to get cancer, have to go thru chemo, and lose my hair. Then there would actually be a reason to why I lost it and people wouldn't look at me like some depressed balding loser

Dam, you need a hug.. you have to stop caring about what other people think about you. You should try to bulk up and get some nice abs, trust me this works for every man, bald or good set of hair. People won't messed with you or make fun of you because you'll be that buff guy people talk about. Improve the way you dress and represent yourself. I'm rocking out with shirt that shows my muscular futures and this works all the time. Sure, I sometimes get average girls but i had hooked up with some hot tamales. You said that your respectful and sweet, that is awesomeness. That's what every decent good girl wants. A person that is nice and caring like yourself, try going out and mingling with people at the bar/club. Forget about facebooks, myspace, and such, it was only meant for trolling anyways. Meet people in person not threw the internet, that only worked for me 4 times, worst experience ever. I currently talking to 3 girls and have over 10 female friends that have done sexual relations with. this method works , ESPECIALLY if you represent yourself has good person like yourself.

Always stay positive, good luck.

[MPBmustdie]

The reason baldness is so devastating is that society burns the image the hair is youth, beauty and attractiveness. Bald is not beautiful, and never will be.

Hair loss is so sudden, and all of us pray to the Heavens that we will be afflicted by this "handicap". We have absolutely no control over it; everyone draws from the genetic lottery. Some are quite lucky(Clint Eastwood) and unlucky(me, a pathetic balding teenager.) I once asked a girl out to prom and was instantly rejected, as she believed that missing hair is the equivalent of missing and eye or a finger.

[FlightTL]

One guy said "Balding just means you have more scalp now"


He was well equipped to deal with hair loss.

[Maaz]

Yet you feel the need to announce to random people that your "ok" and "fine" with hairloss yet post and comment on a hairloss forum. Plus who are you to tell people to grow a pair and deal with it? You are again?

People deal with things differently..

I your really "fine" then why the **** would you waste your time on here?!

I wanted to know opinion about progression of my MPB. That doesn't mean I am overly obsessed with my hair. Well for some people, it's worthy saying 'grow a pair' when you see people being too emotional over some hair loss.

[Dazza]

I too think people make a too big deal out of hair loss. I think it comes from the Western culture where hair especially in your 20s is an important factor. But in the end of the day, it's just hair. Be a man, grow a pair, and deal with it. I am 20, and have already male pattern baldness, due to family history. I'm not really sad or depressed honestly, I don't take any medication for it nor plan on doing anything special for my hair. I'm fine the way I am. I am happy and have a good life. I'm not a girl to get too obsessed with my hair.

Yet you feel the need to announce to random people that your "ok" and "fine" with hairloss yet post and comment on a hairloss forum. Plus who are you to tell people to grow a pair and deal with it? You are again?

People deal with things differently..

I your really "fine" then why the **** would you waste your time on here?!

[Maaz]

I too think people make a too big deal out of hair loss. I think it comes from the Western culture where hair especially in your 20s is an important factor. But in the end of the day, it's just hair. Be a man, grow a pair, and deal with it. I am 20, and have already male pattern baldness, due to family history. I'm not really sad or depressed honestly, I don't take any medication for it nor plan on doing anything special for my hair. I'm fine the way I am. I am happy and have a good life. I'm not a girl to get too obsessed with my hair.

[dda]

Its not me that needs to get over it, it's the people who make bald jokes and look down on bald people... If that wasn't the case I probably wouldn't care

I have been the brunt of the balding joke many times, and have just had to stand there and take it like a loser. I swear this shit happens to the nicest guys. i was never the one to make fun of the nerdy kid, or make fun of the fat kid. Always respectful of my elders, and respectful to my peers. You know? just a quiet regular dude. i had a big gap between my teeth in HS and finally got that corrected at the end of HS. I did not flirt with one girl in HS, not one. Only got with one average girl. I mean in HS, when looks are everything, who would want to date someone with shitty teeth. I thought things were turning around. Boy was I wrong. ONce MPB started advancing for me, i just thought to myself, so this is what happens when you are a good person.

I feel the same way man. I hate how Thinningb420 just thinks that we all should just get over it and that there are far more worse things to go through. Well thats why we are here dumbss, cause this fcking bs genetic disease is/has ruining/destroyed our self confidence and self worth. Hairloss has made be believe that I am a pathetic for starting to bald practically when I was 18/19. This sht had messed with my head so much I don't even know who I am anymore. Some days all I think about is what it would be like to end my life cause I can't bare the thought of being completely bald and having to shave my head. I liked the way I looked for 18 years, so why can't I continue to look like that? Because of some crap disease that we have no control over.

At work, I see groups of guys walking around with full heads of hair, and I become so self conscious that I think when they are looking at me they are thinking wtf happened to this kid? Then when I am on the train and seated, and theres an attractive girl coming on and standing, and she can surely see my thinning hair, I can't even make eye contact for more then a second for fear of seeing the shocked look on her face of how bad my hair looks.

As bad as this sounds, I think sometimes I would have been better off to get cancer, have to go thru chemo, and lose my hair. Then there would actually be a reason to why I lost it and people wouldn't look at me like some depressed balding loser

[PayDay]

Its not me that needs to get over it, it's the people who make bald jokes and look down on bald people... If that wasn't the case I probably wouldn't care

If that’s really true, then you should find other people to hang around with and stop letting people’s stupidity bother you. If you're cool looking at your reflection as a balding man, than you’ve won the battle! Get on with your life.

[NeedHairASAP]

Its not me that needs to get over it, it's the people who make bald jokes and look down on bald people... If that wasn't the case I probably wouldn't care

[boourns]

That's because those things are serious and physically affect your body's ability to function significantly. Hair loss does not physically prevent your body from functioning. It's a cosmetic issue that affects many psychologically. It is lame for people to feel sorry for themselves because of hair loss. We can all dislike it and try to fix it but we shouldn't let hair loss ruin our lives.

Ya we shouldn't feel sorry for ourselves and all the other negative feelings but obviously all of us here do. If I didn't give a crap about hair loss I wouldn't be on this forum and I doubt too many other people would either. I guess it's our primitive minds that fear alienation as it might make us the beta or gamma person in our group. Hair loss is like the ultimate crappy thing that can happen to you cosmetically before it crosses the line to tragic. It doesn't get that "don't make fun of him" status like if a dog bit off your nose.

[Person]

Yes, hairloss is not physically harmful. But it can be very mentally damaging. Causing depression, anxiety, low self esteem, social anxiety etc. It is quite annoying when people just say "it could be worse, or you could have cancer, or no legs".

[PayDay]

BGP, you just summed up the problem well. IMO it shouldn't take something worse to make us realize the significance, or lack thereof, of balding. We need to be levelheaded and rational. Look at the movie Shallow Hal. Jason Alexander's character always found flaws in women. He even stopped dating this hot girl because her second toe was longer than her big toe. Yeah it's a movie but I has a valid point. We overemphasize things that in reality are not as important as we make them out to be. Hair loss is a prime example.

I understand the depression caused by hair loss very well, but being positive and thanking my blessings is what has gotten me through all of this. It’s not easy, but there are far worse things to deal with in life.

[ThinningB420]

BGP, you just summed up the problem well. IMO it shouldn't take something worse to make us realize the significance, or lack thereof, of balding. We need to be levelheaded and rational. Look at the movie Shallow Hal. Jason Alexander's character always found flaws in women. He even stopped dating this hot girl because her second toe was longer than her big toe. Yeah it's a movie but I has a valid point. We overemphasize things that in reality are not as important as we make them out to be. Hair loss is a prime example.

[BGP]

You know, before I experienced MPB, I never even noticed bald people. It's so common it felt like that person who's walking around as NW6 or 7 was simply always like that. Almost like they had just been made that way.

But when it's you and you see the progression...it's an entirely different world.

Also, yes there are much worse diseases than MPB, in fact I can think of things that could be potentially worse than cancer or other terminal illnesses. Ever head of Fatal Familial Insomnia? Google it.

Still, not to belittle those who have it worse off, but MPB is the central battle of my life right now, so I don't really spend too much time caring about what else others have to go through. That being said, if I was diagnosed with some terminal illness tomorrow, my thought pattern would be "I would trade away all my hair forever to survive this terminal illness".

It all depends on where the battle is for you.

[ThinningB420]

That's because those things are serious and physically affect your body's ability to function significantly. Hair loss does not physically prevent your body from functioning. It's a cosmetic issue that affects many psychologically. It is lame for people to feel sorry for themselves because of hair loss. We can all dislike it and try to fix it but we shouldn't let hair loss ruin our lives.