View Full Version : Premature Baldness: Options

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09-12-2010, 06:28 PM
I've been losing hair since about the age of 20 and, seven years on, I'm frankly sick of it. The thought that, if I live to about my life expectancy, I have about another 50 years of this crap, depending on scientific breakthroughs, to put up with means it's about time to make some drastic decisions. Let's be honest, I'll be too old to benefit soon anyway, because my entire youth will have been lost.

So, as far as I can tell, my options are as follows, in my order of preference:

1) Avoid living to my life expectancy through over-indulgence and avoiding doctor's visits. I might take up smoking cigars and I could definitely give heavier drinking a go. It seems a bit pointless trying to look healthy when I'm going to look like a chemo patient and be debilitated by a worsening depression soon anyway! All going well, I'll be about a third of the way already and will be dead by 40.

2) Get a hair transplant. Expensive, and probably ineffective. Not a great option.

3) Kill myself. Might sound drastic, but the world is overpopulated anyway and life isn't exactly a blessing.

4) Shave my head. There's only one thing I can think of that could make life worse than this, and that would be a vegan diet. This isn't even an option really.

Anyone got any better ideas?

09-12-2010, 07:01 PM
yeah, I do, how about a 5th option: suck it up, man up, and live life as you would have if you weren't OCD about the fact that your going bald.

Dude, balding blows, no doubt. and at 21 I totally understand your pain , in fact everyone on this board does. The fact that we are here posting proves that we share your mindset- at least to some extent. But that having been said whats worse than hairloss, and frankly far more unattractive is the weak personality of someone totally incapable of rolling with life's punches. I find my own lack of ability to accept and be at peace with hairloss totally shameful and disgusting and I'm trying to work through it.

I guess what I'm getting at is, if something like hairloss is enough to totally shatter your life you should really reevaluate yourself as a human being. Do you really wanna be that shallow? Life is more than looking good and getting chicks, though Western culture may have the sheeple believing otherwise.

If you havn't yet, you should try giving the ol head shave a go. Stop obsessing.

09-12-2010, 08:03 PM
I've been really thinking of shaving my head like you just mentioned cause i want to live again and stop being concerned. I want to go swimming againg and enjoy the wind!I just wish i had someone to talk about this with.

Fixed by 35
09-13-2010, 12:51 AM
Sorry, but I've heard the phrase 'man up' once too often. To me, man up = bad grammar and little more besides. I get the impression it's what American men say to one another when they want someone to ignore something bad that's happened. It's the equivalent of the British having a cup of tea and hoping everything sorts itself out. Believe me, I've had a lot of tea.

As for head shaving, that's option 4, after killing myself. That's where it's staying, because I have no desire to spend what could be two thirds of my life with a head that looks like a balloon.

09-13-2010, 02:03 AM
1. There are going to be much better options in the NEAR future.

2. FUE from one of the best doctors would most likely give a very good result.

3. Life is definitely worth living, even with this crap.

At what stage exactly is your baldness now? Norwood what? What are you currently using? finasteride/dutasteride only? Have you ever tried anything else?

My hair has improved a good deal since I first came here. Still nothing like it was when I was 16 though.

I am trying fluridil next. Just as backup.

Fixed by 35
09-13-2010, 02:07 AM
I've used Avodart and minoxidil for two years now with little to no success.

Life was just about tolerable with hair. All the banal bollocks and cliches, which is the extent of the average person's intellect, is tolerable when it can be ignored. But once they targeted their ignorant attention on me because of hair loss, and I had to endure their stupidity on a daily basis, it really became too much.

09-15-2010, 03:02 AM
well first off, keep drinkin tea, tea is legit. second, I think some of your negative attention comes from that whole British cultural thing where you guys "take the mickey out" of other people. I don't think you take too much shit for being bald in the states....at least not to your face,unless your dealing with complete Dbags. Also its sounds like you've been pretty depressed all along. Maybe this is just making it worse and you should seek psychological help for the depression and the superiority complex.

Good Luck!

Fixed by 35
09-15-2010, 03:21 AM
As long as groups like the Tea Party exists, I have all the evidence I require to prove I am superior! It's not a complex!

09-16-2010, 03:47 AM
hahaha, nah man, those nut jobs are just inferior. morons, all of em.

09-20-2010, 05:48 PM
First of all, I started balding at 17 and know the pain that people here feel with regard to the issue. Balding sucks; however, having said that it's important to realize that there is hope in this world. Unfortunately, shaving the dome is not a good option for most guys. Body hair proportioning comes into play. If you shave your head and neglect to trim the rest of the hair on your body, you will look abnormal. There used to be a guy(who shaved his head) who came into the gym where I worked, and he had 3 inches of back hair and 5 inches of chest hair! He looked moronic with the ape-look everywhere except his head. If you are going to shave your dome you have to develop the swimmer's look for the sake of proportioning. You don't have to shave down everywhere like swimmers/MMA fighters, but you have to at least do some trimming so that you don't look like someone dipped you upside down in a bucket of nair. Secondly, I look like a criminal nazi with a shaved dome. I keep it trimmed very short and I think I look ok that way. I don't look as good without hair but that's life.

Fixed by 35
09-21-2010, 08:41 AM
Anyone who wet shaves looks like a criminal, a Nazi or a chemo patient. Some men grow those silly little goatie things to avoid the association, although that just makes them look like a twat.

The only real option is to go to ground and wait for the cure.

09-22-2010, 12:17 PM
Yes, I pretty much agree. Waiting for a cure is the best option for most of us. Surgery, hairpiece or au naturale are the current options but they don't suit many of us. I see a lot of guys now who have perfect heads of hair who elect to shave their heads. I look at these guys and think, "Are you nuts?" People don't realize what hair actually does. The point of hair on the head is to protect your head from the elements as well as frame your face. When I shave my head I no longer recognize myself. My facial features disappear. Guys with full heads of hair who shave their heads to look macho are imbeciles. Your hair is as much a part of your body as your arms or nose. Very few guys can shave the head and get away with it; furthermore, most of these guys have darker skin. In my opinion, bladness was probably caused by a DNA mutation which occured hundreds of thousands of years ago. Perhaps it was the result of a virus. Whatever happened, it was a biological error. We are supposed to have hair on our heads for the previously mentioned reasons. It is amazing to me that, as a society, we put a person on the moon in 1969. Now, the moon is 250,000 miles away using rocket propulsion; not very easy. Why the hell can't they grow hair?!

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09-26-2010, 06:36 PM
Going to the moon has been overhyped. Once Britain had designed the jet engine, it was only a matter of time before a man landed on the moon. The science behind it is positively easy compared to fixing this defect in the human body.

Who here is seriously contemplating spending the next 50 years plus with this shit? I've decided that if I don't have a full head of hair by the age of 35, I'm throwing in the towel on this crappy life. I'm going to stop working and live on welfare, take up smoking and excessive drinking and hope to be dead by 36.

09-27-2010, 12:17 AM
I've decided that if I don't have a full head of hair by the age of 35, I'm throwing in the towel on this crappy life.

What's your option going to be when you get a full head of hair back and realize your life is still crappy?

Fixed by 35
09-27-2010, 01:39 AM
I have the power to change everything, except hair loss! Once I fix baldness, I'll have the confidence and the ability to make everything else better. Life was good before baldness, and it will be good after baldness too.

09-27-2010, 03:50 AM
Well, Britain gets credit for the design of the jet engion via Whittle, but it was the German Hans Ohain who invented the first turbojet engine. I disagree that the physics of rocket propulsion is so very easy compared to curing baldness. Sending a rocket to the moon but not being able to block DHT, a f---ing hormone, from affecting a few damn hair follicles is absurd. For me, the answer is simple. Baldness is not something the medical establishment has put a great deal of funding into for a remedy; the reason being that baldness, while being a biological mistake is not a life threatening malady such as tuberculosis, cancer, spinal-cord injury, ALS, Parkinson's Disease and so on. I don't believe that baldness ought be compared to more serious illnesses which leave people for dead in agonizing physical pain and suffering. I have severe Crohn's Disease, which came pretty close to ending my life in 2008. I had my large intestine, as well as 6 inches of my small bowel removed in order to save my life. I was in severe pain and felt sick as hell for 8 years. I have to live with the surgery I had which sucks; however, there are children dying as we speak in cancer wards across the world. There are millions of people who are starving. There is ethnic genocide. If baldness completely destroys one's life then one's priorities must be reevaluated. Don't get me wrong; balding changes your life. Wear a good hairpiece or do what you must in order to feel comfortable. There are worse things, such as being in a slave camp. It's important to develop the inner strength to not care about the opinions of others. Life is too short to bitch and moan about something over which we have no control. GET A HAIR PIECE!! I used to see a kid who had been severely burned in some sort of accident, and he had the balls to go out in public and work at a local electronics store. He was so disfigured he looked like a monster. Much of our panic about our "bald" appearance lies within our own minds. As bad as some of us look without our hair, it's 1/100,000 as bad as that hell that burn victim faces everyday.

Fixed by 35
09-27-2010, 04:11 AM
Yes, but whilst the burns victim kid may have looked bad, he received sympathy rather than ridicule and was probably perceived as brave rather than a dull, past it man.

Baldness is not just about looking bad; lots of things make us look bad that we'll never care about. It's also about the perceptions of baldness in society as opposed to other disfigurements.

What a lot of us often forget is that those people who have never suffered hair loss really don't understand it. They don't understand the psychology and they don't understand what causes it. Only the other day, I heard some woman talking about her bald son and said he lost his hair because he shaved it too short! Newspapers frequently talk about public figures losing their hair (e.g. David Cameron, Gianfranco Zola) because of stress rather than DHT. Millions of articles exist on the internet that blames baldness on bad circulation or bad diet.

This lack of understanding leads us to be perceived as people who cannot cope with stress, are unhealthy or who don't eat properly rather than the truth which is that our parents decided to pass on their shitty genetics.

These prejudices are borne out in practice. Bald men will never again have a chance of holding high political office and it's not a huge leap of logic to deduce that if voters show this prejudice, and voters are employers, then employers will demonstrate this prejudice too. So will potential partners. I know a lot of people talk about confidence but come on, that's bollocks isn't it? Women don't like a lack of confidence, but they don't seem too keen on over confidence or posturing either. They're more likely to be interested in your looks and your wallet, both of which have taken a hit because of hair loss.

To be honest, I also think the confidence argument is bollocks because it wasn't confidence that hair loss stole. Hair loss has just really pissed me off for the past seven years and has made my life a misery. I'm still good at my job, earn good money, live in a nice enough house etc etc but I get no enjoyment out of any of it.

09-27-2010, 08:07 PM
I take it by your prose that you are British. I am American and I understand the whole image of a bald man thing. In the West, our cultures are obsessed with image. I believe you may be too concerned with the media; however, having said that it's true that women and society do judge bald men in a pejorative light. It's true that baldness harms our lives. It sounds as though you are doing ok seeing as you make decent money and have a house. My situation is worse because I lost 8 years of my life to my autoimmune illness. I am in school now for a specific medical technology which, fortunately, has a good job outlook with plenty of jobs. I am 33 and without much money. If I had not become sick I would be in a better place with a solid career. Even though you are bald you have been able to do well for yourself.

I agree that bald men are discriminated against because of their looks. While watching a TV talkshow recently, there was a prominent British man who was asked if he would be pursuing the Prime Ministership in the future. He responded by saying that he believed that he would not be elected because he is bald. In America, I do not think a bald man would be elected President either. Have I been denied jobs because I am a bald man? I don't know but it's possible. In my opinion, most women will not date a bald man. When I was 27 my Father told me that some of his female friends find bald men sexy; that, of course, did not make me feel any better.

The kid who was severely burned may get some sympathy but that is irrelevant. He probably has had people look at him in disgust. He will likely never find ANY woman who finds him attractive. Bald men, in general, may not look attractive; however, they are not that disfigured compared to someone like him. He was so disfigured he did not look human. There is a French man who has no limbs and who just swam ocross the English Channel. I have a childhood acquaintance who shaves his head; moreover, he suffered a serious injury from a scuba-diving accident 5 years ago. He is a paraplegic and is confined to a wheelchair. He was recently engaged to a really cute woman despite his plight.

I do not believe that online dating and other modern methods for courtship are very legitimate. I do not believe that I will ever date an American woman; they are arrogant, image obsessed, status obsessed and have little respect for men in general. I would assume that British women are not much different. Even average looking and unattractive American women are arrogant with regard to dating. I look at the dating "game" in a similar way as I do the global economy. If I can't find a good woman with whom I can develop a good relationship, I will look abroad. Many Asian and Latin women find Western caucasian men appealing; I will not rule out that option. It would be a waste of my time trying to find an American girlfriend because of their selfishness, lack of commitment to family, mental instability and so on. I am a gentleman, and as such treat women with respect. American women like the "badboy" image and they think decent men are weak, boring or uninteresting. Within my circle of female friends I have seen the typical fu-ked up behavior such as staying with a guy who cheats, treats her like chattel or rapes her; of course, the women keep going back. I don't like the typical American woman with her lack of self-esteem and image-obsession. I have had better luck with Filipinas. Dating an American woman is a joke.

The only thing that balding has done for me as a person is make me focus more on my other attributes. I read a lot, exercise, write music and try to be the best man I can be. I used to be(not to sound arrogant)an attractive guy with a shitload of attention from girls. When I began balding I suffered from low self-esteem and complete misery. My teenage years were robbed from me. While my friends were busy dating and getting naked with girls, I was home, confined to my bedroom and isolated. I remember being 18 and a Norwood 3, and balling my eyes out because of it. I became an utter recluse. The situation was worsened because I have a young looking face. I don't have much hope for hair cloning because it sounds too good to be true. I am a fatalist by nature and I am sceptical of the whole thing. I'll believe it when I see it. I think it's important for us bald men to be supportive of each other because we are the only ones who understand hairloss. People make jokes about it as though it is funny but people won't joke about a fat woman because it's politically incorrect to do so. What pisses me off is the fact that a fat person can change his situation and we cannot. I would probably cut one of my fingers off if it would mean the regrowth of my hair.

09-27-2010, 10:26 PM
Dude. Screw it. Go do porn.

Be like Woodman or whatever. Just be a bald dude that bangs out ridiculous amounts of girls.

Bald dudes score too man.

And if they can't normally... **** it, do porn.

09-27-2010, 10:30 PM
im about to post a link of a ripped bald dude that does porn and nails all sorts of girls.

im losing my hair too.. and if the miracle isnt out by then.. screw it. The answer is porn.

ill be the biggest name in the industry.

09-28-2010, 12:14 AM
i vote option 3. do yourself and us a favor. Seeing these moronic threads of yours on this forum are tiring. Seriously bro, we get it, you cant deal with hair loss. Either get a piece, shave your head, get a ht, or kill yourself so you can shut up once and for all.

Fixed by 35
09-28-2010, 12:58 AM
If you don't like what I write, don't read it you schmuck! You're clearly one of those f-tards who leaves comments on news websites like 'I can't believe they're writing about this' and 'who reads this shit,' all the while oblivious to the fact that you read it and you didn't have to!

09-28-2010, 06:30 AM
good one bro. but not sure how writing what you is a) supposed to help anyone and b) changes your situation. Like I said, option three seems like a good choice for you. regards.

Fixed by 35
09-28-2010, 07:02 AM
Well, consider this:

In my writing, I demonstrate to others that hating baldness is normal and, therefore, by hating their baldness, they too are normal.

Society dictates that we must accept balding and get on with it and pop psychology says that we won't be judged by our baldness. I want to educate people that baldness does matter, shallow people (about 90% of the world's population) will be prejudiced towards you and that it is right to care.

The alternative that is touted is to shave one's head to look like an egg and to walk around with 'confidence' and that everything will be okay. It won't; your confidence will more than likely be read as insecure posturing and shaving ones head itself is increasingly being seen as a sign of insecurity, a desperation to look cool when your scalp says no.

Far better, I think, to be educated in prejudice. There is a path to success for balding people but that path is not easy to find. There are avenues to avoid. Acting, politics, corporations with a young image; they're all barred. For me, success came from working for myself. Business has boomed since I started 6 months ago. An alternative, if you want to be an employee, is to work for a bald man. Never never never work for a company where all the bosses have hair.

09-28-2010, 10:47 PM
Hey fellas, I have a new idea for my baldness. I need your input.This is serious. I am thinking of designing a hairpiece for myself and I'm about to begin the process. I'm going to go out into the yard and get some freshly cut grass. Then, I'm going to glue the grass on my head. I will place the grassblades in the same direction as my natural growing hair in order to give it a more natural and realistic look. After that, I'll cut my balls off and dribble some testosterone onto the new hairpiece in order to give it some density and luster. I really think this is going to work;nobody will even know I'm wearing a piece. What do you guys think? I need your input!

Fixed by 35
09-29-2010, 01:26 AM
Hmm, not sure it would work:


I wouldn't attempt to cut your own balls off, I'd recommend going under anaesthetic because it might pick a bit.

09-29-2010, 12:05 PM
After that, I'll cut my balls off and dribble some testosterone onto the new hairpiece in order to give it some density and luster. What do you guys think?

Be sure to use balsamic testosterone.

09-29-2010, 12:13 PM
In my writing, I demonstrate to others that hating baldness is normal and, therefore, by hating their baldness, they too are normal.

Actually, what you repeatedly demonstrate to others is that you hate yourself, and that no amount of hair on your head is ever going to change that situation.

09-29-2010, 12:21 PM
I have the power to change everything, except hair loss! Once I fix baldness, I'll have the confidence and the ability to make everything else better.

If that were truly the case, then you'd also have the power to "change everything" without having to wait for baldness to be "fixed" first.

10-01-2010, 12:52 PM
Fixed by 35 - it may be an idea to start venturing out of your house...... then you may see bald men with good looking girlfriends and bald men who are successfull businessmen.
Guess what? There are people in this world who are fat, thin, short, tall, disabled, bald, ginger, black and white..........and they can all get girlfriends AND be successfull in what they do!.....Its amazing.
Look at Stephen Hawking......one of the greatest scientists ever......despite his terrible disability.
You really need to a get a grip.

Fixed by 35
10-01-2010, 02:33 PM
Stephen Hawking isn't bald.

Seriously, I don't know any happy bald men. I know a lot of grumpy bald men, but no happy ones.

10-01-2010, 02:37 PM
Well done - Stephen Hawking isnt bald...... hes just severly disabled and cannot speak without a computer....... but at least hes not bald eh????
You never see anybody happy - full stop. You never leave the house to do so.

10-01-2010, 03:24 PM
I need to hear positive talk! Thanks Jooder.

Fixed by 35
10-01-2010, 03:30 PM
My house has windows.

10-01-2010, 03:31 PM
But dare you look out of them??

10-05-2010, 09:06 AM
Wow these forums have turned into a Fixed vs everyone match...

Fixed by 35
10-05-2010, 09:15 AM
Yes, they have, because a lot of people cannot face the awful truth that their hair loss will ruin them unless they take pro-active steps to minimise the impact. Shaving your head does not minimise the impact. Becoming your own boss and working remotely from your clients provides an avenue for success which a lot of face to face time with employers or clients does not. Prejudice exists against bald men in the place of work which hinders their success; we look ill if we shave our heads and we look unkempt if we don't; neither presents a positive image which shapes us in the minds of those who decide how successful we will be with their company as risks and losers.

Working from home, I earn double what I did when in employment. I can also afford a personal assistant who acts as the 'face' of the company.

Jooder implies I'm agoraphobic; I'm not. I leave the house when I want to, it's just not that often! Socialising is no fun with this elephant in the room, so why bother making myself miserable trying?

10-05-2010, 09:38 AM
Fixed by 35 - so these guys look ill???

http://www.google.co.uk/imgres?imgurl=http://mmaaddicts.com/dann/ufc-105-couture-vs-vera/randy-couture-brandon-vera.JPG&imgrefurl=http://mmajunkie.com/news/16841/ufc-105-couture-vs-vera-weigh-ins-photos-an-mmajunkie-com-image-gallery.mma&usg=__mv_GIWQL7CgoNfIi8ctvIW1gPf8=&h=433&w=650&sz=125&hl=en&start=0&zoom=1&tbnid=ecWdLw6KCOzjjM:&tbnh=131&tbnw=179&prev=/images%3Fq%3Drandy%2Bcouture%2Bbald%26um%3D1%26hl% 3Den%26rlz%3D1T4SMSN_enGB386GB386%26biw%3D1058%26b ih%3D411%26tbs%3Disch:1&um=1&itbs=1&iact=rc&dur=859&ei=_FKrTPT6LtGhOuK2oegG&oei=_FKrTPT6LtGhOuK2oegG&esq=1&page=1&ndsp=11&ved=1t:429,r:7,s:0&tx=136&ty=62

10-05-2010, 10:08 AM
Everyone needs to chill the out.

You all just have a varying opinion. A shaved/bald head looks good on some, yes. The image goes good with some men, yes. Overall I think everyone could look better with hair, whether u shave it or not, the frame it gives a face...just looks way better.

ANYWAY, so. I know that some people don't want that look it gives. That look fits a UFC fighter very well. But why don't you take a 14 year old and give him severe MPB. It won't fit.

Some people just don't want that image of themselfs.

You people will always have a different opinion.

Fact remains, hair looks better than no hair. You guys just disagree about the degree to which that is true.

People have different opinions. Get over it.

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10-05-2010, 11:38 AM
Definitely. They look like they're pumped up on steroids which is inherently unhealthy. They also look like retarded meat heads.