View Full Version : It's only hair

05-23-2015, 12:59 AM
I don't understand why I've been so concerned about my hair loss now that I shaved my head. I really think you all should shave it and stick to it for a a couple of months. I was terrified of losing my hair but now that I buzzed the motherfu##er down I really don't care anymore. It's been a positive experience and the only comments over my hair are compliments (except of my mother's.... duh). My confidence is over the roof now. I think these forums do nothing but feed your self consciousness especially when you are already self conscious. So my advise is shave your head and Never forget what you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armour yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you. (I know, I know but nevertheless it seemed appropriate to use a GOT quote)

05-23-2015, 09:03 AM
well i hope you succeeded in feeling good about yourself

05-23-2015, 08:48 PM
well i hope you succeeded in feeling good about yourself

Well, I'm trying to. Certainly relieved about the hair. I just need to lose tons of weight. Bald and fat is an odd combination.

05-23-2015, 09:48 PM
I'm 19 shaved cue ball from a scalp confined alopecia , and I met my soon to be 17 year old girl when she asked me to prom barely knowing me and I was shaved bald. She's very attractive too so all these young women hate bald guys quotes are from guys who put way too much value in hair . Good post man it's just your hair, you and me are living proof you can succeed without it.
Although on this site it seems like putting a positive post is asked to get out down

05-23-2015, 11:41 PM
Well, I'm trying to. Certainly relieved about the hair. I just need to lose tons of weight. Bald and fat is an odd combination.

i never cared about my baldness when i was into lifting. i banged some really good looking girls with no hair. now i dont have the time or want to lift.

05-25-2015, 07:59 AM
Thanks for positive threads, guys. I think that there is nothing bad in being bald. The main thing is your attitude. If your self confidence is low, you will always think that you look bad and that all around think in the same way.
From the other side, I think that if it is possible to fight, I will fight and I will try to save my hair and to regrow it instead of simply shave my head.

05-25-2015, 08:27 AM
what nw are you? if you still have most of your hair you will defiantly regret not treating it at some point. it's one thing to rocked a shaved head with an intact hairline and still mostly covered. it's not the same with a huge horseshoe on your head.

05-25-2015, 10:14 AM
Hello everyone,
Reasonistian your thread is so very much a COMMONSENSE-POSITIVE and a SMART topic.

Acceptance is KEY if we all want to LIVE OUR LIVES regardless of what type of loss we have.
If others do not 'accept' you or criticize you because of hairloss then those 'others' have an ISSUE, NOT YOU.

Listen, I HATE my hairloss too but I had decided long ago now that my hairloss CANNOT hold me back from happiness and having a fullness of life.

There was this very accomplished female ARTIST here in the Illinois area.
Her talent back then was/is very good.
Later, she was involved in an accident and she LOST both of her arms!!
Of course, at the very beginning of any type of a disaster, everyone would go through a grieving process.
Sadness,depression etc.
But, eventual ACCEPTANCE is needed and is KEY because then acceptance makes ones life much better, happy and liveable.

That artist woman had decided NOT TO ALLOW her LOSS (of 2 arms) keep her sad, depressed and held back from LIFE.
To this day she is HAPPY because she DECIDED TO learn how to use her feet to continue her artistic ambitions.
(she is not the only artist to do that)
Her artistic style is still approximately the SAME because of her natural born talent.

My point is this, ACCEPTANCE of the realities of our lives makes the positive difference in ALL OF US.
If 'you' have hairloss there are hair treatments available.
Or one could ACCEPT the hair loss and not focus on it anymore.

In Reasonistian case, and MANY MANY OTHERS, he decided to accept it by shaving off his hair.
His term is correct- "It's only hair".
I almost did the same thing but I had decided to try out a hairloss treatment, Finasteride.
It has been improving my hairloss, thankfully.

It does NOT give me a full head of hair and it never will in my case - I had accepted that long ago now.
(the proven results of Fin' VARY from person to person- some do get a close to full head of hair)

I understand that for you very young men, hairloss acceptance is a very hard thing to accomplish.
The fact is that the human brain's Neocortex in young men under the age of approx 25 years old has
not yet fully FUNCTIONED.
At that age and younger, one can be quite naive, having the lack of life experiences and good judgement calls.
That is not meant as an insult nor to be condescending to anyone...it is a reality of life.

A fully grown brain, past 25 years old, with a completed Neocortex will give you FORESIGHT,
the ability to predict the consequences of your actions.

That being said , do not allow your hairloss to affect you so badly.
Everything can and would be just fine for all of you if you accept life for today just as Reasonistian seems to have done.
Hair-loss treatments WILL eventually advance ,there may even be a cure, but none of us know exactly when that will be so one must be realistic and accept life as it is so that one would ENJOY LIFE.

05-25-2015, 05:44 PM
what nw are you? if you still have most of your hair you will defiantly regret not treating it at some point. it's one thing to rocked a shaved head with an intact hairline and still mostly covered. it's not the same with a huge horseshoe on your head.

You had the horseshoe shaved? When I use a manual razor I can get it where there's not even pigment or anything think like pitbull or Howie Mandel, unless by shave you mean more short buzzcut

05-25-2015, 08:24 PM
From 18-23 I shaved with no guard and time to time I'd pull a bic out. When I decided to try to grow my hair back I began using a 2 guard to judge results better . But Yeh I liked it at first bc I had a hairline then that disappeared n idk it sucked

05-25-2015, 08:31 PM
So mostly it was more buzzed or extremely close? With me I have to use manual to remove all trace of hair given its patchy so I don't really have a choice but when u Bic I can get it so it's chromdome and you can't see the hairline. Although it's a daily shave to keep it that way.

Unless you mean you didn't like how the hairline disappeared with the #2 on the clippers, which I can obviously see problems that would arise there.

05-25-2015, 08:47 PM
Well my hairline stayed in tact til about two years ago . I began balding on the vertex n it kinda just spread forward. So for awhile I could still see how it framed my face

05-25-2015, 08:53 PM
Even bic'd you could tell? Huh I've never had that but my hair is pretty light so maybe that's part of it.

05-25-2015, 09:37 PM
oh yeh i could tell. everyone else could too lol

05-25-2015, 09:42 PM
You mentioned earlier with no hair you still did fine with young women I have to ask was that without the hairline you did fine too? I'm not like some guys who say baldness kills life but one of the concerns was young women given I'm only 19, yes I'm happy with the girl I'm with but you said also on a previous post it's different rocking shaved with a horseshoe, so I'm curious (and I hope I'm not asking too much information) did it matter much in regards to what young women thought of you or really seem to off put them?

05-25-2015, 09:47 PM
in my experience a girl is more likely to go with a nw3 than a nw6. However theres plenty of other factors. facial n muscle aesthetics. awesome i was dating a really good looking middle eastern girl when i began shaving my head. just her being my girlfriend made other girls into me and look passed my baldness. but believe me, if i could go back to 19 i would of gotten on fin. you're luckier. you have other options like the topical antiandrogens. pick ur poison kind of thing

05-25-2015, 09:54 PM
I know it's not a preference for girls but I didn't know if most considered a cue ball head a deal breaker as in no could never date him kinda deal. For me treatment won't work given mine is a condition affecting growth patterns leaving most of my hair in a long rest phase making it permanent, but it's still so patchy I have to shave her down all the way. Even if I could I wouldnt, it's some of the most iffy and side effect stricken treatments out there and it ain't worth it, if I can still get a very attractive young girl with no hair, I don't even care about it, the rest I have control over I just didn't know how it was recieved by most girls.

05-25-2015, 10:03 PM
i mean you can still get an attractive girl. but it will be harder. girls dont get excited when they think about their own 20 year son losing their hair. i mean it's harsh but it's the truth. some girls will really just not want anything to do with you. But there are some very attractive girls out there who are surprisingly not swallow. It's what you settle with tbh. I know guys with norwood 1s who are in decent shape and date cows. why? they're just that beta. theres a girl right now who wants to leave her nw1 boyfriend and be with me but i find her rather annoying and try to avoid her. but im sure that makes her want me more. And that is a very important point. If you can get girls now its important to keep the inertia going. never be single. women arent attracted to single men. if a girl thinks other women want to sleep with you then its more likely she will want to sleep with you. and lastly know guys with hair will always have something you won't. it is a disability. they themselves might think or say negative thing to/about you. some girls might be into you but be embrassed to bring you home to her nw1 father. its good to embrace the negative feelings hearing all that brings. it makes you get over it quicker. im sorry to hear you have no real option at the moment. maybe one day cloning hairs will be something within reason. until then all youcan do is embrace it, own it.

05-25-2015, 10:13 PM
I appreciate the help, although even so if the could cure it I probably wouldn't, I like shaved, and while some are put off by it others don't seem to care as much. All you need is one in the end anyway, at least for me it's looking for something real, and if they're embarrased to show me to her Dad than screw em they're both too immature especially the dad given his age.
As far as the son thing my condition is well, conditional, I had exhaustion actual clinical kind and my body cut resources to non essential function, hell even my nails didn't grow for months. It took a long time to recover but threw the natural growth patter off (it's a long long story with big words) anyway so unless the kid went through something similar it isn't a genetic thing as least I'm told. Yes they wouldn't know this off the bat, but people say I look about 22 and pull it off well so I'm not too concerned.

Like I said I appreciate you sharing you're experiences and your honesty.

05-25-2015, 10:16 PM
well goodluck, stay strong . im sure u'll land a good looking girl if you approach enough of them :)