View Full Version : need adice,Ive lost my self comfidence because of this
06-28-2014, 01:43 PM
Ive been balding since23 now 46,
this may sound weak, but here it is,
I use to have no issues with, meetingwomen,
I find myself single again, and with ever increasing day,less hair,
probably norwood 6,my guess,
didnt get really bad to last 3 or 4 years,
Ihad some top hair that could frame my face a little,
thats gone,i try buzing my self #3,
Ithink i look old and terrible, unattractive,
Ididnt use to feel at all like this way, women ignore me now,
Ive had a couple say to my horror, "i would date you if you had hair",
How could say u that to someone?
I know Ishould shake it off, but this really bothers me and take it personal.
its realyy affecting all aspects my life,
any suggestions would be appreciated,
I feel cursed with thissituation and I cant stop it
06-28-2014, 05:02 PM
Hey there, you're 43 you say? Keep the hair buzzed and work out some. Stay trim is the key. I think you should definitely try internet dating, like plentyoffish.com. It's the 21st century afterall, its pretty much accepted as a normal thing to do- im 23 and i have gotten success from it. A lot of people- and i mean a lot- are doing it.
Sounds like you've taken a hit from an insensitive comment, but try to come across as confident and shrug it off- i know it hurts, but don't try to let it get to you.
Without wanting to sound like Elliot Rodger, women can be fickle creatures, and the problem is with the 'organic' way of meeting women, is that it can be a lot harder due to first impressions, aesthetic judgements etc.
With something like internet dating, you can bypass all the disappointment and offence and have a meaningful dialogue with someone, before you take the plunge. You present yourself for who you are, to a vast ocean of women in your vicinity. Just give it a shot. You have something about you a woman will go for.
To use the old shitty cliche 'be yourself'. Don't let your hair dictate your life.
06-29-2014, 07:07 AM
Nobody really wants to go bald but Its normal especially as we get older. I'm about 40 and badly receding. Women in their late 30s and older kind of expect that similarly aged men might have some hairloss. I see bald guys with beautiful women all the time. The women who rejected you like that didn't do it because you're bald, they did it because they're bitches and have no class. I have friends that are totally bald and some with bushy full heads of hair. None of them are alone. I agree with the idea of getting as physically fit as possible. And having a good personality helps too:)
06-29-2014, 08:22 PM
06-29-2014, 11:30 PM
Have you thought about doing something about it? Transplant? I would recommend going a bit shorter on the sides and back. I personally use a #2 guard all over my head.
07-07-2014, 12:55 AM
Hey man! Seriously, forget about what people say about you and your hair. You have to be confident in yourself. If you don't have hair, what of it. It gives you the opportunity to show off your other features! I myself have decided to start working out and just living life to the fullest. Surround yourself with family/friends or even just get outside and go on a hike. People are genuinely attracted to others who have confidence in themselves, no matter what they look like on the outside. Just do you! I hope everything works out! Peace!